Condemnation

Look, let's be real: dressing like that isn't exactly professional, but I don't think we need to go around labeling it "slutty."

I just find it kind of baffling when girls show up to the office dressed like that. I mean, if you wear something like that, aren't you basically inviting everyone to stare? It seems pretty counterintuitive, doesn't it?

Raymond Gomez2 said:And what's the point of even making a comment like that? Most people have eyes; they can see it too... If a comment isn't aimed directly at the person wearing the micro-skirt—with the specific intention of telling them it doesn't suit them—then I don't see much purpose in the gossip 🤷. Because making nasty remarks about someone behind their back is the very definition of gossiping (and thus, judging) ☕..

Judging people based solely on their clothes feels completely pointless to me.. I know girls who dress like that who are perfectly fine people. In fact, I find the people who feel the need to point it out to be much uglier
..
I'm not talking about you specifically, just speaking generally, of course.. It always irritated me when some girl would come up to me with a comment like that about someone else, and I'd just sit there wondering what I was supposed to say 🤷.. Especially if I don't think anything bad about the person being discussed—in fact, I usually think much better of them than the "well-dressed" person doing the critiquing
.. I just don't see the utility in comments like those 🤷..

I'm totally with Depechica on this one!
You say that making nasty comments behind someone's back is gossiping, but why is that a bad thing? If someone dresses like a total slut, then yeah, I'll say they dressed like a slut. If they wore something more appropriate, maybe I'd react differently and tell them they look pretty... To me, that's just being real. I don't get why "judging" has to be such a negative word!

And it's also just reality that if a girl dresses like a slut, she's doing it because of some psychological issues. Okay, fine, maybe I'm "judging" again since I'm not a therapist, but from experience, I know that if a girl dresses like a slut, she basically is a slut looking for attention, haha (sorry for being so blunt, but it's late and I really don't feel like sugarcoating everything I write).

Someone else mentioned theft too. Well, when I see someone living in a massive mansion with a fleet of luxury cars that makes my head spin, it's only natural for me to say, "Look, a thief!" How is that judging? Maybe no court has ever convicted them of anything, but anyone who understands math, economics, or any science related to financial structures knows that in this day and age, it's simply impossible to have tens of millions of dollars sitting in your bank account just through honest work.

driftingbear29 said:
What does judging even mean? Calling someone trashy if they’re actually dressed trashily? 😬 I'm not sure.
I mean, the fact remains that her outfit is barely covering anything. So... by simply observing and commenting on her look, have I actually judged her in any meaningful way? 😬

I'd say the whole concept of "judgment" is incredibly complex... 😍

That isn't judging.
True judgment—the negative kind—is when you shut someone out of your life, turn your back on them in public, avoid them entirely, or go out of your way to make sure everyone knows you can't stand them... or just holding a persistent, bitter grudge against them... 😍

I wouldn’t say I’m one to judge; if anything, I struggle with the exact opposite issue. I seem to have this persistent, almost compulsive need to see things from the other side and find a way to justify their actions.

For instance, whenever I’m in a conversation and someone starts tearing into a third party or throwing out harsh criticisms, my immediate instinct isn't to join the fray. Instead, I find myself mentally scanning for any possible excuse or context that might make their behavior more understandable. 😲

driftingbear29 said:Siri, I have to break this up into multiple posts because the emojis are taking up all the space 😬

Obviously, wearing certain clothes doesn't make someone a bad person 🙂 But I think people underestimate how much our style reflects who we are. Our clothing is part of our identity (And no, I'm not talking about someone struggling with homelessness who just wears whatever they can find. Let's not go there 😬)

I assume you'll call me superficial. So be it.

And I don't see anything wrong with the comment. It isn't malicious. But, let's be real, for some people, the first impression is just a bit too much in that "girl at the corner bar" sort of way 😬 That it looks cheap. Even if it feels cheap to me personally, that definitely doesn't mean she wouldn't $3.25 help a person in need or rescue an abandoned kitten 😍 😁 Bottom line: I'm not claiming she has a bad character :')

Also, I've always wondered what a conversation would be like without commenting on someone or something. In that fun, lighthearted way. Is that gossiping or judging? If it is, well, what can you do. I enjoy those kinds of days 😍 😛 😁 We're only human. Life isn't always black and white. Or maybe it is, but I just can't see it that way 😬

We can't talk about history, art, spirituality, or other sophisticated topics all the time.

