Posts by Drew Morgan

Jerry King11 said:Me? Is it just me, or does nobody actually know how to report a moderator? 😕
So, let me get this straight—you should never, ever challenge a moderator’s take because their word is final and they’re basically above the law?! 🙄(Especially if they happen to belong to the same clique. 🙄) In other words, is it perfectly fine for users to belittle you without consequence, while the Reddit rules just become optional whenever it suits them???

Yes, you hit the nail right on the head. You've only got 110 posts and you've already figured it out. Bravo. 👍

Michelle Alvarez8 said:Every single post you write to me...? 🤷 Give me something a little more challenging!

Oh, please. You're just making things up, much like Legion. I suppose asking you for an actual argument is a lost cause.

Michelle Alvarez8 said:Unlike you, I’m not going to strip someone of their right to see things their own way.

I honestly don't get why you're being so aggressive—trying to shut down my take on other people's posts by calling them stupid and insisting the problem is me. It's not like I have an issue with you, or anyone else on this forum. Not at all! Did I ever actually call out anything you wrote as nonsense just so you could try to get even? 🤷 Luckily, we're over in the Psychology subforum. 🙂

Aggressive?!? Where on earth are you seeing aggression here?

That isn't altruism; it's pure arrogance. You aren't fixing stupidity, so there is nothing to "correct" under the guise of being selfless.

The issue is your ego. As I said, it's an arrogance problem—meaning the flaw lies with you, not with the people you label as idiots just to fuel your own vanity.

There’s a fundamental flaw in your logic, which clearly fuels this arrogance of yours. I am not churning out "nonsense"; I am engaging in a debate. There is nothing toxic or mindless about that, especially since I have zero interest or desire to mock, provoke, or belittle anyone. I simply don't do it.

Michelle Alvarez8 said:Even if it were true, I honestly don't remember. My attention span is basically zero when it comes to stuff that doesn't matter—or frankly, just isn't interesting to me. So, I have zero clue if anyone is actually stalking me? And I definitely don't waste energy wondering "why." What I *do* remember is a certain crowd that you can practically beat into unconsciousness—mostly because they're too dim-witted to either give up or realize how clueless they really are. Honestly, it’s kind of perfect for those moments when I'm bored or just want to lean into whatever vibe someone already has about me.

I totally get where you're coming from—honestly, I've been dealing with this for years now. Dealing with certain crowds online just drives me up the wall; they love labeling me an idiot, a jerk, or some troll, you know? But here’s the real kicker—the funniest part is that most of those people are actually handing me all the ammunition themselves by posting such nonsense! They basically invite the mockery by being so ridiculous. Luckily, they're usually too dim to realize what's happening, so I always have someone to poke fun at. 😁

You're just being arrogant, Michelle Alvarez8, none of that other stuff. It's interesting why you even need this. To mock people? To "call out" their stupidity—why do you feel so entitled to do that?

Brenda Cooper3 said:Yeah, I know. My bad. But honestly? I have to hand it to you—respect. 👍 You handled that perfectly.

This actually happened to me on a different subforum. I won't say which one. Their entire argument was basically that because one user had been around longer and was "good at what they do," they must be right. Please. That’s just a logical fallacy, plain and simple. ☕

By the way, if anyone actually has something to say—tell me in my DMs! Mwahahahahha. 😂😂😂

Nevermind, you haven't become unlikable or anything because of that. It’s actually smart to reflect on things; everyone should, since introspection is how you grow.

Susan Lewis2 said:I’ve noticed that too, I suppose.
It isn't even particularly evident on this specific forum; I usually find myself browsing for advice regarding housing or perhaps something about a car rather than engaging deeply in these psychology threads, though I did observe a similar pattern on an American pet enthusiast forum recently.
I think I was somewhat naive to assume that a specialized community dedicated to people who love and own animals would be a sanctuary—a place to relax and share both successes and failures—but occasionally, those spaces seem to devolve into petty arguments, constant competition, sniping, and little displays of intellectual one-upmanship.

