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Morgan Newman7 said:It works if people are down for it, and obviously, even better when they actually find someone they want to be with.
Ideally, hitting those milestones by thirty is great—you get your career, kids, and everything else sorted. By the time you hit your 40s, the kids are older, you've got more freedom, and you still have enough energy to chase after grandkids.
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Every stage of life has its own merits.
If you settle down earlier, managing kids will be easier since you'll have more physical stamina.
If you wait until later, you should at least have more life experience. 😁
For me, getting married at 30 felt just right. 😁
Gerald Gomez43 said:Hitting my thirties
That’s how it felt to me, too.
Before that, you need a solid relationship lasting a few years, and through your late twenties, you can really enjoy living life to the fullest—especially those first few years after finishing college. 😁
Jason Jones40 said:Once you finish school—I finished at 24—you really ought to enjoy yourself for at least five years. That was my experience with my ex-husband. After college, we were out hitting concerts, going on weekend trips, and skiing all over the place until we finally got burnt out and decided we wanted to settle down and start a family.🍿
For me, the sweet spot for marriage is around 30. That’s when I did it, and it worked out fine.☕
However, looking back on my marriage now, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. Relationships aren't always meant to be forever. If you're with someone, you should stay because you want to, not because you signed some legal document with the government thinking it acts as some kind of guarantee for love. Give me a break! 🐔 Once someone starts acting entitled, they know they have you in their grip just because of that paperwork.
If I ever do it again, we won't be signing anything. We'll just head to a beach and exchange vows privately. No crowds, just the sound of the waves, sand under our feet, the sky, and the seagulls as our witnesses. We'll love each other for as long as our love lasts.🙂
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Ashley Vaughn79 said:I feel the same way about this idea. It really hits home now that I'm in my 40s and the kids are grown and independent; it stems from the fact that they didn't have those wild experiences in their 20s, so now, in their 40s, they don't even have a clear sense of what they actually missed out on. 😁
Yeah, sure, you can still stay up until dawn in your 40s, but it just doesn't carry the same weight as it did back in your 20s. 😁
Every phase of life serves a purpose.
I have a colleague at work who hit a bit of a rough patch back during his college years—spent a good chunk of his early twenties essentially stuck in the trenches of diaper duty 😁
sad he’s absolutely killing it.
You can always make up for lost time—often ending up even further ahead than you originally planned 😁
