Posts by Drew Morgan

This topic is essentially a mirror image of the procrastination thread. It’s the endless cycle of stalling because motivation simply isn't there. A true epidemic. 😢

Megan Davis62 said:They could always prescribe something stronger to see if she snaps out of it, though I doubt it.
In my view, the family needs to spend more quality time with her. They should focus on her, not on this imaginary friend she's talking to—giving in to that just pulls her further from reality. If being present doesn't help, then we're looking at a medical issue that requires professional treatment. At that point, you take her to the doctor.

It’s clear the grandmother has decided to just blow through her savings. This isn't just vanity; it's reckless financial destruction.

In the States, people handle this by putting seniors in assisted living where things move quickly. 😢 In this specific case, you might even need more forceful intervention since the grandmother refuses to cooperate. From her perspective, she's the only sane one left.

Matthew Castillo5 said:I’ve always had this theory that when people are hovering near the end, they’re essentially standing on the threshold between this world and whatever comes next. It makes sense that they might actually see loved ones who have already passed, just waiting for them on the other side.

It happens far too consistently for that theory to be anything but likely.

Nicole Barrett76 said:The system simply discards those who lack financial means and those who aren't aggressive enough—those who refuse to fight tooth and nail for every single thing until their dying breath. For instance, both a psychiatrist and a clinical psychologist I encountered refused to provide even a modicum of adequate psychological support.

One female psychiatrist actually dismissed me entirely after I shared that, following a prolonged period on benzodiazepines and hypnotics, I had successfully tapered myself off and was now using natural supplements to aid my sleep. (In truth, I haven't even used those for quite some time now.) Rather than feeling any sense of pride or relief at my success, she coldly informed me that since I had chosen self-treatment, I should stop coming to her altogether.

Admittedly, the focus here shouldn't be on myself, but rather on my grandmother, yet the situation remains just as dire...

Now imagine being over 80 and facing this. It's a nightmare.

The bolded part is a total disaster. 😲

Keith Jones76 said:I honestly think it’s better to let a doctor make that call. I already brought up the possibility of suicide prevention earlier. If that’s actually on the table, then hospitalization is probably the more useful route—avoiding it could end up doing more harm than good.
And besides, why not just go to a private clinic? A single consultation shouldn't break the bank.

Nobody said there were any signs of suicidal tendencies. But fine—theoretically, anything is possible. Even if hospitalization prevents her from taking her own life, she'll likely end up dead anyway. I don't know, maybe there's some high-end sanatorium in Switzerland costing over $1,000 a day that could change the outcome, but within our current system? I doubt it. I'm talking about psychiatric or geriatric wards here. Maybe an internal medicine ward is different. Who knows...

If you have the capital, you could take her to a private neurology clinic for an evaluation, but heaven forbid she actually gets hospitalized. Furthermore, anything forced upon her against her will—and we've already established she won't see a doctor—will only make her condition worse.

It would be different if it fell into the hands of someone truly dedicated who just lacked the resources. As it stands, the system mostly writes off the elderly 😢

Gary Cox2 said:My grandma had Alzheimer for 8 years..
And yeah, I agree, there isn't much doctors can actually do here..
We took her to a doctor right at the start, but they sent her to a state psych ward, and we found her tied down to a bed. 😲 😲
We brought her home immediately and she lived with us for 8 years after that..
It's a brutal disease. Honestly, I'd say it's harder on the caregivers than the patient themselves.
Because they're living in their own universe.. eventually, she wouldn't recognize any of us.. She'd wake up in the middle of the night claiming she was heading to a Broadway premiere.. Over time, we started hiding anything sharp from her, like kitchen knives, because you never know how someone might react.
One day I was her neighbor, the next she was asking if I was married to her brother, and by the third day—she had no clue who I was..
It was exhausting, man, seriously..
If we had to play with Barbies, we did. Even though she was 88, she wanted to play with Barbies. 😍
Yeah, hallucinations and making things up are definitely part of it, along with everything else, but you just have to push through.. You just have to be patient. 😉

So, you're admitting they exist in Alzheimer's patients after all? Look at how they "treated" my friend's grandmother for neurological issues at the local VA hospital—they practically kept her strapped to a bed. A close acquaintance told me about her grandmother, who was battling cancer but remained completely lucid. One time, she showed a bit of her old-school grit and temper, and they immediately pumped her full of Haldol! They hit her with antipsychotics that were strictly contraindicated because of her heart condition. She believes those doctors at the geriatric ward essentially killed her.

Andrew Barrett4 said:I guess you shouldn't go treating Grandma like some kind of lab rabbit for your little experiments. It seems like a bad idea, honestly. Maybe just stick to things that don't involve testing theories on her.

I mean, honestly, you should probably just take her to a psychiatrist for a formal evaluation. It might be worth getting a professional opinion on the situation.
Maybe even under some kind of pretext—it’s all just part of the show, I suppose. The wedding planner! 😂)
Paranoia isn't always just some psychological quirk, either. It can be a symptom of just about anything, really. I guess you could be looking at something as simple as a bad urinary tract infection causing a bit of delirium, or it could be something much heavier, like dementia or Alzheimer’s. Then there’s the physiological stuff—electrolyte imbalances, shifts in blood chemistry, or even a brain tumor. You name it. It’s all on the table, I suppose. Everything can manifest that way if you look closely enough.