There are times when a user might present perfectly sound arguments, putting in a great deal of effort to explain their perspective, only to be summarily cast out, dismissed, or mocked simply because they aren't part of what I might call the "popular crowd." It seems there is often a clique on these forums that sticks together, reflexively defending one another in every single thread regardless of whether they are actually right or wrong. I imagine it can become quite exhausting for a person to deal with that kind of posturing; you get this nagging sensation that you constantly have to justify yourself, mostly because certain users have already decided to target you from the very beginning.
It frequently becomes a source of genuine frustration, which leads one to decide to just ignore the noise until those individuals move on to a different target, or perhaps one simply decides to slip away from the forum in silence, without making any sort of scene.

It's a paradox. That toxic tendency toward tribalism and forced groupthink is most rampant in that PDF file. It's pathetic.

The term "subabuse" is nonsense. It’s like calling a minor leak a flood; you can't just invent words to mask incompetence. kaže:
I only need one.Alone. What a massive mistake. I naively thought life didn't have to be a total disaster, and then—BAM! A brutal reality check.😵

Yeah, me too.

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Brenda Cooper3 said:Is this just a personal vendetta?
I’m curious—how does it feel when you realize someone is essentially stalking your threads just to drop snarky comments? They seem to be waiting around for every single thing you post, just so they can jump in and try to take you down a notch. Has anyone else dealt with this?
What is actually wrong with people like that? What kind of twisted hobby is it to fixate on someone, track their posts, and constantly tear them down when you don't even know them in real life and likely never will?
Could there be a connection to that psychological phenomenon where you can't stand someone in your actual life, so you project those traits onto a stranger online? You decide they remind you of that one person, and then you lash out at them as a way to vent all the pent-up frustration you've been suppressing from dealing with that person in reality—someone you're forced to tolerate far beyond your breaking point.
It happened to me once in a specific thread. I didn't like their posts or their perspective, and I realized I was subconsciously linking them to someone I know personally. I got so caught up in the urge to discredit them that I was practically hovering over my keyboard, waiting for their next post just so I could "put them in their place." Eventually, other users pointed out how aggressive I was being, and I had to admit I was overdoing it.
What are your thoughts on this? 😕

Yeah, it happened with you too—and two other people. As for the forum users? I’ve got a couple of moderators breathing down my neck like debt collectors.

That level of aggression and that specific way of communicating immediately triggers my "polite contempt" mode. It’s fine, though; I don't even let it get under my skin. It’s tedious, sure, but honestly? I'm over it.

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Brenda Cooper3 said:Is this just a personal vendetta?
I’m curious—how does it feel when you realize someone is essentially stalking your threads just to drop snarky comments? They seem to be waiting around for every single thing you post, just so they can jump in and try to take you down a notch. Has anyone else dealt with this?
What is actually wrong with people like that? What kind of twisted hobby is it to fixate on someone, track their posts, and constantly tear them down when you don't even know them in real life and likely never will?
Could there be a connection to that psychological phenomenon where you can't stand someone in your actual life, so you project those traits onto a stranger online? You decide they remind you of that one person, and then you lash out at them as a way to vent all the pent-up frustration you've been suppressing from dealing with that person in reality—someone you're forced to tolerate far beyond your breaking point.
It happened to me once in a specific thread. I didn't like their posts or their perspective, and I realized I was subconsciously linking them to someone I know personally. I got so caught up in the urge to discredit them that I was practically hovering over my keyboard, waiting for their next post just so I could "put them in their place." Eventually, other users pointed out how aggressive I was being, and I had to admit I was overdoing it.
What are your thoughts on this? 😕

You just handed me the answer in the next paragraph.

