Posts by Donna Wood52

Jerry Martinez5 said:The topic isn't pointless—though it’s far from finished since you haven't actually forced me to define what makes someone "special" in my eyes yet. And let's be clear, we aren't talking about being Einstein or Mussolini here. 😁

In my book, special people are those who just stay silent when they're being insulted (do those even exist? 🤔 I'm not counting the ones who are just too timid to speak up! ☕ )
Then there are the people who are genuinely attractive but suffer from incredibly low self-esteem...
etcetera etcetera...

I'll come up with more when I think of them! 🙂

PoPotrebiLuda said:this whole thread is hands down the most pointless thing I've read on this board in about six months.

But hey, that’s just my two cents... thanks for nothing... bye. ☕

Well, now I actually feel insulted. 😁

Why does everyone keep bringing up Einstein whenever they talk about geniuses?
Why doesn't anyone ever mention Nikola Tesla?
The guy was ten times smarter than Einstein.

Well, personally, I find Einstein way more fascinating. 😉

northernharbor34 said:The people who suddenly start acting like they care about reserves—only after everyone else has stopped responding—are exactly the kind of folks I can't stand. It’s always the same pattern, isn't it? They stay silent while the conversation is actually happening, then swoop in with their "concerns" once the room has cleared out. Typical. 😛

I wouldn't exactly be jumping on board with that—but hey, to each their own, I suppose. 😉

Since Donna Wood52 brought up Einstein—well, if you were to actually ask her why he’s such a big deal, she might argue that everyone has their own thing going on. But honestly? Einstein really did step outside the norm. I’ll throw his name out there, even if I don't personally view him as some untouchable icon, but... let's just say he was relatively unique 😁 And then there are those people who break the mold in every single way—I actually know someone like that. Maybe for you, nobody truly stands out, and you feel like you're the most unique person in the room, just like you told yourself. But for me, certain people are genuinely one-of-a-kind 😍

I'm with you on that! 👍

As for metalheads—they aren't all that special to me either. There are so many of them nowadays, and they've become way more mainstream than they used to be.

amberheron17 said:But speaking from my own experience, I can tell you that people like me don't avoid reaching out because we don't want to see anyone—it’s actually the exact opposite. We’re terrified of being a nuisance to our friends. We hesitate to be the first ones to suggest hanging out because we’ve already convinced ourselves they’ll say no or just be too busy—even though, looking back, that logic is completely irrational and frankly stupid. These types of people tend to be loners, even if they genuinely crave social interaction... provided someone else takes the initiative to invite them. There's this constant, nagging feeling of being left out for absolutely no reason at all... it's honestly exhausting. But seriously, don't give up on someone like that... it’s precisely because they struggle that they need 😉

I'm with you on this. People like that have a pathological fear of rejection. It's a pattern, too—they often end up staying single their whole lives because of it. And the same thing applies to friendships; these individuals are so withdrawn that by the time they finally muster the courage to call a friend, that friend is already booked up or heading out with someone more "outgoing." The withdrawn person feels that sting of being an afterthought, and then they retreat even further to avoid the pain of another rejection. In the end, those types always end up being the backup plan when everyone else's plans fall through.

Have you ever dealt with someone like this? You know the type—the kind of person where it’s always on you to reach out first, to check in, to ask how their week was or what’s new...

For instance, you’re the one initiating the calls and keeping the conversation going—doing it several times, actually—and then you eventually hit a wall and think, "Alright, I'm done calling; let's see if they even bother to pick up the phone or reach out once I stop." And then? Silence. Forever.

What’s your take on this behavior? Does it drive you absolutely crazy, or am I just being overly sensitive?

I was actually referring to a film role. I mean, if they show up on screen, that counts as an acting credit, doesn't it? 😍

Jerry Martinez5 said:I’m not trying to be difficult here, I’m just asking: how old are you? It’s perfectly normal for puberty to hit and make you feel like you're some special, one-of-a-kind individual among billions of people. Like, it's just you suffering, you're the only different one. I’m assuming it’s just one of those growing pains phases.

Hmm... well, for the people who are actually told they're "special," they usually don't even want to admit it—they won't show it. I knew this guy back in high school—we were in the same grade for four years—and he didn't talk to a single soul. Every teenager thinks they're unique during puberty, but look—if you spend four years in the same class with thirty other kids and don't say a word to anyone the entire time, obviously you're going to be different from the rest. It's not about being better; you're just different. Naturally, then people label you a "psycho" or a freak, but that doesn't actually mean anything.

