Matthew Booth16 said:I’ve got a bit of a situation here.
I’m heading into my sophomore year of high school. My grades are pretty much straight A's because I spend most of my time hitting the books. In class, I don't really talk—I just sit there and soak everything up, which probably makes me look a little weird to everyone else. People tell me I’m super smart, but I’m definitely not the social type. I don't say much, and when I do, I keep it short and sweet. Sometimes I feel like people just tune me out when I'm around. Honestly, I don't have any real friends yet—you know, people I actually hang out with who aren't family. I don't really go out because I don't have a crew to go with, and I'm not into drinking 🙂 either. I don't even listen to music. I'm constantly trying to level up and be the best version of myself—basically aiming for perfection—but lately, I feel like I'm just becoming this monotone, boring person. Outside of school, I almost never hang out with people my age. It makes me feel like I'm unapproachable... and honestly, just lonely. I really want to talk more... but what am I supposed to talk about? How do you even start a conversation? How do I find a real friend or actually connect with someone?
Everyone calls me a weirdo. To be honest, it doesn't bother me that they call me that, it bothers me because it feels true. Everyone wonders why I'm so quiet... but what is there to say? I stay silent because I feel like I have nothing to contribute. How do you learn to be funny? Is being witty something you're born with, or can you actually practice it? And how do you become someone people actually want to be around?
What should I do? Where do I even start? I just want to change everything right now...
Help me out!
Look, being a bit strange is fine. 😁
Just say whatever pops into your head—that’s what everyone else does. You’re just translating your thoughts into speech. Some days it’ll be heavy, some days it’ll be light; eventually, people will see what makes you tick, and you'll find your crowd—people who actually get you. Those are your friends.
Being funny should come naturally, but it only happens once you clear out all the mental clutter and stop obsessing over what people think of you.
The only certainty here is that you aren't going to flip a switch and change overnight. It’s a slow process. Start by accepting the reality that you won't please everyone, and frankly, you don't need to. There will always be others out there just like you who won't mind the quirks.