Project: Find a Friend (Classifieds / Meetup Thread)

Washington, D.C., ..Man, 39 years old. Life just sort of pushed everyone in different directions—people drifted apart after the war, everyone had to find new crews, jobs out of state, or just start their own families.
All that stuff probably leaves some kind of emotional or mental scar on you, I guess, and you gotta figure out how to deal with that and move forward, whether that's solo or with someone... dealing with depression, isolation, and just feeling lost in the shuffle.

I'm here because I actually want to get to know a good, interesting friend under 40—someone I can stay in regular contact with, hang out with, maybe hit some trails or just get the hell out of the city and into nature.
And look, I get that anyone else out there has their own baggage too—we all need support, right? So I'm looking for something where the interaction goes both ways... someone chill who can also talk about their own life and how they see things.

Just no drama, no misunderstandings, and no weirdly vague situations. I need someone who's actually a good listener and willing to see my side, too. I don't do outbursts; I'm pretty understanding and everything can be worked out if both people are actually down for it.
We all need smart, decent, interesting people around us—especially if fate didn't put them in our immediate family circle. You end up turning to strangers to build a foundation for whatever comes next. It isn't easy, but honestly, none of us are here just out of curiosity; we're here because we need to find someone to build a little world of our own with.

Raymond Richardson7 said:Anyone up for some chatting or maybe grabbing a drink sometime?

Location: Cleveland

Greetings from Cleveland! How's everyone doing? 🙂

I'm looking for a pen pal or, ideally, someone to hang out with in person. I’m 49 and based out of Indianapolis. I could really use some perspective on what it actually means when life hits you hard and forces you to rebuild everything from the ground up.🙂

29-year-old male looking for a female pen pal. I'm hoping we can chat about all sorts of different topics.

I consider myself to be quite an honest and optimistic person, and I really have no intention of hurting anyone's feelings. I suppose I should mention that I'm not interested in hearing from anyone just looking for a casual fling.

We can dive into more details via private message if you're interested.

I struggle with social anxiety, and over time I’ve kind of shut myself off and dealt with some depression. It's tough for me to relax when I'm around people I don't know, and sometimes I get hit with panic attacks. I'm not really the most talkative person, and I guess I don't always have much to say.
If anyone else feels the same way and wants to chat or maybe help each other step out of our comfort zones, feel free to reach out. Gender, age, or looks don't really matter to me.
I'm from Washington, D.C., male, 27 years old.

Hey friends! If any ladies out there see this, I’ve got one tiny request: please don't be someone who lives for gossip or spends all day obsessing over makeup. I'm just looking for a chill girl—or honestly, a guy too—who won't judge me or look at me like I'm some kind of weirdo. I'm 26, living in Indianapolis, and I'd love to find a solid group of people to hang out with. Think D&D sessions, movie marathons, grabbing coffee, hiking, and just truly living life while I still have the energy for it. So, hit me up...

I've got a cat, I'm big into gaming, and I love being outdoors. I can be a bit of a wild soul when I'm out in nature, but the right person could definitely help ground me. 😁

If anyone else out there happens to be looking for a friendly ear to chat with about life's little hurdles—you know, just a space to vent, find some comfort, or simply talk things through without any heavy strings attached—please know my inbox is open. We don't have to dwell on the heavy stuff all the time, but wouldn't it be nice to have someone you can be truly honest with about the less-than-perfect moments in life, without feeling judged for how you handle them? Lately, I've been struggling quite a bit with my self-confidence and navigating social situations, which tends to trigger a whole domino effect of other issues, too. Also, if you're the kind of person who prefers to take your time responding or occasionally needs to step back from the digital world to recharge, please don't worry; I definitely have those same quiet moments myself.

So, if that sounds like something you might need, feel free to send me a PM! 🙂

Oh, and just for context, I'm in my mid-twenties.

