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I've lost my drive. What do I do? in Psychology ·
Harold Wilson5 said:I’m not quite sure where to begin this story.

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve always been ahead of the curve. School was honestly too easy for me—even through high school—so I would breeze through with straight A's without much effort. To keep things interesting and feed my ambition, I’d constantly push myself by entering competitions and taking on extra extracurricular activities.
Eventually, I decided to pursue a demanding university degree that would finally offer a real challenge and set the stage for a solid career path.
Back then, I had this clear vision of myself as a high-powered executive or running my own company.

Everything changed during my college years when my brother passed away suddenly. That was the turning point for me.
It was almost like a sudden realization hit me: so many things in life just aren't worth the stress. For instance, I stopped feeling guilty about postponing an exam or even failing one if I felt like it.
Even so, I managed to graduate on time and landed a great job.

At the same time, while we were always close, I found myself growing even closer to my parents. They mean the world to me, and now, I have a wonderful husband and our family life is incredibly harmonious.

Now, after five years on the job, I’m feeling something I’ve never felt before: complete burnout. Even though my job is dynamic and actually pretty cool, I feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day to enjoy my own life.
I suppose it’s a combination of
- the fact that nothing feels challenging enough anymore. I work way faster than my colleagues, so I'm left with a choice: either pull a double workload for the same pay, or spend half my shift surfing the web or reading, which eventually gets boring.
- my brother's passing and the realization that my happiest moments are spent with family and friends. Now, those eight hours at the office—plus the hour or so I spend commuting—feel like wasted time.
- the fact that my husband and I managed to get ahead of our finances early on, especially regarding our housing situation, so I don't have that crushing financial pressure forcing me to stay.
- the age gap at work; most of my colleagues are much older, so there isn't really any social buzz or grabbing drinks after work—it's just strictly showing up for eight hours and leaving.
- watching the bosses and owners grind for ten or more hours every single day, living in constant stress over monthly targets.

I caught myself thinking the other day that by my late thirties or early forties, I’d much rather work just four hours a day at a relaxed pace, maybe something remote, or even just retire early to focus on being present for my family, future children, and friends.
I honestly have no idea where that ambitious girl went—the one who wanted to be number one and a leader in her field.

I don't know what I want from this thread. Maybe I just need to vent, or perhaps I want to see if others have gone through this. Was this just a phase for you, or did it stick?

I honestly don't see what the big deal is here. If you ask me, that’s just sound reasoning.

Sooner or later, you eventually hit this realization that all that relentless ambition? Most of the time, you’re just building someone else’s empire instead of your own. You sit there thinking your talents and skills are your own, but they end up serving everyone around you except yourself. It’s exhausting. It’s like being a disposable battery—you pour everything you have into a device, draining yourself dry just to power up someone else's life, while your own clock is ticking away. Think about it: isn't the whole point of living to actually use your time for something meaningful? If you spend your entire existence just auctioning off your abilities to the highest bidder, you aren't living a life; you’re just a high-end laborer in a gilded cage. That’s nothing more than a sophisticated form of servitude. You're essentially living an empty life to facilitate the success of another person. And even if you actually do manage to find a way to monetize what you're good at, there’s a trap waiting right there, too. Once you start seeing those quick wins—where you can pull in more money with half the effort compared to the guy next to you—it starts messing with your head. Your ego begins to swell, you start getting cocky, and before you know it, you're making all sorts of reckless, self-destructive decisions because you think you've finally beaten the system. It's a lose-lose situation if you aren't careful.

What does it even mean to be "well-known in your field"? Is that supposed to be a goal? Like, when you walk down the street, do you want to feel everyone—from total strangers to old colleagues and acquaintances—looking at you with this sense of respect? Honestly, that whole idea has always made me feel incredibly awkward. It’s uncomfortable. If I’m being real, if I let out a loud fart while everyone is staring at me in reverence, the whole illusion falls apart immediately. I don't see how that's a legitimate objective. To me, recognition should only ever be collateral damage. You focus on doing what you love, you lean into your talent, and you work with actual passion. If people notice you because you're genuinely good at what you do, fine—that's just a byproduct. But suddenly having to play a part or put on some kind of persona just because you've become "somebody" is exhausting. You shouldn't have to act like a certain version of yourself just to satisfy an audience when all you really want is to just exist and do your work.
Question about atheists in Spirituality ·
Atheists are really just believers going through a midlife crisis😬
Is a lie more useful than the truth? (Religion) in Philosophy ·
The thing is, nothing can stay a reward forever; eventually, it just turns into a punishment, and that’s where everything goes wrong.
Terrible side effects! THC in Psychology & Therapy ·
Basically, weed just acts like a megaphone for whatever anxieties you're already dealing with. You might be able to dull that edge if you're consciously aware that the paranoia is just the substance talking, but you can't fully cancel it out. Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing really just depends on your mindset. If you’re sitting there expecting a chill, giggly high, things are going to go south fast. But if you can actually appreciate or make use of the fact that weed is cranking up the volume on all those little mental distractions you have running in the background, then maybe it isn't such a disaster..

