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feralranger said:...well, we find ourselves circling back to this issue simply because some people lack basic discernment. It’s quite similar to when you attempt to provide someone with fundamental mathematical instructions; the problem lies in the fact that certain individuals fail to grasp the glaringly obvious distinction between erotic love and philia within the Homo sapiens sapiens species.

In the sphere of philia, most people aren't prone to jealousy or possessiveness—> for the most part, they don't insist on a monopoly over their partner.

In the erotic sphere, however, most people are inherently jealous and exclusive—> they generally demand a strictly 'monogamous' arrangement.

It isn't truly a matter of "complex mathematics," yet somehow, it remains an impossibly complicated concept for some.

Once you actually get cheated on, or if you end up being the one doing the cheating, you'll start singing a different tune.

You have zero clue what you're talking about and you're just rambling the same old crap... you literally just copy-pasted your posts from a totally different thread.

Just get outta here, man...

God, this Sisyphus just keeps rehashing the same old crap year after year... literally saying nothing at all...

I mean, if things are actually going south, you just sit down with your partner and talk through the issues, right?

You don't just go out and sleep with someone else

Just because "you're struggling" or "feeling misunderstood in your marriage"...

God, why is basic communication such a struggle for people...

I'm staying out of this topic of the day because I was once deceived by someone, and honestly, it just drags me back to a really dark place I worked so hard to escape...

Melissa Rogers4 said:That’s really why people connect, just to find happiness in one another 😉

Preach. 😁

David Sanders4 said:Brilliant. Have you ever considered writing screenplays for the perfect crime?

But... you know how those movies go. There's always a plot twist... suddenly he gets an erection, hard as a rock, standing as rigid as a soldier on parade, while you're banging your head against the wall. The neighbors will just assume someone's having a late-night party again...

P.S. Not even a fresh batch of calamari from the fridge is going to help there.

But would she actually be happy about it? In that classic Noah Moore way?

I imagine the folks over at Ikea would be rubbing their hands together every time these guys try to assemble furniture.

At the end of the day, you get what you deserve. It’s just karma catching up...

Look, if I’m not happy, then nobody else gets to be...

😁

David Sanders4 said:Delight AJ

Spice things up a little and imagine those two people are "him" and "her." She’s your absolute best friend—the one who literally saved your life once, like that time you were both kids stealing candy at the grocery store and she stepped up and took the fall for you. And he? He’s the love of your life, your soulmate, the guy who understands you even when you're dead wrong. He's so handsome it's criminal, and frankly, so attractive you'd want to keep him under lock and key just to keep other women from even glancing his way.

Then, on some miserable, rainy afternoon, you come home after an exhausting day at work and... there they are. The two of them, sweating and half-dressed, struggling through assembling an Ikea wardrobe together. It isn't quite the romantic scene you might have pictured...

Or maybe they had a quick tryst in the office restroom, and decided, "Let's keep this our little secret." Fortunately, the most nosy coworker in the entire firm happened to walk in, forcing them to scramble. Once their conscience kicked in, they decided to just flush that secret away down the toilet! If anyone asks, a button just popped off her blouse!

Has anyone ever dared to tell Dunda to get rid of that Tapatalk signature?!

Honestly, let them assemble dressers and cabinets all they want. I'll personally pay for three of them, just as long as they stay far away from me...

You could try to rationalize it so they don't repeat the same thing, but my brain just goes, "Well, since she's this to me and he's that to me, everything they do is totally forgiven."

Like I said—delight

Gefutko said:Sometimes you sound so cold I actually have to grab a sweater, wrap myself in a blanket, and make some hot tea just to cope...

My question was about this situation where a friend admits her boyfriend was hitting on her, but she turned him down—only telling me about it much later because she wasn't sure how to handle it. So, what's the move?

I think I'm being realistic, though maybe it's just a girl thing since I come off as cold sometimes... even though I'm usually a total delight...
😁

Whatever, doesn't matter... the point is you don't need everyone in your life... even if you're left with just two people, as long as those two are actually solid...

Kevin Barrett22 said:and every single time, you end up convinced you haven't missed a thing over the last ten years... ☕

Seriously

😁

But look, "just enough" is basically my way of saying I never actually go out...

Once every decade...

I’ve officially entered the phase where I get asked, "Mom, are you ignoring me?" about five times a day.
Because apparently, if I’m not actively participating in every single word out of their mouth—heaven forbid I actually look at my phone or finish a task...
🙂

feralmoose32 said:I honestly don't see the issue here...
If it were my ex, I’d probably let them stay for free—I mean, really—but they just won't 🤷

Alright, fine...😁

William Thompson10 said:Exactly—mom, and just mom.

I don't want to sound like I'm bragging or being self-righteous about it. It’s more about those heavy moments when I see my son’s sadness, for instance, because his dad couldn't make it out for a bike ride due to exhaustion. He was really looking forward to us all riding together. That's just one small example from a long list. Honestly, I feel like I'm failing at every turn, constantly feeling like I'm falling short as a parent.
The biggest waves of judgment and criticism usually hit when I mention that I went to the coast with my ex-wife. 😁.
I can already see the backlash starting here, too.

So, my buddy's ex-wife owns this beach house out in Malibu, right? He spent two weeks vacationing there with his kid and actually paid her for the stay... $667 😁

"You don't have to lift a finger, just lie back and relax while Mom and Dad handle everything"
"Mom's gonna bring you some food in bed, what are you craving?"
"Mom and Dad will buy you whatever you need, so just stop stressing, honey... you're all grown up now"

I don't really go out or anything... I just have this one friend I catch up with once a month or so, and that's pretty much it

coastalwalker9 said:The ideal window for having children seems to peak before you hit your mid-thirties, whereas the most opportune time to settle into marriage is arguably during your forties.
The real dilemma, I suppose, is how one manages to align those two timelines.

Just get divorced and do it all over again.
😁

Honestly, my life is so good right now, I can't even imagine being in a relationship... let alone marriage, because why bother...😁

electricscout15 said:Yeah, I spent a long time thinking, "Whatever, I'll just get married to the first guy who comes along later," but here I am at 33, and honestly? I'm glad. I'm actually really happy things turned out this way because now I have so much more confidence, self-awareness, and actual opportunities for some cool adventures—rather than being, say, totally single and wild in my 20s only to end up having kids in my 40s. Plus, I feel like since I'm older, marriage feels almost unnecessary now, unless it's for something specific, I guess, like protecting assets or inheritance or something like that 🤷

Listen, honey, every woman needs her own thing... the absolute worst scenario is being dependent on a guy with no income or a place to call your own. That’s how they keep you under their thumb... forget marriage licenses, they're nothing but a liability during a divorce...

Honestly, works for me... my kid's 27 and I'm 47.

And those middle-aged parents? Yeah, everything's got pros and cons...
Having kids after 40? Never happened for me, and definitely wouldn't happen then either.

Honestly, being a young parent is such a massive win... you can actually get stuff done before you hit 30