What were your biggest pregnancy surprises and pet peeves?

feralpanther11 · 2009-06-08T01:42:03+00:00

Look, honey, if they’re footing the entire bill, you really should have seen this coming—it’s practically written in the stars when someone else holds the purs…

Nicholas Doyle91 Member

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#4041 · Jul 29, 2012

redridge13 said:Speaking of grocery shopping, this thread just absolutely sent me over the edge .
I honestly can't believe some people actually exist 🙄.

honestly, I just feel bad for folks like that, because it’s pretty obvious they’re dealing with their own internal messes...

and you know how life works—what goes around comes around—so I really hope life gives them a little reality check someday to make them rethink everything they just typed out...

redridge13 Active Member

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#4042 · Jul 29, 2012

Nicholas Doyle91 said:honestly, I just feel bad for folks like that, because it’s pretty obvious they’re dealing with their own internal messes...

and you know how life works—what goes around comes around—so I really hope life gives them a little reality check someday to make them rethink everything they just typed out...

I'm right there with you. Like, congrats on being "top tier" humans by picking on pregnant women and the elderly. Real classy behavior.

Douglas Thomas8 Member

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#4043 · Jul 29, 2012

Lately, I’ve been getting a little bit worked up by all the unnecessary commentary surrounding my swollen feet. It’s always the same thing: "Oh my goodness, look how swollen your legs are!" or "Wow, your feet look so puffy!" As if it were some massive revelation, right? I mean, hello, I’m pregnant, so of course there's going to be some swelling! 🙄
Regarding people cutting in line or jumping ahead, women definitely still hold the title for being the most impatient. I actually had one gentleman on the subway who looked ready to run me over just so he could snag a spot closer to the door.

Carol Ramirez23 Member

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#4044 · Jul 29, 2012

Lately, it feels like everyone is constantly checking in on me with the same tired questions: Are you still holding it together? Or maybe, neighbor, just three more days to go, right?

The countdown has officially begun, I suppose... though people don't seem to realize how incredibly tedious they’re being by asking these things day after day, over and over again.

Joseph Wells81 Member

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#4045 · Jul 30, 2012

Honestly, how do I even put this into words? Everything about being pregnant just gets under my skin—it’s like everything is an irritant. But mostly? It’s the constant cravings and just... myself. I can't stand my own mood swings right now.

wanderingpilot17 Newcomer

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#4046 · Aug 8, 2012

Joseph Wells81 said:Honestly, how do I even put this into words? Everything about being pregnant just gets under my skin—it’s like everything is an irritant. But mostly? It’s the constant cravings and just... myself. I can't stand my own mood swings right now.

I'm right there with you.🤣
I lose my temper so fast.🙂 Stupid hormones.☕

Kimberly Sanders4 Member

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#4047 · Aug 9, 2012

Bradley Johnson2 said:So, I actually had a pretty sweet surprise today while waiting in line at the store.
I was at a small Walmart and it was packed... I only had a couple of things in my basket, and since I don't even feel pregnant yet and my bump is still tiny, I wasn't exactly trying to draw any attention to myself. I was wearing this super tight shirt, just standing there in line, when this young guy—probably like 18—turns around and goes, "Oh, sorry, I didn't see you, please go ahead of me." I told him, "No, really, it's fine, I only have two things," but he wouldn't take no for an answer. Then he asks me which month I'm in, adding that he doesn't want to be intrusive if that's too personal. Honestly, he wasn't pushy at all, he just totally made my day. 😍

Honestly, guys like that brighten my mood constantly; I guess between the pregnancy hormones and the whole chest situation, I'm just more receptive to it.😁

The only thing getting on my nerves right now is... well, the fact that I am perpetually starving. I am so over having to contemplate what I’m going to eat every three hours; it’s such a massive drag...

Douglas Thomas8 Member

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#4048 · Aug 11, 2012

Question: "How much more of this can we take?"

I feel like I’ve heard that phrase so many times lately that my patience is honestly starting to wear thin in a few different ways.

It seems like everyone and their mother is constantly complaining about the conditions in our public hospitals, and then there’s the endless stream of unsolicited advice telling me I better find some high-end private clinic connection before I go into labor or I'll be totally out of luck. 🤦 I mean, look, I’m fully aware that the healthcare system isn't exactly perfect right now, but seriously, can't people just give me a little breathing room?

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#4049 · Aug 14, 2012

Douglas Thomas8 said:Question: "How much more of this can we take?"

I feel like I’ve heard that phrase so many times lately that my patience is honestly starting to wear thin in a few different ways.