I've been smoking every single day for about 15 years now—started when I was around 20... and honestly, almost none of the stereotypes people bring up in this thread actually apply to my life.

I don't hang out in groups to smoke; I do my own thing, usually just chilling at home with the TV on. There aren't any sketchy parks or groups of losers competing to see who can act the most brain-dead. Also, I moved past that whole paranoid phase of worrying if someone's going to "catch" me ages ago. I can walk into any social situation—from hanging with my parents to grabbing coffee with coworkers—without even blinking. No one ever asks me, "Hey, are you high? Why the hell would you do that?" For me, weed has nothing to do with that "social" aspect.

I don't show up to work stoned, obviously. Having a short-term memory that works like Swiss cheese isn't exactly a blessing when you're a software engineer. That said, I frequently code while high at home, whether it's handling some sudden crisis at work or just messing around with a hobby. I once literally engineered a whole drywall drop ceiling with integrated lighting from scratch—and mind you, before that, I probably hadn't held a power tool more than three times in my life—and it turned out great. I did it because I was fed up with the crappy, makeshift lighting setups always found in cheap houses. I do all my housework while high because it makes it way more interesting; gardening is better high, and watching TV is mandatory high... plus, I've struggled with insomnia since I was a kid, so weed was originally my primary fix for that.

At the end of the day, I'd say smoking weed has become a habit for me that's almost as strong as a cigarette habit, though maybe a notch lower. The best part is they sort of function as substitutes for one another. If I don't smoke weed in the evening, I'll end up smoking at least half a pack of cigarettes. If I do smoke, I'll roll one or two decent joints and zero cigarettes (basically, there's one cigarette tucked into each joint). Usually, if I'm traveling and don't have weed on me, it's not a physical or mental issue. The real struggle is being home, flopping onto the couch, turning on the TV, and *not* being high—that's the habit. To me, that's the "final boss" level of marijuana dependency.

Lethargy is definitely something that weed amplifies, which is why I usually only light up once I've already drifted into that lethargic state (meaning: I've finished all my daily tasks and collapsed onto the couch). It feels like a reward. If you start smoking too early in the day, you probably won't get anything done, and then you'll just sit there feeling guilty when you finally do get high later that night. The weed will just remind you that you wasted the day, which ruins the high, and if that happens constantly, you'll just end up perpetually stressed out.
Does astral projection prove mind-body dualism? in Philosophy ·
fadedbison said:Basically, all these threads hiddenpuma75 keeps starting just boil down to that whole "life after death" talk.

If I actually had that kind of certainty myself, I’d probably be out there trying to convince the whole world about it too. 😬
Does astral projection prove mind-body dualism? in Philosophy ·
Look, I’ve personally experienced an out-of-body trip using ketamine, and let me tell you, everything becomes crystal clear. It's widely recognized that ketamine facilitates these out-of-body experiences, but it goes way beyond that—it can actually trigger this profound sensation of a divine presence. I’m speaking from firsthand experience as an atheist, and I have plenty of friends who can back me up on that too.

The real magic happens when you combine hallucinogens with ketamine. When you spice up a psychedelic trip with an out-of-body exit, things get wild. You don't just leave your body; you end up having this bizarre half-merger with random objects, like a desk or a chair. You genuinely feel like you're half-human and half-furniture, where your hand and head are poking out of a tabletop while the rest of your torso is just... part of the wood.

Quinn:
Sub-anaesthetic doses of ketamine may induce feelings of euphoria, dreamy detachment, deep mystical insights, loss of normal time sense, "floating" weightlessly away from one's body-image, and an altered phenomenology of thought. Some users report merging with inanimate objects, vivid "near-death" experiences, extraterrestrial beings and meeting God - or Satan. By common consent, experience of the "K-hole" cannot adequately be captured in words. Ketamine-inspired insights are also hard to integrate into the rest of one's life - not least because the drug induces significant amnesia.
By the way, ketamine was originally used as an anesthetic, but it fell out of favor for human use specifically because of the effects described above. From a health standpoint, it's safe; it metabolizes and clears your system without a hitch, so you feel like a new person within an hour. It’s still widely used in veterinary medicine today.

