Do you feel awkward at the gynecologist, or are you totally chill about it?

Sarah Rodriguez68 said:I don't feel awkward about it at all anymore; I remember how incredibly embarrassed I felt the first time, and I actually had to mentally brace myself, but now it just feels perfectly normal. Honestly, I’d much rather deal with a painful trip to the dentist!🙂

I couldn't agree more! 👍

stormymaker24 said:I don't know... maybe it's just because he's a doctor and he actually treats me like a patient instead of some sexual object he can mess around with later. 🤷

How can you even say that?!🤷😕🤷 There are plenty of OB-GYNs out there who cross the line with their patients... Besides, at the end of the day, he’s a man first and a doctor second.😉
If things worked exactly the way you think they do, the guy would have to be asexual.☕

Not even close. I just strip down, lie back, legs spread, get the job done, pull my legs back together, stand up, get dressed, say thanks, and head out. 😬

Honestly, getting my hair done is way worse. It’s more boring and takes forever! 🤣

edit: I've always gone to an OB-GYN; I've never let some random midwife poke around down there. 🤷

Oh, I’m doing just wonderful, truly... The moment he catches sight of me walking through the door, he lights up with this ridiculous, frantic energy: "Aaaa, there she is! So, come on, tell me—did you actually follow the doctor's orders? Did you? Yes, you did... No, wait, you didn't... Uh..." And then, without even a moment's pause, I just settle onto my little stool while he drones on about his latest lab results, or some trivial nonsense regarding politics, or sports, or his obsession with marathons and cycling and hiking, all while he scribbles down some hormonal prescription and bids me a quick goodbye... 😍 If I ever actually decide to walk down the aisle, I honestly fear I might feel a profound sense of embarrassment in his presence... 🤷

Alex Patel96 said:It seems there is a significant number of gynecologists out there who struggle to maintain professional boundaries with their patients....

There isn't much of a crowd to speak of, really. It’s more that the media tends to lose interest once everything finally comes to light. Beyond that, if a woman feels like her gynecologist is overstepping her boundaries, she simply won't go back; instead, she’ll find a new doctor or file a formal complaint. 🤷

Alex Patel96 said:At the end of the day, he is a man first, and a gynecologist second.😉
If everything unfolded exactly as you’ve described, I suppose he would simply be asexual.☕

It is quite unsettling when you truly sit down and try to do the math on just how much he stares. If we assume he sees at least twenty patients a day, that brings us to one hundred per week, and once you factor in fifty-two weeks a year minus a few weeks of vacation, the annual total is honestly staggering. 🤣 😂 🤣 😂 Honestly, I suspect they’re just becoming increasingly repulsed by everything they see, let alone the idea of being viewed as nothing more than a sexual object. 😉 😁

At the end of the day, an OB-GYN is first and foremost a medical doctor. There is a distinct difference between someone who pursues gynecology because they are genuinely interested in the science of women's health and someone who is merely looking for an excuse to stare at female anatomy. If you feel like a provider is being unprofessional or treating you like some kind of object, then your intuition is likely right and there is a real problem. However, if you can have a normal, respectful conversation with them about your health, then there is really nothing to worry about. By that same logic, one could argue that men should visit urologists just for the sake of seeing male anatomy, 🤣 😂 though I suppose that isn't how anyone actually views these specialties! People choose their career paths based on what they want to study and practice.
And who knows—perhaps there are even some lesbian relationships occurring among gynecologists themselves? It seems nobody ever worries about that possibility! 😉 😁 😛 Just kidding...

Alex Patel96 said:What makes you so certain?!🤷 😕 🤷There are countless gynecologists out there who cross lines with their patients... besides, at the end of the day, he’s a man first and a doctor second.😉
If your logic actually held water, the man would have to be completely asexual.☕

Oh, please, don't be so paranoid! You aren't exactly a saint, and none of us are so desperate that we'd throw ourselves at every guy who catches a glimpse of us naked. Are you suggesting that men are fundamentally incapable of objectivity or self-control, existing merely as nothing more than sexual animals? I certainly hold them in higher regard than that.😉
And let's not forget that surgeons see naked women constantly; should we all start hiding from them too? Or general practitioners for that matter—they see plenty.
No, your gynecologist isn't looking to score with you (I’ll allow for the occasional outlier, but those types don't last long in this profession), so there is absolutely no reason to feel threatened. Though, who knows, perhaps your dentist harbors some bizarre dental fetish and finds himself reminiscing about your molars long after you've left the chair.😉

Regarding that whole thing with the dentist 😂 major props 👍

Honestly, there’s really no reason to be picking favorites based on whether a doctor is a guy or a girl. It’s not like their gender or how they look makes things awkward for me; my only real concern is just sitting there wondering if everything is actually fine or if I’ve got some underlying health issue going on.