It seems like everyone and their mother is constantly complaining about the conditions in our public hospitals, and then there’s the endless stream of unsolicited advice telling me I better find some high-end private clinic connection before I go into labor or I'll be totally out of luck. 🤦 I mean, look, I’m fully aware that the healthcare system isn't exactly perfect right now, but seriously, can't people just give me a little breathing room?

This drives me crazy too, especially when women who have never even stepped foot in an OBGYN ward try to lecture me with that "well, you just have to..." attitude. It's exhausting...

Another thing that bugs me is when I mention in a group that I'm hoping for a girl while my husband wants a boy, and everyone immediately hits me with the "as long as they're healthy!" line.
Yeah, because clearly, I don't care if the baby is actually born alive... honestly, it's infuriating.

And when I'm craving a Big Mac and my husband won't let me have one... I might actually lose my mind, haha.🙂

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#4050 · Aug 16, 2012

Douglas Thomas8;40791740 said:"The question: 'How much longer?'"

I’ve heard it so many times lately that I’m honestly losing my mind.

It's constant whining from everyone about the conditions in public hospitals, followed by a hundred unsolicited lectures on how you need to secure some kind of connection just to get decent care when you're giving birth. 🤦 Look, I get it—the system isn't perfect—but seriously, give me a break!

👍

Why do women do this to other women?

Mark Thomas20 Member

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#4051 · Aug 19, 2012

Ugh, mothers-in-law! Thank God we finally moved out from under their roof, otherwise I would have absolutely lost my mind by now! When I had my first child, we were still living together and it was pure madness. I wouldn't say she’s a malicious woman, per se, but honestly, she's retired and clearly looking for something to do—she treated our lives like an adventure she needed to direct. She was constantly hovering over us like we were two idiots who didn't have the slightest clue how to care for a baby, even though she had her own kids nearly forty years ago! It was completely normal for her to just wander into our bedroom while I was breastfeeding, or to lecture us about every little thing. I honestly don't know how I stayed sane... there were moments where I was literally swallowing my tears just to keep from screaming...

We live on our own now, and since I'm due in just two months, I went over to their place the other day to dig through some old bins of my eldest's stuff and grab anything useful. Well, I walked out feeling totally depressed because she just can't help herself—she has to meddle in everything. The entire time I was sorting through those bags, she sat right there with me, dropping constant "expert" commentary—like, "Oh, this is lovely, you absolutely must take this!" when in reality, it's just some yellowed, stretched-out rag we inherited from someone ages ago.

Then it was, "What are you going to do about the crib? Where is it going to fit? Did you measure? Move this piece of furniture over here—it'll be better for you, and you can put the crib there." As if I'm some moron who hasn't measured everything the second I saw the floor plan plus the doctor's tests! Then she called me later because she remembered that none of the onesies we looked at were in the bags, asking where they were. I told her I lent them to a friend who just had a baby, but I don't even need them anyway because bodysuits are much more practical. My baby is coming in late autumn, so he won't exactly need his back exposed to the cold, but no—she knows better. She insists I'll need them once the baby is tiny... ugh, I am losing it! 🙂
Sorry for the massive vent!

One more thing—if she knew I was thinking about buying a new stroller, she would never leave me alone, because in her mind, everything old is better. Look, I'm not a snob; I love using secondhand stuff whenever it's in good condition (honestly, I'm thrilled to save money that way), but I am definitely not dressing my child in stretched-out, stained rags or pushing him around in a beat-up stroller that doesn't even have a bassinet attachment (our first kid was a summer baby, so we never bought one). 🙄

I feel a bit better now that I've let all that out. Please, tell me—am I overreacting, or would this drive you crazy too?

Angela Davis74 Active Member

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#4052 · Aug 19, 2012

You aren't exaggerating. ☕

My husband insists I'm incompetent and needs someone to come over and help clean (by the way, we need to pack up the house because we move tomorrow 🙄), and his solution is to call his mother. Oh, wonderful. Just what I need—her playing the martyr because her precious little boy thinks I can't handle things alone. ☕

Instead of just stepping up and doing something himself, he’d rather play the victim and nag me with his delusions. Whatever. Luckily, I'm in too good a mood to let it get to me... 😁😁

And yes, that's exactly why I don't tell anyone anything. I don't mention what I'm thinking, what I plan to buy at Walmart, or what I've already picked up... none of it.

