I’ve been sitting on this thought for a while, and honestly, I’ve come to realize it doesn't really matter in the end. Unless, of course, there’s some kind of afterlife where I get to stick around as a ghost just to watch people actually vibing to some killer music I recorded...
What kind of legacy do you actually want to leave behind—both the stuff people can touch and the things they can't? Do you care about being remembered by total strangers for some big achievement you pulled off? Or would you rather just fade away as an anonymous soul, known only to your inner circle of family and friends?
I'm 30 years old and I really want to grow out a decent beard and mustache. I feel like I look better this way—not that I particularly care what anyone else thinks about it.
The issue isn't that my facial hair is patchy or won't grow at all; it's just incredibly slow. To get what people call a "three-day stubble" look, it takes me a full month or even longer. Is there any actual way to speed up the process so I don't have to wait an entire year just to reach a decent, medium length?
And please, spare me the childish comments about drawing it on or gluing fake hair to my face. We're in a serious section of the forum...
I’ve pretty much stopped hanging out with people who get into relationships. Usually, once they settle down, we run out of things to talk about because they have zero time for their hobbies anymore. Everything revolves around their partner, and once the kids show up, the conversation just becomes a non-stop loop about diapers and milestones. Honestly, I don't care what they ate for lunch or how many times they changed a diaper...
Amanda Reed6 said:Good for you if you had that figured out by 17 or 18. 😁I definitely didn't have my act together like that back then.🙂
Yeah, I did, except for cooking. I didn't actually start learning how to cook until I was 22, once it finally clicked that I’d eventually be living on my own and would actually need the skill 🙂
Even though I’m currently between jobs, I’ve already got my sleep schedule dialed in perfectly. I also take full responsibility for looking after myself when it comes to everything else—cooking, cleaning, keeping things organized... that's just common sense to me. I handle all the housework and yard work without being asked, and honestly, I actually find it kind of relaxing 😁
Richard Wells said:That's exactly what I was thinking.
I don't have a job right now, but I'll be starting one soon—it's a fixed term for at least a year. What happens after that depends on the company (and me, too), but mostly on how the firm operates. In my field, you tend to wait a bit longer for an opening compared to people who land something within two months of graduation...
nimbleridge5 said:I honestly don't think anyone can truly claim to be a fully formed, finished product by the age of 18—not in this day and age, anyway, when everything seems to be moving so much faster than it used to. And let's be real, you aren't exactly evolving or growing if you're just stuck in a loop, doing the exact same things over and over again without any change. So, in my book, no, it's just not normal
Look, I never claimed to be some fully formed individual, nor did I say I was looking to "upgrade" myself. All I said was that my core self and my character remain the same...
placidwolf27 said:How old was your mother when she had you? Do you happen to know what your birth weight was—how long did she carry you, nine months, maybe eight...
What does any of that have to do with the topic at hand? 🤣 I don't buy into that quasi-astrological psychological nonsense you're peddling.
hollowscout57 said:Relationships are basically the ultimate catalyst for growth and maturity. If you aren't out there connecting with people, it’s pretty much a mathematical certainty that you’re going to stay stuck exactly where you are, never evolving.
You honestly can't uncover the deeper layers of who you really are until you start interacting with other people—and I don't mean those shallow, surface-level small talk interactions, either.
It’s like that old saying goes: there’s a massive difference between theory and reality. It’s just like how kids often walk around thinking they’ve got the whole world figured out because it makes sense on paper, but once they actually step out into the real world, they realize things are a whole lot more complicated than they imagined.
What kind of relationships are you even talking about?... 🤔
I'm asking because there’s this whole idea that falling into a repetitive rut or a set routine long-term—though I've no clue what the actual timeframe for that would be—is devastating for your mental state, which eventually wrecks your physical health too... even if that rut is actually "productive," like it is in my case.
I find myself gravitating toward the exact same things. Same hobbies, the same circle of friends, the same political outlook and core beliefs. It’s the same music I listen to, the same movies, books, and games I dive into. I read the same news outlets, visit the same websites, laugh at the same kind of humor, and eat and drink the same stuff...
Physically, I’m basically the same guy I was at 18, just maybe 7 or 8 pounds heavier and perhaps an inch or two taller. My facial hair still hasn't decided to show up, just like back then, and I still deal with the occasional breakout. People actually ask to see my driver's license sometimes because they think I look way younger than I actually am.
I did manage to wrap up my college degree in the meantime, though I don't feel like a single bit smarter for having it.
Right now, I’m pretty content with where I'm at. I figured out what kind of life I wanted to live quite early on, so I guess I’m wondering if it’s normal to stay this consistent, or if I should be shaking things up just for the sake of personal growth...