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ex anais;29992897 said:Not sure if you’re working or still in school, but if you’re hitting the books, you can get help through the campus counseling center. Also, maybe check if there’s another psych or therapist on staff at the hospital.
I was working until a few months ago, but obviously I was redundant so now I'm just out of a job.Hitting the gym isn't how you fix this kind of rage. Honestly, it might even make things worse because being in peak physical shape won't magically blow off trauma. "A healthy body leads to a healthy mind" is a fine slogan, but in this case, it's totally overrated.
Meds aren't a magic bullet, but sometimes they're necessary so people don't hurt themselves or anyone else—especially when we're talking about uncontrolled outbursts. That's high-risk territory. The OP seems pretty self-aware about their emotions, which is huge. Getting into therapy ASAP will probably speed up progress since they actually recognize what's happening.
Smashing plates, screaming, and acting aggressive isn't a valid response to someone else's abuse. It's abnormal behavior that needs psychiatric attention. Look, a victim of verbal or physical abuse isn't responsible for their own reactions, but learning how to manage those reactions takes a ton of therapy sessions. You don't just wake up one day "cool" unless you're just suppressing everything—which is clearly what happened here, causing these explosions. And smashing dishes won't fix suppression, and smashing a person definitely won't help... where does it stop?
Some of what you wrote is spot on—reactions have to go somewhere—but they shouldn't be this wild and out of control. That’s what therapy is for. Otherwise, you just end up more frustrated and powerless. Screaming doesn't even always help; it's more about your internal mindset. Sometimes screaming is just a sign of pure helplessness.
As for that other part, I'm no expert, so I can't say for sure if it's right or wrong.