Posts by Raymond Walker5

Paul Bennett3 said:@Raymond Walker5
I have to agree with you on one point. As the years crawl by, you start "discovering" things about yourself and the world, but the core realization is this: most of what we were taught was pure nonsense. We swallow these societal values in theory, but real life? It’s a completely different beast. We only truly grasp this once reality hits us hard enough to break those fairy tales we were fed growing up... The first step is self-awareness, which can be incredibly painful. Honestly, the struggle to even reach that stage is often worse. Once you finally get there, your perspective shifts. You see the world differently, and your life begins to change, even if the shift isn't immediately obvious to everyone else. To me, that is the ultimate "revolution" or personal "resurrection"... it's when you finally break free from the illusions, the lies, and pretty much everything else.

Personally, I was never really fed those fairy tales, and I honestly doubt most people are still being coddled by them these days. Even looking back to elementary school—and especially through high school—I felt like the core approach used on me was designed to stifle creativity and kill any sense of belief in anything good. That lasted right up until the moment it clicked for me: my subconscious had accumulated so much mental clutter, but I realized it was finally capable of replacing that junk with new, healthier beliefs. By changing those internal convictions, my external reality started shifting automatically. My psychological stance regarding my role in this universe literally dictates what I attract through my subconscious. That's the heart of the matter.
Essentially, whether the world feels beautiful or ugly, magical or terrifying, easy or grueling, depends entirely on our own beliefs. Our convictions act like a magnet for what we believe exists. So, in a sense, we can never truly be wrong; whether we perceive this world as a paradise or a hellscape, we will always be "right" according to our own internal compass.

Carl Rivera43 said:The best way to tackle a mess is through sheer willpower. You have to be strong enough to actually pinpoint the cause and effect—how they feed off each other and spin in circles during an event. Once you see that cycle, you just wash your hands of it. You don't sweep it under the rug hoping it disappears, and you definitely don't try to force it by overinflating the "problem balloon" until it pops. That just feeds the cycle. Honestly, if you overfeed a situation, things really do start to crack under the pressure sometimes.

It’s also vital that we don't get worked up over every little thing, especially those circumstances that simply cannot be changed by sheer force of will. I see so many people who think being "strong" means suppressing everything. For instance, if something happens that leaves them feeling down or depressed, they’ll take advice from some well-meaning but clueless friend who gives them those cliché parrot phrases like, "Just snap out of it," or "Stop feeling sorry for yourself, just go for a walk."
In reality, from what I've learned myself, everyone needs to allow their emotions to fully express themselves through them.
Just because certain feelings are uncomfortable doesn't mean we should run away from them. It’s pointless; there’s no chance we can escape everything we dislike in life. Some things just have to be processed, and you have to give yourself permission to move past them. That doesn't mean wallowing in sadness for years; it means allowing yourself a natural, healthy way to clear that sadness out. Anything else is just accumulating junk until it eventually explodes in the most unhealthy way possible.

As for those negative mental patterns, I don't think we need to spend too much time digging through our psyche like we're retreating back into a fetal state to find the root cause. We simply need to swap those negative thought and action patterns for positive ones. Whatever we direct our mental and psychological energy toward is what eventually wins out, because even the subconscious starts to believe in it given enough time.

Personally, I’m a firm believer that we are the architects of our own lives. So many people miss out on the chance to actually enjoy their careers simply because they’ve accepted a lack of opportunity as an unchangeable fact. In my view, our subconscious really pulls the strings behind the scenes. Even when we settle for something less than what we deserve, it’s ultimately a choice—a decision to believe that things can't improve. Now, retraining that subconscious mind to perceive the world, and our place within it, in a way that’s actually healthy for us isn't exactly easy. It takes work. I had to learn this the hard way myself. Even though I eventually figured out how this whole thing works—which, let’s be honest, took me about 35 years to fully grasp—it’s still a daily struggle to override those negative patterns we were all conditioned with since childhood. But it is absolutely possible. If you allow yourself to evolve, you truly start to grow as the years pass. New insights and opportunities begin to surface, capable of reshaping both your conscious and subconscious mind. To make room for that positive growth, you first have to clear out the old, toxic baggage. You replace the outdated thoughts with new ones, one by one. That’s how you unlock everything. I know this might sound like something straight out of a sci-fi movie to some people, but there is so much to this "reality" that remains completely invisible to us when our awareness is limited. Honestly, you don't even need to fully wrap your head around the mechanics of it; you just need to realize that it actually works.

