What were your biggest pregnancy surprises and pet peeves?

feralpanther11 · 2009-06-08T01:42:03+00:00

Look, honey, if they’re footing the entire bill, you really should have seen this coming—it’s practically written in the stars when someone else holds the purs…

fadedridge14 Newcomer

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#3521 · Apr 6, 2012

🙂I’m honestly at a loss for words. I just had my first CTG, and the OBGYN told me things aren't looking great. It was mostly bad again this morning, so I headed straight to the ER. My swelling from the placenta was so bad, I felt like I could have watered an entire orchard with it. Once I got to triage, it was just pure chaos—tears everywhere. My partner and the nurses were trying their best to keep me calm, so I did my best to stay chill while waiting for the monitor. I was feeling incredibly nauseous, and then this girl ahead of me goes into labor. Her mom starts asking how much longer she has left, and I pipe up, saying maybe a month and a half, but the mom just brushes me off like, "Oh, you've still got plenty of time." Then she drops this bombshell about how her own daughter went through this and ended up having a stillbirth😢. We weren't even in the main waiting area yet, but seriously, why would you say something like that? My CTG isn't normal, and my mind is racing through every worst-case scenario imaginable. If you can't start a conversation on a better note, just don't say anything at all🙂

jadejackal Member

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#3522 · Apr 6, 2012

@fadedridge14 🙂 this is just appalling. I mean, where is the common sense? How can anyone say something like that to a pregnant woman waiting in an OB-GYN emergency room? 🙂

I really hope everything turns out perfectly with your CTG and the little one.

Peter Adams58 Active Member

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#3523 · Apr 6, 2012

Honestly, it’s starting to get on my nerves a little bit how everyone thinks they know exactly when I’m going to have the baby... I guess it'll be interesting to see who actually guesses right... 🤔

fadedridge14 Newcomer

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#3524 · Apr 6, 2012

jadejackal said:@fadedridge14 🙂 this is just appalling. I mean, where is the common sense? How can anyone say something like that to a pregnant woman waiting in an OB-GYN emergency room? 🙂

I really hope everything turns out perfectly with your CTG and the little one.

thanks honey🙂, so I went in for the fetal monitoring, and the doctor there was basically staring at me like, "I have absolutely no idea why you were sent here at 34 weeks." She could see my prenatal checks were totally fine, the baby is growing exactly as expected, and there's nothing medically wrong going on. She basically told me there was zero reason to be scared. Honestly, I just sat there looking at her, completely speechless 😵. After doing the scan, she told me everything looks as perfect as it gets and I could practically skip home feeling relieved 😳. Just a quick checkup and that was that
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wearycrane8 Member

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#3525 · Apr 6, 2012

fadedridge14🙂 I am truly glad to hear that everything is going smoothly with the little one... As for those people chatting you up in the waiting room, I would suggest simply tuning them out, though I must admit even I find myself getting curious about everything, which only serves to drain my energy quite rapidly... We really are responsible for our own peace of mind when we choose to dwell on such nonsense...

Peter Adams58 said:Honestly, it’s starting to get on my nerves a little bit how everyone thinks they know exactly when I’m going to have the baby... I guess it'll be interesting to see who actually guesses right... 🤔

It gets under my skin too, particularly when it comes to my mother-in-law; she constantly asks, "So, you aren't planning on having the baby just yet?" and even when I tell her clearly that I still have several weeks or days left, she insists I'll likely go much sooner than expected. It is quite frustrating, as if she possesses some sort of psychic ability to see into the future, when in reality, she hasn't even seen how I am feeling lately... 🤔 I have decided to stop paying any attention to her silly questions altogether. My hospital bag is packed, the nursery is ready, and all I have left to do is finish setting up the crib sheets... 😉 at this point, I am just waiting for my little girl to give me the green light to head to the hospital!

wearycrane8 Member

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#3526 · Apr 6, 2012

fadedridge14🙂 I am truly heartened to hear that everything is going smoothly with the little one... as for those comments people tend to make while you're sitting in the waiting room, I find it best to simply tune them out, though I must admit even I can get caught up in the curiosity, which tends to drain one's energy quite quickly. We really are our own worst enemies when we choose to dwell on such trivial nonsense...

