brightrider95 said:How? Simple! Just tune them out. 😁
I’m perfectly happy with myself, and frankly, I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks. It's happened a handful of times where people have made comments about my weight, but let's be real—it was always people who struggle with their own weight issues. They were preaching about slimming down back when they were in their "skinny phases" themselves. 😁
My absolute thinnest point was back when I was a vegetarian and walking two or three hours every single day. Physically, I wasn't even that different from how I am now, so I really don't see what more I'm supposed to do. 🤷
I wear clothes that make me feel good about myself. I try to find cuts that don't highlight my "problem areas," but honestly, I don't see why I shouldn't wear skirts, dresses, or even skinny jeans if I balance the rest of the outfit right. 🤷
Besides, if someone has a problem with it, they are more than welcome to just look the other way. 😁
Exactly 🙂 Honestly, if they want to laugh, let them. It’s probably just easier for them to deal with their own insecurities that way. 😛
It’s actually refreshing to see women who aren't built like fitness models and don't let it get to them, because frankly, they're a rare breed, and there’s zero reason to stress about it.
My weight is pretty evenly distributed, so I might look thinner than my actual scale number suggests, but I hold my own—and I’ve always received compliments rather than being mocked. These kinds of posts from people like above only serve to make insecure girls feel self-conscious for no reason, making them want to hide under oversized tents instead of just dressing well.
Most of my family tends to be a bit more sturdy, so why on earth would I get depressed just because I inherited those genes? I couldn't care less. I hope everyone else feels the same way, because we shouldn't pity the ones who become targets for jokes; we should pity the ones who actually let it get to them.😁
That is exactly what I was just thinking about... It’s like it isn't even enough that we get bombarded by the media every single day telling us we have to be skinny, tall, and basically perfect just to be considered "acceptable" by society. On top of all that, you have people who really should be fighting against those standards falling right into the trap themselves and voicing these kinds of opinions... Like, how are we supposed to ever feel happy with ourselves then? We can't. Period.
brightrider95 said:I usually rock size 16 jeans, mostly skinnies. I wouldn't call myself built like a supermodel or thin—I’m more on the curvy side—but honestly, they look great on me, and most people seem to agree. A friend of mine put it perfectly when we were talking about what girls who aren't a size 0 wear to stay trendy. I mentioned wanting to wear shorts and wondering why I wasn't thinner, and he just said that if I were any thinner, I wouldn't be nearly as cute.😬
Basically, there are plenty of women who carry their curves beautifully in modern fashion. Frekette (if I got that handle right) is a prime example of someone who handles criticism well, and I truly don't get why anyone would mock a girl like her instead of just seeing how adorable she is.
Nathan Baker said:Honestly, I didn't even have the heart to finish reading through all that clutter; I just caught sight of those same people popping up again, claiming they wear a size 14 or whatever, acting as if that’s somehow "fuller" by my standards, or pretending they don't shop at places like Target or Kohl's. I feel like I've said this a thousand times already—I'm not sure why it’s such a struggle to grasp, though perhaps my way of expressing things is just too convoluted for some. Why the sudden outburst? Just because I mentioned that plus-sized women shouldn't try to squeeze into little dresses because people will laugh? Well, I certainly would. They do laugh. People tell you an outfit looks great to your face, and then they snicker behind your back. And as for those who spend their time trying to convince themselves they aren't actually heavy and that everything fits perfectly... fine, go ahead. That isn't on me, and it certainly isn't a flaw in my reasoning, thank you very much. I don't wear that clothing; it’s worn by people struggling with deep insecurities, trying to force themselves into the same styles as their skinny friends. I'm not twenty years old, so there's no need to lecture me, especially not from the younger crowd who haven't yet navigated the nuances of a professional career. It’s frankly quite rude to call someone stupid or "disconnected from reality," because, frankly, I might be thinking the exact same thing about you, even if I’m too polite to type it out. I wasn't targeting anyone specifically, just speaking generally, so let's try to maintain a little decorum. I've lived enough life to see just about everything when it comes to how larger women dress, both through my university years and throughout my career. Rest assured, whenever a slightly heavier client walked into the office, the reaction from the crowd was always predictable. If a fuller-figured woman walked in wearing a tight little dress, you’d hear people—both men and women—muttering things like, "Did she really not look in a mirror before leaving the house?" So, there it is. Besides, the whole point of this forum is to offer advice on what to wear and where to find it, not to use the space as a platform for direct insults.