Paul Bennett3 said:In my view, the most important thing is just showing up. I’m not really into that whole "win at all costs" hype... To me, it matters more to be among the top tier, somewhere between the middle and the top, or even just being decent, rather than obsessing over victory. I think a lot of frustration stems from that mindset alone...

At the end of the day, it’s about your own success and that internal sense of fulfillment, not about competing with others. That competitive drive was mostly cooked up by a capitalist mindset based on the assumption that it makes people more productive. Maybe it works for a tiny minority—like psychopaths or sociopaths who often climb to the top because they'll trample anyone in their way—but in reality, you can't truly be "better" or "worse" than someone else. Success should be measured by your own level of satisfaction. Someone might live in a tiny cabin in the woods, but if they have inner peace and hobbies that make them happy, they've won. Compare that to some megalomaniac billionaire living in a massive estate protected by gold, rubies, a yacht, a private jet, and fifty masked bodyguards just to stay safe; he can't even grasp true success because he’s had a scarcity mindset since he was born.
Everything starts in the mind. People feel a sense of lack, and that’s where the trouble begins. Often, it’s the "outliers"—the ones who don't fit the mold—who actually succeed, rather than those stuck in a race. Those who embrace being different and staying true to themselves offer something unique, unlike those who just compete within pre-set boundaries.
Take music, for example. You’ve got these classically trained wannabe composers who measure the quality of their work purely by technical parameters, constantly trying to prove themselves to their small social circles through competition. The truth is, 99.9% of them will never be listened to because they’re creating music from entirely the wrong motivations.
On the other hand, you have legends like Vangelis and Yanni. Neither of them focused on traditional notation, yet through their original vision, raw talent, sensibility, and pure love for music, they created entire new worlds. People noticed that. By being authentic, they automatically became more significant in music history than any of the technical perfectionists mentioned above.
The key is loving what you do, rather than forcing yourself to do what you think everyone else expects of you. The truly successful people are those who love their craft and aren't constantly seeking validation from everyone around them. It’s not always the case, but it usually is. These are the people who actually move the world and human consciousness forward. Those who try to please everyone rarely move anything at all, and they rarely create anything of lasting value.

However, to actually achieve anything—and to find that personal satisfaction—you first have to believe in yourself. You have to believe you can achieve your own happiness (and I emphasize *your own*), rather than chasing someone else's expectations.

The process of self-acceptance isn't always easy. For some, it happens spontaneously, and life just flows for them. Others are naturally wired to be more negative. Personally, I’m a big believer in the law of attraction. It’s not just because I’ve practiced it and seen it work, but because when I look back at my life, I realize I’ve always received exactly what I believed in—whether that turned out to be good or bad.
It all starts in the subconscious. Our physical actions shouldn't feel like things we have to force ourselves to do. If we are subconsciously tuned into a specific belief, our physical actions (aimed at making something happen) will flow naturally as a byproduct of those core convictions.

bluenomad2 said:How much do you think Roman Polanski had a hand in this film? When I saw it a few years back, I was convinced he directed it, even with his acting role included. If he hadn't been on screen, and if I didn't know it was actually a major Giuseppe Tornatore piece, I would have pegged it as Polanski's work. It carries that specific touch and those signature themes of his.

To be honest, once I saw him on screen, I immediately assumed it was a Polanski project before I even hit play. Then I realized my mistake.

goldenhound32 said:@Raymond Walker5
Yes, the film is excellent. I watched it ages ago and have been intending to revisit it for several months now, yet I simply cannot bring myself to do it. There are always new and endless 🙂
constantly demanding my attention.

I totally agree—it really is something special. What I love about it is that it doesn't feel like one of those overly pretentious, artsy films you see coming out of Europe; it just works, which is why it sticks with me.
If you enjoyed that one, you should definitely check out "Dean Spanley" if you haven't yet. Honestly, it might be my all-time favorite, though I can't quite put my finger on exactly why. It’s just unlike anything else I’ve ever seen. It’s unpretentious and genuinely funny without being heavy-handed, yet it manages to be incredibly layered, emotional, and just beautiful. It dives deep into the human psyche, handling surreal elements in such a lighthearted and wonderful way that it almost makes your head spin. There’s a bit of an absurd quality to the plot that’s quite funny, too, but once everything comes together... man, it's a masterpiece.