Carol Scott98 said:if you feel like they're sizing you up and flirting, then they definitely view you as just a sex object

When I went to my first OB-GYN appointment, God forbid, he wasn't hitting on me—but he was absolutely scanning me from head to toe. 😂 And mind you, he was actually quite handsome... tall, too...

I was alone for the ultrasound, but there was a woman in the exam room right before me, and I could hear her groaning—it was almost a scream. 😕 Apparently, he doesn't exactly have a "gentle touch." 🤷 🤣

Look, OB-GYNs can feel that spark of excitement too when a young, attractive woman walks in for an exam; no matter how much they try to keep it strictly medical, there’s still an element of sexuality involved. I’m not saying they're all like that—some doctors actually seem to despise women—and some probably prefer performing a D&C without any anesthesia just to be difficult. Some might even find it a thrill, but logically, there are definitely those who are secretly turned on. 😁

You can't just generalize everyone. 😉

It’s not exactly pleasant, but it isn't unpleasant either. Maybe just a little awkward.😁

Not even slightly. I usually lean toward male gynecologists—just a preference, I guess—but lately, I’ve actually found this really wonderful female doctor. Honestly, though, it doesn't really make a difference to me whether it's a man or a woman, but I might feel just a tiny bit more relaxed with a guy.

To be honest, I tend to prefer male doctors. They just seem a bit more comfortable to be around. It’s not that I’m self-conscious, but much like being at the beach, there’s that slight awareness of bodily imperfections 🤣.
Plus, I’m never quite sure what the protocol is (and I’m in my thirties🙄). For instance, if I hear someone say, "I forgot to wear a skirt"😕, I wonder—what am I supposed to do? Just lift the top? Personally, I show up in pants, take them off, and walk over to the exam table completely naked. Is it just me, or does anyone else do that?🙈 And what about those medical booties or the paper covers? Am I expected to put those on?

I always arrive clean and groomed. I don't feel like they're viewing me as a sexual object.

OB-GYNs can definitely feel a sense of arousal when a young, attractive woman comes in for an exam. No matter how hard they try to keep things strictly clinical, there's an inherent sexuality involved. I’m not saying everyone is like that—there are certainly doctors who have no patience for women at all, or those who perform procedures without enough anesthesia—but it stands to reason that some are secretly turned on.

You can't generalize everyone.

I feel pretty much the same way.

Chloe Gomez6 said:To be perfectly honest, I find myself leaning toward the men, as they have consistently proven to be somewhat more accommodating. It isn't that I feel embarrassed, per se, but rather that I find their less-than-perfect physiques somewhat more comforting, much like my experience at the beach 🤣.
Furthermore, there is the perpetual uncertainty regarding the proper etiquette—a dilemma that persists even though I am already in my mid-thirties🙄. For instance, when I encounter a comment like "I forgot to bring a skirt"😕, I am left wondering what the expectation actually entails. Am I supposed to arrive in a skirt and simply lift it? Or do I arrive in trousers, undress, and then proceed to walk quite naked to the table? I cannot help but wonder if anyone else operates this way, or if I am truly an outlier🙈. And what of the robes and slippers? Is wearing them mandatory?

I prefer to arrive clean and freshly groomed. I certainly do not feel as though I am being viewed merely as a sexual object.

My thought process follows a very similar trajectory.

I always opt to arrive in a skirt because it is far more efficient; you simply lift it and go. As for robes and slippers, I have never seen the appeal and simply don't bother with them. 😁
I am certainly not the only one arriving in pants; I see plenty of other women doing the same at the spa. Occasionally, I will just pack a skirt with me, particularly during the winter months. I strip off my trousers and slip into the skirt once I arrive.

Chloe Gomez6 said:Should I arrive wearing a skirt, only to lift it up once I get there? Or perhaps it would be more appropriate for me to arrive in trousers and simply undress entirely, walking quite naked to my seat? I find myself wondering if anyone else follows such a routine, or if I am truly alone in this.🙈I'm wondering if I really need to wear those flip-flops and that little boxy bag? It feels like a lot for such a simple thing.

I usually arrive wearing trousers but make sure to bring a skirt along so I can change once I get there. That way, I don't walk up to the exam table feeling too exposed; I simply adjust my skirt before lying down and pull it back into place immediately after the examination is finished.

I don't really feel awkward about any of this because, honestly, I’ve spent so much time bouncing between gynecologists and fertility clinics over the last two years that it’s started to feel as casual as meeting a friend for coffee...😢 I always make sure to wear a skirt—which is my go-to style anyway—mostly because I just can't bring myself to walk around someone's office feeling totally exposed...