In my book, truly special people are someone like Einstein (pure brilliance), or Dr. Hannibal Lecter—he had that specific kind of charisma, a sharp mind, and let's be honest, he was good-looking too! 😁

normabel

The risk of getting hooked really comes down to two things: how much you're taking and how long you stay on it. Ideally, treatment shouldn't drag on past two or three months—and that includes the tapering period. If you just quit cold turkey, you run the risk of hitting a "rebound" effect, where those original symptoms come crashing back even harder than before. Plus, stopping abruptly after long-term use can trigger nasty withdrawal symptoms—we're talking headaches, muscle aches, intense anxiety, tension, restlessness, confusion, and irritability. In more extreme cases, people deal with depersonalization, derealization, hallucinations, or even seizures. This is exactly why you have to taper off normabel gradually over a decent stretch of time.

And maybe you should probably talk to a psychologist about all this.

Medication, psychotherapy... have you actually tried any of that yet? If things are really as deep in the weeds as you've described—and believe me, I'm reading you—you're digging a pretty nasty hole for yourself.

She didn't even claim it was some kind of advantage—she's just describing things as they are.
It’s not about being "special" or acting superior to everyone else; it’s just about people who happen to stand out somehow. It's the same way someone stands out because they have a unique sense of style, or maybe just striking eyes.

hiddenhawk3 said:I really can't agree with that.

I didn't say everyone, I said *often*—meaning it's not universal. Not everyone is dealing with a mental disorder.

Well, everyone stands out in some way.🤷

True, but then you have those extreme cases—people who deviate much more significantly from the average person. For instance, if you're familiar with schizoid personalities (zero social contact, not even with close family)... total lone wolves.

But let's move back to the less intense examples. 🙂 You could look at poets or bohemians... types who are just a bit "different."

Take a typical high school classroom in the States, for example. You always have the extroverts and the withdrawn ones. The withdrawn kids are quiet and calm, but if one person doesn't speak to anyone in a class of, say, thirty students, that's already hitting an extreme. Do you see where I'm going with this?
And there's nothing inherently "superior" about it—in fact, most of them probably wish they were different, more outgoing, less shy, or just had a bit more confidence.

Being an introvert is just one trait among many—it doesn't automatically make someone "special," nor does it mean they stand out from the crowd. And honestly? In the world we live in, it’s often anything but an advantage.

I'm with you there. It’s rarely a benefit; more often than not, those types end up isolated or struggling with mental health issues—not everyone, obviously, but a huge portion of them.

hiddenhawk3 said:everyone wants to feel unique in their own way, which ultimately just makes them blend right back into the masses😁

True, but there is a massive distinction between wanting to be different and actually being different. 😉

hiddenhawk3 said:what you described above doesn't exactly strike me as an advantage😉

She never claimed it was an advantage; she was simply describing who she is.

We aren't talking about being "superior" here—that's not what "specialness" means. We're talking about people who simply diverge from the norm in some capacity. It's the same as someone standing out because of a quirky fashion sense, or maybe just having striking eyes.

Have you ever actually crossed paths with someone who just... stands out from the crowd? I mean, sure, we’re all biologically cut from the same cloth—we’ve got limbs, heads, we walk upright, the usual anatomy—but I’m talking about the psychological core, that specific essence of a person's character.

For instance, most people are just... fine. They're decent enough. But then you run into someone whose kindness is almost overwhelming, or maybe they’re incredibly withdrawn—like, pathologically introverted—or perhaps they possess an exceptional beauty, a sharp intellect, or a sense of humor so distinct that everyone in the room is instantly drawn to them. You know exactly what I'm getting at. 🙂

I don't seem to run into people like that very often... 🤷

What’s your take on these types of individuals? Have you ever actually encountered someone like that in your own life?

hollowraven3 said:Look, I’ll be the first to admit I can be incredibly jealous—it’s a flaw—but I’ve never once felt that way about her boyfriend. He was there before I showed up, plain and simple, and I respect that. It's perfectly normal to me. I’m fully aware she could probably find someone better, but honestly, I’d never be the type to actually say that out loud.

I suspect you actually do have feelings for her... deep down. You aren't bothered when you see her with other guys, and her boyfriend doesn't even trigger any jealousy in you. Why? Because you’re convinced she can do better. You’re likely operating under this subconscious assumption that they might break up eventually—and if they do, she'll end up thinking exactly what you're thinking: "I can definitely find someone better than him."

What exactly causes this kind of thing?

So, what exactly is cholelithiasis? My doctor just scribbled it down on my paperwork today—it feels more like a placeholder diagnosis than anything else. He’s just my GP, so he sent me off for an abdominal ultrasound to get some actual answers.

Does anyone here actually know what this is?

I suppose so.

Gary Perez9 said:Donna Wood52, chocolate doesn't actually make you gain weight at all.

And where on earth are you getting that from?

Gary Perez9, I have to say—I absolutely love chocolate. 🙂 But let's be real—it’s a one-way ticket to gaining weight. 😢

Gary Perez9, I’m going to have to disagree with your signature.