Good luck to anyone who loses their mind early... (chat)

Chloe Cooper10 said:Go ahead and tear him apart; it’ll probably have more impact than anything else 😉

I'd be happy to.
It was crystal clear that his girlfriend wasn't feeling it and that he was failing to meet certain standards, yet he chose to double down on his mistakes instead of listening. Now, predictably, he's crawling all over this forum playing the victim. 🙄

jebiga, there's no use crying about it after the fact. 🙂

Live life to the fullest!
https://www.bebamur.com/blog/oso-zivot-je-kosmicka-sala

Who actually fell in love? Let me give you one piece of advice 🙂
Just get outta here, man🙂

Scott Nguyen5 said:That is nothing more than your own subjective, rather intolerant, and frankly incomprehensible opinion. 😛

One ought to understand the reasons why people cross certain lines, not just the mechanics of how they did it; that is what actual understanding entails.

Incomprehensible to you, perhaps.
If you want an example of mine?
He struck me at my most vulnerable point, knowing full well it would cause me to unravel.
I endured significant childhood trauma and required years to recover from it, only to be accused by someone of lying about the experience.
In that exact moment, all communication was terminated. I have zero interest in apologies or excuses.

And this was his doing as well—he struck where he had no right to, and where he absolutely should not have.

Scott Nguyen5 said:That’s just your subjective, pretty intolerant, and honestly nonsensical take.

You have to understand *why* people cross the line, not just how they did it—that's what actual empathy looks like...

What you're describing is just pure love—the kind where you say "I love you" and "I'll forgive anything." It's unconditional love, plain and simple. Whether it's for your own kid, your parents, or your partner. Just pure love.

Morgan Campbell4 said:Nothing, I'm an idiot and I'm stupid, but I want to change because I actually give a damn about her. I'm falling for her, and it’s been a long time since I was with someone where I could honestly say I felt happy. Today I hurt her—it wasn't on purpose, but it still sucks and I care. 😞

That mindset is exactly how you'll keep her👍

How's the response looking for yesterday's ad here in the States? Anyone actually reaching out? 🍿

Amanda Scott63 said:That’s what you call unconditional love. It’s pure devotion—toward your kids, your parents, or your partner. Just straight-up love.

Personally, I think "love" is a bit of an overrated concept... mostly because it's tied to so many moving parts.
Maybe it needs a prefix or a suffix to be accurate. 🤔

Chloe Cooper10 said:I feel like "love" is such an overrated concept... mostly because it’s tied up in so many different variables.
Maybe we need some kind of prefix or suffix to actually define it properly 🤔

Nope. Love is love. Adding prefixes or suffixes is just a way of making compromises. That’s exactly why it’s so damn hard—trying to love someone without any fine print or conditions attached.
🙂

Amanda Scott63 said:Not quite. Love is just love. Adding prefixes or suffixes is just making compromises. That’s why loving someone without any caveats is such a mess.
🙂

Fair point when you're talking about a person... but I meant that grouping things together is a mistake.
Loving a sport, a book, or a friend... the intensity and the fallout when those feelings start to fade just aren't the same thing. 🙂

Honestly, I truly believe you find more luck in life when you just start heading in completely opposite directions. Why not just face your worries with a big smile?

Kimberly Perez19 said:There are certain lines you simply do not cross—certain boundaries that, once breached, render any attempt at an apology completely moot. Some things are sacred, or at least, they should be. If those unspoken rules are violated, there is no point in talking about "making amends" or trying to pivot back to a polite, civil conversation. The damage is absolute.

As the old saying goes— only fools and corpses never change their minds 👍

Kimberly Perez19 said:I don't get you.
Want my example?
He hit me right where I'm most vulnerable, knowing full well it would break me.
I dealt with some nasty childhood trauma and it took years to recover. Then someone actually had the nerve to call me a liar.
That was it. Conversation over. I have zero interest in apologies or excuses.

And he poked at the exact same spot he wasn't supposed to.

Your personal baggage isn't anyone else's responsibility to carry.

Amanda Scott63 said:That’s what love is. It's saying "I love you and I'll forgive anything." Total unconditional love. For your kids, your parents, your partner. Just love.

No, it isn't. Love is just a strong feeling of attachment.
Tolerance and understanding come from being rational, not from feelings.

Hey, this group is actually insane.

horadic_cube said:Let me know when someone dies so I can congratulate you.☕

Death doesn't phase me. It's just part of life, so why would it be traumatic? Does breathing traumatize you?

Seriously, what is going on with this chat? ☕

They're my friends, why are you even asking? 🙂I actually like them, and I've been here longer than anyone else 🙂

Scott Nguyen5 said:Man, this place is a straight-up circus.

Jesse Howard43 said:What the hell is this chat even doing? ☕

You guys even here? ☕

Scott Nguyen5 said:Your struggle with your own past traumas isn't anyone else's burden to carry.

Love is simply an intense feeling of attachment.
Tolerance and understanding are matters of intellect, not emotion.

Fine, I agree that managing my own trauma isn't anyone else's responsibility. However, when someone chooses to disrespect those traumas, it serves as a direct reflection of their lack of character and a total absence of respect toward me. I am under no obligation to endure that. In those moments, my empathy evaporates. One has to wonder, where was the empathy from the other side?

It honestly irritates me to hear this constant preaching about empty empathy—this idea that I should just accept an apology and move on with a smile while the other person gets to tear me down whenever they feel like it, only to offer a hollow apology later to clear their conscience.
Forget that, and forget this concept of unconditional love. That isn't love; it’s just self-degradation. 🤮

That would be my two cents; Kimberly Perez19 is over and out. 👋

Hannah Rodriguez said:Is anyone actually hanging out here right now? ☕

No. 😳

Scott Nguyen5 said:Seriously though, this whole thread is just one massive, unhinged circus.

Death isn't some big scary thing that hits you out of nowhere; it’s just a fundamental part of being alive. Why on earth would anyone call that a "traumatic experience"? Does breathing traumatize you?

Breathing is what keeps you alive, so stopping it is definitely a problem. You want me to strangle you a little bit before I ask for your opinion?

Let’s move on from that topic. There are far too many new faces around here now. It's a bit much, frankly. :/