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Hey there—so, on the main thread, I first got a warning from the mod team, and then I was sanctioned by boldwalker12 for supposedly trolling in the post below:
There was zero trolling on my part, nor was there any insulting or belittling of other users. The question was asked right in the OP's opening post, and it goes like this...
... and I specifically used or because, based on everything I’ve seen, anyone smart enough can see that these men are doing this consciously—and they honestly don't give a damn about their wives in the process. Looking at the thread and the replies from Carl Fisher7, it's pretty obvious that people don't want to write down the actual reason why they act the way they do. It’s fairly clear where the roots lie when men consciously deny their wives sexual satisfaction (everything I've said is strictly within the scope of the topic the author is asking about). Plenty of women have described similar experiences, including in that locked thread about affairs—which, frankly, I still don't get why it was even deemed relevant, whether temporary or permanent.
Then there are posts like these...
... which weren't flagged as insulting users on the Reddit, even though it's the exact same sentiment on the exact same topic, yet those kinds of comments go completely unpunished.
And then there's the moderating trolling...
... which was even repeated, while simultaneously making false claims...
... which was exactly what the OP herself had to say about it...
... which is exactly why they got slapped with a totally unnecessary—and honestly, pretty harsh—reprimand from the same management.
Instead of getting a formal apology from the mod for pushing false claims and straight-up trolling, she just got... nothing.
Your moderation style is honestly pretty pathetic—it’s actually kind of tragicomic. If you ask anyone with even a shred of common sense, they'll tell you it's nothing more than a joke.
In the slim hope that I might actually encounter a shred of common sense around here—fingers crossed—I wish you all the best. Carl Fisher7
Carl Fisher7 said:Look, I know I’m risking a warning or a ban... whatever, but I’m not actually commenting on the moderator's post here. I’m trying to explain the actual point of my previous post. It isn't about nitpicking the guy's specific situation—and I'll give him credit for being upfront about that part 👍—but rather, I wanted the OP to get an honest answer. Since she's the only man in this thread who actually had the guts to be blunt, I wanted her to receive a real response to her question. She's asking how someone can verbally say "I love you" while consciously choosing to do nothing to fix a problem—even though they know exactly what's causing it—thereby deliberately withholding intimacy and essentially sabotaging their partner. This is directly tied to the core issue of this thread; it's really just the same fundamental problem wearing two different masks.
An honest answer didn't exactly follow, but even the non-answer—or the kind of answer I did get—is the sort of thing where the OP, who clearly has enough intelligence 😉 , can figure out the reasons herself.
And those reasons, based on everything I've learned from Reddit, observing people in real life, or just my own past experiences, are pretty clear: most men who deal with total or partial impotence, or any form of ED that prevents them from satisfying their partner, act as if their wives should just accept their condition, suppress their own sexuality, and basically kill off their own libido.
That isn't how you treat someone you love. In fact, you shouldn't do that to anyone. Back when we had that closed thread about affairs, we saw several examples of people stepping out precisely because of these exact issues in marriages. In every single one of those cases, over time, the love died, the respect vanished, and it turned into lethargy and contempt. Eventually, all those women sought fulfillment through affairs. Usually more than once. The root cause wasn't the erectile dysfunction itself, but the complete lack of will to actually solve the problem.
boldwalker12 said:You've crossed the line. This isn't the first time you've pushed your agenda despite knowing the rules, and you continue to express your opinions about other users in such a crude and disrespectful way. My suggestion? Back off and change your attitude toward these threads, because the next step might not just be a warning—it could be a partial ban.
There was zero trolling on my part, nor was there any insulting or belittling of other users. The question was asked right in the OP's opening post, and it goes like this...
Ms. X said:I’m curious what the guys think: if your wife is trying to help but you refuse it and just suppress the issue, is it because you feel like you aren't being masculine enough or ?
... and I specifically used or because, based on everything I’ve seen, anyone smart enough can see that these men are doing this consciously—and they honestly don't give a damn about their wives in the process. Looking at the thread and the replies from Carl Fisher7, it's pretty obvious that people don't want to write down the actual reason why they act the way they do. It’s fairly clear where the roots lie when men consciously deny their wives sexual satisfaction (everything I've said is strictly within the scope of the topic the author is asking about). Plenty of women have described similar experiences, including in that locked thread about affairs—which, frankly, I still don't get why it was even deemed relevant, whether temporary or permanent.
Then there are posts like these...
north wind said:Exactly... it isn't love, at least not by any definition of the word I recognize. It would be more like sexual abuse.
... which weren't flagged as insulting users on the Reddit, even though it's the exact same sentiment on the exact same topic, yet those kinds of comments go completely unpunished.
And then there's the moderating trolling...
boldwalker12 said:Not every single one. But this one definitely gives off that vibe. The whole post feels like an ad to me. Artistic impression matters, for God's sake. 🤷
... which was even repeated, while simultaneously making false claims...
boldwalker12 said:Is it possible? I mean, I don't trust women who advertise themselves as being "good," "righteous," or "hot" and send photos via DM while acting all worried about marriage problems.
... which was exactly what the OP herself had to say about it...
I don't even know where to start with this one—it’s like watching a slow-motion train wreck in downtown Chicago. You see someone acting like they own the room, thinking they're some kind of untouchable icon, and then reality hits them like a freight train. It's honestly almost funny if it wasn't so exhausting. kaže:
Moderator, I really hope you actually take a second to read what you wrote yourself. I told you to go back and look at my post—it’s not about me twisting your words, it’s about the fact that you’re doing exactly that. She claimed she was sending me a photo via DM—something that’s just plain false.Look, as a moderator—if you’re even bothering to engage with a thread—could you at least make an effort to read the opening post? That's really all I'm asking.
... which is exactly why they got slapped with a totally unnecessary—and honestly, pretty harsh—reprimand from the same management.
boldwalker12 said:Stop responding to warnings that have been highlighted. I’m telling you one more time: Reddit isn't some customer support group where you can demand attention just because you want certain people to answer you. This is your final warning. Dial back the attitude and quit acting like you're entitled to settle scores with other users here.
Instead of getting a formal apology from the mod for pushing false claims and straight-up trolling, she just got... nothing.
Your moderation style is honestly pretty pathetic—it’s actually kind of tragicomic. If you ask anyone with even a shred of common sense, they'll tell you it's nothing more than a joke.
In the slim hope that I might actually encounter a shred of common sense around here—fingers crossed—I wish you all the best. Carl Fisher7