Posts by Alex Thomas27

rustydrifter10 said:Even if they're obsessing over which champagne to use for the christening or what kind of dock they need—technical stuff that has nothing to do with religion—I can't even wrap my head around it because I don't exactly own a yacht for a ceremony.😁

Well, if they want champagne, tell them to check out the Gastronom section. If they're worried about docks, they can head over to Tourism, Recreation, or maybe just look at some coastal real estate listings.

What kind of technical questions about a christening have absolutely nothing to do with religion?

loneraven25 said:...look, Alex Thomas27, don't get mad at me, but where do you suggest
I move the thread about smashing cars or boats..?
...it definitely doesn't belong in the religion section...

Fair point. Especially if it's a priest blessing a boat rather than just a bunch of guys on a bender.

rustydrifter10 said:If you're a parent looking into baptisms and have all those logistical questions, you'll probably get more practical help from other parents who've actually been through it. It makes sense to keep this discussion over on the Parents & Kids board.

Or, you know, just ask a priest who’s actually trained for it.

loneraven25 said:...a thread gets locked if the OP explicitly asks for it—provided they’ve actually gotten the answers they were looking for. It makes zero sense to keep dragging out a conversation once the point is made.
Threads also get shut down if they violate site rules or subforum guidelines, if moderators need a moment to scrub out spam,
or if there's actual evidence of illegal activity being posted, rather than just some random reader making accusations...

Discussions about baptisms don't belong here in the Lounge; they belong in the Religion section. Let's move this over there.

rustydrifter10 said:Choosing a maid of honor, picking out gifts, deciding on an outfit, figuring out the budget, or even just selecting the right cake... most people aren't obsessing over religious rites; they're worrying about the logistics. This thread isn't getting locked or moved.

1) Being a godparent has nothing to do with having kids; it’s about which people actually fit the parents' vibe.

2) Women's corner

3) Gastronom

4) Clothing, footwear, and sporting goods outlets

Emily Fowler52 said:Look, in the USA, circumcision isn't some religious ritual performed by a priest, rabbi, imam, or even a village shaman followed by a celebratory dinner at a restaurant.
It’s a surgical procedure done in a hospital.
So, the discussion belongs in its proper place.

If this were a thread about religious circumcision in the Playground section, you’d just get:
a) moral grandstanding, bickering, and trolling
b) a few comments from moms who chose the procedure for religious reasons
c) posts about medical reasons why someone opted for the surgery.

We definitely don't need that first part.
As for the second part, the Religion subforum is much more appropriate; you'd actually get the answers you're looking for, faster and with better quality.
For the third part, there's already a dedicated thread.

Then why is there a thread about baptisms on that PDF?

Fine. A thread about circumcision doesn't belong there.

But neither does baptism. Because that's a topic about religious customs.

If those moms wanted to talk about baby clothes and restaurants, they should head over to the kids' fashion and food threads.

We’re talking about traditions here. It's basically the same thing as that whole discussion on baptisms—they're vibrating on the exact same wavelength.

hiddenmoose16 said:maybe because baptism is basically just "playtime" compared to circumcision🤷

But both topics share a common thread: religious customs. Shouldn't they be treated the same way?

For example, this topic definitely isn't "playtime":

But regardless, it doesn't seem to matter on Igaonica.

Besides, circumcision is a routine procedure; back when people were doing it here in the States, I never heard of any major issues.

I started a thread about circumcision over on the Igaonica subforum, but Simple file shut it down immediately. When I asked why it was being closed despite being tied to religious customs, they just told me to move it over to the Religion section instead.

The circumcision thread:

It honestly confuses me why topics related to religion are allowed in this subforum at all:

Like infant baptism:

I’m just looking for some consistency here. Either both threads get closed, both get moved, or both stay open. I just want them to be treated the same way.

stormymoose12 said:I truly believe that certain names can leave lasting psychological scars on a child. There is a certain trend where parents try far too hard to be unique, often resulting in eccentricity. For instance, I know a woman who chose an African American name for her child—something along the lines of Shaniqu.
My former professor once gave her son a name composed entirely of four distinct historical figures.

I recall reading somewhere about the naming conventions used by famous American singers; one individual actually named his son Inspector Pilot.

The list of such absurdities is quite extensive.

It seems to me that children burdened with peculiar names likely face constant discomfort during introductions, as peers tend to stare blankly or demand clarification. These social interactions rarely follow a standard path, which may ultimately foster a sense of anxiety in every new encounter.

And that is to say nothing of the inevitable teasing and mockery they must endure.

Yeah, exactly. Tarik Filipović definitely shows signs of anxiety. 🙄

The poll results are actually kind of interesting:

11 people think a name can be traumatic
6 think names don't cause any trauma at all
9 believe foreign names specifically trigger trauma. I should mention they picked this option after I pointed out that, by definition, a foreign name would definitely qualify as causing trauma
20 feel that whether a name causes trauma really just depends on the specific name itself

Since this was a multiple-choice poll, these conclusions aren't necessarily gospel truth.

It seems like everyone on this forum thinks names can be traumatic, but that it's all pretty subjective depending on which name you're talking about.

I'm still wondering if this is actually representative of the whole US.