Brenda Cooper3 said:Is this just a personal vendetta?
I’m curious—how does it feel when you realize someone is essentially stalking your threads just to drop snarky comments? They seem to be waiting around for every single thing you post, just so they can jump in and try to take you down a notch. Has anyone else dealt with this?
What is actually wrong with people like that? What kind of twisted hobby is it to fixate on someone, track their posts, and constantly tear them down when you don't even know them in real life and likely never will?
Could there be a connection to that psychological phenomenon where you can't stand someone in your actual life, so you project those traits onto a stranger online? You decide they remind you of that one person, and then you lash out at them as a way to vent all the pent-up frustration you've been suppressing from dealing with that person in reality—someone you're forced to tolerate far beyond your breaking point.
It happened to me once in a specific thread. I didn't like their posts or their perspective, and I realized I was subconsciously linking them to someone I know personally. I got so caught up in the urge to discredit them that I was practically hovering over my keyboard, waiting for their next post just so I could "put them in their place." Eventually, other users pointed out how aggressive I was being, and I had to admit I was overdoing it.
What are your thoughts on this? 😕

Honestly, this just isn't happening for me. I’ve thought about it, and the answer is no. Legion tried to pin this on me, but that’s a total reach. His topics are actually pretty interesting, but when he starts peddling his "life recipes"—which anyone could do—I react to the advice itself, not to Legion. I don't even mind the guy, provided you can find the humor in his lectures.

Brenda Cooper3 said:Is this just a personal vendetta?
I’m curious—how does it feel when you realize someone is essentially stalking your threads just to drop snarky comments? They seem to be waiting around for every single thing you post, just so they can jump in and try to take you down a notch. Has anyone else dealt with this?
What is actually wrong with people like that? What kind of twisted hobby is it to fixate on someone, track their posts, and constantly tear them down when you don't even know them in real life and likely never will?
Could there be a connection to that psychological phenomenon where you can't stand someone in your actual life, so you project those traits onto a stranger online? You decide they remind you of that one person, and then you lash out at them as a way to vent all the pent-up frustration you've been suppressing from dealing with that person in reality—someone you're forced to tolerate far beyond your breaking point.
It happened to me once in a specific thread. I didn't like their posts or their perspective, and I realized I was subconsciously linking them to someone I know personally. I got so caught up in the urge to discredit them that I was practically hovering over my keyboard, waiting for their next post just so I could "put them in their place." Eventually, other users pointed out how aggressive I was being, and I had to admit I was overdoing it.
What are your thoughts on this? 😕

You asked me if it was possible for someone to be named Abraham, yet I noticed you questioning another user about whether a certain name was even plausible.

Your contribution to this discussion dropped to zero; all that remained was your sheer irritation and blatant frustration. I told you then: the issue isn't with Abraham, me, or anyone else in the lineup—the issue is you.

Looking at this thread, specifically that first paragraph, it's clear you're just projecting your own annoying habits onto everyone else.

Katrin’s obsession with shutting down threads without ever contributing a single useful or informative post makes me wish she would just vanish from this forum given her current authority.

She was the first moderator I encountered whose sheer incompetence left me appalled. Then came the even greater disasters that were Tyndall and Nexa. Pure incompetence, served up alongside a few other bitter pills.

redmarlin3 said:😲 Jesus Christ, I feel like nobody noticed that this is VISIBLE AGAIN after they've already hacked our moderator tools a few times already... 🙄

Thanks for the info, I'm going to go report this to the system admins. 🙂

It’s adorable how you're shocked about the hacking instead of being shocked by what you guys are actually posting there. Truly precious. 👍

Carol Thompson said:It IS possible to change one's sexual orientation. That isn't just my take on things—it's backed by scientific and professional consensus. Now, that doesn't mean every single person who wants to make that shift will succeed, but it is doable.
If you're living near Zillow, for instance, you could head over to Reebok; they have an excellent team of psychologists there, some of whom specialize specifically in matters of sexuality, orientation, and identity.
Plus, being in your adolescence actually works in your favor if you decide to pursue this path...

I see some people here claiming it's impossible. In my view, those folks are either uninformed, unprofessional, or simply biased.
The clinical reality is this: the DSM used to classify homosexuality as a deviation. Of course, that stance was abandoned long ago, and today's DSM-4 includes categories regarding "unspecified sexual disorders," which deal with "persistent and significant distress caused by one's own sexual orientation."
So, I'm not saying that's necessarily the case for axe_bobo, but he's the only one who can find out by sitting down with a specialist.