Is there anyone out in San Diego who knows a good spot for some decent craft beer? I'm looking to grab a pint somewhere local or maybe head out a bit further. I’d love some company if anyone's interested. Just a bit about me: I’m a 28-year-old guy, working full-time, and as far as my mental health goes, I don't have any official diagnoses at the moment... though I guess joining an AA group might be something on my radar down the road. Don't be too sensitive about the humor or the fact that this is basically a community for folks in recovery; I'm just looking to keep things casual for now. 🙂

I’m noticing quite a few guys here who are in the same boat as me—socially isolated and honestly just itching to step out of that comfort zone. I’m looking to change things up, and personally, my goal is to find some male company here in Washington, D.C.—someone interested in hanging out or doing social stuff together, specifically to practice approaching women. Maybe there’s someone out there who already knows their way around PUA techniques, but actually gets how much social anxiety can really hold you back. I'm 29, by the way. I don't have any strict age requirements; I just want to meet someone who genuinely has the drive to hang out and get out there. 😉

Hey everyone!

I'm 26, male... finished my degree back in September, been working for about 4 years now... honestly, I struggle with major anxiety and tension. I feel like I don't fit in socially, though I wasn't always this way—back in elementary school, I was super outgoing, happy, maybe even a little too much sometimes! But all that just seemed to vanish once I landed this incredibly stressful job.... So basically, talking to people is a nightmare because I can't even focus on the conversation itself; my head is just spinning with thoughts that I'm worthless, not to mention trying to talk to girls. It’s not like I lack experience there—people actually tell me I'm pretty good-looking—but what does that matter if I have zero confidence and just radiate negativity?

I love movies and series, huge fan of random fun facts, and I really appreciate people who don't judge based on first impressions—you know, folks who don't think someone is stupid just because they're a bit weird or don't follow those "social norms" that I think are total crap anyway.

Looking for someone to chat with, hang out, grab a coffee... sex is not the priority here. Looking for ages roughly between 23 and 35. Thanks!

Just some random guy from out of nowhere

Hardcore gamer here—PC and PS4 setup.

- Huge fan of conspiracy theories.

- RPGs are my go-to, plus I love reading and
writing poetry.

I play guitar, too—bass, acoustic, and electric.

Well-read, bit of a philosopher, slightly alternative... looking for someone similar.

Someone I can actually talk to about everything.

Gerald Ortiz2 said:Just some random guy from out of nowhere

Hardcore gamer here—PC and PS4 setup.

- Huge fan of conspiracy theories.

- RPGs are my go-to, plus I love reading and
writing poetry.

I play guitar, too—bass, acoustic, and electric.

Well-read, bit of a philosopher, slightly alternative... looking for someone similar.

Someone I can actually talk to about everything.

P.S. Hope you're into metal or rock.

If you're in Indianapolis, I can show you some great spots where there's a party every weekend.

Michelle Gray said:Just repeating this here.

Hit me up, I'm down to chat.

I’m looking for someone to chat with—and maybe grab a coffee with... someday, eventually. Honestly, what am I even looking for? I’m not entirely sure myself, though I do know exactly what I *don't* want.
I'm not looking for some possessive type who won't let me have any breathing room.
I'm not looking for sex—at least not for a while.
And I am definitely not looking for someone who will dump all their baggage on me; as much as I’d love to be helpful... truth be told, other people's drama just drains me dry. Yes, go ahead, call me selfish if you must.
What I actually want (not "look for," let's be precise) is a person who can be my rock—someone to give me that push when I'm struggling to find my own momentum. I want someone who can stick by me when I feel like nobody else can tolerate me.

