Posts by Lisa Morales4

Ronald Rogers27 said:You women... when you phrase it like that, it sounds almost sweet: one of the implicit motivations within a complicated incentive mechanism. 😍

My view is that a Man needs to distance himself first. He needs to sort out his own context and find peace within himself before he can truly integrate with society. A Man who breaks free from those external pressures is way more motivated and fulfilled than someone trying to survive in a broken community, clinging to the illusion that he's actually in control of his life.

I wasn't trying to criticize you. I just wanted to point out that you might be unconsciously adopting my ideas within this whole complex spiritual motivation thing. 😬

Ronald Rogers27

Well, can I then try to catch you in your own complex mechanism of spiritual motivation? 😛

You women, when you put it together, it can sound quite lovely: one of the implicit motivations within a complicated system of incentives. 😍

So, I guess we're all about inclusivity here. 😍

I advocate for the alienation of Man so that he can first fix his own context and find alignment with himself before attempting to integrate with Society. A Man liberated from blackmail is far more motivated and satisfied than one living in a broken society, pretending he’s in control of his life.

But couldn't that "fixing" and "integration" happen simultaneously? 😕
Ronald Rogers27, you act like a perfectionist editor: first observation, then perception, then realization, then intention, then the rough draft, then logic, then aesthetics, then the second draft, then the first copy, then the second, third, then the final version, and only then do you actually take action. 🙄

By the way, don't you know that a tiny bee flying miles for pollen—always finding its way back to its hive without fail—only needs intuition 🙂
to prove there is more God in her than in a Man who is handicapped by his own foresight, reaching for heights when all the answers are already right there in his heart.

.. and I'm chiming in too .. representing simplicity itself.

slymaker9 said:It isn't just "something"—it's everything.👍

😢 👍

slymaker9 said:The attention people direct toward those they deem "successful" is purely transactional. It is calculated—offered like a stake or an investment in the hope that this favor will be recognized and repaid when it becomes convenient or useful later on.
Unconditional love and genuine attention are entirely different matters. A person can sense the difference immediately; you can tell whether someone is giving you affection simply because of who you are, or because they believe you might be of use to them down the road.

Love is not a commodity

Unconditional love is one thing, and naturally, it can't be bought, but the attention, support, and recognition you get from colleagues within your professional network is a completely different matter.

I am incredibly proud of our teamwork lately; it has become my main source of personal fulfillment. I wouldn't be able to find this level of satisfaction or achieve this kind of success without these people. We serve each other—the mutual interest and satisfaction are shared by all.

As for unconditional love... after my first post on this thread, I hopped in the shower and washed away both the glory and the spiritual highs of the evening, along with a bit of self-pity because my shower isn't tucked away under some jungle canopy in a movie where Tarzan can hand me a towel. Feeling reborn, I started fresh, believing that every new day is a clean slate. Even though it was already 11 PM, I remembered that my dogs hadn't been to the park today. In the crisp, cool air of an American night, sitting there with my two pups who absolutely adore me unconditionally, I realized that even a soul like mine has living beings who show true, selfless devotion.🙂
and that is something special.👍

I see you, Stellica, my dear little star, and I can tell your little head is swirling with those deep questions about what it actually means to be human.
Let me tell you a little story about man, society, progress, and the soul...

Driving my big, beautiful car home tonight through a gorgeous, breezy, and perfectly calm evening—just getting back from dinner at that fancy spot in Greenwich after an incredibly productive day at the office—I felt pretty satisfied. My colleagues even rebranded our end-of-week social as "choir practice" just to charm me into joining them. But even with all that, I find myself thinking about how there’s still this void. Despite all this success, I realized I don't even have anyone I can just talk to—someone I can say the absolute dumbest thing to without it feeling heavy. It’s a simple, grounded kind of connection that I’m missing.

I was sitting there thinking about how it must be a beautiful night somewhere out in the jungle, too, and how much I’d love to just yell like Tarzan and have someone swing me right up into a treehouse in the middle of nowhere.

...And there you have it: the portrait of the modern, successful American. No matter what the "Western world" defines as winning, even if you have everyone's attention—because, let's face it, success draws people in and makes even your rivals fall in line—you can still end up lacking the most vital thing of all... a soul.

