George Peterson3 said:They didn't even blink when you got flagged for being rude. You're out here sending people on wild goose chases at 3 PM, and then you act all insulted just because someone gives you a response that's actually way more civilized than what you put out there...👎
Seriously though, who do you think you are, acting like the judge and jury around here?
If they’re gonna hand out penalties, then fine, let them come for me too, but they better deal with that guy who went after me two or three times, bringing up my parents, calling me names, and dragging my background through the mud... honestly, that kind of stuff is a million times worse than just telling someone to go jump in a lake...
You really aren't anyone's authority on this, and I have no idea why you're even sticking your nose into this mess...
So, I went ahead and flagged two different posts for harassment, but the mods haven't even blinked... honestly, I can't even remember the last time they actually did anything when I hit that report button, which really makes me wonder what the point of the feature even is:
There are two things that really get under my skin because they just scream lack of seriousness and small-mindedness: 1. That song Ivan's Riverbeds—which is actually a cover of an old folk tune where the lyric originally goes "honeyed lips of Jovan"—but instead of sticking to that questionable name, they swap it out for all sorts of stuff like "Ivan's lips" or "Luburić's lips." Honestly, you've gotta be careful not to offend the listeners. I mean, some of these guys are pretty old school, and times are tough enough as it is. Just imagine if some hardcore country music fan from downtown Chicago starts singing along to this Southern ballad, totally unaware of its roots, and suddenly he's being told to sing about some guy named Jovan from some random town in Alabama or something... man, good grief, give me strength! 2. Then there's the track Hold On a Second, Tavern Musician (truly one of the most beautiful tavern songs I've ever heard; the songwriter is Vlada Kanić, whom people jokingly call the "Jack Nicholson of the Midwest")—this enlightened, patriotic, mainstream, pro-Western, progressive crowd tries so hard to avoid one incredibly awkward line, which goes "let your instruments rest for a bit after serving on the Salonika Front" so they go ahead and butcher it with all kinds of nonsense. The band "Svirci"—who are actually great, so I don't know why they bother—they have a version where they say "the Midwest Front," even though as far as I know, such a thing doesn't even exist. You've got the Western Front, the Eastern Front, but a "Midwest Front"? Never heard of it. And even if it did exist, I think you guys can see why I feel like these little edits are totally unnecessary and just miss the mark completely.
Just imagine if musicians from Texas started pulling these kinds of lyrical stunts. Instead of saying "Oh, Texas, who didn't love you," they might swap it for something more "palatable," like "Oh, Oklahoma, who didn't love you" or maybe "Oh, Tennessee, who didn't love you."
It’s just another sign of that narrow-minded provincialism you see in certain small-town circles... If you don't like a song, a poem, or a lyric exactly as it was written, then in my opinion, you're better off not singing it at all rather than making a fool of yourself.
@graniteotter6/">@@graniteotter6, honestly, looking at your whole vibe and those poetic leanings of yours, I get the feeling you and I are just gonna be speaking two different languages, so our debates probably won't go anywhere much anyway... we might as well just stick to vibing out to the music we actually love and think is good instead.
I really don't see the point in getting into some deep argument with some random person on a forum who thinks basic filler words are the height of literary genius...
Come on, give me the lowdown, would ya? I really need you to walk me through the whole thing and lay it all out there...
I totally get what you mean when you point out that specific example, because honestly, even within that same track, there’s that one absolutely brilliant line about how people are just people, yet they always find something to complain about...
Hahaha, oh man, seriously... that line is absolutely genius. You’ve gotta be kidding me, tell me you're pulling my leg...
Even Djolo is out here claiming there's some guy like Škoro constantly breathing down his neck...
If I were in Balašević's shoes, I honestly wouldn't even give guys like that the time of day... I mean, Škoro has already found his niche, hasn't he? Now he's just out there singing about secret societies and hosting trivia shows for the middle-aged crowd alongside that guy Antonija Blaće... it’s just his thing now, I guess...
Well, looks like Serbus is officially a thing of the past... gone for good...
Man, that really breaks my heart... I honestly don't get why the absolute best ones always seem to fall apart so fast...
Let’s be real for a second, they definitely dropped a handful of absolute bangers and some tracks that are honestly going to stay classics forever, but even I have to admit that this whole hyper-production thing is getting a little out of hand...
