Posts by Daniel Kelly57

stormytinker40 said:Honestly, nobody does baked beans better than them. Seriously. It's a total masterpiece. If those beans had a pulse, I’d probably fall in love with them.

Everything there is terrible to me. It used to be interesting way back when, but not anymore. Why don't you just start a deep, late-night chat thread with Shaquille O'Neal instead?🍿

stormytinker40 said:Ten years.

Well, damn. You really couldn't find anything better than that bear of a pub on the river? Seriously? There's actually a great little burger joint right there near the bridge. Go there instead. 😉

stormytinker40 said:I just had some baked beans and bratwurst for lunch. I usually grab food at a diner near the Mississippi River, and it seems like a lot of you guys hang out there too, right?

How long have you lived in my city?🤔

dustytinker91 said:I’ve been scouring the web, but honestly, I haven't found anything helpful. My mom just hit 54. She’s been going through menopause since last year and dealt with a brutal loss—she lost her own mother. Over this past year, the changes in her have been so extreme I sometimes don't even recognize her. She’s completely checked out. No interest in anything, no opinions on anything, and her self-esteem has absolutely tanked. She isn't working, she just sits at home all day staring at the TV. She used to love gardening and cooking, but now? Nothing brings her joy. She’s just constantly negative. I desperately want to help her snap out of it, but I’m clueless. How am I supposed to help??? 😢 I try calling her all the time to get her out for a walk or to head into downtown, and she’ll agree to go, but then she won't even bother getting ready. She shows up in these faded, old clothes with greasy hair... I don't know what else to do. My patience is wearing thin. 😢 Is this just what middle age looks like, or is it something more? I need your take.

Where's Dad?🤔

Robin Reyes said:I don't think we're talking about people who are forced into isolation against their will. It's more about those who are naturally solitary—the ones who simply don't fit in because they find loud, overbearing social circles exhausting.

That’s exactly why I say Željko Pervan’s take doesn't carry much weight here since he's the total opposite. What kind of "antisocial" people are we even talking about? What are they actually doing? Where exactly are they failing to fit in? Most people just have their own small circle they hang out in. Not every social group out there is loud and overbearing.🤔

loneviper2 said:We can't view the world solely through the lens of collectivism.
At the end of the day, we are all individuals.
While the term "society" generally refers to a large group of people, a truly mature and tolerant society will show empathy toward those who don't always think in terms of the collective. When it comes to social responsibility, sure—we have obligations. But needing to constantly, intensely connect with others? Not necessarily. In other words, while you shouldn't reject fundamental social norms, how much you choose to interact with the world is a private matter.

Exactly. I don't see where the argument even is. Most people are fine with this. It only becomes an issue when people are forced into being antisocial against their will. 🍿

loneviper2 said:I don't think that's really the point. We all have to work to make a living; we aren't cavemen anymore. It's more that modern society has basically mandated extroversion as the default setting. If you don't fit that mold, people immediately label you as an outcast or someone with a bad attitude.

So what's the alternative? What should society look like? The word "society" itself implies people actually hanging out together. Everyone wants to find their place in that mix somehow. And honestly, it's only natural that a community would gravitate toward outgoing people rather than those who stay isolated. Besides, everyone goes through phases where they want to be out in the crowd and other times when they just need to step back from it all.🍿

Gary Perez5 said:Quoting Tatjana gromača :-P
Out there on the street, everything just drains me. It makes me slouch, makes me feel old, clunky... like I don't even belong...

You shouldn't have to justify why you aren't social or why you hate going out. Just because you aren't wired like most kids today doesn't mean your vibe, your feelings, or your goals are wrong or need fixing. The real issue is that the majority will always find the guts to point fingers at anyone in the minority—whether it’s how they think, how they live, or what they want out of life...
It's totally normal to skip the parties and the hangouts. Most of it is just surface-level noise, including those "friendships" people brag about. To borrow a thought from Željko Pervan... being social is overrated, and that constant urge to run in packs is too much. Meanwhile, solitude is totally underrated. Some people just thrive in the quiet, keeping a tiny circle, or spending time alone listening to the birds, the wind in the leaves, or just fishing. Honestly, it's pretty healthy... natural, even...

