Posts by velvetranger16

OP, if I may offer a perspective, I suspect your primary struggle isn't actually about being passed over for an inheritance; rather, it seems you're dealing with a toxic workplace culture. It feels as though your managers are intentionally provoking you—perhaps because they lack the emotional intelligence to lead any other way. In my view, this isn't truly about your estate, but rather the fact that you are stuck under some incredibly difficult supervisors.

Is it possible someone else is getting in his head? It might be worth looking into who he’s been communicating with
in person, via phone, or on his computer when he thinks he's alone.

I’m honestly not certain if you can skip lectures specifically within your major. In my experience, I tended to get my work done during the summer, on weekends, or late at night. For instance, I found that sticking to just the afternoon shifts worked best for me.

Personally, I would look for a job through the university's student employment office—something like stocking shelves at a CVS or maybe tutoring after classes in Washington, D.C. in the evenings. A dorm would be the perfect housing option for you. You should apply, even if your parents are against it. Perhaps aim for next year if not now.

You will certainly need some extra cash, even just to cover train fare to get to campus, so finding a side hustle is essential. I worked throughout my college years myself.

Look, velvetranger16... you aren't going to find psychiatrists on internet forums. You’ve asked this question in the wrong place entirely. She needs to consult a medical professional. It is quite evident to anyone watching that she is unwell, and there is a very real danger that one day her behavior could lead to a psychiatric hospitalization.

Don't take this personally, but your situation sounds completely unhinged. What happens if she actually hurts someone?
Beyond that, I find it baffling that none of the neighbors have called the police yet.

So, what are your options? I believe you when you say you love her. Ultimately, the decision rests with you: do you want to stay by her side
for the rest of your life? The problem is, who can say how long treatment will take or how long this phase will last? Will her behavior simply revert to the norm once the immediate crisis passes?

If you choose to remain with her and act as her support system, you must be prepared to make significant sacrifices. It is much like being married to someone struggling with alcoholism.

Before you consider starting a family, ask yourself: in her current state, is there a risk she might harm a child? Would you feel comfortable placing a baby in her hands? Please, think this through carefully. I know the psychologists out there will attack me for being harsh, but you know what?
If there is a hereditary component involved, such as schizophrenia, then you truly need to weigh your options and insist she sees a specialist.

granitesurfer36 said:I'm over 30, so this doesn't apply to me. I don't seek out those types of relationships, or maybe I do subconsciously, but I always end up in them and can't help but wonder why I do this to myself or why I don't have the strength to say NO! Honestly, I just crave a normal, ordinary relationship where my entire schedule isn't dictated by when we talk or see each other......

It isn't that you are constantly falling into these traps; rather, you are choosing to accept them. Let's be honest: most of us encounter the opportunity to have an affair with someone who is already committed, but we don't enter into those situations because we reject them. For some reason, you aren't valuing yourself enough. A therapist would likely be able to pinpoint exactly why your self-esteem is so low. Are you afraid of being alone? It seems as though you operate under the principle of "anything is better than being by myself."

You are essentially mistreating your own soul (and your body). I suggest seeking answers from a professional, but in the meantime, while you wait for an appointment, remember every single day that you are the priority in your own life. Do not settle for being someone's second choice or being exploited just to chase a few hours of fleeting, false happiness.

I firmly believe that honesty is always the right path, provided that what you have to say isn't delivered in an insulting manner. It is certainly not the same as telling a friend: "Your wife is cheating on you and everyone is laughing at you behind your back because you're such an idiot!"
Compare that to saying: "I've heard some things. I really don't want to hurt you, but perhaps you should look into who your wife is spending her time with."

And that’s the bottom line. You were honest, yet you didn't cause any unnecessary offense.

Anthony Torres102 said:Do you think other people are responsible for our mental state, or are we the ones to blame for everything going wrong in our lives?

Maybe if we had just walked away from certain people sooner, we’d actually be living better, more fulfilling lives right now. We wouldn't be stuck dealing with depression or carrying around these heavy mental health struggles that eventually spiral into actual physical illness...

It’s a common pattern: once someone gets sick, everyone around them starts pointing fingers, acting like it’s their own fault. People rarely stop to ask about the environment that person was living in or the sheer amount of trauma they endured before finally hitting a breaking point.

So, who is actually at fault?

What’s your take? How much of your current situation or your illness do you attribute to the people around you?

The idea that it must all be my own fault is simply absurd. If that were true, then who would be at fault for someone born into perfect circumstances—blessed with health, wealth, and the unwavering love of their parents?

I find myself in complete agreement with what has been stated here. Please, do not abandon the child.

gentlefalcon, if I were in your shoes, I would simply take everything your father says and turn it into a joke or some lighthearted banter rather than getting dragged into an argument with him. Just nod along to whatever he says, confirm his point, and then quietly go right back to doing things your own way.

Man, you really need to find yourself a new dentist! If you’re relying on your insurance provider, there’s an official fee schedule available online. Just do a quick search.

This is a heavy subject to unpack. Honestly, you might find it beneficial to reach out to a professional—perhaps a therapist or counselor—to talk this through. It’s clear this is weighing on you and acting as a significant mental block, which I can certainly empathize with. While I haven't personally experienced anything quite like this, I remember being at an RV park once and briefly witnessing two young siblings, a brother and a sister, mimicking sexual intercourse. I was absolutely stunned by it. I should mention that the children were sleeping in the same tent as their parents, so I suspect they were likely observing their parents' intimate moments during the night.
I know for a fact they were sharing a tent; I worked at that campground during the season.
As a starting point, my perspective is that once children reach puberty, there really shouldn't be any reason for them to be sharing a bed or even a room.
It is entirely possible that your brothers, much like yourself, didn't truly grasp or understand the implications of what they were doing.
If this continues to haunt you, please consider seeking professional guidance.