bluewalker33
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joined Feb 2010
People who are deaf rely on visuals, so they can pick up anything. Honestly, I think they learn way more than blind people do because sight is such a bigger loss; at least those who are deaf can still see letters, so you can make up for the communication gap...
There’s this girl in my college class who lost her hearing after surgery, and it even left her face pretty disfigured. She avoids everyone because she knows how people act, and she's ashamed of everything that happened. But man, she manipulates people mentally even though she’s deaf. If you knew the kind of games she plays using her handicap, you'd be shocked. Me? I haven't been able to hear much since I was a kid, but I'm not so far gone that I can't communicate with hearing people normally.
So, there was this friend in my class who can hear perfectly, and we always study and do everything together. This other girl, who is totally deaf, just couldn't handle the jealousy, so she started playing mind games. She refused to grab coffee with me or anything—not that I cared about her physical changes or being deaf, I never rejected her. But she was the one who isolated herself, constantly acting like the victim so she could tell the professor that *I* was the one avoiding *her*. She’s obsessed with being the top of the class and outperforming me, just searching for some kind of comfort because of everything she went through.
Look, I get it. She used to be beautiful, she could hear, and she already had a degree in Psychology that’s basically useless to her now, so she’s back in school studying Public Administration... I understand that such a massive life shift is a total shock, but she really needs to see a therapist. You don't just "get used" to losing your hearing and having facial scarring overnight; it's too hard to accept. Even though her grades are good, she's clearly mentally broken if she feels the need to compete with us over every single point. The worst part was when my group of six was working on a project; she insisted on working alone, so the professor gave her some random assignment that barely even related to the subject. Then, once my group finally finished our heavy lifting and one of us presented, she went and wrote that it wasn't actually that good. Is that normal, people? She has no clue how much work we put into that group project. Seriously, I'm speechless. She needs professional help. I've seen her sitting at her desk with her head down, looking completely crushed. Her family was there for her during the surgery, but after she lost her hearing and her face changed, they mostly drifted away. They aren't that strong of a support system anymore, which makes it worse. But man, therapists exist for a reason. Even though she studied this stuff back when she was healthy, she can't fix herself. She thinks killing herself for better grades and tearing down our work is the right move, instead of just being a friend or supporting me since I hang out with both hearing and deaf people. It's just pathetic...