Man, those lyrics are just pure genius... absolute classics, really... you’re out here throwing around such massive, heavy-hitting words, it's almost intimidating... If you're looking for that one perfect example of a folk-pop anthem played on the tamburitza that’s basically destined to stay a timeless classic forever, I’d have to say you can't go wrong with something by Brooks & Dunn... they just have that certain something that hits different when you're listening to those strings, you know?... It’s got that infectious energy that just stays with you long after the song ends...
It feels kind of weird that this thread has gone totally silent, though I guess it makes sense since there’s probably a whole separate forum dedicated just to folk music. I’m a huge fan of that old-school acoustic folk sound, but I’ve always been pretty picky about it—I only really vibe with the high-quality stuff, the real legends and songwriters. Sadly, there is just so much mediocrity and straight-up garbage out there in this genre these days...
James Chavez91 said:Personally, when it comes to the legends, I love Brooks & Dunn & Janika Balaž, and as a group, I think "Goldman Sachs" is basically the best of American folk musicians.
If you ask me—and I know I'm definitely not the only one who feels this way—Brooks & Dunn is at a level of greatness that's going to be incredibly hard for anyone to ever touch.
"Goldman Sachs" are obviously classics, but if we're being honest, their catalog has quite a few bad tracks and some total junk mixed in. For some reason, it seems like almost every folk band from the Midwest or the South can't seem to escape making that kind of low-quality stuff. It feels like the musical culture on the other side of the Mississippi is on a completely different level entirely. To be real, the absolute best songs and the most talented players still seem to be coming from over there...
Elizabeth Miller2 said:For me personally, the song Everything is Hers is one of my all-time favorites, and whenever I hear it, it just makes everyone want to raise a glass. 😁
That song is actually pretty irritating to me because it's played constantly and it honestly isn't even that special; it's just boring, and once it starts playing, I'm just counting down the seconds until it's over.
To each their own, I guess, but that song is just terrible to me. The lyrics are so painfully cliché. "He who has much is not happy, he who needs little is the one who is..." give me a break.
It’s such a perfect example of someone wandering aimlessly through genres, leaning into that fake, sentimental songwriting style that so many people fall for, not just in folk music. Take someone like Škoro, for instance. If there’s any shred of artistic integrity or decency left in that man, he’ll eventually end up burning half his discography in a fit of regret, just like those old poets disowned their darker works. I'm thinking specifically of his more sentimental tracks, those collaborations with his buddies where they leaned into the kitsch, and that one song with the pig noises and similar nonsense... it's just the work of someone who clearly sold his undeniable talent to the devil just to stay popular with grandmas and folks living overseas.
I mean, obviously, there are tons of incredible bands out there in the Midwest... you’ve got groups like "Berde Band," "Fijaker," "Good American Folk Musicians," "Lola," and "Svirci," just to name a few... personally, out of the ones we talked about, I think "Fijaker" is the absolute best because they don't just play the songs, they really put their own soul into interpreting them... if you've ever actually listened closely to folk music, you'll know exactly what I'm getting at, even though I'm definitely no big-time expert myself... If we're looking outside the Midwest, you really have to mention two names: "Serbus" and "Svita"... man, listening to "Serbus" is just pure bliss...
And honestly, there are some amazing solo performers too...
What really gets on my nerves, though, is how much people try to force those coastal folk songs lately... specifically that whole cheesy, overly patriotic-religious vibe where they lean way too hard on themes of the homeland, God, the Virgin Mary, angels, flags, and all those other schemes that just feel totally tacky... it feels like it's become a trend recently, maybe because of some kind of creative burnout or whatever... either way, it's something you should probably steer clear of...
Wait, which college are we talking about here? Is this one of those credit-hour systems? I did my degree back before everything changed, so I’m a little lost on whether all this extra time being added actually has anything to do with how the system works now... How much longer have you been at it?
I guess I’m what you’d call a "forever student," so looking back after all this time, hearing about people losing two years to the wind just sounds kind of crazy to me 😁 but I totally get it, I still remember those old days and that sinking feeling you get when you fail an exam, or worse, an entire semester...
Look, some people fail out because they just don't put in the work. Period. That’s the only blanket statement you can make about everyone who struggles. But honestly, if you dig deeper, the reasons why people fall behind are as varied as the students themselves. For some, it’s pure laziness, but for others, it’s a total lack of motivation—which, let’s be real, people constantly and wrongly mistake for just being lazy. Then there are those who find the coursework way too intense, people who are just spread too thin with work, or folks dealing with stuff in their personal lives that pulls them away from the books... Of course, it’s usually not just one thing, it’s almost always a messy combination of several different issues hitting you all at once...
