Posts by hiddenhawk3

crimsonskipper22 said:😉 🙂
Pregopaničar mada Club 😉 🤣
I mean, honestly? There are probably tons of women like that out there. It’s just that our moms and the people we grew up with raised us differently. You gotta get married and have a kid ASAP—you know, an heir. Otherwise, he’ll just find someone else who can. If other women can pull it off, you can too. It's just how nature works. (Feeling like Žuža right now.) 🤣)

God forbid, I've heard that one too. Women who don't have kids aren't fully women.
It’s like it's hardwired into women from day one. The second they say that life-changing "yes," they just dive headfirst into baby mode. It’s just how things go—it's what everyone expects from them. Honestly, it's a wild phenomenon. I don't even know how else to put it.
It’s honestly sad how postpartum depression, breastfeeding struggles, and all the other "ugly" parts of being a mom are still treated like taboo subjects. People don't talk about it nearly enough—even though we discuss it way more now than we did thirty years ago. Everyone acts like motherhood is just this flawless, natural dream. So when women don't feel that way after having a baby, they start thinking something is wrong with them, and most of the time, they just keep it all inside.
Man, that’s not even the half of it. Honestly, the biggest hurdle in today’s world—with all this corruption, chaos, and violence everywhere—is just trying to raise an honest, decent human being. Feels like mission impossible.☕

I mean, why would that be natural if you don't even want to? 🤷
And I don't get why everyone is panicking so much when you're only 30. 🙂 I know women who had their first kids after 30—at 32 or 33—and then others at 36, 🙂 and all the babies were perfectly fine. 🤷
I think if a woman doesn't actually want kids, she shouldn't have to go through it just because "society expects it." 🙄 To me, it seems way sadder to have something you don't want, or to have kids when you can barely make ends meet. Nowadays, so many people are struggling just to survive, yet they still decide to have children anyway. 🙄 But hey, who am I to judge.

Fine, now you're the one suffering because you didn't exactly ace that intelligence test, or maybe you're just worried about what the doctor thinks of you 😁
I mean, why would I even need to impress anyone 🙂 And honestly, who knows what that doctor's IQ actually is 😉

🙏🙏🙏 That's exactly what I was wondering about too. Honestly, I'm pretty curious about that part myself 🤷

feralhound55 said:Mac being a symbol of peace? Hmm...

Maybe it’s just some shallow joke—kind of like what you just said, He-Man.

It kind of brings to mind King Arthur’s sword, where only one specific person could pull it from the stone... maybe Thompson sees himself as that guy, the one who can single-handedly save us all. From what, exactly? 🤷

well, from thinking, 😁 I suppose. I mean, have you ever actually seen an American who uses their own brain? 🙂

Donna Wood52 said:Look, I’m not going to pretend it’s normal for a girl who is clearly curvy to hide under oversized clothes. I mean—it’s her choice, obviously,
and I have no intention of policing anyone’s wardrobe, but let’s be real: most guys aren't exactly looking for baggy silhouettes on women. A guy is much more likely to turn his head for someone who might be less conventionally attractive but wears form-fitting clothes
than for someone who is actually stunning but hides everything behind layers of loose fabric.

True, 😁 but there's a catch. Maybe she isn't looking for the guys who only care about curves. 🤷 Maybe she wants a different kind of guy 🙂 who'll eventually realize what she's actually working with. 😍

😉user_placeholder, you're trolling, right?

So, I’ve run into some pretty strange characters lately

Like this woman at Grand Central just counting floor tiles 😍, or people actually living out of the station 😍
homeless folks, even a couple of drunks acting all lovey-dovey on the street 🙏
I guess they’re just a little off, though. 🙂 (no offense intended)

Jerry Martinez5 said:Right, which is exactly why I brought it up. 😉

Didn't you read that Donna Wood52 was talking about some weird guy who didn't talk to anyone back in fourth grade?

It's the same logic restlessbison4 is using: I guess you're just weird if you don't follow the NFL or whatever?

I guess I'm just a little slow. 🙈

Didn't you read where Donna Wood52 was talking about some weird guy who didn't talk to anyone back in fourth grade?