If you haven't personally navigated through all the stuff I'm talking about, then this whole discussion is pretty much useless to you; you're just shouting into the void.

I know we aren't supposed to be promoting drugs on this forum, but let's be real—this is an anesthetic (let's pretend we're just talking about medical tools here), and it has virtually zero addictive potential. It’s simply a central anesthetic... specifically, it works via central anesthesia by blocking NMDA receptors, which is exactly what causes that "astral projection" to detach from the physical shell. Your brain constantly maintains a projection of yourself to manage motor functions and planning; once that center loses its sensory input—the feeling of your body, muscles, or skin—that projection starts drifting. Initially, the projection shifts upward and backward (kind of like how it feels when you open a "third eye" and look at it!), and then it can drift away entirely. It seems to be the bodily sensation that keeps the projection anchored low, near the floor... once that sensation is gone, the only thing holding the projection in place is vision. The brain assumes the body is tethered to the eyes, using that to anchor the projection and construct a perception of reality, though it doesn't result in the exact same positioning you get when you have tactile feedback. Literally, it feels like your perspective has shifted a few inches upward and backward. I honestly believe you can achieve this same state through deep meditation, which is probably why ancient sages claimed they could levitate or spoke about the third eye. It's a surreal situation because you still technically have control over your body, yet you have zero sensory feedback. You look down at your hands and they seem further away than usual, simply because you don't *feel* them as yours, so your perception automatically adjusts to make them look distant. From a psychonautical perspective, it's absolutely fascinating.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
hollowpuma762 said:It’s a textbook example of how getting obsessed with the person you're talking to completely kills the actual topic. It just destroys any chance of a real conversation, making it impossible to actually absorb anything that requires a bit of deep thought or serious reflection.

Which is basically why several civilizations teach that you have to get your Ego under control before anything else even matters.

Just spinning wheels here... hiddeneagle98 is doing the same thing, trying to drag serious answers into a totally different thread.

I was the one who started the dialogue with Joseph Bailey41.

If you want your point to actually land with some weight 🤣
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
hollowpuma762 said:Those two examples perfectly show how much someone's attitude dictates whether they’ll actually fit in or just stay an outsider.

It’s exactly why candidates for more serious paths always had to pass a character assessment first.
The real gems? They usually got fast-tracked immediately.

So, when are we finally getting our foot in the door?

P.S. I was actually watching that Strange Film the other night, and even the Guru didn't want to deal with it because of the Ego involved, though he eventually gave in since it's a major American production after all.🤣
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
The Guru is back among us again 🤣
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Ethan Gomez82 said:To actually function, I need a massive amount of stuff that my immediate neighborhood or local government doesn't produce. I need a car, a laptop, a smartphone... and I happen to love bananas. All of that comes from somewhere, and honestly, pretending I don't care about the supply chain would be pure delusion. I can't survive without them. Plus, I have capital invested in global markets that generates my income, which makes me just as dependent on the "big picture." If I am existentially tied to what happens on this planet, then it counts as my community. The fact that I don't feel an emotional bond to the entire globe the way I do with my own family doesn't change the reality of that connection.

Yeah, well, that’s right where the "heavy problem" lies. To me, it seems like an ideal way to live if you could be *existentially* reliant primarily on your local community and yourself, while being *luxuriously* reliant on the broader global community.

There’s no issue with having investments abroad, but I firmly believe those things shouldn't stop people from growing their own food locally, generating their own energy, or handling their own recycling—especially if smart technology and better social structures can reduce the time required for those tasks compared to, say, old-school subsistence farming. You could use your investment income to fund your luxuries, while your existential needs are met directly and independently of whatever is happening in your external portfolio.

The point is that people should be existentially tethered to something they actually control, something that is a direct consequence of their own labor, rather than being at the mercy of broad external human factors, market fluctuations, and whatnot.

Beyond that, just as a side note, I think people generally need to relearn how to appreciate food—from the actual production all the way to the preparation—which would improve both physical health and mental well-being.