I finally sat down to watch it yesterday, and honestly, I’m just floored. It’s one of those rare gems that actually gets ten times better once the credits roll, because you start connecting all those little dots and pieces of the puzzle you missed during the runtime—suddenly, the big picture just clicks into place. It’s a pretty heartbreaking story, really. I think everyone should give it a watch. I'd give it a solid 10/10, even though it avoids that typical Hollywood-style dramatic swell or forced mystery at the very end that you usually expect after a twist like that.
I can't let it go without mentioning the score by Ennio Morricone, especially that stunning track where Gerard Depardieu lends his own voice to the song.

It’s actually a really solid film. Honestly, if someone is only going to focus on the technicality of how they were lifting their legs in the car, then I have nothing to say to them. 🤣
The movie is based on real people, though obviously, not every single detail is strictly factual. To me, it serves as a heartbreaking look at segregation, even within an advanced scientific system that was working tirelessly to send man into space. It highlights a truly pitiful mentality in America and the terrible way Black Americans were treated by white society—and we're talking about just half a century ago. While the film was meant to showcase the struggle for fundamental human rights and the progress made along that path, it left me with a bit of a bitter taste in my mouth. It’s hard to stomach the fact that such treatment was even possible in what we consider an advanced, civilized world. It feels like a movie that leans into showing the absolute worst of humanity, and the most unsettling part is realizing that this was likely the reality just twenty years before I was even born.

John Garcia5 said:So, just like the title says, I’ve been dealing with these short bursts of pain—sometimes dull, sometimes sharp—all over my body. I’d say it feels more muscular or nerve-related because the pain hits right where the nerves are, and this has been going on for quite a while now. I get muscle twitches too, mostly in my calves; taking magnesium and B vitamins helped a lot at first, but now the symptoms have crept back. For instance, I’ll get these quick stabs of pain in both my arms and legs that last less than a second, like a pinpoint ache right under my pinky finger. When I bend over to do something and then suddenly stand up, it feels like a nerve is jumping toward the surface near my shoulder, almost like being poked with a needle. Or if I stretch my left arm across my body, there’s this slight pulling sensation near my shoulder blade. It’s hard to define the pain. On the bright side, I don't have any breathing issues, nothing around my heart or that sort of thing, and even when I play tennis after a three or four-month break, I don't run out of breath or anything. No swelling in my hands or feet, no weird skin changes or paleness either. Back in the summer, I went to see a really good physical therapist, and they pressed on a few spots—around my cervical spine, I think—and it was pretty painful. Sometimes the pain settles at the base of my back, like a nerve issue in my lower spine. This all started about two years ago when I ramped up my training and then eventually stopped. As for my posture, it’s honestly terrible; I’m always hunched over my laptop, walking with a slouch, and I've spent a solid five or six years sitting at a computer playing games. Now, even just typing or using my laptop trackpad, I feel a bit of pain just below my palm (where people say the wrist bends).

I’ll be the first to admit I’m a huge hypochondriac; I tend to see every symptom I read about in myself, and I easily spiral into worrying about nonsense. My anxiety is through the roof right now.
I'm hoping someone here has dealt with something similar and might have some advice. Thanks in advance.

This is only my second post on the forums, so please excuse me if I messed anything up.

It sounds like you might have some minor spinal misalignment, possibly some disc protrusions in your neck or lower back. I’d suggest doing these stretches on the floor every day (maybe on a yoga mat or something):
https://zdravlje.eu/wp-content/uploa...91a.jpg?x53111

If a specific move makes things feel worse, just skip it—it's actually pretty common to react that way to certain exercises. You can find plenty of videos on YouTube showing exactly how to do them (just search terms like "lumbar spine exercises" or "disc bulge exercises"). Nothing intense, just light stretching.
For those possible neck protrusions, this is probably your best, least invasive option:


Also, try to walk for thirty minutes to an hour every day. Go swimming, too.
When you're sitting, try to sit upright and avoid leaning your head forward. Start these exercises as soon as possible; if you keep living the same way without making changes, things could definitely get worse over time. Proper movement and lifestyle adjustments can really help clear this up.
A good physical therapist would have given you some DIY tips for these symptoms, but clearly, that didn't happen.

