Posts by Jason Sanchez3

Christian Sanchez4 said:-Was it not enough?
-Was it lacking quality?

If you're still wrestling with those kinds of doubts,

just keep it simple. Focus on meeting your immediate needs and live life to the fullest.🙂

Ugh... easy for you to say...😁
I've always been an analytical person; I overthink everything...

You can't really fight who you are.😍

Christian Sanchez4 said:Think less, live more. A whole lot more.

At 23 years old, I feel like I’ve already done more good for people than most ever will. Just my two cents!😛

Kyle Nelson2 said:In my opinion, what you’ve got going on is just sensitivity... or maybe even hypersensitivity...

As far as I can tell, emotional intelligence is about as much of a legitimate scientific concept as Marti misterija is... ☕

Haha, the real issue here is just being a bit uninformed... ☕

"Emotional intelligence is often overlooked, even though it plays a massive role in our lives. A lot of people dismiss emotions as mere distractions in our functional, logical brains. However, theorists argue that emotions are actually key. They believe emotions help us make decisions that are generally more rational and successful. The roots of emotional intelligence go back to social intelligence, which was first defined by E. L. Torndika in 1920. Essentially, the term refers to the ability to balance reason with feeling. It’s a set of emotional skills that allow a person to correctly choose how to use their feelings and subconscious mechanisms when interacting with others, which ultimately helps us understand and improve human nature."

"Research shows that a high IQ alone doesn't guarantee success. To truly thrive, a person needs both a high IQ and a high EQ. Having both leads to a better career, improved mental and physical health, and higher quality relationships. On the flip side, highly rational people with high IQs are often dissatisfied with their lives—members of Mensa are a proven example of this. A high IQ isn't a requirement for finding happiness or love, which is what everyone is after. IQ, sometimes called technical intelligence, doesn't have much to do with one's emotional life. In fact, some people with very high IQs can be prone to impulsive instincts and negative outbursts of passion."

driftingfox33 said:'Gosh, I was struggling so hard to find the right word for this phenomenon, and then boom—there it is! What a perfect way to put it! Thank you, truly!

Yeah, I've always wondered why certain people—people who clearly lack any real cognitive depth—can't grasp basic concepts, yet possess this uncanny, highly developed ability to use dirty little tricks to screw others over for their own gain. I suppose it's just evolutionary conditioning, isn't it? If you can't win with actual intelligence, you fall back on "rustic cunning"... or, as my friend would say, when God closes one door, He opens a window. But unfortunately, it feels like most people are just opening windows to sneakily grab whatever they can through sheer craftiness rather than being genuinely bright...

but honestly, it's that EQ that really separates the good managers from the bad ones..
who do you think performs better in a meeting? Someone with empathy who actually reads the room and watches how a client reacts, or someone totally oblivious?
it's also pretty proven that women tend to have higher emotional intelligence, which makes them better bosses... they're just better at handling people...

one more thing........
raw intellect, general intelligence (being able to adapt), and EQ are three totally different things altogether.....

well, I guess I got lucky and ended up with both kinds of intelligence.... 😍

So, something wild just happened. I’m sitting in a coffee shop, sipping my latte and reading the news, when I notice these two sixteen-year-olds sitting right next to me—apparently aspiring stylists, if I overheard correctly. They were gossiping about music, basically calling some friend a total idiot because she doesn't listen to mainstream pop. Just such a shallow, pointless conversation... nothing smart at all. Then comes the kicker. One asks the other, "So, what does, let's call her Ann, actually listen to?" I have no clue, maybe metal or something, like the Red Hot Chili Peppers (lol) or whatever else is even out there"

Is that actually possible? Like, how deep does this go?

urbannomad12 said:Please don't criticize me for letting this topic wander—it actually perfectly illustrates the populist psychology at play here. It seems some people just won't ever agree on this, much like they won't on politics.

Who actually listens to folk-pop? Your average listener probably finished a trade school, served in the military, and then spent six months hunting for work. He’s likely still living with his mom, which gives him enough cash to head out and blow $500-$333 in a madhouse over the weekend. He never cared for history class, so after spending Friday losing his mind to songs by the ex-wife of some notorious North American warlord, he'll spend Saturday at a Johnny Štulić concert, shouting slogans along with an energized crowd of like-minded folks.
From Monday to Thursday, he'll be at work retelling stories about how wild the weekend was—and then Friday rolls around and it all starts over again.
That's the mediocre cycle: living like that until he hits 30, marries some girl he pumped up, has a kid, and suddenly has neither the time nor the desire for music or partying.