Hopefully, the consumerism of the modern age will eventually trigger some kind of realization among the public, leading them to abandon it; at least, that's my hope. And once we walk away from consumerism, what's left? When we ditch narcissism, what remains? Or do people honestly think this cycle can go on forever? It’s interesting to me, for instance, how titans of industry like Steve Jobs eventually turned toward Buddhism. To me, that transition makes perfect sense, and besides, even the Buddha had to walk that path himself.

Will civilization as a whole pivot toward something like that? From what I see, modern society is losing its soul. We spend decades or entire eras recycling the leftovers of the last century, but wouldn't it be better to squeeze a little more spirit out of them? Because we are chronically lacking it. We don't know what to do with ourselves, social inequality is spiraling, and so on.
Society is becoming fake and hollow in every sense—both spiritually and materially. During the last century, back when there was still some substance left, globalization felt like something that helped society grow; but today, it feels like globalization is just accelerating the evolution of modern society toward its dark conclusion: the total erosion of the human spirit. If I may add, rushing headlong into that dead end isn't exactly a great idea... at least, that's how I see it...

Ultimately, when—and if—we as a civilization forget the narrative that we absolutely must buy a new $150,000 Mercedes every year just to sell it two years later for $20,000, what stays behind? Sports, food, play, health, art, and science—though perhaps science on a smaller scale than we see now, since a huge chunk of modern science is basically harnessed to serve the consumerist machine.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Ethan Gomez82 said:The sense of community is definitely under threat, but I honestly don't see a cure for this particular ailment anytime soon.

Small communities in the past were organic and functional because they were self-sufficient. Their main business was farming and a few local trades. Trading with other towns was minimal, almost optional. Today, none of that remains, and small, organic communities just aren't possible anymore. Our needs have grown exponentially, and exchange is now global and constant. Today, the entire world functions as one massive, interdependent, organic community. It's a lot to wrap your head around, but that's just the reality.

Personally, I'm holding out hope that some kind of breakthrough in technology might eventually allow us to build new versions of relatively self-sufficient communities.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
hollowpuma762 said:In reality, social circumstances are what you get when you apply those concepts, and all those messy influencing factors are what people have to account for when they sit down to draft the concept of society in the first place.

I’m on board with that logic, but I think we need to look at the full circle here: social circumstances act as both the end result of our current societal framework and the primary catalyst that forces us to design the next one to take its place.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Lisa Jackson7 said:What do you guys think about this take from Jean-Jacques Rousseau...

He basically argued that democracy only works in tiny communities where everyone actually knows one another. For mid-sized nations? He says you need oligarchies—but once you hit those massive, huge-scale societies, he thinks it's nothing but dictatorships.

Look, you know I'm totally on board with his logic regarding democracy needing those tight-knit, smaller circles to actually function... but as for the rest of it—the idea that bigger countries inevitably slide into oligarchy or tyranny—I think I'll need to chew on that for a bit before I decide if I buy it.🙂
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
I don't know what to tell you, but I’ve been sitting here staring at this thread for twenty minutes trying to wrap my head around how anyone could actually believe that nonsense. It’s like watching someone try to build a skyscraper on top of a foundation made of wet cardboard and then acting shocked when the whole thing collapses under its own weight. You see it all the time in these types of debates where people just grab onto whatever shiny, half-baked idea catches their eye without ever stopping to ask if it actually makes any sense in the real world. It reminds me of those old-school urban planning disasters back in the day, where some guy in an office decides a highway needs to cut right through a perfectly good neighborhood because he looked at a map once and thought it looked "efficient," ignoring the fact that he was essentially destroying the soul of the community just to shave five minutes off a commute. That’s exactly what we’re doing here. We're taking these complex, messy human issues and trying to force them into these rigid, little boxes that just don't fit, and then we act surprised when the reality of the situation refuses to cooperate with our neat little theories. Honestly, it's exhausting to watch.
Quincy I can't even begin to wrap my head around what was just said here. It’s like watching someone try to assemble an IKEA bookshelf without the instructions, except they’re also trying to use a hammer made of frozen yogurt. You see this all the time in these discussions—people throwing out half-baked ideas as if they’re gospel truth, completely ignoring how things actually function in the real world. It’s exhausting, honestly. It reminds me of those times when you’re driving down a highway in the Midwest and someone decides that stop signs are merely "suggestions" rather than actual laws; it creates this chaotic, nonsensical mess that leaves everyone else picking up the pieces. We need to get back to some semblance of logic if we want this conversation to go anywhere, because right now, we're just spinning our wheels in the mud.
I wouldn't go so far as to say we're seeing the "formation of collective societal concepts" here. It’s not that deep. What’s actually happening is much more superficial; because of certain external pressures, people are just feeling a temporary surge in social cohesion within the framework of our existing status quo. It's like when a sudden storm hits a small town in the Midwest—everyone suddenly becomes neighbors and helps fix each other's roofs, but once the skies clear, everyone goes back to ignoring one another. We aren't building a new way of life; we're just huddled together for warmth because the weather turned cold.
If you look at the way mid-century American socialism tried to push collective ownership—that whole era where everyone thought we could just pool our resources and run things like one big family business—you have to ask yourself what actually drove that hunger for collectivism in the first place and why some of those ideas managed to stick around longer than they had any right to. It wasn't just some random whim; there were deep, systemic roots to why people started thinking that individual grit wasn't enough and that the group needed to hold the reins. You have to dig into the economic instability and the sheer exhaustion of the working class during those periods to understand why the idea of a shared pot seemed so much more attractive than the cutthroat competition we usually see. It’s like when a massive corporation fails and suddenly everyone starts looking toward community cooperatives as a safety net; the cause is always found in the failure of the existing structure to provide basic security. As for why certain elements of that mindset endure, it’s because once you introduce the concept of mutual reliance into a culture, you can't just unring that bell. Even after the formal systems collapse, that instinctual drive to lean on the collective remains embedded in the social fabric, acting like a ghost in the machine that keeps resurfacing whenever the individualistic model hits a wall.