Chris Williams said:So, you end up having this bizarre name that caused people to mock you—you even mentioned they hated you—and now, when faced with an endless selection of cute, charming, or cool names you could choose for yourself, you decide to go with rowdytiger8.🙂

Changing subjects—any kind of teasing during childhood (whether it’s about a name, glasses, weight, braces, skin tone, or even something as minor as birthmarks) can certainly cause pain, humiliation, or a sense of inadequacy in a child. For some reason, young kids can be quite cruel, especially toward those who seem different, which leads to all sorts of issues. But I suppose it is difficult to claim that someone became neurotic solely because of that. I say that tentatively, because I guess creating a true childhood trauma usually requires underlying family dysfunction or significant life events that leave much deeper scars. Mockery over a name isn't really something that would inflict a wound deep enough to be classified as a trauma.

However, as Eric Berne noted—and someone did mention him earlier—a strange name can definitely be one of the factors in shaping identity, forming conclusions about who we are and how we should behave, determining our place in the world, and ultimately influencing how we construct what he calls our life "script."

To illustrate, I wonder what kind of person someone becomes if their father named them Los Angeles Angels? A die-hard sports fanatic, I imagine.

That’s exactly why I started this thread. People seem convinced that a name alone causes trauma, so I wanted to clear things up by talking to people who actually know what they're talking about.

William Collins11 said:Uh... absolutely. I actually have two names—my first one is a common American word that also happens to be the name of a major appliance manufacturer. Back in seventh grade, kids used to give me a hard time constantly; they’d call me Dishwasher or Toaster and things like that. My second name is much more international—it's recognized everywhere.

You get through it. Though it can be pretty exhausting.

Nowadays, I actually like my name and wouldn't change it for anything.

Nicole Foster71 said:I actually voted for the "it depends on the name" side of things—for instance, my own name used to be quite rare and unconventional (certainly not something common like Sarah), yet I never dealt with any teasing because people genuinely found it interesting. Fast forward to today, and my name has become pretty mainstream; you see so many little girls being given it now. On the flip side, my sister has an unusual name too, but she absolutely loathed it growing up. She doesn't hate it as much as she used to, but back then, she was constantly grumbling, "Why do you get such a cool name while mine is so ugly?"

Nicholas Cruz7 said:I’ve got a name that is genuinely out there; I think I’ve only ever run into four other women in all of America with this name—and I actually know two of them
but they all pronounce it differently than I do, using an 's' instead of a 'c'

It isn't the name itself that causes trauma, it’s just the idiots who feel the need to mock everyone else.

Maybe there’s a bit of that Eric Berne theory at play here—my parents probably didn't grasp the full context behind why they chose it, they likely just heard the "lite" version of the story,
but honestly, everything in my life has turned out to be more unconventional than anyone I’ve ever met anyway.

I used to absolutely loathe my name when I was a kid; back when I was around thirteen or fourteen, I seriously wanted to just walk away from it all. And then you have the morons who still ask me today, "Is that really your real name?"—no, it's actually the name of a skyscraper.

rowdypanther13 said:It really depends on the name, though trauma doesn't just stop at childhood. I have a short, peculiar name, and back in school, the teasing nearly drove me insane. It doesn't even mean anything specific, yet kids possess such a cruel imagination. There was a time when I absolutely loathed my name, but I’ve grown to be quite proud of it now. Even today, whenever I meet someone new, they often ask if it's actually my real name. I once had a girl ask if she could just call me Maya, for reasons entirely unknown to me.
There are certainly ridiculous names out there these days, but you don't need a nonsensical name to deal with trauma from peers or adults.

I actually really appreciate hearing these perspectives.

Dennis Bailey2 said:Here's a classic one:

There's a street in Cleveland called Brother Butt Street. 😬
And there are quite a few people sharing that last name, too. 😬

Alright, fine, I’ll admit it—this is a bit off-topic. And let's be honest, it's not even about the name... 🤣

Not really. A last name is part of your name.

I’m curious to get a psychological perspective on this.

A psychiatrist out in rural Alabama is actually claiming that patients with mental health issues should be kept in the dark if they get diagnosed with cancer.

Honestly, who’s the crazy one here? Doesn't a patient have the basic right to know their own medical reality?

What would you guys do if you were stuck in that position? Say you're a nurse or a doctor and you're legally or ethically obligated to break that news to someone with a mental illness?

I stopped drinking milk three days before my period started, and the cramps were barely noticeable—like, just a tiny bit of discomfort for maybe ten minutes. Usually, the pain is bad enough that I actually have to skip class.
That was just last cycle, so it’s happened once, but we’ll see if it works again this time around.

It might just be a thing for me, and it probably won't work for everyone, but there are likely other girls out there who haven't tried this yet and might find some relief.

It's listed under "alternative options."

neonnomad18 said:..and in most cases, it really comes down to the male factor... regardless of whether he's older or younger, if his sperm count is low... I don't think age is even a huge deal this year since even the younger guys have issues—you know, that whole "pampered generation" problem...

It definitely matters. It’s just that men have a much longer runway, whereas women have a much tighter window. For example, a man can theoretically have kids until he's 80, while for a woman, it's more like 50—assuming we're talking about doing things naturally without any IVF or medical assistance.

As people get older, you start seeing more issues with conception and various health risks for the kids, but for men, that usually kicks in after 55, while for women, it's after 40.

Oh, and there's also partial infertility. Not every couple struggling to conceive is stuck that way forever; some actually end up having more kids quite naturally later on.

Just asking a quick question here—not looking to change my handle just yet.

I was wondering if it's possible for me to go by Alex Thomas27

Why wouldn't I be able to? 🙂

My bad, I was actually thinking about the post count. 🤦

So, just to clarify, once a thread hits 10,000 posts, it’s supposed to be locked, right?