Donna Wood52 said:OB-GYNs also get turned on when a young, attractive woman comes in for an exam. No matter how hard they try to keep things strictly medical, there’s still sexuality involved. I’m not saying everyone is like that—some doctors just plain dislike women and prefer performing procedures without any anesthesia, while others might have had some awkward encounters. But logically, there have to be those who are secretly horny. 😁

Sorry, but this is pure nonsense. Like, if a young girl walks in, gets on the table, and turns out to have a yeast infection or something even grosser... what, are they suddenly aroused?
Doctors are trained to look at the human body; to them, it's just anatomy. At least for the vast majority, though there are always exceptions.
Someone above made a good point: how do you ladies actually know your OB-GYN isn't a lesbian? Maybe she gets excited when you show up naked for an exam? Has that ever crossed your mind? 😁

Donna Wood52 said:OBGYNs probably get a little thrill when a young, hot girl walks in for an exam, because no matter how hard they try to keep it strictly medical, there’s always going to be some level of sexuality involved. I’m not saying they all act like that, there are definitely doctors out there who just straight up hate women, and their favorite thing is to perform a D&C without any anesthesia at all, and while some people have actually witnessed it, it makes sense that there are others who are secretly turned on. 😁

You really can't generalize everyone. 😉

I’ve honestly never heard anyone say this before and I am genuinely shook 😱

A D&C is a legitimate medical procedure done in a hospital, not in some random doctor's office run by a guy who hates women and decides whatever he wants. Plus, the anesthesiologist is the one in charge of the sedation, not the OBGYN.

The doctor who did my D&C was honestly such a jerk during the ultrasound right before the procedure, like he wouldn't even look at me or say a word, he just talked to the nurse about the paperwork. But then he totally surprised me in the operating room. Right before the anesthesiologist knocked me out, while the nurses were busy prepping me and getting my legs in the stirrups, he stepped up and said, "I'm just going to do the exam, I won't start anything yet, don't be scared." He was pretty quiet during rounds too, but on the day I was being discharged, he made sure to tell me, "If you start bleeding, get to the ER immediately."

stormymaker24 said:I always wear a skirt to these things, it's way easier, you just lift it up. I don't really do the robe and those little disposable underwear things, I just hate them. 😁

Same here

Nicole King30 said:Sorry, but this is total nonsense. Like, so a young girl comes in, spreads her legs on that table and has a yeast infection or something even grosser...and that's supposed to turn them on?
Doctors are trained to deal with the human body; they don't care. At least for the vast majority, though there are always exceptions.
Someone earlier made a good point, though—how do you girls even know if your doctor isn't a lesbian? And then she gets all excited when you walk in there half-naked? Did it never occur to you? 😁

😂

Honestly, any doctor can end up being easily turned on by women. It’s not just gynecologists, even though people love to generalize them since they're the ones dealing with female anatomy all day. But I mean, has it really not happened where someone was laid out on the exam table and instead of doing a routine pelvic exam or a swab, some creep decided to go for a lick 🤣? And wasn't there just a massive headline in the news recently about a dentist taking advantage of his patients while they were under anesthesia??

Female doctors are no exception either🙂. The real question is, what defines an attractive woman? And why does she always have to be young😕?

I suspect those with less experience might struggle with this more—and it’s not just the interns; other doctors do it too. (Or maybe it's just me🤷.)

Besides, a doctor is likely to be more intrigued by a unique medical case than by a pretty patient, even if she happens to be a bit older😉.

In my life, I’ve probably seen about ten gynecologists, two of whom were women. I never felt any awkward vibes. I can't imagine one asking me, "So, any recent action?" or something like that. It just hasn't happened. Maybe I'm just not that type. My doctors have all been polite professionals rather than jokers, which worked for me. I'm not really one for banter.

At the end of the day, I am a sexual being, but I’ve never felt any excitement during a pelvic exam. For most men, I'm sure that's completely unimaginable.

I’m honestly dreading going to the gynecologist because my past experiences have been absolutely TRASH.
The clinic I first went to in small-town Ohio was a total DISASTER!!!!!!!
From nurses who were rude and straight-up disrespectful, to having three or four different doctors rotate through in just a few years.
And don't even get me started on my experience at Mayo Clinic—it was a joke. That doctor didn't even have half the equipment I actually needed.
Now I need an urgent appointment, but I have no idea where to go. I've developed a massive phobia of gynecologists and I feel sick just thinking about it.
It isn't even the exams themselves; it's the way they literally rob you blind and the complete lack of communication. It's disgusting.
Mayo Clinic charged me a fortune for $167 and didn't even do anything useful.☕

Yeah, I have to admit, it’s a little awkward. 😳

A guy once told me he wished he had one of those scanning devices from Star Trek, you know, so he wouldn't have to touch me with his own hands or shove anything 😲cold and metal
inside me. 😂That was pretty much the look I gave him.

Apparently, there's this urban legend that if you cross your arms over your chest during an exam, it somehow makes everything more comfortable. :urbanalegenda: