Posts by mistyharbor15

Regarding MRIs, does anyone know if there's a required waiting period between scans? Specifically, is there any medical reason I couldn't have an MRI of my head and then an MRI of my spine within the same week?

Ronald Rogers27 said:I’ll try to address everyone’s thoughts here. My girlfriend has spent some serious time analyzing my @ve and concluded that I just don't "get" her. She’s convinced I’m completely misinterpreting her words, even when she thinks she's being perfectly clear and serious.

But if she’s being so incredibly sincere about herself, how am I supposed to make sense of this sentence: "Every single line brings me to a state on the verge of a nervous breakdown."

Think about it... A state on the verge of a nervous breakdown! What does that say about someone who starts sharing their deepest truths and then UNCONSCIOUSLY writes something like that about themselves?

It makes me wonder: what is still pushing her toward a total breakdown? Just think. Based on everything she’s written, there's no doubt she’s highly intelligent, strong, and actively working to overcome her weaknesses.

Can a person really move past their core flaws if every little struggle sends them right to the edge of a breakdown?🤷

I don't know. Like shadowtrucker18 said, maybe I am being selfish in how I look at this. I'm definitely not a narcissist, but I won't get sidetracked trying to prove that—it's not the point.

Two other things jump out at me from all this: she has a very short fuse in a relationship, and she sees the world in pretty black-and-white terms—though her education and upbringing probably mask that. At least, that's how it looks to me from a distance.

The whole reason I started this thread is to hear your take. Am I overthinking this? Is my intuition too aggressive or too fast when it comes to analyzing things and making decisions?🤷 🤷 🤷

Ronald Rogers27

When you meet someone new, it's nearly impossible to build a mental image from scratch. Usually, instead of learning who they actually are through interaction, we do the opposite. We build an imaginary version of them in our heads and then spend our time stripping away anything that doesn't fit that mold. We try to see what we expect to see based on our own biases, past experiences, and desires. To make matters worse, once we think we have someone figured out—even people we know well—we fall into the trap of thinking we can read anyone. But just because you know how a Golden Retriever acts doesn't mean you know how a Poodle will behave.😁

Specifically, when you latch onto her saying she gets "close to a nervous breakdown over wrinkles" (by the way, notice how you twisted her words—she said it brings her to a "state" of a breakdown, but you turned it into an active "it causes" a breakdown), the issue is you don't actually know her logic yet. As politicians would say, "the statement is being taken out of context."
Maybe her version of a "nervous breakdown" isn't the same as yours. For instance, I might say, "that stuff drives me nuts." Someone could assume I'm aggressive or impulsive, but they wouldn't truly understand me until they saw the bigger picture. Right now, they're just seeing what they expect to see.
Why didn't you interpret her comment about wrinkles as a moment of vulnerability? Like an unknown woman opening up to an unknown man, admitting she's a bit vain and afraid of getting old?🤷

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Also, everything Enchi wrote while typing faster than me.👍

Watched The Elephant Man on TV tonight. Forgot just how much of a gut punch that movie is...

redmarlin3 hit the nail on the head—seeing someone else stumble helps put your own mess into perspective. It might give you some temporary relief from your own issues, though there are no guarantees.

Taking joy in someone else's downfall is just a quick, petty burst of satisfaction when someone we think deserves a lesson finally catches up with them. It’s that "justice served" feeling. 😁
The issue is that this little high usually backfires. Eventually, you end up feeling ashamed for being such a jerk about it. Then, someone else might end up laughing at the mess you made by celebrating theirs... 🤷

feralhound55 said:We all deal with ups and downs... Don't fight it—if you're feeling low, just take some time for yourself. Think, cry, veg out, or whatever. It’ll pass much faster than if you try to put up a front and pretend everything is sunshine and rainbows. Honestly, I find it helpful—I actually enjoy a bit of self-pity sometimes. Once the tears subside, I feel refreshed, kind of like how everything looks after a summer rainstorm... clear, crisp, and exactly how it should be.

Solid approach.👍
I usually go with "rational introspection with a side of irony."😁 When the depression hits, I treat it like a guest dropping by. I'm genuinely curious about what kind of "gifts" it's bringing and what new things it'll reveal about me. At the same time, I can't help making fun of myself while I try to rationalize it all, basically grading my moods (like, "this one's a heavy hitter, but at least it's short-lived" or "really? this is the best we can do?"). Just trying to find the silver lining, I guess. 🙂

Started watching last week, hit about the eighth story. There’s honestly something for everyone here, though quality varies quite a bit depending on what kind of horror you actually like.