Look, don't worry, it's not like I'm constantly lecturing everyone on spirituality and fine arts. 😬..
I totally get the urge to comment on someone once in a while; I do it myself. But if I don't actually think there's anything fundamentally wrong with their character, then it's more of a joke—never with the intention of spreading rumors or dragging them through the mud.
That's the distinction that seems important to me..

Based on what you wrote, it sounds like you operate the same way. 😁..

Michael Davis13 said:I'm totally with Depechica on this one!
You say that making nasty comments behind someone's back is gossiping, but why is that a bad thing? If someone dresses like a total slut, then yeah, I'll say they dressed like a slut. If they wore something more appropriate, maybe I'd react differently and tell them they look pretty... To me, that's just being real. I don't get why "judging" has to be such a negative word!

And it's also just reality that if a girl dresses like a slut, she's doing it because of some psychological issues. Okay, fine, maybe I'm "judging" again since I'm not a therapist, but from experience, I know that if a girl dresses like a slut, she basically is a slut looking for attention, haha (sorry for being so blunt, but it's late and I really don't feel like sugarcoating everything I write).

Someone else mentioned theft too. Well, when I see someone living in a massive mansion with a fleet of luxury cars that makes my head spin, it's only natural for me to say, "Look, a thief!" How is that judging? Maybe no court has ever convicted them of anything, but anyone who understands math, economics, or any science related to financial structures knows that in this day and age, it's simply impossible to have tens of millions of dollars sitting in your bank account just through honest work.

I wouldn't quite put a thief and a provocatively dressed girl in the same category. In the first case—whether they've been legally convicted or not, let's just say we know what's up—they've almost certainly harmed other people. A girl dressing provocatively certainly hasn't done that 😬..

In bold: I believe the perception of what is "slutty" varies from one person to the next. And no, I would never jump to the conclusion that someone dressed provocatively is automatically looking for sex 🙄..

driftingbear29 said:Siri, I have to break this up into multiple posts because the emojis are taking up all the space 😬

Obviously, wearing certain clothes doesn't make someone a bad person 🙂 But I think people underestimate how much our style reflects who we are. Our clothing is part of our identity (And no, I'm not talking about someone struggling with homelessness who just wears whatever they can find. Let's not go there 😬)

I assume you'll call me superficial. So be it.

And I don't see anything wrong with the comment. It isn't malicious. But, let's be real, for some people, the first impression is just a bit too much in that "girl at the corner bar" sort of way 😬 That it looks cheap. Even if it feels cheap to me personally, that definitely doesn't mean she wouldn't $3.25 help a person in need or rescue an abandoned kitten 😍 😁 Bottom line: I'm not claiming she has a bad character :')

Also, I've always wondered what a conversation would be like without commenting on someone or something. In that fun, lighthearted way. Is that gossiping or judging? If it is, well, what can you do. I enjoy those kinds of days 😍 😛 😁 We're only human. Life isn't always black and white. Or maybe it is, but I just can't see it that way 😬

We can't talk about history, art, spirituality, or other sophisticated topics all the time.

Of course we all do it from time to time; it is practically part of our DNA. However, the kind of judgment I am referring to here is something a bit more heavy-handed than just making a passing comment about, say, someone's outfit. 😬 🙂

Jose Morris7 said:That isn't judging.
True judgment—the negative kind—is when you shut someone out of your life, turn your back on them in public, avoid them entirely, or go out of your way to make sure everyone knows you can't stand them... or just holding a persistent, bitter grudge against them... 😍

Precisely. 👍

Roger Phillips54 said:I wouldn’t say I’m one to judge; if anything, I struggle with the exact opposite issue. I seem to have this persistent, almost compulsive need to see things from the other side and find a way to justify their actions.

For instance, whenever I’m in a conversation and someone starts tearing into a third party or throwing out harsh criticisms, my immediate instinct isn't to join the fray. Instead, I find myself mentally scanning for any possible excuse or context that might make their behavior more understandable. 😲

That is a truly beautiful virtue, though I must admit, it can be a bit of a double-edged sword depending on how you look at it.