I mean, look, you aren't exactly her doctor, so deciding her entire treatment plan and then just tossing medication into her food... I guess that’s a bit much. It probably isn't the best move, honestly.

If she refuses to see a psychiatrist, then honestly, whatever. I guess you could just pay for a private specialist to come out to the house for a day or two to keep an eye on things. It’s probably worth it if it keeps the situation from spiraling, though I suppose that's just more money down the drain.
I guess you really shouldn't be handing anything out until a specialist actually maps out the treatment plan. It might seem simple, but maybe it’s better to just wait for the professional to make the call first.

If that were actually the case, a neurologist or a standard blood panel would catch it immediately.

Sarah Rodriguez4 said:😢 me too, I just remembered my own grandmother... She was also pretty lonely, and suddenly this hit her hard. We took her to doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists—you name it—and nobody could tell us anything; they all insisted she was perfectly fine and healthy for her age. Then she turned aggressive, so they put her on some sedatives, but they still maintained nothing was wrong. Meanwhile, she was seeing her late sisters, brothers, her son, even her old childhood hometown. She lost track of whether it was day or night, stopped sleeping, and would wander aimlessly around town picking flowers, leaving us frantic trying to find her. It was just pure chaos. In the end, after two years of that struggle, she passed away. Ten days before she died, she was admitted to a psychiatric ward for a week, and when she came out, she was basically a shell of herself. She passed shortly after. To this day, we still don't know exactly what happened to her 😢

I honestly don't know what to say to you. I really hope your grandmother gets better and that someone can provide the help she needs. Hang in there—don't give up on her 😘

I share that fear. I’ve seen enough cases where elderly people are practically beaten down by the system. Hospitalization is a dangerous gamble. Maybe try a neurologist or a full blood panel first to see if there's a physiological cause.

But psychiatry, geriatric wards, and forced hospitalization? That won't cure her; it'll likely destroy her.

If she's happy as she is, don't force treatment on her and risk making everything worse.

Keith Jones76 said:That’s not exactly typical for Alzheimer's.

Is that because hallucinations aren't part of the Alzheimer profile?

Honestly, what’s the endgame here? Is she actually going to see a specialist? Does anyone truly believe a doctor can just fix her?

Is this senile dementia or Alzheimer, mixed with psychological issues stemming from isolation? I agree—you have to meet her where she is and enter her world.

Frankly, the people who want to just numb an elderly woman with a cocktail of pills because "she’s old and dying soon" drive me absolutely insane. I honestly don't know what goes through your heads when you think like that...😲😲😲

Any updates on this situation?

lonegardener said:That sounds more like saintly or even divine love.

Needing someone doesn't automatically equal being possessive. You're leaning toward extremes here... is it either divine love or toxic obsession? There's no middle ground? 😬

Most people fall somewhere in between those two poles. Some lean one way, some the other. Because of that, I think it's fair to say everyone experiences at least a little bit of jealousy. For some, it's minimal; for others, it's intense. It’s a spectrum, not a binary "yes or no" situation.

I agree with that; that's the ideal we should aim for, even if most of us land in the middle. However, my stance remains: overwhelming jealousy isn't proof of love—it's actually evidence of its absence. Anyone who feels it as their primary emotion should probably question their capacity to truly love.

But someone who truly LOVES, rather than just claims to, how could they ever feel jealousy? Love isn't about attachment or being possessive; it’s the polar opposite. It simply excludes jealousy entirely.

Laura Evans3 said:Look, if you don't want to participate—either actively or just lurking—then just hit "Unsubscribe" at the top and stop typing this website into your browser address bar. 🙂

This is pure cynicism. It's a waste of breath trying to explain why.

That headline caught my eye on the front page—it looked like a brand-new thread or one with a fresh post.

The title seemed intriguing enough, but I decided to skip it. After reading this play-by-play of how everything unfolded, I’m genuinely glad I stayed away.

What am I supposed to do? I can't stand this level of sadism, arrogance, and sheer disrespect.

Instead of looking in the mirror, they choose to attack someone who simply shared their private life in confidence. It’s nothing short of a betrayal.

Something interesting is unfolding over at Lonely Heart. I originally swung by to read some trashy drama, but now I’m hooked on the ongoing saga.

I've witnessed an absolute deluge of malice, envy, toxicity, and pure nerves... all coming from those "pitiful" former drama-seekers. First, they went after one forum member who wrote the best stories. The whole mob descended on him, claiming he was lying just because his writing was simply too good to be true.

Now, regarding this current mess—the main subject is actually pulling himself out of the gutter, better than any drama-seeker ever has, and in record time. Naturally, there's a wave of toxic rhetoric insisting he isn't doing any better, calling him a loser, and throwing fits about it. To make matters worse, it's all wrapped up in this facade of extreme concern and "worry." It’s obvious—it's nothing but pure projection.

Honestly, seeing someone get bullied into submission disgusts me even more than being targeted myself (at which point my "refined contempt" kicks in instantly). Of course, I stood up to these bullies in both instances—and wouldn't you know it, they couldn't wait to start picking on and insulting me. 😍

The moderators aren't helping either; they jump into threads and hand out bans to anyone with a different opinion.

Brilliant.

If anyone wanders in here, they’ll see exactly what I mean firsthand. A massive dose of intolerance. It's pathetic.

WTF?!? Can you not say something positive? What is the point of writing if not to vent, yet they choose to act out with such hypocrisy and perversion?