Honey, for someone who's 5'5", a size 12 is more than enough to be considered "full." If you think it's okay to mock people for that, then you're the one who needs to adjust and hide under oversized sacks. Personally? Not happening. And let's get one thing straight: you cannot tell me a 12 isn't a curvy size, because it is. Once you hit a 14 or 16, that's moving into "heavy" territory for me. As for how people react to curvy women in dresses? It's because people are narrow-minded and ignorant. Look at the girl on the blog—she doesn't look like she's being mocked; she looks like women like us are actually admiring how effortlessly she carries her curves. Since you decided to start this debate, you might as well see it through to the end.
When it comes to pants, I pretty much live in them all winter long—it’s just way more practical for me, you know? Although, lately, it feels like every pair I buy is somehow massive. I end up having to take them all to the tailor to get them taken in. Honestly, I don't know what the deal is with sizing these days, it's like they're making everything for giants!
Look, Sigurnost, I honestly think you’re totally missing the point here. Like, seriously, explain to me why anyone would laugh at someone wearing a skirt or a dress just because they're a size 14 or 16? If you feel limited by your body type or if you personally don't vibe with how you look, that doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way. I’m a size 12 myself, and yeah, sure, I have my moments where I’m staring in the mirror feeling less than perfect—we all do, right?—but I can tell you for a fact I’ve never dressed in a way that gave people a reason to mock me. If you’re sitting there feeling self-conscious, thinking everyone’s gonna stare and go, "Oh my god, what is she wearing?", just try it! You might realize you were being a little too hard on yourself. Obviously, a skirt or a dress can be styled with total class, or it can look like a complete disaster. But hey, a size 6 can pull off a total fashion fail just as easily as anyone else. I’m with Jason Moore63 on this one, too. Just throwing numbers around doesn't say much. A size 12 could be someone who carries it all in their midsection, or it could be someone with a really balanced, curvy figure depending on how tall they are.
Nathan Baker said:In your specific case, though, it clearly makes sense. Chicago isn't far for me, and I have a car. Plus, wandering through a mall is practically priceless to me 🤣. Besides, I don't even need to head into the city; there's a Target nearby where I can find plenty of what I need.
By the way, ladies, let's keep in mind we're talking about fashion for "plus-sized" women, because I see some dresses being mentioned here, and it feels a bit... well, okay, "plus-sized" is a broad term, I suppose... though, truthfully, nobody is likely to see me in a dress. Except maybe for sleepwear.
I don't get it. I usually rock a size 10 or 12 depending on the cut, and there is absolutely nothing on this green earth that could stop me from throwing on a dress, shorts, or a mini skirt. If anything, that's my go-to look most of the time because I feel like skirts and dresses just hit differently on me than pants do. We really shouldn't let a few extra pounds limit our style choices.😉
Just reaching out because I wanted to get some thoughts here before I head in to see my doctor tomorrow. 🙂 I just got my blood work back, and honestly, everything looks pretty much within the normal range—except for one thing. My eosinophils are running high, and my segmented granulocytes are looking a bit low. Any idea what that might be signaling? 🙂
Since we're all deep in this debate about drafts and air currents, I've got a bit of a head-scratcher for you guys. So, last Friday, I was cruising around in my car with all four windows rolled down while my hair was still soaking wet. To make things even more interesting—or maybe just worse—later that same evening, I decided to spray some fabric dye in an enclosed room. It had this incredibly pungent, nasty smell to it. Not long after, I started dealing with this massive headache, and honestly, it hasn't really let up since. It’s definitely eased up a little, but it's still lingering. I was pretty sure it was just the fumes from the spray, but now I'm wondering... is there any chance that being caught in a draft with wet hair could have triggered this? It’s been four days now and I'm still feeling it.