Sam Hayes said:Personally, I think I’d probably go with some kind of spiritual psychologist 🙂

It's actually called a spiritual counselor or a priest, and honestly, it's a bit of a relief.
I’ve leaned on spiritual counselors quite a bit, both here in the States and when I was traveling abroad.
They essentially coordinate with one another—much like doctors do, maintaining full professional discretion—to share insights about my situation. There was something really comforting about knowing someone was looking out for me and understood my journey without having to dig through a medical file. Not to mention that little sense of peace you get from knowing people are actually praying for you. It gave me a real sense of spiritual strength and fullness.

Sam Hayes, if this isn't too personal for you, maybe it might help someone else down the road eventually.

brisktiger56, what are you even going to do... there's all kinds of people out there.🤷 🙂

brisktiger56 said:Man, what an interesting way to see things 😍 Do you honestly think I'm hitting on Sam Hayes 😬? Did I frame that poorly? If so, you might need to move your seat in the theater—you're sitting at such a weird angle that you can't even see the screen > maybe adjust your perspective😁

But all her guys stayed back in the States! Why get so defensive right away? Just let it go!

By the way, did you honestly think this whole "mentorship" setup was some kind of flirting???
Goodness, and here I was trying to give you a compliment by saying you actually fit the description of a "desirable person" from your own post, and look at you getting all worked up. ☕
Aw, you and I wouldn't even be able to share a sandwich.🙄

Sam Hayes said:And please, let’s not bring the Bible into this—I’ve mentioned before, and I really mean it, even though I’m not a religious person myself, that the Bible is actually quite full of wisdom. It’s just that... well, I suppose it's the idiots who take everything so literally... if someone can't grasp the deeper meaning, they probably shouldn't be reading it—or bringing it up at all, in my opinion.

Well, there you go! brisktiger56 could definitely learn a thing or two from you.
I've already told him a few times that he needs to shift his perspective instead of being so reflexively allergic to certain ideas. 😛

I really respect what was said above. 👍
You're one of a kind. 🙏

brisktiger56 said:I get what this smiley means 👍, but honestly—my relationship with English is... complicated, let's just say. --so please, for the love of all things holy, could you just write in American ? 😉--thanks.

So that means brisktiger56 fits all those criteria listed above:
Hey there.
Patient.
support
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of mentorship lately. It isn't just about someone showing you the ropes or giving you a roadmap to follow; it’s more about that quiet, steady guidance that helps you find your own way. There's something special about having someone in your corner who has already navigated the storms you're currently facing. It makes the whole journey feel a little less daunting.
There's always a shoulder to lean on.
honest

... or maybe not. 😍 Haha.

Just wait until the session wraps up, then make it clear by telling her, "You aren't her musician."

brisktiger56 said:And that's exactly where the issue lies—people either refuse to read the Bible as it was actually intended, or the whole thing is just so poorly structured that everyone ends up cherry-picking their own personal version, which, honestly, is pretty terrible. What kind of divine law is so vague that it changes depending on who's looking at it? One minute "an eye for an eye" means you take a life because someone took yours, and the next person interprets it to mean they owe you a life to settle the score—like you're literally being handed a replacement person. It's a mess.

Like I mentioned earlier, I don't think comparing this to sitting in a dark theater and shifting your seat slightly to get a better view of a two-dimensional screen is really hitting the mark here.

You’re sounding like a total Pharisee here. You’re just stuck on the literal ink on the page.
The Bible isn't just rules for the sake of having rules; it's the Law of the living God. You're being such a pretentious 🙂
That’s why He, the man who was nearly broken and hung on a cross, had to step in because everyone else was too busy pushing their own personal, biased interpretations of Divine Truth.

brisktiger56 said:🙏

Exactly. I just wonder if the user suggesting LSD got flagged or something, because that suggestion was pretty pathetic and honestly dangerous.

Ned, looking back at your previous post about consciousness and intentional shifts, it gave me an idea. If someone is trying to work on themselves—or rather, adjust themselves to the world they live in—they really ought to have a grounded, patient person by their side. Someone they can talk to about everything that eats at them, everything that makes them happy, all those messy emotions. They need a pillar, maybe even a mentor, or just a shoulder to cry on... but also someone who will give them the honest truth about which direction they're actually heading.