I noticed you took my concept of "circumstances" and split it into two separate buckets—social circumstances and external circumstances—and now half this entire debate is spiraling because of that distinction. Just to be clear, I wasn't making that division in my original argument at all.

I've been sitting here thinking about what hiddeneagle98 said, and honestly, it’s one of those things that just gets under my skin because it feels like we're constantly circling the same drain without ever actually fixing the plumbing. It reminds me of how people react when a major corporation like Ford suddenly announces a massive recall—everyone loses their minds for forty-eight hours, there's a flurry of angry tweets and news segments, and then, by Tuesday, the collective memory of the nation has simply evaporated, even though the underlying issue that caused the defect is still sitting right there under the hood. We have this habit of treating systemic problems like they're temporary glitches rather than deep-seated flaws in the machinery itself. It's like watching someone try to patch a sinking boat with Scotch tape while ignoring the fact that the hull is practically disintegrating; you can celebrate the small win of staying afloat for another ten minutes, but you aren't actually solving the problem of why the water is coming in. We need to stop settling for these superficial fixes and start looking at the structural integrity of the whole situation if we ever want to see actual progress instead of just more frantic, short-lived damage control.
Think of it like those sudden, massive shifts you see in any complex, self-organizing dynamic system—where everything is moving along predictably until, out of nowhere, the whole structure flips into something entirely different.
Is this sudden wave of changes—and all that baggage we’ve been sweeping under the rug for years—actually a core part of our current social blueprint, or just a chaotic glitch in the system?

Actually, they aren’t just reacting to things; they are the literal engine driving these new social concepts forward, which is exactly why I think your argument doesn't quite hold water.

I honestly don't know how many times I can say this before it finally sinks in, but we need to stop pretending that these small, incremental shifts in policy are actually going to move the needle on the massive structural issues we’re facing. It’s like watching someone try to drain a flooded basement with a teaspoon while the water main is still wide open; you can admire the effort if you want to be polite, but let's be real—it's completely futile. We keep seeing these tiny adjustments from Washington, minor tweaks to regulations that barely scratch the surface, and everyone acts like we've reached some kind of milestone. It's exhausting. It reminds me of those endless committee meetings at a massive corporation like GE where people spend three hours debating the font size on a memo instead of addressing the fact that the entire production line is failing. We are looking for systemic overhaul, not just more cosmetic surgery on a broken system. If we aren't willing to tackle the root causes head-on, we're just spinning our wheels and wasting everyone's time.
It’s a fundamental misunderstanding of how the world actually functions, but people constantly get it backward: the underlying blueprint of a society is what dictates its circumstances, not the other way around. You can't just point to the chaos or the prosperity of a nation and claim that those conditions created the system; it's the core philosophy and the structural framework of the society itself that engineers those specific outcomes. Think of it like an architect designing a skyscraper—you don't build the foundation based on where the wind happens to be blowing that day; you design the structure to withstand the environment, and that very design determines exactly how much sway the building will have when the storm hits. If you want to change the reality of life for Americans, you don't just tweak the symptoms of our current situation; you have to address the foundational concept that built the house in the first place.
If you ask me, it’s not a case of one being the sole cause and the other being nothing more than a byproduct. It isn't that simple. Instead, I see them as two sides of the same coin, constantly cycling back and forth—maybe even feeding into each other in a dominant loop—to drive the entire process of evolving our collective consciousness.