I totally hear you on the fact that way too many people hit up the doctor for absolutely nothing. Most of the time, it’s just folks who have a bit too much time on their hands—you know, those retirees who just want to get out of the house and make a little trip out of it by wandering through clinic hallways. No shade intended, they're just looking for something to do! But look, there's another side to this. If your stomach is acting up, it might feel exactly like mine does, but the root cause could be worlds apart. Just because I tell you about some remedy that worked wonders for me doesn't mean it'll do the trick for you. At the end of the day, I’m all for seeing a physician when things actually feel wrong, provided it’s a legitimate health issue and not just someone being bored 😁
^^ I honestly think everyone is overthinking this one. Like, where would we even be if we had to inspect, touch, and basically run a lab test on every single thing we ate or brushed our teeth with just to check for bacteria? If you try to live your entire life under a literal bubble to stay safe, you’re probably going to end up getting sick anyway because your immune system will basically forget how to do its job.
It’s one of those spots right near Chase Bank, just across from the local pub, if you know what I mean 🙂 I paid about $500 for my sewing because they provided all the fabric (it was silk, and let me tell you, we used a ton of it), plus they tend to bump up the price a bit since they're a high-end bridal boutique. I assume their other prices are in that same ballpark, though I wasn't really paying much attention to the rest of the dresses.
Oh my gosh, what a comment! 😲 I’ve honestly only ever shopped at Mrs. Nerri’s boutique over on Main Street. I mean, okay, I did get some sewing done there twice, but the owner is just such a sweetheart. She’s genuinely wonderful—she always went out of her way to give me advice on which colors would actually suit my skin tone and which cuts would make my figure look its best. In the end, she did an absolutely stellar job. 😍
Man, I totally feel you on that. Though, honestly, it didn't hit me until much later than a month or two. I’ve been rocking my gear from S'Oliver about three times a week for seven months now, and just recently, they've finally started to look a little sketchy and pull apart right along the seams.
Honestly, she caught me a little off guard—but in a good way, obviously! I wasn't exactly expecting her to go all out like that, but seriously, props to her. She looks incredible, and more importantly, she’s clearly got that massive wave of self-confidence. You can have all the designer gear in the world, but if you don't believe in yourself, it's basically just expensive rags. Way to go, girl! 🙂
Well, that’s a whole different beast right there, but honestly, you shouldn't go out of your way to attack someone just because they can afford to flex both their bank account and their physique. I totally get why it’s an issue, though. Like, for instance, I find some really cute stuff at H&M, but let me tell you—even their XL feels like a tight squeeze on me. And I'm not even talking about those high-end designer labels! But hey, you didn't say anything wrong, 😉.
steelwalker86 said:Of course, that's easy to say when you're buying Replay and other high-end brands. Some people simply don't have the budget for those labels. Regardless of the topic, you're constantly bragging about what you picked up at Replay or wherever else. I know you're a moderator, but give us a break. 😠
"I'd much rather head to a farmers market." A farmers market is also a terrible place, isn't it? Shame on you.
Sorry, but you really shouldn't be coming at them like that. If they have the budget to shop at Replay, that’s their business and it has zero impact on you. For example, I don't have the extra cash to dress in Diesel or Replay all day, but even if I went to a place like Walmart, I wouldn't wear anything from there even if they handed it to me for free. There are plenty of amazing, stylish pieces out there for those of us on a budget—you just have to know where to look. And since we have threads specifically for "What did you buy today?", please explain to me why someone isn't allowed to be excited about their new purchase?