This is such a great topic with so much ground to cover! It’s true—most people find it way too easy to judge someone before actually getting to know them. It's just simpler to put people into little boxes. I’ve definitely been on the receiving end of that myself over some pretty trivial things. Back then, I was quite serious and didn't exactly "fit in" with the crowd. People assumed I was being standoffish or antisocial, but honestly, I just needed a moment to settle in before I felt comfortable opening up. I never felt the need to prove anything to them; I just chose to distance myself from that energy instead.😉

Michael Davis13 said:I'm totally with Depechica on this one!
You say that making nasty comments behind someone's back is gossiping, but why is that a bad thing? If someone dresses like a total slut, then yeah, I'll say they dressed like a slut. If they wore something more appropriate, maybe I'd react differently and tell them they look pretty... To me, that's just being real. I don't get why "judging" has to be such a negative word!

And it's also just reality that if a girl dresses like a slut, she's doing it because of some psychological issues. Okay, fine, maybe I'm "judging" again since I'm not a therapist, but from experience, I know that if a girl dresses like a slut, she basically is a slut looking for attention, haha (sorry for being so blunt, but it's late and I really don't feel like sugarcoating everything I write).

Someone else mentioned theft too. Well, when I see someone living in a massive mansion with a fleet of luxury cars that makes my head spin, it's only natural for me to say, "Look, a thief!" How is that judging? Maybe no court has ever convicted them of anything, but anyone who understands math, economics, or any science related to financial structures knows that in this day and age, it's simply impossible to have tens of millions of dollars sitting in your bank account just through honest work.

The mere fact that you even use a word like that is incredibly toxic. You can always express an opinion without being poisonous—you could say, "I don't think her outfit was tasteful," or "I'm not a fan of that look," or whatever. But resorting to calling someone a slut? That doesn't actually say anything about the girl; it just exposes your own massive issues. Honestly, it just screams that you're uncultured and crude.

Raymond Gomez2 said:I wouldn't quite put a thief and a provocatively dressed girl in the same category. In the first case—whether they've been legally convicted or not, let's just say we know what's up—they've almost certainly harmed other people. A girl dressing provocatively certainly hasn't done that 😬..

In bold: I believe the perception of what is "slutty" varies from one person to the next. And no, I would never jump to the conclusion that someone dressed provocatively is automatically looking for sex 🙄..

Yeah, there's another category too—the ones who just like to push buttons.😁
Either way, I'm pretty sure if someone dresses like a total slob—and isn't lacking basic common sense—they know certain styles send a specific message. Whether they realize it or not, they're signaling that they're messy, so that's how I read it.🤷
Look, everyone has the right to look like a wreck, but I have the right to see it as a total eyesore, too.

placidmason58 said:Judging others seems to be a universal pastime, doesn't it? People love to cast stones and slap labels on everyone they see, rarely pausing to consider the underlying reasons behind someone else's actions. It’s far too easy to point a finger the moment someone slips up, and frankly, some people seem to derive a twisted sense of superiority from it—it feeds their ego.

Do you find yourself frequently judging those around you, and more importantly, how do you handle the weight of it when the spotlight turns on you and you're the one being judged?

Exactly. And anyone who thinks they are "above it all" or immune to judging others is living in a total fantasy.

Why is there such a drive to judge people and their actions without actually understanding the underlying causes? When someone else slips up, most people jump to conclusions immediately—some even seem to enjoy it, using it as a way to feed their own ego.

I’d argue that superficial judgment often stems from a fear of difference—a discomfort with things we don't understand. However, not all judgment is shallow. Humans have intuitive dislikes; if someone displays certain traits that lead to specific behaviors we find naturally repelling, I don't see why we shouldn't call it out.

So, despite the popular idea that we only judge when we're feeling bitter or frustrated, I don't think that's strictly true. While dissatisfaction might make easy, knee-jerk judgments more likely, it doesn't change the fact that certain things are just instinctively off-putting. If we take a hard look in the mirror, we'll find plenty of things we disagree with, regardless of how much political correctness is pushed on us today.

Besides, judgment doesn't always have to be directed at a person's entire being; you can judge specific traits or individual actions.

On the flip side, I don't view condemning negative social trends as a bad thing. In fact, seeing whether or not someone criticizes those societal issues tells me a lot about their actual character.

Do you find yourself judging others frequently, and how do you react when the spotlight turns on you and you're the one being judged?

Yes, though I do my best (and occasionally succeed 😁) to avoid making snap judgments. As for being judged myself, it really depends on the source. If it comes from someone close to me, I tend to reflect on what went wrong. But if it comes from someone I don't respect or someone I don't even know, I remain pretty indifferent.