There’s really no point in taking these people seriously because there's no substance there. They just jump to those songs because they can follow the lyrics. There isn't a movement behind them like there was for New Wave, Grunge, or even the rise of Techno. They aren't out there preserving a Bob Dylan LP or a scrap of paper where Johnny Štulić wrote "Slut's Sons." I preserve things—and that's why my stuff will last forever. Ceca, on the other hand, is only good until Sunday morning.

🙏 👍

Timothy Cook3 said:Look, I’m not joking around here

Don't worry... it's not a big deal, you couldn't have gotten pregnant.....
The odds are basically zero even when you're actually trying to conceive.............
No need to stress. If it's really eating at you, just grab a test so you don't drive yourself crazy waiting for your period, but honestly, you can sleep easy tonight......

Timothy Cook3 said:03.01 10.01

Don't sweat it🙂 those weren't even your fertile days...
no way you could have gotten pregnant... not until the 12th or 13th.

Timothy Cook3 said:at the start of the month

Can you give me the exact dates? Like, what was the first day and when did you guys actually sleep?

Timothy Cook3 said:I was with my boyfriend about a week ago—we used a condom—but now I’ve been dealing with morning nausea. Could this be an early sign of pregnancy? How long does it typically take for those first symptoms to actually show up?

THANKS SO MUCH!!!

When was your last period?

Jonathan Hernandez4 said:I can only hope you reach that level of happiness and peace again.

And you really have to figure out if those feelings for him are still there.
It’s okay to feel stressed or defensive... honestly, maybe this empty feeling is just a sign that you shouldn't be holding onto these feelings anymore. Sometimes it helps to listen to your gut or even those defense mechanisms. Who knows? That person who caused all this stress might just find a million more ways to do it down the road. Or are you absolutely certain he's learned his lesson and won't flip his priorities on you again later?
If you think he has, just give yourself some time to "recover." You need to rebuild that trust and safety before you can let yourself feel things again.
I know it's frustrating, but you can't force it. Just think of it as recharging your batteries. Once you're full, you'll be ready—either for him or for someone else.

I'm still not sure if you mean just your feelings for him, or if this applies to everyone else in your life too.

This goes for everything, not just him... he went through hell, which is why I stuck by him. But now, at the worst possible time, after all that effort and the affection he's trying to show me, I just feel pure anger... It's like—who does he think he is, thinking he can just switch my feelings back on and expect me to instantly reciprocate? I stayed because I wanted him to be happy. I kind of checked out of our relationship mentally; I wasn't thinking about myself, I was just giving him everything because I wanted him to know someone cared, even when he pushed me away over and over... and now that the hard work has finally paid off, I just... I can't.
He deserves it, he really does. But these feelings I can't control are just so frustrating. I want things to be good, but I'm just not ready. There's too much fear, too much worry, just... everything.

Jonathan Hernandez4 said:IT bothers me because I'm not a psychologist

I didn't think a whole relationship could be boiled down to just a few sentences, but I really don't believe anyone can give you actual "advice" based on such little info. I was just wondering if things were like this before that stressful period, or if you felt this way in past relationships too. Just curious if there was always stress involved.
Just hoping maybe you'll find some answers for yourself.

Psychology itself has a mountain of theories about how emotions work—they don't even have one solid definition for them today—so, just like most other "problems," there isn't some magic "recipe."

My life used to be super stressful, and I'd occasionally "lose my emotions" back then too, but it was always short-lived... I know exactly why this happened to me. It was just too much, and it went on far too long... It's just that every morning when I wake up, I feel totally empty. It drives me crazy because I can't feel my heart, just this void, and it's so frustrating since I'm normally such a warm person, always open and ready to give love.

Gerald Garcia7 said:Grab a copy of "The Merck Manual" by Simon G. Brown and start working through those exercises.

Also, try spending about half an hour a day helping out your heart chakra. Yours seems a little sluggish right now—like the rotation has slowed down just a bit. Just visualize your heart being filled with love, radiating this golden light that fills your whole chest with that amazing feeling.

If you struggle to find that feeling at first, don't sweat it. It happens to the best of us...

Just remember, this kind of healing takes time. It’s not like drinking a glass of water... you should start seeing some real progress after maybe 2 or 3 months of daily practice.

Thanks so much! 🙂 😘

Jonathan Hernandez4 said:I’m a bit bothered that this is under psychology...
my posts don't really have any connection to that (at least not professionally)🙂

I don't quite get how long you guys have been together. Were you already a couple before that "rough patch"
what was the relationship and vibe like back then?