It's the same thing restlessbison4 is saying: I suppose you're weird if you don't follow the farm or whatever.

Conclusion: we're all special because someone out there thinks we're weird, 😁 even if it's just 🤣in the bedroom.
Well, everyone thinks Donna Wood52 is weird. 🤣 Maybe they messed with his head, and the poor guy would be even weirder if he actually tried to be friends with people like that.

restlessbison4 said:It really comes down to those tiny things that set you apart. Like, everyone else is obsessed with overeating at some buffet, but you? You eat just enough to feel full, and suddenly you're the odd one out. Or everybody's chugging soda while you're sticking to water. Or the "norm" is to have casual hookups with whoever is around just for the hell of it, but you decide that's not your thing. Even if you don't watch whatever trashy series is trending on Netflix, people act like there's something wrong with you. There are endless examples like that...

I guess this hits home too. It's weird if you aren't sleeping around, don't overeat, or don't watch TV.🙂

Jerry Martinez5 said:Donna Wood52, that's exactly why I said it: it's a matter of age. In late elementary or high school, if someone is overweight, wears glasses, stutters, or has big ears... if there's any trait that sets them apart from the crowd, that environment treats them as "weird."

It’s not like that later on. In college, I studied with people who didn't just skip social outings, they barely even acknowledged their classmates. It's the same at work now. But as you get older, it isn't seen as weird anymore. You just realize there are all kinds of people out there.

Though, in small towns, those types probably carry the "weirdo" label forever. If they live in a major city, though, not so much.

For example, when I was in high school, I thought I was part of the "weird" crowd. It was a bit of a shock when I started college and realized I wasn't actually special—suddenly I was surrounded by hundreds of other "special" people who listen to the same weird music and act and dress weirdly too. 🙂

Bozo, that's a pretty dumb example. Imagine someone not going for coffee in college 🙄 with a group that barely tolerates them, or at work. I only bother greeting people I'm actually close to or who are okay; everyone else, I guess I just ignore. 😬

Donna Wood52 said:Hmm... well, for the people who are actually told they're "special," they usually don't even want to admit it—they won't show it. I knew this guy back in high school—we were in the same grade for four years—and he didn't talk to a single soul. Every teenager thinks they're unique during puberty, but look—if you spend four years in the same class with thirty other kids and don't say a word to anyone the entire time, obviously you're going to be different from the rest. It's not about being better; you're just different. Naturally, then people label you a "psycho" or a freak, but that doesn't actually mean anything.

In my book, truly special people are someone like Einstein (pure brilliance), or Dr. Hannibal Lecter—he had that specific kind of charisma, a sharp mind, and let's be honest, he was good-looking too! 😁

You know he isn't real, right? 😬

Hannah White2 said:To me, "special" people—the ones actually worth knowing—are those who operate above the noise. They’re the thinkers, the ones who actually use their heads to dig for answers without turning around to judge everyone else for being different. See, there’s this trap we fall into—people like us who pride ourselves on having an intellect that sits a bit higher than the status quo (and let’s be clear, I’m talking about intellectual depth, not just some IQ score)—where we start using our "superiority" as a way to distance ourselves from the masses. We try to act like we're somehow separate from the average crowd whose whole existence seems centered on just eating, sleeping, chasing a paycheck, and praying all that stuff leads to some permanent kind of happiness... but honestly? Once you start playing that ego game to feel superior, you aren't special anymore. You’ve just become another cliché.
Real strength of character—that's what actually sets a person apart in a sea of mediocrity—and that usually means being willing to look past your own narrow self-interest.

So, I guess if you just skip the food and sex, you're instantly special? 😬

That’s pretty much what I was thinking, too. I guess 😁 I don't really see myself as "weird" or "special"—I'm just more of a loner. I'd honestly rather be on my own than stuck in bad company 😉. For me, quality definitely beats quantity, so I prefer having just a tiny circle of people I actually care about

Alex Patel96 said:Here we go again. I can already see the types of people who are going to show up here—the ones who get all worked up just because someone else is different, or heaven forbid, actually better than them. It’s always the same story. These people are a thorn in everyone's side, whether it's in real life or right here on this forum.