Peter Adams58 said:Honestly, it’s starting to get on my nerves a little bit how everyone thinks they know exactly when I’m going to have the baby... I guess it'll be interesting to see who actually guesses right... 🤔

It irritates me as well, particularly my mother-in-law, who insists on asking me every single time, "So, you aren't planning to deliver just yet?" and even when I respond by explaining exactly how many days or weeks I have left, she begins lecturing me about how it will all happen much sooner than I expect. It is quite baffling how she could possibly know, considering she hasn't been there with me nor does she have any inkling of how I am actually feeling, unless perhaps she possesses some sort of supernatural foresight... 🤔I have decided to stop paying any attention to her senseless questions. My hospital bag is packed, everything is prepared for the baby, and everything is set for our discharge from the hospital; I just need to finish assembling the crib linens, and then that will be it 😉 I am simply waiting for the little one to give me the green light to head to the hospital!

fadedridge14 Newcomer

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#3527 · Apr 6, 2012

wearycrane8;38833577 said:fadedridge14 🙂 I'm so glad everything is okay with the baby... honestly, don't pay any attention to what people say in the waiting room. Even though I find myself getting curious about everything too, which just ends up being exhausting. We really only have ourselves to blame when we go looking for nonsense to read online...

Thanks honey🙂, I was just looking over the printout from my first fetal monitor test at the OBGYN—the heart rate was between 140 and 175 (at least, that's what I could make out, so hopefully it's nothing to worry about). Man, I've been crying my eyes out. I'm just so worried about her health, more than anything else. As for the waiting room stuff, I don't usually listen, but this lady just wandered over and started talking to me. Now my husband is telling me she said the same thing to him 🙂 while I was inside, too. It's not exactly common knowledge, I guess.

Kevin Martinez76 Newcomer

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#3528 · Apr 10, 2012

Dropped my mom off at her appointment and now I'm just sitting here in the car, waiting to see how everything turns out.

Anyway, the setting for this little drama is basically anywhere in suburbia.
While I was sitting there, this random woman—who I immediately recognized as your typical, nosy American neighbor who thinks she owns the sidewalk—approaches my car.

"Is that your mom?"
Yeah.

"So, why did she come by?"

"Are you pregnant?"
All of this is happening through a cracked window. 🙄

"Are you carrying a little one?"

"Did you drive her here?"

"How dare you be driving right now?"

🙂

"When is the due date?"

"You really need to take better care of yourself." 😲🙂🙂

"Back when I had my fifth child..." 🙄 🙂 🙂

Honestly, lady, please go back to your house... My pregnancy has been completely stress-free until now, totally free from any frustration caused by third parties who have absolutely nothing better to do. 🙄 ☕

Kevin Martinez76 Newcomer

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#3529 · Apr 10, 2012

Oh, how could I ever forget that legendary moment...

So, what are you wearing today?

Whatever it is... as long as it's comfortable and keeps me feeling alive.🙂

jadejackal Member

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#3530 · Apr 10, 2012

Oh, Kevin Martinez76 😂
I know your blood pressure was hitting 160, but honestly, I can’t stop laughing at this.
It totally takes me back to something that happened just two weeks ago. I dropped by my aunt's place, and her mother-in-law immediately starts hovering on the balcony—just watching everything. She begins grilling me about all sorts of things, and then she drops this: "So, you're carrying a boy, huh? Well, usually boys make women look more beautiful, but I wouldn't say that applies to you." First, I was just stunned—completely speechless—and then I just lost it and started cracking up. 😂