You really have to sit down and ask yourself these things first. What was the actual reason you didn't study? Because there is a massive difference between not studying because you literally had zero free time and not studying because, frankly, you just couldn't bring yourself to care about the subject matter...
Nicole Ruiz3 said:I actually asked something pretty similar on another thread, but the moderators wiped it out.
I mean, I honestly don't get it—how come the victims don't just band together and take matters into their own hands? 🤷
Yeah, there’s definitely something fishy and shady going on here, like there’s gotta be some catch... personally, I think the real issue is just how much we let killers roam free on our streets—that’s just the reality of life nowadays...
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loneraven25 says: Did I misunderstand you, or are you asking why Warsaw residents respect the legal order of the country, why they act in accordance with the Constitution and the Penal Code, and why they still live with tolerance and try to maintain peaceful coexistence? Is it any clearer now why those posts were deleted?
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Man, are you even reading what I wrote? And are you seriously aware that nobody is buying those forced, clunky sentences of yours? It sounds like you just copied them from some brainless little intern working at a local Republican Party office...
Hold up, hold up... you’re seriously trying to tell me I’m trolling while you’re over there dropping those goofy Republican talking points like:
loneraven25 said:It’s all too obvious how you’re trying to use trolling to justify your twisted logic, even while I’m over here attempting to lay out the legitimate reasons why we shouldn't resort to that kind of behavior. The people in Warsaw have been forced out of their homes for years, and they don't need more chaos fueled by revenge, especially since the state seems more interested in protecting criminals anyway; they go to any lengths to smear the Veterans, but time will eventually settle the score, both for the criminals and for those who obstruct the law of arrest and justice.
There’s another reason you aren't grasping—it’s a matter of faith. Americans are largely driven by Catholic Christian values, and we simply aren't conditioned to embrace that kind of hateful mindset in an attempt at coexistence.
The other reason you aren't grasping this is because it's religious in nature, Americans follow the Catholic Christian faith, so they just don't get how hatred works when you're trying to coexist.
but honestly, let's just move past that. I really couldn't care less about your Republican or Democratic clichés because what I'm talking about isn't about religion, or political leanings, or even nationality... it's just basic human nature, a raw reflex—if I knew for a fact that someone beat me up in a camp, or killed a family member, or raped my sister, and then that person was living right there in my hometown, whether they were a Mexican, an American, or even a Mongol, let's just say they wouldn't have a very good time... and I know 95% of people would react the exact same way.
So maybe save those little fairy tales for someone else...
John Davis42 said:😲 Look at the big picture, man. Not everyone is made of raw material or just looking for a fight. Even if they lost their entire family, some people just refuse to keep the cycle of violence going, no matter what happened in the past. If the legal system handles it, fine. If not, some folks will pull a trigger, but others? Others will try to move on and forget....
I'm just not buying it
loneraven25 said:Just try to wrap your head around what it was like for those folks from Warsaw—living as exiles from their own city for seven long years, and then ask yourselves: why on earth would any of them go to prison for some absolute bottom-feeder if the state makes that their responsibility? At the end of the day, that's just how our Penal Code and our judicial system work; we aren't allowed to go out and settle scores "eye for an eye."
it's pretty clear you're missing the point, because honestly, if you were living in a place like Warsaw and you spotted some guy where you know for a fact he's been killing, raping, or beating you or someone close to you, would you really just stand there waiting for the government to process him through the courts? or would you just take him out with a baseball bat? I mean, whatever you'd personally do doesn't matter to me, but I know exactly what I'd do, and I bet 95 percent of men would feel the same way...
actually, I think deep down people aren't even certain those guys are the killers, murderers, and rapists they claim to be, they just have suspicions, and let's face it, suspicion isn't enough to act on, not to mention we're talking about a culture where people catch fire over nothing, so this kind of stuff is bound to explode... and what do you mean "serving time"? this isn't Sweden. if you took out a Mexican who had killed or raped one of your own, the police wouldn't be able to touch you...
so yeah, you can't sell me these stories, because saying murderers are walking the streets of Warsaw is more of a street cliché, something people say just like they say we still have communists running the show...