That kind of person definitely wouldn't be handing out LSD or anything like that...

What do you think?

apply within 👍

Tyler Diaz4 said:Changing one's perception is quite difficult without support.😳

👍 Exactly.

dustyskipper3 said:Right, but... I suppose it isn't really clear how much watching a movie actually changes you, or how much it impacts you, versus how much your own deep-seated biases just end up coloring your perception of the film until they basically swallow it whole. It makes me wonder... I mean, to what extent are we actually experiencing something new that shifts our perspective, and to what extent are we just twisting everything new to fit into our pre-existing views? There are different types of personalities out there—some people might be more 'perceptive,' while others lean more toward being 'judging'—so maybe it depends on that sort of thing.

Well, if the movie doesn't consume me, I'll consume it. Or maybe we just meet somewhere in the middle.
It's a lot like reading scripture: you can read the exact same verse a dozen times and come away with a different message every single time. It all depends on the Spirit, or whatever you want to call that inner spark.
Nothing is ever really set in stone. The only thing that stays fixed is that heavy chain on a little baby elephant, even though Dumbo is a big boy now—that old chain still holds him back more than his own strength does.

Sam Hayes said:I think I mentioned before that I've been training 🙂

Fair enough then. Why let it bother you if you occasionally hit those melancholy or pink-tinted moods? It sounds like you're just a soul prone to bouts of sadness. Honestly, just let that feeling wash over you and find some joy in it. 🙂

dustyskipper3 said:Well, I suppose in that scenario you’re just shifting your physical position, but I feel like your perception actually does change just by the act of watching it again. Because when you see a movie a second time, you already have these preconceived notions in your head, so you start noticing things you might have missed before. And by the third time, it's all about the tiny details... or maybe you realize the movie is actually kind of stupid because certain things start to irritate you. But, I don't know, does that really mean that you have changed, or is it just your perception of the film and your judgment of it that shifted?

well I am constantly evolving.

Sam Hayes said:I actually quite like this analogy, 👍but I suppose
in the case of the cinema, you're really just changing your vantage point rather than actually changing yourself... we stay the same, the theater stays the same, it’s just a different seat... maybe even a slightly different perspective if you've seen it three times already... but what happens when everything looks pitch black because you're feeling down, yet when you're happy, everything seems rosy—even though, in both scenarios, you still feel this underlying sense of emptiness? Like, in the first instance, it feels more intense and depressing, whereas in the second, it's more of a lingering melancholy... just this constant, pervasive void and sadness... does anyone else ever experience that?

Exactly, we've just shifted our perspective (our vantage point)
even if the climax remains the same—we're seeing it through "different eyes" (from a different angle), so the experience feels different.

.. but what if everything looks pitch black when you're sad, and rose-colored when you're happy, yet in both scenarios, there's this underlying emptiness inside—deeper and more depressing in the first case, but in the second... just an omnipresent sense of void and sorrow... does anyone else feel this?

Change your angle: move to a different part of the room. Sit in a different chair.
Step away. Go outside.
Things will take on a whole new meaning.

does anyone else feel this?

Try picking up a guitar. Or maybe a harmonica. Or just put on some music and do some aerobics. Move on!
Focus on new sensations.

Lean against the wall: start arching your back downward. Listen to your spine.

Do some squats. You don't want things sagging in a few years. Think about staying fit and looking good well into your old age.

Shifting your perspective is really just shifting who you are.
The facts on the ground don't change.

Think about it like going to a movie theater. You sit right in the front row of the orchestra section and watch the big climax unfold right in front of you.
You go back the next day to see the exact same movie, but this time you grab a seat up in the balcony. That climax is still the same scene.
Even if you head back for a third viewing and sit all the way in the very last row, the climax remains unchanged.

brisktiger56 said:I actually ended up reaching the exact same conclusion while reading this.😉

I know exactly what you’re implying and where you’re heading with this, so I actually let you reach that conclusion just to be kind. You're welcome. 👎 It’s like Little Red Riding Hood being more of a threat than the wolf.

Change your perspective, brisktiger56: Little Red Riding Hood is just a victim of the wolf, plain and simple.
The wolf went absolutely wild, like a storm tearing through a small town. 🙂

brisktiger56 said:So, you actually believe this "impurity" thing exists?

