Eat up, kid! Come on, get some food in you!

Kevin Flores2 said:Since my mom, dad, uncle, aunt, cousins, and basically everyone else in the family all agree with me about Grandma’s food torture, I wouldn't exactly say it's an issue of growing up, but hey, whatever works for you. 🤷

Fair enough, she was being a bit tedious about it.
Do you think all that actually left any lasting psychological scars?
I mean, we are in the psychology sub, after all, aren't we?🤷

Old ladies act like they own the sidewalk, then turn around and play the victim the second someone accidentally bumps into them.

slywolf45 said:Fair enough, she was being a bit tedious about it.
Do you think all that actually left any lasting psychological scars?
I mean, we are in the psychology sub, after all, aren't we?🤷

Oh, come on, you're really digging your heels in now, aren't you?😁 It’s honestly so grating when you realize that every single time you swing by your grandma's, or your aunt's, or your husband's parents', or just visiting family in general—the second you step through that front door, the whole conversation turns into a broken record. It's just one endless loop of "no, thank you."
I read somewhere once about how when you tell someone NO, they just keep pushing and pushing, like they don't respect your boundaries at all.

Ugh, tell me about it. I’ve been feeling the exact same way for ages... honestly, the way she constantly tries to push her little opinions on everyone just gets under my skin. It’s so grating! 🤦
She’s basically a carbon copy of her aunt, who—let’s be real—is a billion times more exhausting than she is.

Lisa Lopez6 said:Ugh, tell me about it. I’ve been feeling the exact same way for ages... honestly, the way she constantly tries to push her little opinions on everyone just gets under my skin. It’s so grating! 🤦
She’s basically a carbon copy of her aunt, who—let’s be real—is a billion times more exhausting than she is.

Oh, come on, let's be honest here... pretty much everything in this world gets on your nerves.😁

Brenda Sanders46 said:Oh, come on, you're really digging your heels in now, aren't you?😁 It’s honestly so grating when you realize that every single time you swing by your grandma's, or your aunt's, or your husband's parents', or just visiting family in general—the second you step through that front door, the whole conversation turns into a broken record. It's just one endless loop of "no, thank you."
I read somewhere once about how when you tell someone NO, they just keep pushing and pushing, like they don't respect your boundaries at all.

Good grief... calling it Hitlerism? That’s a bit much—gave me the chills just reading it. 😬

slywolf45 said:Oh, come on, let's be honest here... pretty much everything in this world gets on your nerves.😁

Come on, just admit it—you're totally leaning into one specific thing, aren't you? 😁 I mean, what else are women gonna talk about if it isn't food? 🙄

slywolf45 said:Good grief... calling it Hitlerism? That’s a bit much—gave me the chills just reading it. 😬

Where? Like, hair on your legs or little fuzz on your face?😁 The absolute worst is when those stray nose hairs decide to make a break for it—you’re trying to sneeze and suddenly you're basically playing catch with your own sinus issues. 😁

Just imagine this: you’re trying to eat, and they're hovering over you for every single bite, whispering, "soooo good, more, more, sooo good"... ugh! 😠 I actually lost my mind on my aunt once because she does this constantly... and then she calls me "son" like I'm some dude!!!! seriously, fackkkk off!!!! 😠😠

Is she seeing me as some kind of three-drawer dresser or what??? 🙂

Lisa Lopez6 said:Come on, just admit it—you're totally leaning into one specific thing, aren't you? 😁 I mean, what else are women gonna talk about if it isn't food? 🙄

I hear you. I really do.
Well... there you have it.😁

Robin Diaz4 said:My late grandmother used to bribe me with nothing but homemade cookies... if I recall correctly, I never once turned her down. 😍

But then there’s my aunt, who takes it as a personal insult if you don't polish off every single morsel of whatever she’s cooked. I’m sitting there struggling to even chew, and she’s already piling another steak onto my plate... 🙄
And of course, she gets offended because I didn't finish it all. Honestly, I just don't get the logic behind it... 🤷

Man, they do the exact same thing to me. Like, if you see I’m about to pop, which idiot is gonna keep stuffing me? Seriously... they're just trying to fatten us up so we never leave the house and end up looking like old ladies way before our time. 😳

slywolf45 said:Fair enough, she was being a bit tedious about it.
Do you think all that actually left any lasting psychological scars?
I mean, we are in the psychology sub, after all, aren't we?🤷

Look, honey, it’s not about lasting trauma; it’s just pure irritation. A mosquito doesn't leave you with deep psychological scars, does it? It just annoys the hell out of you—especially when it's buzzing right by your ear right before you drift off to sleep, don't you agree? 😁

