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manwe said:Nice parable, but I’d argue that any sufficiently intense emotion can lead to the same outcome.

Consider this scenario:

manwe is in love with Alexander Hall. He’d die for her.
Alexander Hall doesn't feel the same way. manwe is crushed. It hurts. He can't think about anything else. His entire existence boils down to
Alexander Hall. She's his only thought.
HE IS OBSESSED.

Certain feelings tend to yield similar results.

Unrequited love is just one possible fallout from an emotion like love.
And even then, it isn't really a consequence of love—it's a consequence of our expectations.
Love, in its purest form, cannot be negative.
Hatred, in any form, always is.
Its consequences always follow suit.

😍 So,

manwe said:hey... that's love. and it can't be bad...

manwe said:Everything stated here is true.

But love takes its toll too... it drains your time, your energy, your health, your peace of mind. Is it unnecessary? Useless? Irreversible? And what about unrequited love? Does that even serve a purpose?
Are you going to claim that love is a negative emotion then?

Or are we just being philosophically vague and saying: they're all just emotions? [/B]

Hate is an emotion, just like love.
Love can't be labeled a negative emotion. When it works,
it feels completely different.
The feelings we have in those moments make us happy;
they don't drain our energy, they provide it.

Sure, philosophically speaking, everything is just an emotion.
Except some are destructive.

Zeus said:"...my take is that the value of any feeling comes from its source.
The person feeling it dictates the sign and the absolute weight of their emotions.
What if people who dwell in negativity actually enjoy being there? Aren't they
just living their lives?.."[/B]

Fine.
😁 Let's look at an example.
Zeus hates Alexander Hall. And since you claim the source defines the value,
Alexander Hall holds massive value for you.
Zeus is assigning huge weight to his own feelings (hatred)=A.

Is it really okay to be obsessed with someone?
Is obsession, generally speaking, a good thing?
Doesn't it basically prevent you from focusing on anything else?

Why would Zeus waste his energy, his time, his health, etc., on Alexander Hall
if she’s such a bad person? (Assuming she deserves hatred
because of how she acts). Does she really deserve his attention and time too?

You can't exactly enjoy life when Alexander Hall is taking up all the mental space.
Or have you stopped noticing that, too?

Alexander Hall said:"...on an intuitive level, I can feel that hatred is bad—that it corrodes and eats away at you.
Still, nobody has quite managed to break down exactly why that is..."[/B]

I'm not sure if I can give a satisfying answer myself.
I can try, though.

Ugh... why are the simplest questions always the hardest? 😁

Trying to figure out how to respond without rambling, without getting too philosophical,
without putting myself in the middle of the situation—which would make answering easier—
and without trying to invent some hypothetical example just to dissect it.

Bottom line: I think hatred is bad for the person holding it. It’s because all those negative emotions
unnecessarily, uselessly, and sometimes irreversibly drain your time, your energy, your health, your peace of mind,
and your logic (especially when you get obsessed)... stuff like that.

Henry Barrett11 said:I honestly have no clue... though I might try to grab some.🙂
I'm just wondering if the person who hates actually ends up hurting themselves most? And does revenge count as hate?
Look. I know people who feel perfectly fine after screwing over someone they despise. They don't feel like they've harmed themselves at all. So what now?
And

So what now?
😁 Nothing.

🙂 Fine. Keep your opinion. Since
I've just laid out my thoughts, there's no obligation to agree with me.
The one harboring hate hurts themselves most because they're the ones
carrying around all that negative energy.
It's their burden to carry. Not the person they're aiming it at.

So, how does it work?
How do you actually flip negative thoughts and actions into something positive?

It starts with willpower and a genuine desire to change, once you realize that
you're mostly just hurting yourself by acting that way. It's self-sabotage, plain and simple.
If someone can't see that, or can't find the strength to make the shift,
they might be too deep in the hole to fix it alone. At that point, they probably need professional help.😎

Andrew Hernandez said:How do we master the arsenal of hate living inside all of us?
Though in SOME people, it’s becoming pretty obvious.

With love!

Beyond what I already mentioned about disagreeing with this—and my belief that
hate doesn't just exist in a vacuum—I'd argue you overcome it
by treating it like a sickness. You have to realize that harboring hate
actually hurts YOU more than the target of your anger.
Then, you do the work to turn those negative impulses into something positive.

Andrew Hernandez said:"...Hatred exists on its own. We were handed it as a 'gift' at birth.
It doesn't need an object to manifest.
Hatred exists first, and then it goes looking for a target. It just needs an object to act upon..."

Hatred always has a cause. There’s always a reason behind it.
Sure, not every bit of anger turns into hatred, but hatred is ultimately a byproduct
of long-term, suppressed rage or fury.
The reasons can be anything—prejudice based on religion or where someone grew up,
betrayal in a relationship, broken trust, jealousy over someone else's success,
or physical injury and financial loss.
Hatred shows itself through the desire to see someone suffer or to cause them harm.
We didn't walk into this world with hatred as some sort of "gift," and it certainly doesn't exist in a vacuum.

Andrew Hernandez said:Driving too fast, taking corners without braking...
Drinking black coffee... this is my fifth cup... ordering another one.
Smoking... on my second pack... lighting the next.
Exhausted... thinking how great it would be to sleep, but I won't lie down... turning on the PC.
Eating... knowing my blood pressure is high... eating more.
Writing, crafting sentences perfectly... writing faster... losing my train of thought... writing even faster... getting angry at myself...
Facing life-altering choices... submitted all my paperwork... just one left to turn in... days pass... waiting until the last second... sprinting to the FedEx office...
Eating fruit with unwashed hands.
Dressing light when it's freezing outside.
Insulting a friend for no reason.