You only get this one life, whether the world is shallow or not. And Željac talks a big game about solitude, but he lives off pure optimism and would probably lose it if he didn't have paradise surrounding him. Of course he enjoys catching a moment of peace; it's the only way he survives the daily grind. 🍿

Started watching this, but honestly, I bailed right after the intro. I don't know anyone in my neck of the woods who grew up having to follow their old man's word like some kind of mindless drone. Luckily for us, we were raised on different principles. Back then, consumerism wasn't even a thing yet. Maybe only kids from military families dealt with that kind of pressure. 🍿

Honestly, this movie doesn't even come close to the first one. It’s easily the worst thing Tom Cruise has ever done. A total letdown. 👎

Let's just hope the internet police don't show up in countries outside the European Union anytime soon so we can keep watching movies for free in peace.🍿

Andrew Doyle said:I truly understand, and I have nothing but profound respect for people who stay loyal to the end. When someone stands by you through thick and thin, that’s the kind of integrity you just don't see much of these days.
Sometimes in life, you just have to face the hard truth: the ultimate act of love and respect isn't about holding on—it’s about having the strength to let people drift away. It's about realizing that sometimes, the most honorable thing you can do for someone is to stop forcing them to be a part of your world.

I hope I never have to deal with something like that with my closest friends. But I've seen some pretty heavy situations where people ended up choosing that path. And honestly, even though I get where they're coming from, I've never been a fan of that move. Feels too selfish to me. Sometimes you just have to dig deep and help people stay in the fight.☕

Andrew Doyle said:Look, people don't just "abandon" you. Life throws curveballs that force massive, tectonic shifts in who you are, and honestly, we’re lucky if we never have to face them. I used to work for a non-profit organization helping children with various developmental disabilities... and their parents—now that is a whole different story. When you have a child with cerebral palsy at twenty years old... your life is permanently altered. You aren't that same young person you were yesterday, and you certainly can't find humor in the same things anymore. Not to mention the endless stream of empty platitudes people throw at you... they think they're being comforting, but it's nonsense. Eventually, you realize the only people you can actually talk to are those walking the exact same path as you.

Now, if we are talking about superficial stuff—like someone falling in love and suddenly forgetting their buddies, or someone getting too busy with their "standard" lifestyle to make time for a hangout—then sure, those weren't real friendships to begin with. But even then, I don't see anything tragic about it. If someone is in a position where they can never find time for me, it simply tells me our bond wasn't solid and it was never a true friendship... and frankly, I don't waste my energy trying to maintain those kinds of connections.

Life is dynamic; it's in constant motion and flux. I’ve always believed that not every ending is a tragedy, because you can learn something from every single relationship, no matter how it turns out. And that’s perfectly fine. 👍

The most important thing is that we all know exactly who we are and what we stand for. Once you have that self-awareness, navigating life's complications and shifting relationships becomes a hell of a lot easier. 😉

I can't even wrap my head around what that's like. But if one of my close friends went through that, I'd step up like it was happening to me. Empty clichés aren't even an option with real friends. And there's no way I'd let them spiral off into isolation because of the grief. I'd fight to be there. But if I realized my help wasn't making a dent, I'd have to accept defeat and give them space. Not without a fight, though.🍿

Richard Wells said:You’ll definitely find someone who wants to be by your side during those times. Besides, the rough patches don't stay intense forever—you'll eventually find your rhythm again.

Look, people definitely need solitude, but cutting off your friends for good just because you're going through a rough patch? That's nonsense. I wouldn't let that happen if I were a real friend. Even when things suck, you've gotta find a way to grab a coffee with your buddies once in a while.🍿

Andrew Doyle said:Everything in life shifts—people, circumstances, priorities... I’ve lost touch with so many people over the years that I haven't seen or heard from them in ages. Then, when our paths finally cross again, they act as if we were hanging out just yesterday, as close as we ever were. A massive amount of "communication breakdown" happens when life hits someone hard; when crises roll in, people tend to isolate themselves and drift away because they are pouring every ounce of their mental energy into survival. It isn't a personal vendetta, and it certainly doesn't mean they don't care about you or wouldn't hang out if things were different... it simply means a fundamental shift occurred that fundamentally altered the relationship. And anyone who assumes this only happens because someone "isn't a true friend" is dead wrong. Most people view everything through a self-centered lens, focusing solely on the feedback they receive. If that feedback doesn't stroke their ego, they interpret it as a personal slight. In reality, that behavior often has absolutely nothing to do with them or the friendship itself.
For instance: imagine a couple gets married, and then they have a child with significant developmental challenges... their entire world is turned upside down, and it will never be the same again. That doesn't mean they’ve forgotten their friends; it means they might not even have the capacity to talk about it because they are utterly exhausted by the battle life has forced upon them...