For me, H. P. Lovecraft's Dreams in The Witch-House worked because of that old-school vibe (even if the plot is predictable), along with Jennifer (disturbingly sexy😲) and John Carpenter's Cigarette Burns (The End of the World😁). Those were better than most.
I wasn't feeling Homecoming, felt like a dragged-out zombie satire, and Chocolate just wasted a great premise.

Overall, it’s decent. It just lacks a bit of guts—it doesn't really push any genre boundaries. It relies too much on shock value and gore😁.

I’ll take a side on Monsters, Inc.—mostly because Shrek feels like classic DreamWorks formulaic stuff to me: grab two massive comedy stars, one cute female lead, parody some fairy tales, throw in some action, wrap it up as a buddy-comedy rom-com, and boom—happy ending. People eat the popcorn, buy the shirts, make sequels, and everyone’s happy. It isn't bad per se, and honestly, the way Shrek pulled it off was top-tier. 👍

On the other hand, Monsters, Inc. might lack that immediate, loud appeal Shrek has (even with those big comedy names😁), but I found myself coming back to it more often. The world-building is just more imaginative, and the stories feel more interesting, leading to much better finales. Plus, there's a sense that this kind of magic only works in animation.

Bottom line: I see Shrek as a (very good) comedy featuring animated characters, while Monsters, Inc. is first and foremost a (very good) animated film.🙂

Stayed quiet over coffee.
Hung the curtains.

Andrew Reed11 said:Okay, I get what you mean, but since I'm basically a person with a borderline neurotic need to ramble about everything—including myself—I know I'll probably end up in the exact same spot again. It’s hard to suppress a part of your personality that's that much of a defining trait. Which is why jobs like being a professor or something similar actually suit me. But let me be clear: it isn't smart. Talking about intimate stuff at work? Not smart. Someone can be a chatterbox—and I definitely am, I'll talk your ear off about anything—but discussing private matters is just plain stupid. I actually had another situation happen recently where I talked too much to some guy about my messy relationship, and now we’ve basically gone at each other's throats. Honestly, I wouldn't even be shocked if he started spreading my business around. But what can you do? People are weak, and most of them are just snitches.

Some lessons stick, some don't, and some just never sink in. You're the professor; you know how the process works.😉

Andrew Reed11 said:Oh, honey. I used to think I was such an expert at reading people, too. Look, I am the literal poster child for getting way too attached to coworkers way too fast—I was basically doing that constantly back when I was sixteen. But seriously, how are you supposed to know after just a few days or a couple of months that someone is actually a solid person who would never use anything against you?

You can't ever be certain about that.🤷 (Honestly, most people who have hurt me were my inner circle, but that's just life.)
You just decide someone looks trustworthy, see some qualities that fit, and start opening up a little. It's a risk. That's how trust works.
Sometimes you mess up, sometimes you find a friend. Personally, finding a friend matters more than being wrong once in a while.
I agree with you on keeping work relationships surface-level, though. You can't be friends with everyone. But there's a difference between opening up to coworkers (no) and opening up to a friend you met at the office (yes).🙂

Andrew Reed11 said:I finally realized this after making the same mistake about thirty times. 😁 Maybe it was because I was lonely and looking for friendship in others, but at the end of the day, you can really only be a true friend to yourself; everyone else is there for their own benefit. Whether that benefit is material, spiritual, or emotional. I don't want this to sound like I'm suggesting people should just isolate themselves completely. That's not what I mean. But you absolutely cannot talk about private matters at work. It’s a one-way ticket to disaster! Especially when you're dealing with grown adults. They will use it against you the second you have a disagreement!

Better on the 30th attempt than never.🙂
Not saying it's a hard rule that you shouldn't get close to coworkers. You just have to be selective. Try to bond with colleagues outside of work if they actually fit your vibe. At the end of the day, these are the people we spend a third of our lives with, and it doesn't take long to figure out who's playing games and who's real.
Sean Cruz is right: work is work, and friends are friends. Be polite to everyone, but save your best for your inner circle.😉

Titanic 2 - watching Leonardo DiCaprio sink toward an alien underworld in Cameron's Abyss😁

But seriously, Miss America would make for a pretty interesting sequel🙂

Rebecca Sanders2 said:I’m with you on this—bronze feels way more rewarding. There’s a genuine sense of victory there that makes it easy to brush off a semifinal loss. It’s like when you miss out on the big championship game; you’re disappointed, sure, but suddenly that third-place trophy becomes the new mission. Once you lose the final and settle for silver, the momentum just evaporates. There isn't a second chance to prove anything the very next day.

At the end of the day, silver is just a letdown. It’s an emotional drain that doesn't feel like much of an achievement in the moment because it wasn't actually what you were fighting for in the first place.

Honestly, bronze feels like a Hollywood invention. Our hero loses everything, wins one last fight, and suddenly all his failures are erased and he's happy. But eventually, he'll realize he never even made the finals. He never truly had a shot at being the best. Bronze is just a consolation prize.