At the end of the day, I am my own harshest critic.

Judgment usually stems from an inability to accept difference. Everyone deserves the right to live their life on their own terms—and frankly, who am I to judge anyone for doing so?

Jacob Cooper5 said:Judgment matters. We’re talking about actual discernment here.
If you want to survive out there, you have to be able to weigh things up. You need to realize you aren't just walking into a campfire... you need to know you aren't jumping off a fifth-story balcony without a parachute.
That kind of foresight—that ability to judge a situation—is everything.

When you strip away someone's ability to think critically for themselves, you pave the way for cults, "soulmate" delusions, and all kinds of psychological manipulation...

I wouldn't go as far as saying discernment and being judgmental are the exact same thing. I mean, okay, if you've just met someone and from those tiny little interactions you realize they seem sketchy, maybe they have a record, or they lie, or they’re clearly trying to hustle you—and then you steer clear? Fine. Or if you start dating someone and right out of the gate you see they're super possessive, or pathologically jealous, or a total control freak... and you dump them immediately... that's just common sense and reading the room. It's evaluating people for what they are.
But it's a completely different story when, say, people at the office start making these nasty, judgmental comments about a coworker's behavior—like, "Look at how they dress, I'd be so embarrassed," or "They did this one thing, I could never..." and so on and so forth. That kind of energy just breeds cliques, drama, tension, and honestly, absolutely nothing productive. 🤷It's the same thing when you walk into a new environment, meet a few people, and suddenly one person starts badmouthing others right off the bat, telling you, "Oh, that person is awful, they're so this and so." If you've got a weak character, you'll take their word for it, you won't give that person a fair shake, and you'll end up viewing everything they do through a negative lens because someone else planted that seed in your head... but if you have a shred of common sense and actual backbone, you'll wait until you form your own opinion. It's honestly pathetic how lazy and easily swayed people are, just tossing out judgments based on superficial bullshit that says zero about a person's true character. And because of that kind of stupidity, people end up missing out on a great love, a real friend, or even just a decent neighbor...

And yeah, I guess I'd say I find myself judging the people who are constantly judging everyone else most of all. :/ In like 90 percent of cases where someone comes to me to gossip, my internal reaction is just... so what? Like, they haven't actually harmed anyone, and you haven't done anything wrong, they just, I don't know, acted rude, or didn't say hi, or maybe they just forgot to text you back—which happens, people get busy—or they're acting like, "He did this specifically just to spite me!" My main thought is usually just, 😁 wow, okay, so the universe revolves around you, does it? Look, I definitely judge behaviors that I find immoral, selfish, or shallow. And when someone comes to me with these statements that scream superficiality, ignorance, or how easily they're manipulated, I can't help but think they're just... well, shallow or stupid. It's not like I'm going to go out of my way to ignore them or whatever, but I'm certainly not looking to grab a drink with someone like that...

I guess we all have this tendency to judge—it's just that some people blurt it out immediately, while others actually take a second to think before they speak, if they say anything at all.
The thing about being human is that we have brains, which means we have the capacity to overanalyze everything, whether it's positive or negative.
I suppose that's what separates us from animals—that sense of consciousness and reason.

We really don't have any right to judge others. None of us are perfect; we all have flaws and the right to make mistakes, which is pretty much what those mistakes are there for anyway.
Since I’m far from perfect myself, I don't see how I can point fingers at anyone else—you never truly know what someone is going through, their circumstances, their mindset, or their struggles. Judging others is basically just a weakness on our part. Sometimes, when something about someone else bothers us, it's usually because it's something we struggle with ourselves, but we're either too powerless or maybe just too lazy to change it.
It's easy to criticize others since we aren't in their shoes, but it's much harder to be that critical of ourselves.
We should at least try to walk a mile in someone else's shoes and look at things from their perspective instead of just jumping to conclusions and passing judgment. Condemnation, gossip, criticism—it all hurts everyone involved, because at the end of the day, we're all made of the same stuff. We're all just human.
Sometimes we react poorly to how someone treats us and we judge them for it, mostly because we don't understand why we're being treated that way or what we did to deserve it.
Judging people is a complicated, messy issue, much like almost everything else in life.
For instance, looking at it from a Christian perspective, one might have the right to condemn a sin, but not the person committing it. You're supposed to love your neighbor, not judge them—you should offer help, provided they actually want it.
There will always be people who live to judge, and honestly, that probably won't change unless they decide to work on themselves.
Some people just don't care if their actions hurt someone else, which seems wrong to me, given that we all feel the sting when we're on the receiving end of that kind of behavior.