Sometimes, you just have to accept that a new chapter has begun, without assuming there's any malice or hostility involved. Life happens to people—it's messy, unpredictable, and sometimes brutal. And life has a way of writing those kinds of stories...

If a friend asks for space because they're going through something heavy, you don't necessarily have to just walk away. You can try to wrap your head around what they're dealing with and show up for them however you can. In times like that, a real friend is worth their weight in gold.

Richard Wells said:I bet there are plenty of them. They get into a relationship and suddenly their entire lifestyle flips upside down overnight.

I actually have a friend who just had a baby, and we still hang out like usual. It really just comes down to how much someone can handle emotionally.

Yeah, I believe you. I've heard it too. I always figured it happened more with younger crowds than later in life, but whatever. Every time one of my close buddies found a girlfriend, I knew I couldn't count on him to go out with me constantly anymore. It was just understood that he'd be spending more time with her, so I'd usually have to adjust my schedule around him. But for you, these kinds of shifts aren't even worth mentioning.🍿

Richard Wells said:Everyone knows what jealousy feels like, but what do you call it when someone suddenly becomes a ghost the second they get into a relationship? Look, I get it—you aren’t going to have as much free time once you're coupled up, but there's a massive difference between scaling back your social life and completely shutting the rest of the world out. 🙂

I haven't met anyone like that yet. I've heard they exist, though.🤔

So, what are we supposed to do with the people who get all bitter just because someone started dating? They can't wrap their heads around the fact that once you're in a relationship, you don't have as much free time to hang out anymore, so they just get pissed off at you.🍿

swiftdrifter51 said:I wonder when we'll finally start seeing more women who opt for a more natural look, rather than those who seem to go a bit overboard with the heavy lifting and all those supplements.

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Reddit wtf? What kind of addiction is that? An addiction to watching jacked up women?🤦

Lawrence Bailey77 said:I have always felt... perhaps it is just my disposition... that I could never truly find myself within a pack, or a herd, if we are being precise about the terminology. Or perhaps a swarm, though that seems a bit too frantic for my tastes. I suppose I simply lack the instinct for such collective movements. 🙂

Well, I suppose you’re doing things a bit differently now, even if the underlying logic feels somewhat similar. It seems to me that people tend to have such wildly varying experiences and perspectives on these matters; everyone, it appears, is convinced they hold the absolute truth. I guess it's just the nature of things, though I find the constant disagreement rather exhausting.

But then again, I suppose what someone might... I suppose one might consider whether the act of thinking itself is even worth the effort anymore. It feels like a heavy, somewhat futile endeavor in this day and age, though I find myself doing it regardless. Perhaps there is some merit to contemplation, though I suspect most people simply mistake noise for actual thought. I guess it remains to be seen. Even if one were to argue that he is correct, I suppose that doesn't necessarily mean that "truth" itself functions as a tangible, objective concept—or perhaps even a significant parameter in this context. It’s all rather nebulous, really. One might be right in a narrow sense, yet the very notion of truth remains a highly debatable factor, if it can even be considered a real parameter at all. I guess it's all quite subjective.

It hardly matters... all this constant tugging and pulling... it’s nothing more than a series of literal social games. 🙂

It seems somewhat illogical, if I may say so, to expect some sort of Borg-like collective assimilation within a gene pool—especially when we are discussing the crossover process where individuals simply emerge as distinct entities. It’s a bit of a stretch, I suppose. 😬

It is merely an idea, I suppose. 🙂 It seems rather obvious, though perhaps rarely practiced with any actual sincerity, that we ought to respect diversity and celebrate freedom. I suppose one could argue that these concepts are merely lofty ideals used to decorate political speeches, but in a practical sense, they are the very bedrock of the American experience. It’s a complex matter, really—balancing individual liberty with the necessity of communal respect—but I suspect that if we truly leaned into those values, things might run a bit more smoothly. Or maybe I'm just being overly optimistic. Regardless, there is an inherent value in honoring our differences while championing the freedoms that allow us to exist as individuals. 🧐

Not really. I'm specifically calling out his logic—the way he dismisses everyone else, especially me. What kind of logic is that? He decides he has 570 hours to spare and "better things to do," yet he still logs on to a forum? Someone actually thinking that pragmatically wouldn't feel the need to hang out on a message board. It makes zero sense. 🤔