Silver is more realistic. You get the rush of victory, but you also feel the sting of being one step away from the dream. In the end, even if you felt like a loser at the moment, looking back, you can be proud because you actually had the chance to be number one. (That would be more like an indie film😁)

Quentin Tarantino

Sandra Parker3 said:I’d say she’s an undeniable success, both ways.

The only real difference is whether you had it handed to you on a silver platter or if you actually had to bleed for it.

"Silver" is just being served; "bronze" is something you have to earn through pure grit.

🤷 ☕

I get what you're saying.
I wouldn't say silver should just be handed out. You have to earn it through blood, sweat, and tears.
The bronze medal match is a rigged setup—it’s either the podium or nothing at all. If you don't take it, all that work goes unrecognized. Silver is different. It proves you earned your spot, regardless of how that last loss went down.

Sandra Parker3 said:Alright, let’s get serious for a second.

I’d take bronze over silver any day.

It all comes down to how you feel at the finish line. Both count as success, sure, but...
Silver feels like you just showed up and got lucky.
Bronze feels like you actually earned it after grinding.

So, what works better for you?
Getting there for free, or putting in the work to make it happen? Personally, I'm all about the hustle.

When you talk about that final feeling, aren't you thinking that winning silver just leaves you feeling disappointed and sad about losing? To me, that sadness comes first, then the satisfaction follows.

That sense of achievement for the "silver medalist" kicks in right after they win the match that gets them to the finals. They already secured bronze, they secured silver, and now they're chasing more.
The loser is left with an extra day of anxiety, worrying they might even miss out on bronze. It’s because they didn't push hard enough to reach the finals (or maybe they did give it their all, but it still wasn't enough), whereas the silver medalist was the one who actually put in the work in that moment.

Sandra Parker3 said:You’re going to have to come up with something better than that... a win is a win. 😁

Quincy:

Silver stands on its own, while bronze is just playing catch-up. It’s just right. It’s all just a matter of variation.

Ima More. It’s happening again. 😂 There are all sorts of different bronze alloys out there, depending on what you actually need them for. 😁

And as a final point...

And as the final nail in the coffin:


PS: 😁

Exactly. Silver and gold winners still beat out whoever took bronze or nothing at all.

Sandra Parker3 said:You’re going to have to come up with something better than that... a win is a win. 😁

Quincy:

Silver stands on its own, while bronze is just playing catch-up. It’s just right. It’s all just a matter of variation.

Ima More. It’s happening again. 😂 There are all sorts of different bronze alloys out there, depending on what you actually need them for. 😁

And as a final point...

And as the final nail in the coffin:


PS: 😁

If we're going there, marble is better. 🙂

PS: That song is terrible. 😁

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfbMfM7BqTE😉

Anthony Kim18 said:But hey, it was just the last one, right?
You leave the field a loser. What a bummer, right?
You leave the field feeling crushed—because even if you didn't count on a win, you still had hope, right?

Losing always sucks, no matter when it happens. The bronze medalists left the field disappointed yesterday, and the silver medalists will be just as disappointed tomorrow.

But to grab silver, you have to win the semifinal. You have to be a step above the guys fighting for third place. That’s why silver carries more weight.
Besides, look at France back in '98. What would we give if we hadn't lost and actually played in the big World Cup final? (Man, it still stings thinking about how we were basically in the final for a minute before that one lost ball changed everything...😢)

Yeah, Donald Trump's win was just taken out of context.😁 When you look at the context, it’s clear Donald Trump is the better choice. Losers..
Silver's smaller than most. To the winners..

Sandra Parker3 said:🤷

Silver means you missed your mark, and bronze is just a consolation prize.

Silver is a missed goal, whereas bronze is an achieved goal.

Bronze is just some cheap alloy, but silver is actually a precious metal.

Bronze is 1 + 1 ... options
Silver is just 1 ... boring

😁

Silver is self-sufficient. Donald Trump is dependent on the right variation.

And as the final straw— I can't watch videos directly. Paste the transcript or give me a summary if you want my take on it.
Nobody’s singing Trump songs.😁

Sandra Parker3 said:You've got it wrong 😉

Bronze is a win; silver is a loss.
Bronze means you hit the mark, while silver means you missed.
Bronze is warm, silver is cold.

And one more thing:

since 3 is greater than 2, I'm going with bronze 😁

Donald Trump is winning among losers; silver is the loser's version of winning.
Silver means you overshot; bronze is just the consolation prize.
Bronze is just some alloy; silver is a precious metal.
😁

Megan White4 said:Storms build. That’s how you reach victory.
Silver is often won through loss. 😬

Technically, you still win your way to silver—in the semifinals.😁