analogfalcon2 said:I'm going through an incredibly rough patch right now. Two weeks ago, we found out my husband has lung cancer. He's only 44, and honestly, he's the best man I know. Aside from our two kids, he's my entire world. I lost my mom to cancer, so his diagnosis has hit me like a physical blow. He’s much more optimistic and brave than I am, and I realize he needs me to be his rock because the road ahead is going to be brutal. Please, if you can, give me some advice. My crying isn't helping him at all, but I just don't know how to stop.
Dear analogfalcon2, please reach out to our community page like you were instructed to do.
What you need to do right this second is face reality and accept that he is in a far more critical situation than you are. He is the one fighting the illness; you are just being overwhelmed by the news. You don't have the luxury of being weak in front of him. If you truly love him like you say, you’ll pull yourself together, because right now, your breakdown offers zero support for the help he desperately needs most in his life.
Stop spiraling into "what ifs" and negative outcomes. There is a fight happening right now, and you need to channel every ounce of your energy and focus into that battle.
At this stage, the tears are useless and counterproductive. The man is alive and he is going to undergo treatment—stand by his side and stay one step ahead of the disease!
Download this brochure and study it thoroughly. It was specifically designed for people facing exactly what you are going through.
Get in touch with Sandra Karabatić, a head nurse at the Jordanovac hospital. She also serves as the president of the "Jedra" lung cancer patients association. You can find her at the ward most afternoons. She’s a wonderful woman and will explain everything you need to know.
Just remember: what you are feeling right now is the absolute worst part—the initial shock of the bad news. Once the actual fight begins, you'll find much more strength.