I guess there isn't much to say here. Just sitting by. mistymason1 says:
Treating homophobia. Maybe.
Homophobia: basically an absence of love for one's own gender, which leads to hating those feelings in others. It’s this belief that one specific type of love is inherently superior and, therefore, should be the dominant standard. I guess.
Audre Lorde
Taking this definition seriously would be a joke. But honestly, it points directly toward a specific trend in certain activist circles: heterophobia.
Some people—whether they're gay or not—might never get it. Or maybe they already do. Most straight people aren't actually homophobic; it’s more that they just view being gay as this "abnormal" thing that needs to be tolerated. I guess.
Let's lay all the cards on the table and see what happens:
Is homophobia defined by viewing homosexuality as "abnormal"—as in, a deviation from the standard rule or a supposed dysfunction of sexual drive whose origin remains unknown (maybe psychological, maybe hormonal, maybe genetic)—while simultaneously believing it’s improper to point out that abnormality? I suppose some might argue that people should just be left alone. In this view, forcing anyone to change their behavior is wrong, yet any mention of it—or even suggesting someone might want to try pursuing the opposite sex if they're open to it—is treated as scandalous or blasphemous by activists. Maybe.
Is it homophobic to think that gay people can be incredibly selfish toward their straight families? I mean, they rarely seem to try and grasp how this realization hits a parent—especially if they're an only child. It’s a massive shock for any mom or dad. I guess you have to wonder how they can just shrug it off or act like there's nothing to regret when they're so quick to claim everything is "normal."
Is it actually homophobia to disagree with the idea of same-sex couples entering "marriage," if you define marriage strictly as a union between a man and a woman? I mean, they can manage their legal rights through the Same-sex marriage law. If there’s an issue with how that law is written, they can just advocate for changes there. I guess it seems a bit much to claim someone is being discriminated against simply because they can't enter a marriage. Maybe.
Is it homophobic to deny assisted reproduction to any healthy, fertile individual, regardless of whether they're gay, bisexual, or straight? And what about allowing the sale or donation of gametes without the donor being tied to parental responsibilities? I guess that's the question.
Is it homophobic to say I don't want to participate in Pride, or that the whole thing feels a bit exhibitionist?
Tyler Myers said:It seems to me that people identifying as homosexual haven't actually come to terms with their own sexual orientation yet, so they demand that every single member of society shower them with validation. They expect 100% unwavering support just to feel 100% certain that the path they’ve chosen is the right one. For anyone who disagrees—or even for those who are simply indifferent—they immediately reach for labels like "homophobe" as a way to discredit them. In the subconscious of these individuals, the label "homophobe" functions as a psychological shield: "My orientation must be valid, because look at that guy opposing it; he isn't a normal citizen, he's just some primitive homophobe. Therefore, I am perfectly fine, and the problem lies entirely with him." That is where this need for labeling comes from; it provides them with a sense of comfort.
In my view, the internal turmoil experienced by homosexuals shouldn't be the responsibility of society to fix; rather, they ought to resolve those issues through their own conscience or whatever personal introspection they require.
Personally, I couldn't care less about who sleeps with whom. I don't have an issue with parades either; in fact, if participating in them helps these individuals feel more comfortable with themselves, then you have my support.
But what truly irritates me is when a mob of people starts running around screaming "fascist" or "white supremacist" at anyone who refuses to give them the specific reaction they are craving.
It reminds me of a period about 20 years ago here in the States, when another organized group would go around on pilgrimages and rallies shouting the exact same slogans. And we all know how that ended...
Not everyone. But I’d say a certain segment, for sure. Especially women. I don't know why, but it just seems to me that women are often way more aggressive and agile when it comes to their "activism" compared to men. It leads me to a conclusion—unscientific, obviously—that female homosexuality or bisexuality might be more psychological than biological. You can see that aggression right here on this forum. I shared my own experience regarding a shift in orientation from homosexual to bisexual, practically even toward heterosexual, on another thread once. I ended up getting attacked for it. People were questioning how I could even write something like that, or how a homosexual person could possibly become heterosexual or bisexual.