Good luck, axe_bobo, whatever you decide to do... 🙂

Look, these are two entirely different concepts to me:
1. Homosexuality being labeled a sexual deviation
2. Persistent and significant distress over one's sexual orientation

The goal is treating that distress, not flipping someone's orientation. Besides, you can't change orientation. It's a non-starter.

Do you actually have any scientific evidence proving such an undertaking works?

Forget calling FEMA; they need to start long-term psychotherapy instead.

placidwolf2 said:Thanks for the input. 😘 I get where you're coming from, and I've actually considered that possibility. Maybe I didn't make this clear enough, but when I fall for a woman, men basically cease to exist in my mind—I just don't perceive them anymore. 😕 It feels like an all-or-nothing situation for me; there isn't much middle ground. The real issue is what happens if I actually commit to a woman after having physical experiences with one. That pull is obsessive, yet at the same time, it absolutely terrifies me.

I know the general consensus is that sexual orientation mostly solidifies during adolescence, and back then, my feelings definitely leaned toward guys. That’s why I’m so conflicted. If anyone here knows the clinical take on this: is it actually possible to suddenly realize you're homosexual right as you're hitting thirty? When you're young, you just drift along without overthinking things like I am now. I'm scared to dive into something REAL that could completely overhaul my life, because part of me keeps telling me this is all just some temporary phase.🙄

Here is the reality: you accept yourself as gay, then you fall for a guy, and suddenly women aren't even on your radar anymore.

You sound bisexual to me; why pick a side? In my view, bisexual people have the most freedom when searching for a soulmate. It's the most advantageous position to be in.

Gary James88 said:Some people go through identity crises, so I assume there are cases where orientation shifts over a lifetime, though you could argue they were never "truly" gay to begin with, whatever that implies.

The scientific consensus is pretty much that once a sexual orientation is established, it doesn't change. There have been attempts by certain hardline religious groups to force that change, but the results were disastrous—mostly just leaving people more traumatized.

It’s interesting how 90% of the people pushing the idea that orientation can be altered are backed by some kind of religious faction.

That movie, Cocaine Nights, nailed it!

mellowtiger262 said:Sure, Drew Morgan, that would be the ideal scenario. But in that moment, you simply don't have the creative spark or the stamina left to play the adaptation game. All you want is to find the path of least resistance to let them know you just want some peace and quiet. Yeah, you'll probably regret it once things settle back to normal.

Obviously. Reacting purely on impulse during an extreme situation is human nature—it isn't a sign of a psychological disorder.

One shouldn't suppress their feelings. It might be better to send it at 3 PM, though I’d hate to do that since their intentions weren't actually bad. If possible, try communicating with them at their level of consciousness.

Jerry Martinez5 said:People who reacted like the OP end up in jail or a psych ward. Honestly, I hope she manages to avoid that. Usually, people see the light for the first time, even if the case actually goes to court.

No, bosses don't physically beat their employees. Sure, bosses harass employees in all sorts of ways and work them into the ground, but proving that in court is nearly impossible.

People who reacted like the OP failed to protect themselves. You need to defend yourself without resorting to violence. I get her frustration. But if you respond to frustration with violence, you're headed for jail or a mental institution. Sorry.

It's natural for people on this forum to have different views. But not about this. There is no excuse for physical violence. Okay, maybe there is: if the guy had hit her baby, I'd understand her hitting him back. I think even a judge would see it that way when deciding the sentence.

Unfortunately, you're wrong. Or maybe you aren't? Which makes it even worse. Sure, maybe victims of workplace bullying end up in jail instead of the bullies, but I know for a fact that a physical aggressor often walks away scot-free.

I don't need to explain what kind of circus this is...

In a circus like this, if someone breaks a nose, it’s still better than just being generally beaten or falling ill.

To the OP—if you can handle these types without breaking their noses, great. If not, oh well. They should be the ones seeking help, not you.

Exactly! She’d end up having a total mental breakdown because of those damn mosquitoes!