It honestly bugs me when someone provides a service for free and then expects a mountain of gratitude in return. If I decide to help out without charging, it’s because it makes *me* feel good—it's a selfish act intended to satisfy my own need to feel like a decent person. I don't need any thanks. Don't get me wrong, I'm perfectly happy being grateful when others help me, but that expectation of a formal thank-you feels even more annoying than if I had just been billed for the service.
Maybe wait until things cool down before bringing it up again. Wait out that one day of silence when he’s acting like everything is perfectly fine. Don't approach this while you're still feeling angry or frustrated. Once you both have some calm, sit him down and explain the consequences if this behavior continues. Right now, his logic is probably just, "Well, he yelled, then I yelled, so we're even." It's all just noise to him. But when he thinks the storm has passed and you hit him with a serious "we need to talk," he might actually grasp the gravity of the situation.
If that doesn't work, your best move is likely to physically distance yourself and your family—assuming you have that option.
rustydrifter10 said:Who exactly said it was "better"? And honestly, what does it even mean to suggest this is just some kind of "payback time"? Look, abuse is abuse, plain and simple, regardless of who is doing the hurting and who is being hurt.
People constantly backtrack, claiming things used to be different or "better" back then. It wasn't better—it was just different.
As if kids were better raised in the past. They weren't better raised; they were just too terrified to act out because you could easily get a beating from a teacher.
There was a time when teachers could discipline students without any pushback. Why is that better than the current reality, where students often turn the tables on their instructors?
I assume you're waiting on an expert to break down the pros and cons for you. Since I happen to be online, I’ll just say this: I’ve decided against it. Even though she’s just starting first grade, I still have until the seventh to change my mind. I went back and forth on it for a little while, but ultimately, the answer is no.
slytinker36 said:I’m surprised no one else has mentioned how hemo-ex stains clothes—it definitely seeps through two layers of fabric. Since it uses essential oils, it's greasy and incredibly hard to wash out. I barely managed to get it out of my jeans, but it's impossible with sweatpants, even after multiple washes. Just a heads-up! I should have used a thicker liner under my underwear, but I realized that too late.
Reading all this makes me think having more kids might actually be a good idea. I was never particularly worried growing up because I had an older sister by my side. Plus, we were used to being home alone at night quite often while our parents worked the graveyard shift.
Regarding the academic gaps, I’ve heard from people at our local elementary school that one daytime teacher is absolutely terrible—though I haven't met her personally—while the other is just a little less awful. It seems like everything kids go through in those first four grades depends entirely on which teacher they end up with.
Personally, I think the preschool teachers are going to be a bigger factor than any physical development.
To be honest, I’m pretty nervous about her being out on the road. We don't really rely on public transit, and she isn't typically walking around by herself much. Because of that, I've started sending her to the local corner store alone just so she can get some practice navigating traffic before school starts.
Also, that feels like way too long of a stretch. There's a big difference between her being home alone for thirty minutes versus being gone from 11:00 AM to 5:00 PM. That seems excessive to me. I never leave her alone for that kind of duration; usually, it's just while I run a quick errand to the grocery store.
It’s not that I don't think she could handle it—she definitely could. It's just that since we haven't practiced this, I'm worried.
Sure, an after-school program can help them practice their homework. But how can anyone teach them better than their own parents? It’s not the same thing as one-on-one attention versus a group of twenty-five kids. Plus, landing a truly great teacher at an after-school center is honestly just pure luck.😢 It feels pretty heartbreaking to me when kids who have other options are stuck in after-school care just because someone else has to teach them how to finish their assignments.
On the flip side, it's also sad that some schools don't offer any daycare services for children whose parents can't arrange childcare during the day. I can't imagine being a first grader, taking the city bus home alone, unlocking the house, and trying to heat up a snack by myself. Just sitting there waiting until 4:00 or 5:00 PM all by myself.
Though, I did actually do that growing up, and I had a blast—it made me feel so grown up.
Afterschool care is definitely a necessary evil, and honestly, anyone should avoid it if they have any other option. It really should be reserved for parents who truly have nowhere else to leave their kids.
I know plenty of parents who enroll their children in afterschool programs—even when grandparents are perfectly available to babysit—just so someone else can handle the homework and spare them the stress at home. If a kid is already learning all day at school, they should finish their homework at home with their parents. Afterschool time should be for watching TV, playing games, or hanging out at the park.
Ideally, schools would just provide showers too, so parents wouldn't have to worry about anything at all. Being in school all day is exhausting enough—and trust me, even as an adult, being at the office all day is a grind. Personally, I’d ban homework during afterschool hours and make it 100% playtime instead.
Gosh, getting chlamydia from someone? I could see catching HPV by accident, but chlamydia🙂...
Like Silverstein said, it could definitely come from a previous partner (no matter how long ago that was). But if he’s out here claiming you're his one and only partner in his entire life....
Personally, I’d go for it. If the increase in G-force is really what the research says, I definitely want to experience that. Besides, what else is there to spend money on? Fast fashion? If I had the cash and knew for sure it was safe and effective, I’d try it in a heartbeat.
I honestly don't get why everyone finds this thread so funny. I'm just looking for someone who actually has first-hand experience to weigh in. I'm genuinely curious.
Are you all seriously saying you wouldn't spend a few bucks to enhance your sex life?
And please, spare me the "my partner is amazing and our sex life is already perfect" responses. We're talking about a scenario where someone is practically guaranteeing an even better experience.
cosmicwolf27 said:Hmm... I just can't get behind those "natural" pads.🤣 My flow is heavy, and Honestly, Always is the only thing that actually works for me.🤷 They’re the only ones that stay put; with any other brand, I always end up with leaks on the side.
Look, if you're just staying in during the winter, you could try switching to natural brands at home. That's how I used to manage—natural products for cozy days inside, and the reliable stuff when I was out.😁.
You can find pads labeled as 100% cotton. In most regular grocery stores, you'll mostly see brands like Always or Stayfree, though you can also find them at pharmacies if you don't mind paying a bit more.
Cotton is definitely the healthier choice for you, even if they aren't quite as easy to find on the go.
mistymaker8 said:How many of you have tried to play doctor and self-diagnose instead of actually seeing a professional?
I haven't had a checkup in two and a half years. I'm just waiting for things to clear up on their own😁. I hate guessing which doctor to see, so I'll head in once I find someone highly recommended .
Over the last two months, I’ve been getting this discharge quite often—sometimes dark red, sometimes pink. It looks exactly like my ovulation mucus (that "stretchy" kind, right?). I’ve had a Mirena IUD for about five months now, so I’m wondering if there might be a connection there? It doesn't feel like typical ovulation spotting since that usually looks more like brown blood; this is definitely that stretchy texture, just always colored. Plus, it isn't just lasting a few days during my cycle; it keeps happening constantly (my last cycle was actually around 50 days). Could it be some kind of inflammation? My last Pap smear showed ASCUS with suspicion of CIN1 back in September, and I have my next appointment scheduled for this coming month. I mean, it can't just be ovulation occurring all the time 😕. Or could that stretchy consistency come from something else entirely? Confused.