So, what do I bring to the table?
It sounds incredibly silly, but you can't really ask for anything without offering something in return.
I offer a witty individual currently engaged in a rather successful battle with some internal demons.
I offer a free spirit who tries her best to withhold judgment and truly understand people.
I'm well-read—or at least, I consider myself to be... though lately, my college workload has been eating away at my reading time.
I'm 21, and I'm not conventionally attractive. Much like most people on these forums. I have a decent face, but I'm carrying some extra weight. About 55 pounds extra, to be exact, though that number is steadily dropping.
That’s why I’m not hunting for a boyfriend, but rather a friend—man or woman—to exchange messages with and talk about everything and nothing. I don't always need deep, philosophical discussions; sometimes just recounting my day is plenty. I'm not interested in those grandiose, ego-driven personalities, but I'm not looking for wallflowers either.
Balance is what I'm after. It's what I need.
If this happens to resonate with you, reach out.
By the way, gender doesn't matter. If you see yourself in these words, get in touch.

I'll repeat this with a disclaimer: I can be quite hot and cold, and I know I'm not the easiest person to deal with. If that's your cup of tea, be my guest.
Preferably a woman.

Reposting this, with the note that I'm looking for female company—a friend, or hopefully more, if things click. 🎉
Cheers to everyone!🙂

velveteagle5 said:Hey there. 😉

I'm 25, currently based in Washington, D.C. I have a weakness for a good latte, though my stomach can't handle too much caffeine, sweets, or chocolate. :tugica:
Grass is my sanctuary 😁 and I live for deep conversations—the kind that stretch on for hours and leave you feeling energized rather than drained. 😛
As a Shrink like, discussing problems—mine or yours—doesn't exhaust me, provided we hit it off. It actually refreshes my perspective and gives me new tools to deal with my own demons. I enjoy a good chat and listening to people's life stories.
A cheerful introvert who occasionally surprises even myself with bursts of extroversion.🤣

The issue is that most of my friends aren't Shrink like, so they've drifted away. You know how it goes—once you change, it spills over into every part of your life. 🙄 Consequently, I'm looking for someone to grab coffee, a beer, catch a movie, or hit an art gallery with just to talk.

Interested in meeting up?
My inbox is open. 🎉

Michelle Gray said:Just repeating this here.

🙂👋

Hey there! I’m 24 years old and looking to find someone to chat with online. Since I'm living out here in Canada, it's a bit tough to get out and meet new people in person lately, so I'd love to connect digitally instead. Ideally, I'm looking to talk to a woman who's interested in more than just venting about life's problems—I'd really love to have those deep, meaningful conversations where we can talk about absolutely anything and everything under the sun. Looking forward to meeting someone interesting!
I really wish she could be a bit more sensible and grounded. To be honest, I struggle quite a bit with social anxiety and phobias in my daily life, though I don't find myself feeling that way nearly as much when I'm just hanging out online. It's funny how much easier everything feels through a screen, isn't it?
So, here’s what I can bring to the table... Honestly, I think I make for pretty good company. We can dive into just about any topic you're interested in—I'm always up for a deep dive or even just some lighthearted banter. To be perfectly candid, I’m having a bit of a hard time figuring out what else to list here; I've always felt my communication skills could use a little polishing, if I'm being honest with myself. But, I was thinking, maybe we could both work on our quirks and shortcomings together? It sounds like a nice little project to tackle side-by-side.

Looking to find a female friend to hang out with here in San Diego.
I’m big on reading. If you want to know anything else, just shoot me a DM.

Hey there! Since I haven't hit the 100-post milestone yet, I’m dropping my ad right here.
I'm 40, an avid reader and writer, and I dabble in knitting and jewelry making from time to time.🙂
I'm big on loving cats, rainy days, and smooth jazz.
I'm looking for a female friend—though guys are fine too, just nothing romantic—to start out with some good old-fashioned pen-paling.

So, I’ve managed to put together about 100 posts... spread out over more than 50 different occasions🙂
I suppose I should mention that I’m also looking for some good company here—maybe someone to go for Sunday afternoon walks with, grab a coffee, or catch a movie in the evening...
I’m originally from the Midwest, but I’ll be heading out to Washington, D.C. at the start of next month.
If there’s anything else you’d like to know, feel free to just shoot me a private message.
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