I’m not entirely sure if this is the right thread for this kind of thing... Something has been weighing on my mind for a long time, and seeing this program on TV today about people who survived those old camps really brought it all back up to the surface...
There was this woman talking about how she actually sees a man in Warsaw who raped her, and get this—she says he even works for the police now (yeah, seriously!). I feel like I’ve heard it so many times on news programs and read it in papers, stories about people returning to areas that were once occupied, only to run into the very same Mexicans who were killers, rapists, or guards, just going about their business like nothing ever happened...
And honestly, I just can't wrap my head around it. I don't know if these folks coming back home just have incredibly soft hearts, or if they're just straight-up lying. Because from where I'm sitting, I figure your average person—and even I, even though I’m really not one for violence—if they saw someone on the street who had killed someone they loved, or raped them, or beaten them while they were stuck in a camp, they’d probably want to take them out the very first chance they got. If they didn't go as far as killing them outright, they’d at least, I don't know, break their legs or smash their head against the concrete sidewalk, or find some other way to "spice up" that person's life, since there are plenty of ways to go about it...😁 I mean, you see people beat someone to death over absolutely nothing, or get into fistfights just because they're annoyed, so imagine what would happen in a situation like this!
So, who’s actually the crazy one here?? I’m being dead serious...
Dennis Davis5 said:Nina Raspudić says that childhood and the years we spend raising our own kids are the longest phases of life.
Since you brought it up, he once wrote this super deep thought in an article—that humans have actually experienced eternity before. It was definitely back in childhood, that phase of life where the whole concept of time and being bound by the clock basically doesn't exist or just feels totally irrelevant...
It’s funny because you totally missed one massive piece of the puzzle that’s tied directly to time and how things pass by, and that’s the realization of death—specifically our own. That’s really the big, fundamental line between being a kid and being an adult. As a child, you’re just blissfully unaware of so much stuff, including the fact that one day you won't be here (and just as importantly, that you didn't exist for eons before you were even conceived), and that, as blunt as it sounds, you’re getting closer every single day to—to quote a classic—that second most intimate moment of your life...
The implications of realizing mortality and how fleeting everything is are huge, and there’s a legitimate philosophical divide between childhood and adulthood right there. And honestly, that line doesn't always line up with your age or social status; once you truly grasp it, nothing is ever quite the same, and your perception and consciousness shift drastically, even if you don't notice it happening right away...
Personally, time flies pretty fast for me. I started feeling that intensely back when I was at college, partly because I was a total mess at organizing my life and ended up cramming for exams and pulling all-nighters at the absolute last second. Back then, I'd get hit with this wave of panic and anxiety, which made it feel like days were passing like seconds and months were slipping by like weeks... I was in school for a long time, but man, it felt like those years just zoomed past. That's just how it goes, I guess...
Dennis Davis5 said:Thanks for clearing that up, Mastor. So, based on what you're saying, I guess I'm doing alright if time is flying by this fast? A few people have mentioned that things really start to pick up speed once you hit 30.
I've read accounts where people say a single day during a war feels like an absolute eternity.
Basically, time moves fast when you're having fun and staying busy, but I also had some really rough patches (like during my college years) where time still flew by. Eventually, I realized what the real trick was. It isn't so much about whether you're feeling good or bad, but rather whether you're keeping pace with the unwritten rhythm of everything happening around you. For instance, I was still grinding through exams while some of my buddies had already graduated or even landed jobs, so time felt incredibly rushed for me because I was constantly feeling this pressure to "catch up" to them...
Joshua Adams41 said:So now I’m wondering: did I stop being a child the moment I realized my entire future was completely screwed?😁 That the adult world has absolutely no place for me...
I look at today’s media landscape. They say you pass the "maturity test" when you graduate high school. Or when you finish college. Or when you hit sexual maturity. They say you reach adulthood when you...
But nobody ever mentions that true maturity comes when you become a self-reliant, independent person whose opinion actually carries weight. That isn't some milestone you check off a list; we all have that capacity...
You just have to let the older generation decide it's okay. It’s just another stage of growth through experience, I suppose...
And it makes me wonder: what were the foundations of modern America built upon? Was it students fighting tooth and nail for their rights, or students who actually gave a damn about society?
I'm expecting a massive protest. Knowledge isn't a commodity, because apparently, the price of a burger went up by two bucks.🙂
Clearly, these "kids" only start caring when the cost of a Big Mac spikes...