Let’s look back at that whole communism debate again. It’s funny how people talk about it like it’s a one-size-fits-all blueprint, when clearly, the Chinese managed to "teach" it to their system in a way we never did. So, what’s the actual disconnect there? Why does the exact same theoretical framework for a society end up producing such wildly different social realities depending on where you plant the flag? It’s like trying to use the same recipe for sourdough in a humid Florida kitchen versus a dry Arizona desert—you can follow the instructions to the letter, but the environment is going to change the outcome every single time. You have to wonder why the same core concept results in such polar opposite social landscapes.

Or, if we’re being honest about how things actually work, there comes a point where the concept of private property loses its grip once it stops serving the interests of the majority. It’s pretty simple: social circumstances eventually force a shift in the entire societal framework. Think about it like this—when enough people are pushed into poverty under the current system, they hit a certain threshold where the old way of doing things just doesn't make sense anymore, making a completely different social structure feel much more viable. In the end, the circumstances themselves dictate which social model fits the moment; all society or the individual really has to do is wake up and recognize that reality.

To me, the whole point of raising social awareness is to get people—and society as a whole—to actually spot these patterns before they hit the fan. If we could recognize these circumstances in real time, we could implement calculated shifts in our social framework to buffer the impact. It’s about creating a sort of shock absorber to protect ourselves from those sudden, violent, qualitative shifts that happen when you have a complex, self-organizing dynamic system suddenly losing its balance. If we could just manage that kind of amortization, we might eventually be able to steady the pendulum. But looking at how things are going right now, it feels like we’re just gaining momentum, swinging harder and faster from one extreme ideology straight into its polar opposite.

And that’s exactly what happens when someone operates under the assumption that there's some sort of "static," perfect blueprint for how society should function. It’s like they believe there’s a single, unchangeable gold standard out there, which just makes it easy for them to convince anyone listening that their specific version is *the* one. Instead of actually trying to find middle ground or build something constructive, they just swing the pendulum violently toward their own side, turning every conversation into a zero-sum game where the only goal is to win the argument rather than actually resolve anything.

If we actually fall for the logic that picking the perfect social structure has nothing to do with the actual circumstances of a society—or even the environment surrounding it—and instead claim it’s all based on some supposed "universal values" or these timeless, abstract constructs, then we’re just doubling down on a fundamentally flawed premise. It’s like trying to design a one-size-fits-all suit for every body type on Earth and wondering why nobody fits comfortably. By leaning on those lofty, unchanging ideals, we’re essentially providing a convenient excuse for the misguided notion that there exists some static, flawless blueprint for society. It’s the kind of thinking that chases after a pipe dream, attempting to engineer a perfect utopia that ignores the messy, shifting realities of human life.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Amanda Jackson5 said:The way we conceptualize society is what shapes our social reality, rather than social realities dictating how we should define society.


I mean, sure, the "concept of society" is an attempt to map out how things should work, but let’s be real—in the actual world, our social reality is shaped by a messy collision of unpredictable factors that nobody ever bothered to write down in a manifesto, mixed with whatever ideologies some theorist decided to dream up in a vacuum.

Think about it this way: when an American community finds itself staring down the barrel of a famine, a full-scale war, massive shortages, or a sweeping epidemic, people don't sit around debating abstract philosophy; they tighten their ranks just to survive. In those moments of crisis, you see much more collective, unified societal structures take hold, whereas during the easy, peaceful times, everything tends to drift back toward those hyper-individualistic ideas.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Joseph Bailey41 said:If we take this to an extreme: having pedophilic tendencies is technically part of one's individuality. But acting on them is a crime.

Taking a milder approach: greed is also part of someone's individuality. In that case, expressing that "individual spirit" through economic choices can get pretty messy.