It’s honestly pretty fascinating how visually faithful they stayed to the source material, though I have to admit, seeing those typical faces from back home dropped into an environment like that felt a little surreal and even a bit funny to me at times. 😁
Regardless, there is definitely a lot to applaud here.

vividraven7 said:I was listening to the album during my commute yesterday, and I just couldn't get into it. Like someone else mentioned earlier, there’s way too much autotune and unnecessary stuff. It feels cluttered with all this noise and screeching sounds. I'll give him one more chance, but honestly, Justin Vernon and I only seem to vibe when it comes to his work for Emm. I feel like the guy is just trying too hard.

He’s always been full of himself. To me, he just seems like a lazy, mediocre talent who knows he can coast because his fanbase doesn't really know what a decent song even sounds like.

Just another hipster pretender playing music that sounds absolutely grating and tuneless. It’s pure arrogance, totally lacking even a shred of actual talent.

Exactly—death isn't some kind of disease.
I honestly don't get people who are obsessed with living forever, especially if they want to stay stuck in this exact same body with the same limited consciousness. I mean, think about it: what was I missing before I was even born? Absolutely nothing.
Personally, I feel like we’re living in a society that’s still evolutionarily lagging behind—kind of a dystopia that doesn't offer much in terms of actual human growth. In a better version of the world, sure, maybe living to be 150 or 200 would be perfectly fine. But in the world we actually live in right now? I think one year is plenty.
Okay, I might be trolling a little bit with that last part, but seriously, do you really want to live infinitely? For what? What's the goal? Just to keep dragging your poor, tired body along through this brutal, inhumane capitalist machine? And all because some tiny little ego is running the show and convinced itself it needs to be eternal? That’s exactly what people are doing right now. You're just surviving day after day.

Everything that has ever been born has also died. If anything is close to death, it's the act of forcing a miserable, sick, and exhausted body to take just one more step forward.
By the way, it’s already been proven countless times that consciousness doesn't just vanish when the body dies, so what's even the point of seeking eternal physical life? So you can experience another fancy dinner of prime rib or shrimp scampi? Or jump off a cliff into the ocean one more time?
It's nonsense. Grow up and die.😁

granitecyclist said:And this post is just straight-up misogynistic and offensive.

There is honestly nothing more foolish than labeling someone a misogynist simply because they’re sharing an opinion about a specific segment of society. Personally, I have plenty of female friends—some of whom I'm actually closer to than you'll likely ever be to anyone in your entire life—but that doesn't change the reality that there are people who are mentally and emotionally hollow within the female population, just as there are among men.
If you want to point out your own inability to grasp what your interlocutor is actually saying while posing as some sort of moral crusader, go right ahead, but please leave me out of your nonsense.
Everyone is subject to criticism, and everyone has the right to express their views, especially regarding social issues.
To be a misogynist means holding a global belief that all women are "bad," so if you're going to insist that I hate women, why don't you go ahead and prove where in my argument I am expressing hatred toward all women?
Using the word "hate" in this context is completely off the mark, mostly because I actually find those types of women quite desirable. Hate is a concept I truly don't feel toward anyone.
Or do you believe that women are exempt from criticism, and only men, politicians, and pedophiles deserve scrutiny? That would be blatant discrimination. I try to be fair and criticize everything equally.

As for that comment about a "small-town mentality," I was actually referring to the male gender. 🤦

Maybe I'm just a misanthrope in general then. 🤔

Dennis Hall41 said:The biggest gold diggers and leeches tend to be from the post-1980 crowd, so I'm not sure how much that song actually resonates with them.
But it's a brilliant point.

I’ve always felt that the more impoverished, unrefined, and backwards a society becomes, the more you see this mindset take root—this whole parasitic way of thinking. Back when things were a bit more prosperous and we weren't quite so primitive, you just didn't see it nearly as often.
I wouldn't pin the blame entirely on the music, though. To become a total psychological void—someone who basically treats their body as currency under the guise of "love"—you either have to go through some incredibly harsh circumstances or you're just born that way.

Richard Brown51 said:I’d personally go for a premiere that actually shows some love for Bon Iver 🙂 😍

Bon Iver 😁

Lawrence Reed49 said:The way music has become so mindless really targets the mainstream crowd—those folks who just tune into whatever’s playing on the radio or TV. But honestly, who can blame them? In this digital age where you have the entire world at your fingertips, you aren't actually forced to endure corporate-driven garbage, at least when it comes to what you listen to. It all comes down to choice. Most people, though, seem to prefer just following the herd.