I’m a dreamer, I know. Just a moment ago, I had this dream where I was teaching someone a life lesson, but in the dream, this intellectual youth actually saw the bigger picture. They were ready to risk something meaningful...
But I'm such a fool for saying "knowledge isn't a commodity," when in reality, it’s the most expensive commodity there is... The only people who can truly change this country are students, but unfortunately, they are still the happiest children around.
And some folk singer singing old breakup poems isn't going to change anything; it'll be the total acceptance of neo-capitalism instead. If this generation of students has no intention of growing up, then all we’ll have left are memories of those college days when someone gave an inch... Instead of times when they actually fought to change the future. Because the present isn't just about the future, and if the students aren't the ones writing it, then the adults are doing it for them, aren't they?🙂
Honestly, I have zero clue what you're getting at here, but hey, if you say so, I'll take your word for it...
Yeah, there are a few different reasons for that, but if we’re just talking about your typical, pretty standard, happy childhood—not the heavy, traumatic stuff...
Someone mentioned earlier how, during those early years, we basically soak up our first encounters with both the physical and emotional world, and man, the depth, intensity, and sheer vibrance of those moments are just impossible to replicate. They’re like these synesthetic snapshots that etch themselves deep into our consciousness and end up shaping who we become...
It’s definitely down to how kids perceive things; the big thing is that total lack of existential dread that hits you once you stop being a kid. You kind of lose that innocence the second you realize the weight of things—you know, that fear of death and finality, realizing everything and everyone is fleeting, the randomness of reality, the heavy burden of choice and responsibility, that feeling of being existentially alone, or even the sheer absurdity of wanting something and realizing it’s just impossible... Those are just those raw, intuitive realizations that come with being human, regardless of whatever religion, culture, or ideology someone grows up with...
Sometimes I try to drift back into my own childhood, though it isn't always easy to dig through all the layers of meaning and experience that pile up over the years. It’s like those Proustian moments where a specific taste, a scent, a certain view, an old object, or even a person can suddenly pull you back into the past, making it feel like this parallel reality—almost like a "previous life," as some folks might say. For me, when I see someone wearing traditional rural clothing or hear a thick, old-fashioned Southern accent, it instantly brings me back to my grandma and the small town where I grew up, and then it's just one long chain of associations starting all over again...
I was lucky enough to have a really happy childhood, which is why I feel so much empathy and warmth for people whose childhoods were stolen from them. I have nothing but respect and genuine affection for them...
Memories are the only paradise from which we can never be expelled... (xy)
If you ask me, it just feels like they're projecting some deep-seated insecurity they’re trying way too hard to mask, which honestly seems to be the case with most of those people who act aggressively "nice" all the time... as for what's actually going on under the surface, it's pretty tough to pin down because it could be anything at all...
I’m totally on board with what most of you guys are saying here. When you really step back and look at the big picture, it seems like the main drivers behind this behavior boil down to a few key things: - displaced aggression: basically, Person A is super frustrated about something else entirely, so they just take it out on Person B instead of dealing with the actual source of their stress. honestly, it’s just a huge red flag that Person A doesn't know how to handle their own baggage... - compensation: it's that classic move where someone tries to act superior by putting someone else down, thinking that if they humiliate another person, they’ll automatically feel more important. I mean, let's face it, people love acting all bold and dominant, even if it's fake. - conformity: sometimes it’s just pure peer pressure—they tear someone down simply because everyone else is doing it, and they’re too scared to actually stand out from the crowd. - defense mechanisms: being cynical or dismissive can be a way to deal with feeling threatened. maybe the person feels competitive or just plain inferior when they're around someone else, so they lash out to protect their ego.
And let's be real, these reasons usually show up all tangled together in different combinations...
One thing I really want to point out, though, is that we shouldn't just lump every bit of cynicism or irony in with being outright derogatory. That kind of generalization is just wrong. Most of us can pretty easily tell the difference between legitimate cynicism—which actually says something about the person or thing being criticized—and that nasty, poorly hidden disparagement that really just exposes the insecurities of the person doing the talking.
Hey, I just stumbled upon this by total accident 🙂 you actually have to log in to see everything. I'm just a little unsure if the links are even still active though...
Mark Wood79, I’m gonna have to disagree with you there, because honestly, I thought the movie was pretty good. I mean, I only really caught the parts about the journalist and the ambassador, so I can't really weigh this one against the rest of Hadžić's entire body of work, but for me, it was a solid watch...