Sean Cruz said:Exactly. And anyone who thinks they are "above it all" or immune to judging others is living in a total fantasy.

Why is there such a drive to judge people and their actions without actually understanding the underlying causes? When someone else slips up, most people jump to conclusions immediately—some even seem to enjoy it, using it as a way to feed their own ego.

I’d argue that superficial judgment often stems from a fear of difference—a discomfort with things we don't understand. However, not all judgment is shallow. Humans have intuitive dislikes; if someone displays certain traits that lead to specific behaviors we find naturally repelling, I don't see why we shouldn't call it out.

So, despite the popular idea that we only judge when we're feeling bitter or frustrated, I don't think that's strictly true. While dissatisfaction might make easy, knee-jerk judgments more likely, it doesn't change the fact that certain things are just instinctively off-putting. If we take a hard look in the mirror, we'll find plenty of things we disagree with, regardless of how much political correctness is pushed on us today.

Besides, judgment doesn't always have to be directed at a person's entire being; you can judge specific traits or individual actions.

On the flip side, I don't view condemning negative social trends as a bad thing. In fact, seeing whether or not someone criticizes those societal issues tells me a lot about their actual character.

Do you find yourself judging others frequently, and how do you react when the spotlight turns on you and you're the one being judged?

Yes, though I do my best (and occasionally succeed 😁) to avoid making snap judgments. As for being judged myself, it really depends on the source. If it comes from someone close to me, I tend to reflect on what went wrong. But if it comes from someone I don't respect or someone I don't even know, I remain pretty indifferent.

At the end of the day, I am my own harshest critic.

That’s the thing—these people often act like they have a free pass to judge everyone else, while simultaneously believing they are untouchable by any criticism themselves.

Morgan Bishop4 said:I wouldn't go as far as saying discernment and being judgmental are the exact same thing. I mean, okay, if you've just met someone and from those tiny little interactions you realize they seem sketchy, maybe they have a record, or they lie, or they’re clearly trying to hustle you—and then you steer clear? Fine. Or if you start dating someone and right out of the gate you see they're super possessive, or pathologically jealous, or a total control freak... and you dump them immediately... that's just common sense and reading the room. It's evaluating people for what they are.
But it's a completely different story when, say, people at the office start making these nasty, judgmental comments about a coworker's behavior—like, "Look at how they dress, I'd be so embarrassed," or "They did this one thing, I could never..." and so on and so forth. That kind of energy just breeds cliques, drama, tension, and honestly, absolutely nothing productive. 🤷It's the same thing when you walk into a new environment, meet a few people, and suddenly one person starts badmouthing others right off the bat, telling you, "Oh, that person is awful, they're so this and so." If you've got a weak character, you'll take their word for it, you won't give that person a fair shake, and you'll end up viewing everything they do through a negative lens because someone else planted that seed in your head... but if you have a shred of common sense and actual backbone, you'll wait until you form your own opinion. It's honestly pathetic how lazy and easily swayed people are, just tossing out judgments based on superficial bullshit that says zero about a person's true character. And because of that kind of stupidity, people end up missing out on a great love, a real friend, or even just a decent neighbor...

And yeah, I guess I'd say I find myself judging the people who are constantly judging everyone else most of all. :/ In like 90 percent of cases where someone comes to me to gossip, my internal reaction is just... so what? Like, they haven't actually harmed anyone, and you haven't done anything wrong, they just, I don't know, acted rude, or didn't say hi, or maybe they just forgot to text you back—which happens, people get busy—or they're acting like, "He did this specifically just to spite me!" My main thought is usually just, 😁 wow, okay, so the universe revolves around you, does it? Look, I definitely judge behaviors that I find immoral, selfish, or shallow. And when someone comes to me with these statements that scream superficiality, ignorance, or how easily they're manipulated, I can't help but think they're just... well, shallow or stupid. It's not like I'm going to go out of my way to ignore them or whatever, but I'm certainly not looking to grab a drink with someone like that...

They pass judgment without even having a clue, often targeting people they barely even know.