I couldn't agree more. There are endless possibilities nowadays. Personally, I don't even follow much of today's commercial stuff because I just don't make an effort to. Every once in a while, I'll stumble upon something fresh on YouTube just so I don't lose touch with reality, but even without doing that, I feel like I'd be suffocated by constant coverage of Beyoncé or Miley Cyrus on every single news site out there.

Back when I was a teenager in the "old school" 90s, the only thing I knew for sure was that commercialized garbage was just as bad—if not worse—than what we deal with today. It was the era of techno, dance tracks, and endless boy bands. Honestly, the whole scene looked and sounded like a total apocalypse. Kids being fed all that junk back in 1995 didn't even have a clue what real music actually sounded like in 1990.
Because of that, I honestly doubt things are any worse now. If anything, I think music has become much more diverse, largely thanks to the internet breaking the monopoly held by MTV, which used to be the primary driver for the worst kind of kitsch aimed squarely at the 10 to 17-year-old demographic. Nowadays, people actually have the freedom to hunt down music they truly enjoy.
Of course, if someone chooses to only consume whatever is shoved in their face through flashy packaging, neon colors, and twerking bodies, well, it’s their business if they consider that "art."

I took a look at the video linked in the opening post. There are some valid points there, but looking at it realistically, most people tend to have similar tastes when it comes to food or movies. However, when it comes to music, you have to realize that since entering the 20th century, this great art form has increasingly become a tool for different social cliques to identify themselves. Teens would listen to metal, or hip-hop, or jazz, or heavy commercial pop, even though about 90% of it was pure trash. From adolescent rebellion to intellectual pretension, the very concept of "good taste" basically vanished.
On the flip side, most people simply don't have the ear, the sensibility, or the instinct for what makes music actually good. That’s why such a huge percentage of music is terrible; everything has been democratized to the point where people claim "everything is good" or "it's all subjective." But let's be real: not everything is good, and it isn't all just a matter of taste. It's more that listeners are mentally and aurally limited. They're mentally limited because the average target listener for these musical gurus is usually about 14 years old.

A lot of that cheap kitsch originates from the USA, which essentially pioneered the art of squeezing money out of the masses. They manufacture these artificial little stars just to milk them for cash for as long as they can last. It’s all just a byproduct of a consumerist capitalist society. First, you raise a nation to be incredibly gullible, and then you sell them a mediocre product that required zero effort or genuine talent to create. Throw in the lowest, most banal human impulses—like constant shots of bare skin and hypersexualized male and female stars—and you've guaranteed success.
That isn't music; it's just an industry designed to churn through cash.

Maria Parker77 said:Exactly, but you also have to actually put in the work until you hit that zone. If you go into it treating it like some massive mountain you have to climb, you’re gonna feel totally defeated the second you try it. What I mean is, you need to at least sit down, back straight, throw on some earplugs from CVS, $0.67, close your eyes, and if it isn't working—and trust me, it might not work right away—just stay in that position for maybe 20 or 30 minutes. Slowly, your thoughts will start to slow down, then space out, and eventually, you'll find that focus...👍

What the heck is Zillow?

The Law of Attraction😁

Frank Flores63 said:😁 We didn't exactly manage to comfort her! 🙂

Quincy:

I guess there’s a certain kind of masochism at play with the depressives, the pessimists, and those people who just seem to gravitate toward self-destruction. It’s like they actually find a strange sense of comfort in those negative states—it’s the only way they feel anything at all. They’ve spent so much of their lives defaulting to that mindset that it’s become their baseline. Maybe it's because being stuck in that darkness is the only thing that feels familiar enough to call home.

First off, we really need to get a handle on this constant, relentless cycle of negative thinking. I know, I know—suggesting meditation sounds like such a tired, overused cliché, and I realize how unoriginal that might seem. But honestly? I don't think there's any other way to deal with those intrusive, negative thoughts that just seem to run wild through your brain without any sense of control. 😉
It isn’t going to be easy right out of the gate, because, honestly, like pretty much everything else worth doing, it requires real persistence and constant practice. I’m certainly not going to sit here and claim that a single meditation session is going to suddenly wipe away all those bad mental habits—that whole state of internal chaos we all deal with. But, if she sticks with it, things will start looking a lot better after a while. I know, because I've been there myself.

