Grab a test! (For anyone wondering if they're pregnant)

placidjackal14 said:So, wait... does he actually care more about his mommy than he does about you and your unborn baby? Look, leaving my own parents was incredibly hard, don't get me wrong, but I would move to the literal edge of the earth for my husband... just saying. Try sitting him down and having a real talk—explain that things will be way better if you two have your own space. Besides, if you end up moving in with his mother like he wants, he'll realize how much of a headache that "communal" living situation actually is sooner rather than later!

Like, zero sex.😍
Sorry for joking about it now, but it reminded me of something—back when we were younger, I stayed over at his place for a weekend while he was still living with his parents. Let me tell you, they cleared out fast... the second the lights went out.😍

placidjackal14 said:So, wait... does he actually care more about his mommy than he does about you and your unborn baby? Look, leaving my own parents was incredibly hard, don't get me wrong, but I would move to the literal edge of the earth for my husband... just saying. Try sitting him down and having a real talk—explain that things will be way better if you two have your own space. Besides, if you end up moving in with his mother like he wants, he'll realize how much of a headache that "communal" living situation actually is sooner rather than later!

I have no idea when he'll finally see reason, especially since he's working until 5 PM every single day. For my part, I studied in Chicago and decided to stay in Chicago because that was my choice; even so, leaving home is always an uphill battle for me. I can't just pop over to my mom's whenever I need to, yet he seems completely unable to grasp why I refuse to live with his family. We've reached a point where we're just fighting constantly, and honestly, we're both starting to consider going our separate ways.

Joshua Clark said:Like, zero sex.😍
Sorry for joking about it now, but it reminded me of something—back when we were younger, I stayed over at his place for a weekend while he was still living with his parents. Let me tell you, they cleared out fast... the second the lights went out.😍

Fast forward to today, and the reality is much heavier: I'm pregnant, struggling through depression, and feeling completely isolated, while he's still drifting in and out of his parents' house. We mostly just end up fighting, and as the due date creeps closer, I find myself spiraling further into this sense of dread and sadness.

Maybe it’s just hormones... 😘
Look, you need to settle EVERYTHING first. Tell him straight up that this is massive and you guys need to talk—like, really talk. Spend the whole weekend if you have to, just laying it all out exactly how you explained it to us. Make it clear that you need answers and he needs to make a call. Tell him the joking around is over, things are dead serious now, and he needs to get his act together.
Man, I bet you could really give him an earful!!! 🙂

neoncobra43 said:Fast forward to today, and the reality is much heavier: I'm pregnant, struggling through depression, and feeling completely isolated, while he's still drifting in and out of his parents' house. We mostly just end up fighting, and as the due date creeps closer, I find myself spiraling further into this sense of dread and sadness.

Sara 😘 🙂

Is there really no silver lining here? Up until now, I had this impression that everyone was giving you grief while he was actually standing firmly in your corner...

neoncobra43 said:Fast forward to today, and the reality is much heavier: I'm pregnant, struggling through depression, and feeling completely isolated, while he's still drifting in and out of his parents' house. We mostly just end up fighting, and as the due date creeps closer, I find myself spiraling further into this sense of dread and sadness.

Look, sweetie, you seriously need to sort this mess out before the wedding—no matter how hard it is—because if you don't, things are gonna go south fast!!!

And honestly, > hit the nail on the head... maybe remind him that you aren't exactly going to be able to enjoy any actual intimacy if his mama is hovering over you guys the whole time. 😉

Joshua Clark said:Maybe it’s just hormones... 😘
Look, you need to settle EVERYTHING first. Tell him straight up that this is massive and you guys need to talk—like, really talk. Spend the whole weekend if you have to, just laying it all out exactly how you explained it to us. Make it clear that you need answers and he needs to make a call. Tell him the joking around is over, things are dead serious now, and he needs to get his act together.
Man, I bet you could really give him an earful!!! 🙂

I haven't even tried to fix it yet; honestly, I don't have the willpower or the energy left to deal with his behavior. And I can't afford to let myself get worked up, because the stress could actually risk the baby. And that little one is my entire world.