I'm going back to being productive now. Alone. 😁

Nicholas Doyle91 Member

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#4053 · Aug 20, 2012

Even my folks have started giving me grief about how I'm still going at it non-stop and how much of a 🙂 🙂
I am. I honestly have no clue what a two-week heads-up before an appointment is even supposed to look like ☕

Angela Davis74 Active Member

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#4054 · Aug 20, 2012

So, what? You still haven't given birth? 😬😬

Nicholas Doyle91 Member

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#4055 · Aug 20, 2012

Angela Davis74 said:So, what? You still haven't given birth? 😬😬

😛

Since we’re all being brutally honest here, I’ve basically been begging everyone around me to just let it rip and fart already because the constant holding it in lately has been driving me absolutely insane.

Dana Martin87 Member

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#4056 · Aug 20, 2012

Are we getting married?! When are we actually doing this?! What are we even waiting for?!!!!

Friends ask me once a week. Acquaintances who find out I’m pregnant ask before they even say congrats. My boss asks me three times a week...

I can't take it anymore. This pregnancy caught us totally off guard. We poured every cent of our savings into renovating a house so we could finally stop renting and have a place of our own. Every single day, from sunrise to sunset, we're working on that house. On top of that, I'm building the furniture myself just to make sure it's high quality without breaking the bank. Right now, a wedding is the absolute last thing on our minds. But suddenly, it's become an issue because of all this pressure. Honestly, we might just head to the courthouse for a quick civil ceremony just so people will leave me alone. I'm about two seconds away from losing it and telling everyone where they can shove their opinions.

I told one friend that I’d rather wait until the baby is a year old to have a wedding, and she tried to convince me the kid would carry trauma and complexes for their entire life??????????????! 😲

Thomas Barrett84 Newcomer

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#4057 · Aug 20, 2012

It feels like a lifetime ago since I was pregnant, but I still vividly remember how much those "helpful" little tips from my mother-in-law, the neighbors, and all those unsolicited experts used to get under my skin. You know the type—people coming at you with stuff like, "Forget those ultrasounds and all that radiation; I knew a woman back in Ohio who had a child with severe developmental issues, and she was certain it was because of the scans." It’s honestly exhausting.

Angela Davis74 Active Member

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#4058 · Aug 20, 2012

When they try to suffocate you like that, staring at them in pure disbelief—well, we’re already married.

That was my go-to response from the start. Whenever some insignificant or annoying person interrupted me at the wrong moment😬 to ask if I was pregnant—no, I’m just fat. You should have seen their faces... turning shades of colors I didn't know existed...😂😂

Lately, the latest topic for ridicule in my circle is that we aren't having the baby baptized immediately, but waiting until spring... Apparently, that's not how things are done. It's not proper, it's not normal, and a child shouldn't even be out after dark before they've been baptized... and so on. I'm just waiting for someone to start bringing over red string so I can tie it around the baby's wrist or ankle to ward off the evil eye—classic religious thinking...☕

Dana Martin87 Member

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#4059 · Aug 20, 2012

Angela Davis74 said:When they try to suffocate you like that, staring at them in pure disbelief—well, we’re already married.

That was my go-to response from the start. Whenever some insignificant or annoying person interrupted me at the wrong moment😬 to ask if I was pregnant—no, I’m just fat. You should have seen their faces... turning shades of colors I didn't know existed...😂😂

Lately, the latest topic for ridicule in my circle is that we aren't having the baby baptized immediately, but waiting until spring... Apparently, that's not how things are done. It's not proper, it's not normal, and a child shouldn't even be out after dark before they've been baptized... and so on. I'm just waiting for someone to start bringing over red string so I can tie it around the baby's wrist or ankle to ward off the evil eye—classic religious thinking...☕

😂

Never thought to try that approach. Might have to give 😁
a shot.

Jacob Long Active Member

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#4060 · Aug 20, 2012

Thomas Barrett84 said:It feels like a lifetime ago since I was pregnant, but I still vividly remember how much those "helpful" little tips from my mother-in-law, the neighbors, and all those unsolicited experts used to get under my skin. You know the type—people coming at you with stuff like, "Forget those ultrasounds and all that radiation; I knew a woman back in Ohio who had a child with severe developmental issues, and she was certain it was because of the scans." It’s honestly exhausting.

Then recently, my mother-in-law actually tells me I won't even need sugar once I have a baby—which is hilarious considering I'm Type 1 diabetic. Like, hello? And then she follows it up with that classic line about how doctors recommend getting pregnant when a woman is having health issues. Just great.

What am I even supposed to say to that? 🙂🙂🙂

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