These and other ("innocent") acts of self-sabotage clearly point toward self-hatred.

I assume plenty of people do some of these things.
Or have done them in the past.
🙂 I actually recognized myself in several examples.
Drinking black coffee... sometimes five cups during the day... simply because I love it and enjoy it.
Smoking... it’s a pleasure.
Tired, yet turning on the computer... being so exhausted, but something that brings us pleasure often
makes the fatigue vanish.
Dressing lightly... sometimes it happens... I wake up at the last minute
and realize too late the weather shifted, and I don't have time to change.

It's true, maybe I'm careless with myself, that I don't lead the most disciplined life.
But none of that means I hate myself.
😁 I know for certain that I don't feel that way.
More accurately, I don't think I've ever hated anyone, though that doesn't mean it couldn't happen.

Yes, much of this is harmful.
By that logic, there's very little that isn't harmful or completely healthy.
Even many food items, various types of food, etc.
And we consume them anyway, even knowing they aren't the healthiest options.
But again, that doesn't mean we hate ourselves.
By that metric, it would mean /almost/ everyone hates themselves.

Aggression isn't always born from hatred.
Regardless of the type of aggression we're talking about.
Even just a simple act of mindless violence.
It's more often the result of raw anger or emotions spiraling out of control,
things that don't necessarily require hate to fuel them.

Walker said:Is it okay to love someone who intentionally screwed us over?

And is it okay to hate them? Isn't ignoring them enough? What does hate actually achieve besides wasting energy? Not to mention how much unnecessary drama it drags in, making everything even more complicated... just cut that person out of your life and move on.

Of course it isn't "okay" to hate them, though I don't think people actually reach that level that often.
Usually, people just feel anger, fury, or hurt.
I doubt it escalates to pure hatred very frequently.
Most of the time, once the hurt fades, the other negative feelings go with it.
The second factor is whether we choose to feed those negative emotions later on.
If we do, we're really just hurting ourselves.

I agree that ignoring them is the way to go. Once you've worked through your own feelings.
Why waste time and energy on people we've already decided have nothing
positive to offer ( 🙂 which is an exaggeration—everyone has something positive to offer
), and with whom we simply don't feel right for various reasons.
We took the lesson from that relationship (if there was one to be learned),
so we move on.

A thyroid nodule usually just shows up as a swelling in the front of your neck.
It’s rarely painful, and it's seldom large enough to actually mess with your breathing or swallowing.
If you suspect you have a nodule, go see a doctor.
They should refer you to a specialist for some testing.

Most thyroid nodules—whether they're cysts, adenomas, or whatever else—are pretty common
and mostly harmless. Except for cancer, obviously.
The standard fix involves removing part of the gland or the whole thing.
Once that happens, you'll be on Synthroid 125 mcg for life
since the gland might not be able to produce the hormone on its own anymore.
Generally speaking, the prognosis for thyroid cancer is good.
With the right follow-up care, most patients make a full recovery.

Jeremy Turner3 said:"...your average American makes enough to actually afford a decent Uber fare...
...The issue isn't the price, it's the service quality..."

I'd argue both are problems.

Take a daily Uber commute to work and subtract that from the average salary in Chicago. You'll see.
...The typical American doesn't have that kind of disposable income to shell out for an Uber...

As far as I know, those Uber rates were adjusted just a few months ago.
Meaning they were even more ridiculous before.

Believing in success, or just assuming we'll actually pull something off,
is probably a standard part of the mental prep work when you start something new.
But, like I mentioned before, I don't think that alone gets the job done.
It’s not enough without actual desire—that raw will to make it happen.

I think I should clarify my use of the word "desire." It was meant to be
read in the context of my entire post, not just in isolation.

Think of desire as intention—as an act of will.
I wasn't talking about passion or physical attraction or anything like that.
I suppose my point might have been lost if I didn't phrase it perfectly,
though I thought the meaning was clear enough.

As for those other tips you shared, they're well-organized.
🙂 Do they reflect someone who has already done the work to change and heal?

I'm off work today, just enjoying this beautiful morning and the Sun.
I wish the same for you, Ryan Wilson2.

Norris said:"...Whatever you believe in, manifests...

..."whatever we believe in becomes true for us"....

...but at any given moment, you can choose to start believing in the good, in love, etc., and by doing so, you change your life for the better...

...they can take everything from you, but you alone decide what you believe in and how you think. Maybe that’s the TOOL God gave all of us, and whoever learns how to use it—will be saved..."

I don't think the tool here is "believing."
It's "wanting."
Just "believing" isn't enough to make things happen.

Instead of the title "Whatever you believe in, manifests,"
I'd change it to "Whatever you truly want, you can achieve."

Think back to everything you've accomplished in your life. And the things you haven't.
Compare the presence and intensity of that desire (the time and effort put in).
Maybe the things you didn't achieve, you didn't actually want... or at least, you didn't want them enough.

Mark Smith22 said:"Since yesterday morning, my skin has been itching like crazy. I've got these red spots all over my legs, arms, chest, and neck.
They feel like little swellings—you can actually feel the bumps under your fingers. 😢

I'm guessing it might be from eggs, but I'm not sure since I've never dealt with allergies before.

It won't settle down at all, so I think I'll probably have to see a doctor.

Is this an allergy? Could it actually be food-related? I was also thinking about...."

Not certain, but if it were food-related,
the allergy would likely be all over your body.
Given that it's just the exposed areas,
it looks more like contact dermatitis.
Think back—did you touch or use anything you don't
normally come into contact with, or maybe spend time in a dusty area or something?

"...the only reason people go out of their way to hate you is because they're actually desperate to be just like you..."
🙂 Who knows if there's any truth to that...