That’s me... my breasts haven't even swollen—which they definitely should have—and honestly, I'm not feeling any cramps at all either.
But the bleeding is way heavier—I actually had to switch to a pad today..
we'll see..

Well, here I am too. Nothing yet on my end. I’m expecting something to happen either today or maybe tomorrow. If nothing shows up by then, honestly, damn it, I’ll just have to go out and buy a kit and do it myself. I don't even know what kind of outcome I'm actually hoping for, and I guess that's what's really tripping me up...

My period isn't due until the 24th; would it be premature to take a pregnancy test as early as tomorrow?

Kevin Miller12, honestly—it’s probably wiser to just wait out the period when you know your cycle is coming...

Hey everyone... I’m still bleeding and my breasts are still so swollen (it feels exactly like when I was pregnant for the first time), so I honestly don't know..
but.. yesterday was just brutal.. he actually admitted to me that he stayed by my side the whole time just so he could see the little one.
I can't even put into words what's going on inside me.. I feel dead. Just completely hollow.

Just hold onto that baby you’ve got and keep your chin up—seriously, just keep your head up—and get to the ER or call your OB-GYN right this second regarding that bleeding. Once you get medical eyes on it, all this worrying and second-guessing will finally start to fade... if you truly feel like there's another little one in there, then fight for them. Fight for that other child.

Joshua Clark said:Hey everyone... I’m still bleeding and my breasts are still so swollen (it feels exactly like when I was pregnant for the first time), so I honestly don't know..
but.. yesterday was just brutal.. he actually admitted to me that he stayed by my side the whole time just so he could see the little one.
I can't even put into words what's going on inside me.. I feel dead. Just completely hollow.

as if we could all just band together and live our lives in unison😘 😘 😘
Men... honestly, they’re all cut from the same cloth. I had a total idiot for an ex, and when I met this current guy, I thought I had finally hit the jackpot. We even talked about renting our own place, but look at him now—just another stubborn fool, just like any other. It’s all the same old mess, isn't it? And we’re the ones losing sleep and suffering while they certainly aren't paying the price for us. Not a chance. Just hang in there; things will settle down eventually.😘

neoncobra43 said:as if we could all just band together and live our lives in unison😘 😘 😘
Men... honestly, they’re all cut from the same cloth. I had a total idiot for an ex, and when I met this current guy, I thought I had finally hit the jackpot. We even talked about renting our own place, but look at him now—just another stubborn fool, just like any other. It’s all the same old mess, isn't it? And we’re the ones losing sleep and suffering while they certainly aren't paying the price for us. Not a chance. Just hang in there; things will settle down eventually.😘

honey, I'm honestly just over it all

Joshua Clark said:honey, I'm honestly just over it all

I feel you. Yesterday, my partner didn't even bother showing up to sit with me and offer any kind of comfort; instead, they stayed out until dawn, probably answering calls and pleading through tears for that old friend of theirs to come over. They didn't give me a second thought. That’s about all I can say regarding the state of "love" these days.

I haven't seen this guy in two and a half years because he was busy claiming the kid wasn't his and calling me every name in the book. Then—surprise, surprise—the DNA test he demanded proves I'm telling the truth, and suddenly there’s this spark again during our second meeting. We just couldn't resist, so we're trying to start over—supposedly "more mature" this time.
I decided to forgive him—for the sake of the kid having both parents, for the child support, and honestly, just because I love him—so we could move past the drama. But then yesterday, he hits me with this: he says he swore an oath he wouldn't be with me, and that he's spent the last three years telling everyone how terrible I am, so now he can't just change his story.
I told him straight up—I've made plenty of vows too, and if I see him, I'm going to lose it, and he's never touching that child again. But then he changes his tune—claims it's about feelings, logic, the baby—and while he admits he feels the same way, he insists he can't go back because "not everyone works that way."
The thing is, whenever we are together, he's constantly with the little one—but the second we aren't a couple, he barely shows his face.
WELL, THAT'S JUST HOW IT WORKS!!
It's not like I'm gatekeeping him or anything—it's just that if we aren't a couple, I don't exactly have nothing better to do than hang out with him all day, especially with my workload.
Just saying. By the way, he sees the kid just as often regardless of us, but whatever...
Now I'm getting off track... I don't know... I don't think I'm actually pregnant. On one hand, that would be a relief, but when I think about having to deal with surgery again... yeah, no thanks.