I don't really get why people are saying the characters feel flat, because to me, the motivations felt totally spot on. The whole idea is that her true nature isn't just handed to you right at the start, but rather you uncover it as the story unfolds... At first, all you see is this dysfunctional family where everyone is constantly clashing and there's zero respect in the house. We don't know anything about their history or the family background initially, but slowly the pieces of the puzzle start coming together and the drama just ramps up and up. It turns out that the ambassador—who starts off winning the audience over compared to his super unlikable kids (you've got the self-absorbed, unemployed "cool guy," the daughter who's clearly falling apart, and the doctor who's basically a total player)—was actually just a careerist who completely neglected his wife and children, and ultimately his neglect is what led his wife to her death. The son, the doctor, calls him out on it directly, but even the others imply it through their constant disrespect, especially the daughter with her suicidal tendencies, so it feels like that's really what happened... Especially since when the handyman asks about his wife, he just coldly says something like, "Yeah, she was a good friend and companion," and then the son mentions she died in London waiting for him while he was already busy finding a new mistress, so it's crystal clear that his late wife didn't mean a damn thing to him...
There's also this political layer to it, where you could argue that almost every element is meant to be ironic or even a jab at those old-school socialist slogans we used to hear. It’s pretty interesting how even the ambassador himself, who basically had everything handed to him by that system, doesn't push back against it at all. Between the stories from his social circle and the handyman, the point becomes clear: it's always the same old story... You've got the ruling class and their version of paradise, starting with all that hype about utopian ideals and ending with the harsh reality of theory versus practice...
The rock music (that "Ko-ko-da" bit was a new one for me, I've never heard it before 😁) in movies like this always acts as this symbol for youthful rebellion against the political and social norms set by the "adults" in charge, kind of like that classic jeans commercial vibe. You definitely see that playing out here too. The son goes out of his way to defy his father whenever he gets the chance. He uses loud, "modern," and abrasive music to try and shatter the fake sense of peace and silence inside that massive mansion and the family itself. The daughter handles it through this sort of "passive resistance." But in the end, it’s the oldest son who really plays the decisive role in stripping away the ambassador's past...
Even after you realize what kind of man the ambassador used to be, you still find yourself feeling a little bit of sympathy for him. He doesn't deny any of the accusations; he mostly just stays quiet and reflects, which gives you the impression that he actually does regret some things... But at the end of the day, he's still alone. He even admits that he was less afraid of getting hit by a bomb during a war than he is of the old age that's waiting for him...
The soundtrack fits perfectly, and the acting is top-tier...
bluejackal7 said:I’m starting this thread because I’ve reached a point where nothing makes sense anymore. Since I was a kid, it’s been the same old lecture from everyone around me—parents, teachers, whatever. You need straight A's in school, don't touch a cigarette, stay away from drugs, God forbid, behave yourself, pick up a bunch of hobbies, learn foreign languages, stay active in sports, be polite, be smart, listen to "cultured" music, watch "important" movies, do this and do that. Otherwise, you're told you'll end up nowhere and never be happy or satisfied with life... Then I look around at all these people who followed the script perfectly. They're totally programmed, and honestly? Most of them aren't even happy. Then there's me. People judge me because I drink, I smoke, I go out, I don't have a college degree, and I don't have a list of impressive hobbies. I’m not exactly jumping through hoops to stay busy. But I’ve had great relationships, I have a solid group of friends, and I make decent money—actually, more than some people with Ivy League degrees. I’m completely content. I'm not frustrated. I just live my life how I want to. Meanwhile, these "perfect" types can barely find a date—I mean, they post on social media about how successful and fulfilled they are, yet they can't find anyone. They don't go out, they don't socialize, they don't actually enjoy anything. So, what's the point? Why go through all that effort if it doesn't lead to happiness? I'm not saying it applies to everyone, but I'm curious about the general pattern. Can someone explain this? I figure some people here might understand the psychology behind it better than I do.
Something is eating at you and you're just suppressing it. If everything was really okay, you wouldn't be posting on the internet about how happy and satisfied you are, because truly happy and content people don't do that...
Grace Jones86 said:What does "or a girlfriend" even mean? Are you kidding me?
If you aren't kidding, and you're just sitting there like a child wanting to "have a girlfriend," forget it... Forget the job too... life is a grind. Life isn't about "having a girlfriend," life is just one long struggle.