😁

Maybe try shifting your perspective 😉 and realizing that everything just comes down to how you personally weigh the values that make up a life. Why does there always have to be some external force—some "unclean" entity—trying to drag us toward darkness? What if it’s just US? What if we’re the ones giving ourselves permission to act out, making bad calls, or indulging in a little reckless gambling...?

Hmm? A shift in perception... isn't that basically what we're talking about here?

Or maybe this "impurity" isn't some external villain 😁?!? I mean, who were you even thinking about???

Well, I'm talking about the person who isn't malicious, just "bad," or the one who would never actually play along with you, they're just "playing"... You know, the type where grandma tells you to watch your step. But even if Little Red Riding Hood isn't a saint, she still wants to have a little fun and go off the beaten path, and by the time the wolf almost catches her by the tail—the "bad guy" is already gone and the story is over.

It looks like we need to change our perspective on the wolf, because even Little Red Riding Hood can be a bit "bad" herself 😁

brisktiger56 said:Thanks for the links 🙂, but if I had to pick out the highlights, it would be this:

Aristotle once said: “Anyone can get angry—that’s easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right manner—that is not easy.”
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Emotional intelligence basically gives you the tools to motivate yourself through frustration, manage impulsivity, practice delayed gratification, regulate your mood, detach from agitation during thought processes, and actually find room for empathy and hope.

Unlike pure logic, emotional intelligence isn't just something you're born with; it's a skill you can acquire, practice, and sharpen throughout your life.

Out of all the "do-it-yourself" ways to fix a bad mood, aerobic exercise seems to be the heavyweight champion. Just doing chores around the house doesn't really cut it. The trick is cardio. Things like running, cycling, power walking, swimming, or rowing—basically anything that gets your heart rate up, improves circulation, and boosts oxygen intake. You should probably aim for at least 20 minutes, three to five times a week.

... and don't forget a trip to the amusement park, jumping on a trampoline, or hitting the bumper cars.😁

🙂

Just aim for 30 (minutes) 👍 daily
and you won't be left feeling sluggish or unmotivated 😍

Here are 30 ways to find those 30 minutes of physical activity every single day

Sam Hayes said:I’m not really one for messing around with heavy chemistry or anything... honestly, the multivitamins I’ve been taking lately seem to be doing more than enough for me. I suppose I’m just quite sensitive in general—and if I had to pick the absolute worst part, it would have to be how much my moods tend to swing. I don't know how you all handle it, my fellow moody people, but I feel like I go through an entire spectrum of emotions in a single day—and it’s been that way for several years now. 😁 My family keeps telling me they’ve never met anyone quite as unpredictable as I am...

Well, it's one thing to ride the waves of your mood, but it's a different story when those moods start calling the shots for you. 🙄

Have you ever thought about trying to change something else instead of just riding the mood swings?

placidranger said:Gratitude is a reliable technique. There’s a whole tradition of it within Christianity.
By simply listing what we're thankful for—making a conscious effort to hunt for the good stuff—we force our focus toward the positive. If you turn this into a daily ritual, it actually starts to impact your mood.
It also recalibrates your perception; if you’re actively looking for things to be grateful for, you’ll start noticing the decent parts of life more often than if you just let them pass you by.

Exactly, my friend.👍
You just let this instrumental track play, and you start mentally listing everything you have in your life—all those things money simply can't buy. 🙂

You get to choose your own perspective on who you are.

dustyskipper3 said:I mean, sure, but I'm pretty convinced that anything requiring significant investment or a long-term ritual just bores most people. They find it tedious, maybe even feel like it's a massive waste of time, so they relax too soon... and then, I guess, that darkness just creeps up from the subconscious and smothers your awareness. On the other hand, you can't really achieve anything without putting in some work. You can't pass a Bar exam without studying, and I suppose spirituality works the same way. The key is not to approach it like a political campaign—you know, expecting massive results overnight—but rather to slowly improve your outlook on life, feeling that gradual growth in positivity, while also being prepared for the setbacks, the falls, and the regressions.

We learn best from our mistakes.👍
If we can turn our falls into valuable lessons, then we've truly won twice over.