We're just dissecting why things turned out this way, and besides, you said it yourself... it was just boring. 🙂

brighttiger41 said:Look, honey, it’s not about lasting trauma; it’s just pure irritation. A mosquito doesn't leave you with deep psychological scars, does it? It just annoys the hell out of you—especially when it's buzzing right by your ear right before you drift off to sleep, don't you agree? 😁

We're just dissecting why things turned out this way, and besides, you said it yourself... it was just boring. 🙂

Fine, but I'm certainly not going to start a whole thread about mosquitoes.
It's pretty obvious you care significantly more about Grandma than some bug.
So, let's hear a story better than anything on Oprah:😍

(if there truly are no consequences, then this entire discussion is futile)

slywolf45 said:Fine, but I'm certainly not going to start a whole thread about mosquitoes.
It's pretty obvious you care significantly more about Grandma than some bug.
So, let's hear a story better than anything on Oprah:😍

(if there truly are no consequences, then this entire discussion is futile)

That would be fair too.

You're right, dear, but you can't exactly tell a mosquito to stop, can you? You have to swat it, otherwise, it'll just keep coming back and buzzing in your ear 😁 (and honestly, there are plenty of people like that these days 😲), and Grandma really ought to understand when she's been told once, maybe twice—because at the end of the day, she's a human being with, I assume, relatively sound cognitive structures 😍

And my own experience? It has consequences. They might seem minor, but they exist!! Or perhaps they aren't even minor 😁

Avoiding those types of people altogether, or just feeling that constant spike of anxiety whenever you have to communicate or make contact with them 🤣

brighttiger41 said:That would be fair too.

You're right, dear, but you can't exactly tell a mosquito to stop, can you? You have to swat it, otherwise, it'll just keep coming back and buzzing in your ear 😁 (and honestly, there are plenty of people like that these days 😲), and Grandma really ought to understand when she's been told once, maybe twice—because at the end of the day, she's a human being with, I assume, relatively sound cognitive structures 😍

And my own experience? It has consequences. They might seem minor, but they exist!! Or perhaps they aren't even minor 😁

Avoiding those types of people altogether, or just feeling that constant spike of anxiety whenever you have to communicate or make contact with them 🤣

Look, I get it. You're bored. I really do.😉

Zachary Mendoza2 said:Their parents lived through the Great Depression, and those lean years stayed with them forever. 😳
We need to make sure our kids eat their fill while food is actually available, because who knows what tomorrow looks like.

placidwolf27 said:I honestly feel like a huge portion of women from certain generations don't give much thought to anything else besides whether the kids have eaten, what’s on the menu for dinner, keeping the house tidy, tracking the family drama—and the neighbors' business—and planning tomorrow's meals

It isn't even their fault, really—they were just conditioned this way since they were little girls, likely following the exact same blueprint laid down by their mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, and so on... a cycle that probably stretches back to when the first settlers were wandering through the wilderness... if not even before that

In a sense, it makes total sense—I see it myself in how my grandmother used to think, and now my mother does the same. These are fundamentally pragmatic concerns—the absolute essentials: food, cleanliness, health, security, more food... just an endless loop of the same things
The issue is that this mindset evolves into a form of chronic anxiety—this specific way of thinking draws its emotional fuel from constant worrying, which eventually becomes absurd—bordering on morbid at times

I suspect that for many mothers, grandmothers, and aunts... it would actually be an immense mental strain if they decided to stop hovering for just one day, or stopped asking everyone if they were hungry. I think a woman might actually start screaming at some point, because the brain simply doesn't know how to function without that constant routine running in the background

It’s similar to how a mother teaches her daughter that everything must be spotless, that everything needs to be tucked away, that it can't be done this way or that way, or how careful she needs to be while cooking... then, as is tradition, the girl grows up carrying that same neurosis, which she later projects onto her boyfriend, her husband, or whoever she's living with—passing it down from mother to daughter in an infinite loop

Luckily, I don't have those impulses; I'm far too stubborn for that. 😁
Who knows, maybe one day when I finally become a grandmother...🤔

briskpuma23 said:It’s because they care about you and worked their tails off just to put food on your table.
The fact that most people today just expect a meal to appear without a second thought shows how much we've lost perspective.
So, have some patience and empathy; their intentions are coming from a good place.

I get that they care, but when you tell them a million times you don't want anything... I mean, who do they think they are? -_- It's the same deal with my grandma, and honestly, it drives me insane. Weirdly enough, my other late grandmother never did this. This one asks me if I want to eat basically every five minutes. Like, give it a rest...

I agree with you; people definitely take food for granted. Still, it’s an interesting observation that this seems mostly driven by women rather than men. It points to some kind of issue in the female psychology, though I'm not sure how to label it. Regardless, it isn't normal for someone to ask the same question all day long and fail to grasp that you aren't hungry, even after being told a hundred times. It's not quite right. And it mostly happens with women, at least most of the time.