I'm not sure where you're getting those assumptions from 🤷nobody said being different means being worse. I'm just trying to figure out how to spot that difference compared to the majority. This is a forum, after all, so 🤷what's the point of posting if you can't handle an opinion that isn't your own?🤷
And I don't get why someone would be a thorn in someone else's side just for having virtues or qualities 😕I guess I just don't follow. If you know you're good at something and better than most, why would you care what others think?🙂

Donna Wood52 said:

Being an introvert is just one trait among many—it doesn't automatically make someone "special," nor does it mean they stand out from the crowd. And honestly? In the world we live in, it’s often anything but an advantage.

I'm with you there. It’s rarely a benefit; more often than not, those types end up isolated or struggling with mental health issues—not everyone, obviously, but a huge portion of them.

True, but there is a massive distinction between wanting to be different and actually being different. 😉

She never claimed it was an advantage; she was simply describing who she is.

We aren't talking about being "superior" here—that's not what "specialness" means. We're talking about people who simply diverge from the norm in some capacity. It's the same as someone standing out because of a quirky fashion sense, or maybe just having striking eyes.

I wouldn't really go along with that idea.😁
It’s just personality, I guess. Someone prefers a quiet library over a club. Someone prefers mindless small talk about what they ate or who they saw, while someone else would rather hike alone through the woods.🤷 I don't see it as a disorder. To me, the disorder is sitting in some smoky bar, half-deaf from the music, pretending to have fun while some stranger breathes down my neck.🤷 😁

She didn't even say it was an advantage; she was just describing herself.
It's not about being better than anyone else, it's just about people who stand out somehow. Like how some people stand out because of their clothes or because they have nice eyes.

Well, everybody stands out in some way, I suppose.
Maybe it's pretty eyes, maybe it's flaws, charisma, or just the way they walk. I don't really know anyone who is exactly like everyone else.🤷 🤷

Alex Patel96 said:Being an introvert is just one part of who I am. It has nothing to do with being "special" or trying to stand out from the crowd. And honestly? In this day and age, it's often more of a disadvantage than anything else.

I mean, fine 😁 I don't know, that's really the only thing you mentioned about being unique 🙂
Yeah, I guess. It’s probably not easy being an introvert these days.

What you're describing (that post above) doesn't really strike me as an advantage 😉 I guess I'm thinking about introversion 🤷
Everyone tries to be unique these days, which just makes them blend right back into the crowd 😁

slypuma17 said:Of course. 😁

It’s nearly impossible for parents to maintain any sense of objectivity when it comes to their kids—just as it is for children to view their parents through a neutral lens. There is always this tendency toward either overestimating or completely underestimating one another.

There is simply too much raw emotion involved, and it tends to cloud even the clearest judgment.

I don't know, I don't really agree. Maybe parenting just isn't for everyone. 🤷People underestimate things when they have low self-esteem, and then you've got those other parents who overestimate everything because they see their kid as an extension of themselves rather than a real person—just a way to chase their own ambitions.🙄 😳

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lonegardener said:That’s strange, isn't it?

I honestly feel like I underestimate them way more often than they ever do me.😬

Just another perfect one, I guess. 🙄

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James Ramirez10 said:Fair enough, but we established over a thousand posts ago that you're relatively sane and have a pretty standard life setup.

So, is that supposed to be the "ideal"? I guess some people call that "normal." 😕

Jerry Martinez5 said:Yeah, when you're high-strung, suddenly everyone around you gets 🙂

But you actually gave me an idea for a new thread: How the recession is cranking up everyone's anxiety levels

Specifically, how the economic downturn is fueling all these mental health issues. It feels like even the most level-headed people are starting to get anxious

Exactly that. I was thinking the same thing, I guess. 😉 I wouldn't say I'm imagining things, I guess. Just noticing. 😛

Yeah, and how are we supposed to fix that 🤷 without seeing a doctor 🙂?
I don't know, maybe it’s just me, but I feel like the number of people losing their minds lately has spiked. Or maybe I'm just imagining things. 😉