How did you feel in other relationships, and what were those other relationships like?

If your relationship was "just" what you're describing, I'd think twice about everything first, and then decide if it's worth trying to "bring the feelings back," if possible.

I don't see why this wouldn't be under psychology—emotions are a huge part of what they study...

"How did you feel in other relationships, and what were those other relationships like?"
I don't get that part??

Of course our relationship can't be summed up in a few sentences. I wasn't looking for relationship advice, just advice on dealing with lost emotions caused by a traumatic period and extreme stress.

Michelle Long10 said:I totally agree that you have to try and work on yourself. We actually tried marriage counseling together once, and things felt great for maybe two months before I just felt old again. He wouldn't show any sign that he was actually helping me (even though he insists he was)... looks like he just picked the wrong way to do it. And honestly? After all that stress, heartache, and tears, I just grabbed my little stash of jewelry and walked away. I’m happier now than I’ve ever been...

thanks for everything 😘

Michelle Long10 said:The truth hurts. It’s the worst feeling when you pour everything you have into making sure someone you love succeeds and feels good about themselves, all while you’re secretly falling apart. You know it's happening, but you can't bring yourself to tell them—not even yourself. Now that they've reached their goal, you're the one struggling. Honestly, I think you might have made a mistake by staying silent, and now those feelings are just lost somewhere. I don't know if they're gone for good, but if he's worth it, try being honest about where you're at. If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. Just please don't stay stuck in this place for too long; you won't be able to move forward until you face things with him. Good luck... I went through something almost identical, and I did everything to make sure he was okay, but when I finally needed a little attention, I just let him down...

Yeah, it's tough 😢
I know we're actually perfect for each other. We're so alike—same outlook on life, relationships, careers, people. The chemistry is huge, the sex is great, we even listen to the same music and love the same food and hobbies. We really are soulmates, but we both need to work on ourselves to make this stick...
I just don't know if I have any strength left for that after everything...
So much stress, so much pain, so many tears... I just want to be alone 😢

Ronald Barrett4 said:Typical story—you wanted him so bad when he was out of reach, but now that he's yours, you're bored. Grow up.

Ooh, look at you being all wise. Honestly, I don't even know how to respond...🙄
It’s really not that simple...
I want to feel that spark again. I want to love him. It isn't just about him, though—it's like my feelings for everyone have just gone numb. I've completely shut down...
I was right by his side nearly every single day for almost a year through some incredibly rough times. I barely got anything out of it, but things were so hard for him and I just wanted him to be even a little bit happier with me there... I didn't get much from the experience myself. I think I lost maybe five years of my life just dealing with the stress... Since I'm such an empath, I felt everything he was feeling. We were basically walking through hell together...

This has absolutely nothing to do with ego or being selfish. I'm way too smart for that...

It was just too much. Too much stress, too much fear, too much waiting... I'm just empty. I kept giving and giving and giving, but I never got anything back.

Donna Campbell6 said:Just to discourage you a little more, I tried everything under the sun after going through the exact same thing from year three to five of our relationship. My partner felt the same way. But, hey, we just couldn't make it work. It was over.👎

I guess saying "exact same thing" was a bit much since I didn't give any details...
Basically, my guy was going through a brutal time with his career. He wasn't sure if he could even love me or if he wanted to because he was shutting everyone out, but I stuck by him. I really pushed myself and gave way more than I actually had left in the tank. We were constantly on edge because we weren't sure if he'd stay here in the States or move away, so things were always up in the air. Then, suddenly, he decided he wanted to give it a shot. But after a whole year of intense stress, trying so hard, and losing myself in the process, I think I just shut down. Now, I honestly don't know if I can feel anything anymore, or if I even want to.

Jonathan Hernandez4 said:I went through something pretty similar a long time ago.
Now I'm still with that person, but those intense feelings never really hit that same peak again. And quality? That just shifts naturally as you get older and go through life.
Not sure if "psychology" can even fix anything here.
Maybe it's just on you to decide if this level of connection is enough, and if you're actually happy being with... well, this version of yourself.

I know it's all in my head, obviously...
But I think I just need some solo time to clear my head. Just a week or two alone to reset before starting over...
Whatever that looks like. 🙂

It’s not really about them being the bad guy, it's more about everything else going wrong at once...

Rachel Martinez11 said:Just poke your finger with a needle and tell me if you feel anything.🙂 Honestly, didn't that little joke at least brighten your mood for a second?😘

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