Anthony Collins7 said:I guess we all have this tendency to judge—it's just that some people blurt it out immediately, while others actually take a second to think before they speak, if they say anything at all.
The thing about being human is that we have brains, which means we have the capacity to overanalyze everything, whether it's positive or negative.
I suppose that's what separates us from animals—that sense of consciousness and reason.

We really don't have any right to judge others. None of us are perfect; we all have flaws and the right to make mistakes, which is pretty much what those mistakes are there for anyway.
Since I’m far from perfect myself, I don't see how I can point fingers at anyone else—you never truly know what someone is going through, their circumstances, their mindset, or their struggles. Judging others is basically just a weakness on our part. Sometimes, when something about someone else bothers us, it's usually because it's something we struggle with ourselves, but we're either too powerless or maybe just too lazy to change it.
It's easy to criticize others since we aren't in their shoes, but it's much harder to be that critical of ourselves.
We should at least try to walk a mile in someone else's shoes and look at things from their perspective instead of just jumping to conclusions and passing judgment. Condemnation, gossip, criticism—it all hurts everyone involved, because at the end of the day, we're all made of the same stuff. We're all just human.
Sometimes we react poorly to how someone treats us and we judge them for it, mostly because we don't understand why we're being treated that way or what we did to deserve it.
Judging people is a complicated, messy issue, much like almost everything else in life.
For instance, looking at it from a Christian perspective, one might have the right to condemn a sin, but not the person committing it. You're supposed to love your neighbor, not judge them—you should offer help, provided they actually want it.
There will always be people who live to judge, and honestly, that probably won't change unless they decide to work on themselves.
Some people just don't care if their actions hurt someone else, which seems wrong to me, given that we all feel the sting when we're on the receiving end of that kind of behavior.

I agree that we are all just human and that we shouldn't take it upon ourselves to pass serious judgment, since everyone has their own reasons for the things they do. I just find it baffling that there are certain people who seem to exist solely to criticize everything and everyone, ranging from the smallest details to major life choices. I truly cannot wrap my head around people like that—especially since if you were to turn that same criticism back on them, they would absolutely lose it.

They say you should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before passing judgment, but let’s face it—that’s just not happening..
Whenever some person decides to sit on high horse and "judge" me, I honestly just want to look them dead in the eye and ask: did you actually do anything today that you weren't doing back when you were sixteen?
Did you do something today that was different from when you were twenty-one?
How about when you were twenty-six?
In this current year, have you even done one single thing differently than you did last year?
If the answer is no, then I don't see any reason to bother looking at your shoes, let alone judge your path..
And if I did take a look, I’d probably sum up your entire existence in two complex sentences—because if I tried it with just one, I'd just sound like a total show-off..

Joshua Adams41 said:They say you should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before passing judgment, but let’s face it—that’s just not happening..
Whenever some person decides to sit on high horse and "judge" me, I honestly just want to look them dead in the eye and ask: did you actually do anything today that you weren't doing back when you were sixteen?
Did you do something today that was different from when you were twenty-one?
How about when you were twenty-six?
In this current year, have you even done one single thing differently than you did last year?
If the answer is no, then I don't see any reason to bother looking at your shoes, let alone judge your path..
And if I did take a look, I’d probably sum up your entire existence in two complex sentences—because if I tried it with just one, I'd just sound like a total show-off..

What's the issue with "walking in someone else's shoes"? It's actually a great philosophy. We could all use more of it, especially those who are quick to pull the trigger on judgment without thinking. They speak before they process.

If I could be you
And you could be me
For just one hour

If you could find a way
To get inside
Each other's mind

If you could see you
Trough my eyes
Instead of your ego

I believe you'd be
Surprised to see
That you've been blind

The point of Bohemian Rhapsody is hit perfectly here.😉

I try my best not to be one of those people who constantly judges others. I mean, if we’re being honest, most of us probably deal with enough situations in our daily lives to realize that people are way too quick to pass judgment based on information that's usually wrong or just totally incomplete anyway.

As for judging someone based on their clothes, their haircut, or whatever other superficial stuff they have going on—I just don't do it. Everyone has their own vibe, and that's fine. To me, picking on someone for their style feels about as nonsensical as judging them for their race, religion, or where they come from. It just doesn't hold water.

At the end of the day, I think whoever said that judging others says much more about the person doing the judging than the person being judged is actually right.