Same here. My old lady drives me crazy with those mindless questions. Every time she calls my cell—since she's traveling abroad sometimes—she always asks if I've eaten... such a pointless question. No, I haven't eaten, I decided to go on a hunger strike and just starve to death because I'm curious to see how it goes -_-

I hope nobody takes my comment the wrong way or sees it as chauvinistic. If anyone did, I apologize; that wasn't the intent. I was just pointing out certain observations. I hope no one is offended; I'm not a bigot or anything like that, as I respect everyone regardless of gender, religion, or race. 🙂

Thomas Garcia71 said:haha, I’ve been in that exact same spot... then my grandma just grabbed a lamb shank and started gnawing on it like it was her last meal on earth...🤣....

Joshua Rogers11 said:Even now, whenever my mom calls me, she immediately starts checking in on whether I’ve eaten, if I'm staying on track with my diet, or if I'm taking care of myself... back when I was still living at home, it was just an endless loop of "eat this, eat that, you have to eat, please just eat, I won't—noooo, I really don't want to eat!" 😵

It hasn't changed one bit, even when I go visit my parents; it’s always the exact same routine. Honestly, I've just reached a point where I stopped asking myself why they act this way.
The second I walk through their front door, I just tell them straight up that I'm not hungry. 🙂

Thomas Hernandez16 said:My old man is constantly offering me food, only to turn around ten minutes later and tell me I need to watch my weight because I'm getting chubby. Then, when my kids eat dinner around 6 or 7 PM instead of stuffing their faces right before bed at 9, he loses his mind. "They haven't eaten! They're starving! Give them something to eat!" blah blah blah.
It's pure post-traumatic stress from back when everyone was struggling—he basically inherited it from his mother.
Back then, you were considered lucky and rich just as long as you weren't hungry.
When I tried going on a diet once, everyone acted like I was signing my own death warrant. "You're finished! You're gonna die!" they all said.

Peter Richardson6 said:This is such a great question. It happens to me all the time. I'll say "no thank you," and they'll be like, "Oh, come on, just have a little bite," and I'll say "no" again, and we go in circles for ages. My favorite part is when, after I've refused five times, they hit me with the "don't be shy!" Like, seriously? You shouldn't have to repeat yourself five times just to avoid a snack.🙂

Kevin Flores2 said:I totally get it. My skin crawled just reading your description. 😍 I've actually started skipping those kinds of gatherings altogether; I've officially become the black sheep of the family because of it. 😳

Honestly, every single older woman I've met fits this mold. My own mother used to drive me absolutely crazy with this exact thing throughout my entire childhood. But it wasn't even about whether I was actually hungry or not—it was just that nothing I did was ever enough for her. It never was. 😱

Lisa Lopez6 said:Ugh, tell me about it. I’ve been feeling the exact same way for ages... honestly, the way she constantly tries to push her little opinions on everyone just gets under my skin. It’s so grating! 🤦
She’s basically a carbon copy of her aunt, who—let’s be real—is a billion times more exhausting than she is.

northernbadger4 said:I get that they care, but when you tell them a million times you don't want anything... I mean, who do they think they are? -_- It's the same deal with my grandma, and honestly, it drives me insane. Weirdly enough, my other late grandmother never did this. This one asks me if I want to eat basically every five minutes. Like, give it a rest...

I agree with you; people definitely take food for granted. Still, it’s an interesting observation that this seems mostly driven by women rather than men. It points to some kind of issue in the female psychology, though I'm not sure how to label it. Regardless, it isn't normal for someone to ask the same question all day long and fail to grasp that you aren't hungry, even after being told a hundred times. It's not quite right. And it mostly happens with women, at least most of the time.

Same here. My old lady drives me crazy with those mindless questions. Every time she calls my cell—since she's traveling abroad sometimes—she always asks if I've eaten... such a pointless question. No, I haven't eaten, I decided to go on a hunger strike and just starve to death because I'm curious to see how it goes -_-

I hope nobody takes my comment the wrong way or sees it as chauvinistic. If anyone did, I apologize; that wasn't the intent. I was just pointing out certain observations. I hope no one is offended; I'm not a bigot or anything like that, as I respect everyone regardless of gender, religion, or race. 🙂

How much are we all actually living through right now? Really? Is anyone else feeling the sheer weight of it all? 🤣

I think I’ll head out and take care of some errands. 🙂

🤣🤣🤣

Man, I actually have the exact opposite issue...

My mom is constantly breathing down my neck asking, "Why don't you have more stuff yet?!" 🤣

wearycobra252 said:Man, I actually have the exact opposite issue...

My mom is constantly breathing down my neck asking, "Why don't you have more stuff yet?!" 🤣

If that works for you, then honestly, there isn't a better 😁