In short, I think setting boundaries on our own freedom to protect the integrity of others is the very foundation of a moral conscience. It's the idea that certain values aren't just dropped from the sky; instead, humans develop them systematically through interaction with one another. Or, you could just sign the social contract and call it a day. Either way, it's all pretty subjective. 😍

Alright, that’s actually exactly what I was getting at when I wrote my post, though I wasn't going quite as far as that extreme example involving predators.

Sure, unchecked greed can be uncomfortable, but the alternative is just as unpleasant. Being an economic North Korea is also a pretty awkward way to run a society.

It really boils down to capitalism versus communism. In a capitalist system, you have this "permissible"—if not outright encouraged—individual greed that acts as a massive engine for progress. In a communist setup, that exact same drive gets smothered either by strict laws or through constant social pressure and "greed shaming" (🤣), which is why that forward momentum was clearly missing from all those communist nations. Even China is basically moving forward by playing a game of semi-capitalism and lifting ideas, patents, and tech from established Western powers.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly preaching one ideology over the other here; I think both sides have their flaws and their truths. To me, any functional solution always has to be some kind of delicate compromise between individual drive and the collective good.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Amanda Jackson5 said:Of course they can't, and of course it’s all contradictory. If you didn't catch my drift earlier, I was comparing two different social frameworks—utilitarianism versus the "general will." Neither one actually works, but my point was that utilitarianism is arguably the least functional of the bunch. I was trying to engage with this at a level a bit higher than just throwing around clichés about "suffocating the individual spirit" and things of that nature. If your goal is a society built on absolute freedom, you’d need a perfectly homogeneous population to pull it off, but that’s a fantasy. Every society constantly churns out its own myths, yet Enlightenment-style utilitarianism treats myth-making as something reserved for primitive, ancient tribes rather than modern, rational societies. That alone proves that the utilitarian model is just as much of a utopia as any rival theory based on the "general will." It hasn't been all that long since people argued that citizens stay loyal to their society simply because of the services it provides them, a view that led to claims about the "end of ideology." As it turns out, utilitarianism is just as ideological as everything else—if anything, it's even less plausible than the alternatives.


The core idea you were getting hung up on a few posts back was that the tension between individual rights and the collective good isn't set in stone; it’s a dynamic, shifting balance.

By claiming that utilitarianism is the least satisfying option, you're basically digging your heels into this rigid, static viewpoint, which is the polar opposite of what I'm saying—that different social models can ebb and flow in effectiveness depending on the specific circumstances at hand.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Joseph Bailey41 said:I think "individuality" and the "expression of individuality" are two completely different concepts.

How so?

To me, they sound like two ways of saying the exact same thing. Sure, I get that someone can try way too hard to perform their uniqueness, but if you're forcing it, all you're actually expressing is how much you're trying to force it, not some deep-seated sense of self.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Amanda Jackson5 said:Fair enough. But if we’re talking about a truly free society, it has to be a deliberate creation of its own members. That means it needs to be built on rational choices rather than just falling back on old customs. And those rational decisions have to involve everyone in the mix. You can't really claim to have a rational will if you're stuck with social institutions that were just handed to you—things that exist without any logical justification. Rousseau's whole idea regarding the "social contract" implies that every single citizen should participate in power universally and totally. In this view, you'd want a society that is as homogeneous as possible, which naturally leads to pushing for maximum economic equality among everyone. It all stems from that concept of the "Volonte generale".
Modern advocates for direct democracy—meaning total participation—follow Rousseau by arguing that radical decentralization of power is the only sensible, or even fair, way forward.
Charles Taylor points out again that the utilitarian social theories of the Enlightenment weren't quite up to the task of filling the void left behind when traditional societies fell apart. Because of that, some modern societies either kept running using large chunks of that old traditional machinery, or, in cases of massive upheaval, they pivoted toward some variation of a "Volonte generale" tradition through revolutionary ideologies like Jacobinism, Marxism, or Anarchism. Other times, they just turned toward nationalism, which acts like a powerful secular religion. Even societies that look like they're based on utilitarian principles or a Lockean model—take the United States, for example—eventually had to start manufacturing their own myths, like the myth of the "frontier" or the idea of a perpetual fresh start.

Customs were once rational decisions too, you know. People exist today because of those very customs. Any "rational decision" you decide to pull right now might not even hold water, and it’s only after it proves itself useful a thousand times over that it might eventually settle into being a custom.🙂

And those rational decisions absolutely have to involve the participation of every single member of society.

That’s exactly how you end up smothering the voice of the individual in favor of some vague collective will.