Peter Adams58 Active Member

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#3531 · Apr 10, 2012

Did the baby arrive yet?
Did the little one make an appearance?
Any news on the delivery?
Is the baby here?
🙂🙂🙂

feralmoose32 Regular

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#3532 · Apr 10, 2012

jadejackal said:Oh, Kevin Martinez76 😂
I know your blood pressure was hitting 160, but honestly, I can’t stop laughing at this.
It totally takes me back to something that happened just two weeks ago. I dropped by my aunt's place, and her mother-in-law immediately starts hovering on the balcony—just watching everything. She begins grilling me about all sorts of things, and then she drops this: "So, you're carrying a boy, huh? Well, usually boys make women look more beautiful, but I wouldn't say that applies to you." First, I was just stunned—completely speechless—and then I just lost it and started cracking up. 😂

😂 😂 😂

Peter Adams58 said:Did the baby arrive yet?
Did the little one make an appearance?
Any news on the delivery?
Is the baby here?
🙂🙂🙂

🙂
🙂

Michael King Member

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#3533 · Apr 10, 2012

To ensure I'm not just sharing the negative experiences, I should probably mention what has actually surprised me in a positive way.

It seems like everyone keeps telling me how beautiful I look while pregnant; they say my complexion is glowing and that I’ve actually become more attractive, even though I know quite a few women really struggle with their appearance during pregnancy😍😬

I suppose I don't mind the compliments too much, especially since I personally feel like a bit of a swollen, bloated little tank🤣

feralmoose32 Regular

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#3534 · Apr 10, 2012

Here’s another little slice of life 🙂
My nephew—who hasn't visited in about 15 years—was chatting with my sister (his mom) earlier, and he actually told me how great I look... mentioned that I haven't put on any weight and that I look just right—kind of like those glowing moms you see on TV commercials

😍

I guess Google thought everyone was expecting me to just be a total wreck🤣

Kevin Martinez76 Newcomer

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#3535 · Apr 11, 2012

jadejackal said:Oh, Kevin Martinez76 😂
I know your blood pressure was hitting 160, but honestly, I can’t stop laughing at this.
It totally takes me back to something that happened just two weeks ago. I dropped by my aunt's place, and her mother-in-law immediately starts hovering on the balcony—just watching everything. She begins grilling me about all sorts of things, and then she drops this: "So, you're carrying a boy, huh? Well, usually boys make women look more beautiful, but I wouldn't say that applies to you." First, I was just stunned—completely speechless—and then I just lost it and started cracking up. 😂

Then I ran into my neighbor at the grocery store, and she looked genuinely disappointed because my skin hasn't broken out at all. Like, seriously! Because apparently, the rumor is that every girl carrying a baby gets acne. 🙄

Aside from that, people have actually been giving me compliments, telling me I'm a really pretty pregnant woman. 😍

It's just that one old lady yesterday... she was just too much. 🙄

Terry Campbell Member

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#3536 · Apr 11, 2012

Peter Adams58 said:Did the baby arrive yet?
Did the little one make an appearance?
Any news on the delivery?
Is the baby here?
🙂🙂🙂

So when's it happening?
Still in one piece?
Still walking around? 😕

Peter Adams58 Active Member

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#3537 · Apr 11, 2012

Terry Campbell said:So when's it happening?
Still in one piece?
Still walking around? 😕

🙂🙂🙂

Where would I go by myself? I can't just wander around town—it's not like I have wings, right?
And don't even get me started on cleaning, or 😳

Arthur Newman77 Member

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#3538 · Apr 11, 2012

Peter Adams58 said:🙂🙂🙂

Where would I go by myself? I can't just wander around town—it's not like I have wings, right?
And don't even get me started on cleaning, or 😳

🤣 Honestly, most of us are probably looking at the same mess right before the deadline hits

Terry Campbell Member

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#3539 · Apr 11, 2012

My favorites are definitely the ones who stare you down and ask, "So, when are you having kids?"
Like, can't you see I'm busy?!

Peter Adams58 Active Member

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#3540 · Apr 11, 2012

Terry Campbell said:My favorites are definitely the ones who stare you down and ask, "So, when are you having kids?"
Like, can't you see I'm busy?!

🤣 🤣

And then they're like, "Oh, you won't be pregnant for a while, look how much your stomach has dropped..."

Man, we really are frustrated, aren't we? 🤦

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