Quincy:

Honestly, everything started shifting the moment I finally realized that things weren't supposed to work that way—and more importantly, that I actually had the power to change them.

I feel much the same way, even though I wouldn't say I’m a pessimist by nature; I just tend to struggle with anxiety quite a bit. But honestly, after spending time studying Zillow and really grasping the fact that we are the creators of our own reality—rather than just passive observers watching things happen—something finally clicked for me. It was the shift I desperately needed.

Quincy:

The biggest issue with those fatalistic, depressive types is that they attempt to crawl out of their hole using the exact same tools and mental frameworks that put them there in the first place. It’s a bit of a Catch-22, really. They can't find a way out because they simply don't realize how much they are being held back by their own limited perspective. Everything is just... fundamentally skewed. Their perception of reality is entirely broken, and until they address that, I guess they're just spinning their wheels.

No, that’s just not how it works. It won't produce any results like that. The first step has to be calming the mind down, and then you focus on what you actually want. The second step—and this is the crucial part—is that once the mental chatter dies down, the emotions have to settle too. We aren't just creating our reality through our thoughts; we’re doing it through our emotions as well. If you’re trying to think positively while simultaneously feeling miserable, you aren't actually believing in the outcome. In that case, the end result is always going to be pathetic.
You have to maintain a positive mindset—for instance, if I want a white leather jacket, I should actually visualize myself already wearing it—while simultaneously feeling that sense of genuine satisfaction. That is the true alignment of soul and intellect that Holland talks about. Most people don't get this right; they just fall into this cycle of saying, "I want this, and I want that," followed immediately by, "But how on earth am I going to afford it?" or, "What if people think I'm being ridiculous?" It’s that constant hesitation... I guess I'm just not entirely sure if this approach is really meant for me. 🙄

One day, when you finally realize that life is just too short and far too much of a cosmic joke to waste on unnecessary struggles—on all those mental gymnastics to try to feel better, or on any kind of "trying"—that is when you will actually be on your way to finding yourself. Honestly, you could make that realization happen as early as today.
Generally speaking, it is much easier for both the body and the mind to simply do nothing than to attempt anything at all. It is far simpler to just BE, rather than polluting your system with efforts that aren't even required, which, let's face it, usually means the effort of trying to achieve something specific.

The best things in life are also the simplest. We are the ones who insist on making everything complicated. Where has all this over-analyzing and philosophizing actually gotten us? I spent a huge portion of my life philosophizing, thinking I was being incredibly brilliant and intellectual. But what did it actually yield? In the end, it was nothing but a pure waste of time. Designing your own life is remarkably easy and straightforward once you clear away all that nonsense.

Zillow is about working on yourself, not on your desires. You can't force yourself to be in a better mood or to be happy. That doesn't require effort; it just happens when you discard the false belief that misery and intense struggle are necessary prerequisites. If you cling to that, you'll just keep manifesting more hardship and more endless striving.
And for what? Is it even worth it?
Just go with the flow. Relax and stop thinking... at least, let's start with that.

👍

I would also add this: when a negative thought pops up, there is no need to expend energy trying to force it out of your head. It isn't even possible. You simply have to shift your focus elsewhere. For instance: you find yourself ruminating on someone who gets under your skin or who hurt you. You realize these thoughts are just dragging you deeper into depression and misery, yet you continue to analyze that terrible person and their words. What you really need to do is pivot your attention to something else—anything that lacks weight, something pleasant, something charming, or something that delights you. And that's the pattern: a negative thought arrives, you shift your focus to something positive. Practice it. Just keep practicing.🙂

I actually know someone personally who can take one tiny negative thought and turn it into an absolute living hell—and by the way, they frequent this forum too.
Let’s say something goes slightly wrong for them today. They start dissecting why it went wrong, which leads them to conclude that everything in their life is a disaster, that they’ve let everyone down, that they're a total failure, and that they'd honestly be better off dead. Finally, they reach the conclusion that, well, now they’re going to feel miserable forever, ruminating on it for the rest of their lives, which they believe is a hellscape anyway. 😁 🤦
Of course, these things are usually our own choice. Picking at the things we hate is just like scratching at a mosquito bite until it gets infected and turns into sepsis—then you're really in trouble.
It is genuinely fascinating how much effort some people put into feeling terrible. And all of it is completely unnecessary if we actually want to feel good.