You have to learn how to fight through life first. Maybe then you'll figure out "how to find a girl." ☕
Take me, for example. I finally figured out how to handle life and now I have a high-quality career (and let's be clear, anyone can spend years unemployed or stuck in dead-end jobs after graduation while chasing endless certifications). Being unemployed or working garbage jobs is pure misery in every conceivable way. There is no room for "having a girlfriend" during that. So, personally, I really screwed up before I got it together.
I once wanted a girlfriend too. Now I realize you only get a partner after you've survived the grind. You never make progress with the idea "I want a girlfriend"... you should have left that behind at fifteen. I didn't leave that mindset behind that early either; a lot of mental baggage followed me well into my mid-twenties (a late bloomer... whatever ☕ )
Apologies for the crude descriptions and limited vocabulary, but this is the most precise and easiest way to make you understand..
And that last poster was right... it’s obvious your mindset comes from a conservative upbringing. Stop dragging out your degree, dive headfirst into life—which boils down to a brutal struggle... for years, everyone will screw you over in ways you can't imagine and you might go crazy (but at least you won't waste energy on nonsense like "I want this specific type of girl, this specific relationship, etc.") Then, eventually, through massive effort and if luck is on your side, you'll get the chance to start winning. Somewhere in that struggle, you might actually pick up a woman. Damn it, man, be a man. Don't "want a girlfriend." You could "want a girlfriend" at thirteen. You can't do it at thirty. Grow up. 😉
btw... it doesn't help whether you're a misanthrope (who is actually just a disappointed idealist and perfectionist) or if you have an innate, uncontrollable sense of superiority.
I'm not quite sure if you're being literal here or just speaking figuratively like you mentioned earlier in your post... because if it's the former, I honestly wonder if there's even any point in me giving you an answer at all... 🙄 When it comes to that whole "hustling" aspect—you know, the constant grind of job hunting, trying to climb the ladder, and just generally navigating the chaos of adulthood—I honestly feel like most of us in our 20s and 30s are just spinning our wheels right now, mostly because the general state of things in America is such a mess... and I really think that’s a massive piece of the puzzle when you look at what psychologists are calling this whole quarter-life crisis phenomenon...
hiddenhawk3 said:Yeah, there are definitely people who think similarly and share interests, though those things tend to shift as you get older. 🤷
Look, I was just sitting here thinking about that whole purely rational, statistical side of things, you know? Like, if you really crunch the numbers, it’s pretty obvious that even within our own city, there are people out there we’d be incredibly compatible with on so many different levels—it’s just that the random chaos of life never actually brought us together... And I’m not just talking about potential romantic partners either, but true friends who just *get* you, too. I know, I know, it probably sounds like I'm just spiraling into "what if" territory, which can feel a bit aimless, but honestly, those thoughts tend to haunt me more often than I'd care to admit...
I was just sitting here thinking about how much I miss those halcyon days when everything felt so simple and easy... you know what I mean? Like back when we didn't have to worry about all this modern chaos and could just drift through life without a care in the world... it’s such a vibe, honestly... I think I might have hit send a little too early there, but honestly, sometimes the best conversations start with a bit of mystery, don't you think... anyway, I'm just hanging out and ready to dive into whatever we're talking about today... So, I was just sitting here thinking about all things geriatrics and how much that whole field really keeps you on your toes... it’s such a wild ride when you look at how much everything changes as we get older...Honestly, I’ve never really been able to wrap my head around that whole hippie obsession with playing Robinson Crusoe and running away from civilization... you know, that idea that sitting among rocks and evergreen trees is somehow some kind of deep psychotherapy session... to me, it just feels less like "finding yourself" and more like pure resignation, like people are just giving up when life gets heavy and choosing to hide from their problems instead of actually facing them head-on... which I definitely don't see as a healthy way to live, but hey, to each their own, I guess... And one more thing, guys... it’s honestly pretty tacky—to put it mildly—when you tell someone who's currently out of work or stuck in a dead-end grind that a career isn't the whole point of living. Like, seriously, why don't you go swing by a local shelter and tell those kids not to bother hoping their parents can make them happy, since, well, life isn't fair and people end up in all sorts of situations... A Marxist would probably say you're being incredibly class-unconscious, which is just a fancy way of saying you're being totally tone-deaf and actually doing some harm to the social fabric... maybe try thinking about things from a different perspective once in a while...