Rational will cannot accept social institutions that are merely "given"—institutions that just exist without being rationally justified. Rousseau's concept of the "social contract" implies universal and total participation in power by all citizens. Achieving maximum societal homogeneity is desirable.

But here’s the thing: maximum societal homogeneity is also maximum non-individuality. That is precisely what totalitarian societies, like North Korea, strive for.

How on earth do you get citizens to be homogeneous in how they organize their society and institutions?
The only way is if citizens are just mindless copies of one another, like ants, completely unaware of their own identity, their position, or their own will.

Because of this, maximum economic equality among all people is also desirable.

People cannot be individuals and be equal at the same time. I don't care what fancy quote someone uses to try and save that argument; it is a contradiction in terms. You can't even achieve economic equality while maintaining true individuality, because that would mean people aren't allowed to express their unique traits in the economic sphere—and that is nothing more than the strangling of the individual spirit.
Individual vs. Collective in Philosophy ·
Amanda Jackson5 said:I get where you're coming from, but even that statement feels a bit too broad to be useful. Why settle for the word compromise when you could just say relationship? You know? This kind of discourse doesn't offer much to chew on. Even if we stick with compromise, what does it actually mean for a compromise to be "dynamic"? It’s a bit of a stretch; we could just as easily imagine a static compromise, much like how we could envision a relationship being either dynamic or static.

You can't have an individual without the collective, and you certainly can't have a collective without the individual. It’s one of those things that people love to argue about because they want to feel special or independent, but it’s just not how things work. You can't pull a single thread out of a tapestry and expect the picture to stay intact; once you start isolating the parts, the whole thing just unravels into nothingness. We like to pretend we're these self-made islands, but every thought we have and every action we take is shaped by the massive, swirling ocean of society around us. It’s a feedback loop, a constant exchange where both sides are feeding off each other to exist. Without the group, there's no context for who you are, and without the person, there is no group to speak of. It’s all interconnected.

The ideal individual—the one who truly reaches that god-like state of consciousness—undergoes this radical, almost violent alienation from the collective. It’s not just a simple disagreement or a feeling of being "out of sync" with the crowd; it’s a fundamental severance. When you start to grasp the true depth of things, you realize that the masses operate on a completely different frequency, driven by social conditioning and the basic need for conformity. It’s like trying to explain the intricate mechanics of a jet engine to someone who thinks a car moves because of magic. There is an inherent friction there. As you begin to move toward becoming Wholeness in operation, the shared illusions that hold society together start to feel incredibly thin, even suffocating. You aren't just stepping outside the circle; you are realizing the circle was always an illusion to begin with. This process of detachment is inevitable, yet it's exactly what makes the journey so lonely. To achieve that level of clarity, you have to be willing to lose your place in the herd, which is something most people are fundamentally terrified to do. 😬
When you start dreaming up this perfect, utopian collective, you’re basically just designing a blueprint for the erasure of the individual. It’s that classic trap where everyone tries to act like a single organism—think of an ant colony or a beehive—where the "greater good" isn't just a goal, it's the only thing that exists. In those scenarios, the concept of a unique personality or a private thought becomes a bug in the system rather than a feature. You end up with this hive mind where the individual is swallowed whole by the group, leaving nothing behind but a mindless, synchronized drone.

If you want both of those ideals to actually exist in the same space, you’re looking at a mandatory compromise between the two, or maybe just stepping away from them entirely. It’s pretty simple math: if you cling too hard to one, you aren't leaving any room for the other to breathe.

Even if we’re talking about a compromise, what does it actually mean to label it as "dynamic"? It feels like a bit of a buzzword at this point. I mean, you could just as easily imagine a static compromise, couldn't you? It's the same logic we apply when we talk about relationships—you can have one that's fixed and unchanging, or you can have one that's dynamic and constantly shifting. It's all about whether the balance stays frozen in place or if it's always moving.

Look, there’s no way around it: individualism and collectivism both come with their own set of baggage and benefits, depending entirely on the situation at hand. And since circumstances are always shifting and evolving, the compromise we strike between the two has to evolve right along with them. It isn't a static equation you just solve once and forget about; it's more like trying to maintain a steady course while navigating a massive storm off the coast of Maine—you're constantly adjusting your heading based on how the waves are hitting the hull. One minute you need to pull together as a crew to keep from capsizing, and the next, you need every person to focus on their specific station to keep the engine running. You can't just pick one side and stay there forever if you want to actually get anywhere.