Joshua Clark said:I haven't seen this guy in two and a half years because he was busy claiming the kid wasn't his and calling me every name in the book. Then—surprise, surprise—the DNA test he demanded proves I'm telling the truth, and suddenly there’s this spark again during our second meeting. We just couldn't resist, so we're trying to start over—supposedly "more mature" this time.
I decided to forgive him—for the sake of the kid having both parents, for the child support, and honestly, just because I love him—so we could move past the drama. But then yesterday, he hits me with this: he says he swore an oath he wouldn't be with me, and that he's spent the last three years telling everyone how terrible I am, so now he can't just change his story.
I told him straight up—I've made plenty of vows too, and if I see him, I'm going to lose it, and he's never touching that child again. But then he changes his tune—claims it's about feelings, logic, the baby—and while he admits he feels the same way, he insists he can't go back because "not everyone works that way."
The thing is, whenever we are together, he's constantly with the little one—but the second we aren't a couple, he barely shows his face.
WELL, THAT'S JUST HOW IT WORKS!!
It's not like I'm gatekeeping him or anything—it's just that if we aren't a couple, I don't exactly have nothing better to do than hang out with him all day, especially with my workload.
Just saying. By the way, he sees the kid just as often regardless of us, but whatever...
Now I'm getting off track... I don't know... I don't think I'm actually pregnant. On one hand, that would be a relief, but when I think about having to deal with surgery again... yeah, no thanks.

I honestly don't know what to tell you. Maybe I'm the last person who should be giving advice, considering my own life is currently a train wreck. I met this guy this past summer, and it was absolutely wonderful. Shortly after, he went to work in Germany for four months. It never even crossed my mind that he’d be unfaithful; we spoke every single day. I worked my tail off to save up for an apartment and a phone, and I wouldn't tell a soul how excited I was when he came to visit, though I’d certainly cry like a fool whenever he left. Now, it’s all falling apart.

placidjackal14 said:Look, Joshua Clark.... girls have talked about this plenty of times already. There’s something called implantation bleeding in early pregnancy while the embryo is still "nesting" in the uterus. That plug you mentioned isn't that... the bloody, mucousy plug comes out right before you give birth, so we can definitely rule that out in your case. Just go grab a test and try it, or wait a few more days; maybe it really is just a light period, maybe you've been under a ton of stress or something....

Whatever happens, I hope you get the result you're hoping for! 😘

How heavy is the bleeding usually?

I’ve been scouring this entire forum looking for anything regarding implantation bleeding, but I'm coming up empty. The only thing I could find over at nytimes.com was that it might last up to two days—which happens to be where I am right now—so I wanted to see if anyone could actually give me some specifics. Like, how long does it typically go on, how heavy is it, what color should I expect?

Why am I being so intense about this? Because I feel like I'm having a full-on period, yet there's absolutely no pain. Usually, I can't get through a single cycle without painkillers, but right now, I don't feel a thing—just a slight "awareness" of my uterus. Plus, normally my breasts get really tender right before my period starts and then flatten out on day one🤣, but this time they’re still feeling quite full...🙏

So, here is the breakdown of my flow: on the first day, it was basically nothing. Just a tiny bit on the daily pad. More like discharge. Really, really minimal.
Yesterday, I used maybe two pads total. Today, I’m almost done; I’ve used one and I don't think I'll need another.

P.S.: I'm not saying I'm not changing my pads, I'm just trying to explain the volume.😍