frozenangler9 said:You’re honestly a pro at using fancy little words to justify being immoral in every single area of life where you happen to be the one walking away with all the glory. 😛
Look, frozenangler9, we aren't talking about parent-child dynamics here; we're talking about relationships between grown-up, responsible adults. To some extent, life is just a constant struggle to get ahead against everyone else. Part of it involves cooperation. Part of it involves actually giving a damn about people. It's a messy mix of different vibes. I've found my own balance, and you probably have yours too. So why does it bother you so much that mine looks a little different?
In my world, this "mix" works perfectly for me and the people closest to me. Honestly, it works incredibly well! I’ve been married for thirty years now, and life is wonderful. As far as I can tell without performing brain surgery on my wife, she’s loving it. From everything I see, she—and everyone else I know—seems genuinely happy. My kids are joyful, kind, and killing it in their own lives (though they're all adults now).
On the business side of things, I’ve been running my small firm for quite a few years, employing five or six highly skilled professionals. And let me tell you, these aren't just some entry-level interns. The people working for me right now have been with me for years. Believe me, they’re doing great. If they weren't, they would have jumped ship a long time ago.
The thing is, these are people whose livelihoods don't actually depend on me staying afloat. When they move on from my company, they land amazing positions—for example, one former employee is now a director for a major trade association, one lady is a department head at a major network like NBC, and one guy is a spokesperson for a famous international NGO.
And even today, I still maintain fantastic relationships with every single one of them.
From your perspective, I guess you'd call it a total nightmare, a tragedy, and an absolute disaster.
So, I have to ask: how does a man as "immoral" as me manage to make life so good—not just for himself, but for everyone around him—over such a long, steady stretch of time?
It isn't easy to sustain a thirty-year marriage where people actually live happily, actively, and with a real sense of togetherness. It isn't easy to raise kids who aren't just successful, but truly happy human beings. It certainly isn't easy to run a complex business for nearly fifteen years in the unpredictable economic climate of a place like Chicago and keep a loyal, high-level team. And it's definitely not easy to stay friends with people who leave you because they've been offered incredible career opportunities where you served as their ultimate stepping stone.
Based on all that, I'd say, screw it—maybe I *am* doing something right in this life. Maybe there's a reason to believe that my way of thinking, my behavior, and my morals actually hold some weight.
I don't know what kind of practical evidence you have to back up your own worldview, your behavior, or your ethics, so I won't sit here and judge those. But for my part, I know that what I do is built on something solid; something that doesn't just satisfy me, but actually benefits and brings joy to the people in my orbit.
If that's the case, I think I have every right to share my views on this forum, hoping that maybe someone might reflect on them and find something useful.
I'm guessing none of this sits well with you, frozenangler9, but hey, not everyone is wired like you. And I'm betting you don't walk around thinking you're the sole, untouchable judge of how everyone should think, act, or behave.