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Sandra Lee2 said:Does anyone have any insight regarding disability benefits and schizophrenia?
Generally speaking, I'd say it's way harder to qualify for Social Security disability based on a psychiatric diagnosis than almost anything else. Honestly, you even see people living with schizophrenia who manage to hold down jobs more or less successfully. But at the end of the day, the SSA determines the eligibility, so it all comes down to whatever their board decides.
George Ward5 said:Look, self-respect isn't just about what you know or what skills you have on your resume. It’s more fundamental than that. It's a baseline awareness of who you are as a person, regardless of your achievements. It's that internal sense that you actually matter to yourself. When someone hasn't made peace with themselves, they usually struggle to respect anyone else's needs or opinions, too. Generally speaking, people who have a healthy sense of self-worth tend to look at the world and the people in it through a more positive lens; they recognize their own value, which makes it easy for them to acknowledge the value in everyone else.
I have to disagree here; I don't think those two things are inherently linked. You can land on any of these four combinations: I’m good and others are good, I’m good but others aren't, I'm not good but others are, or neither I nor others are doing so well.
Drew Perez15 said:We’re basically 🙂
What happens if everyone in my life thinks I'm self-destructing, but I don't see it that way?
Who actually gets to decide if we’re just being self-destructive?
Tyler Watson82 said:Quick question for the thinkers out there...
Which way would you rather go: being sharp and savvy but a little cold-hearted, or being warm and empathetic but a bit dim-witted?
I’m honestly not sure there’s a "better" option here. It feels more like we’re just stuck with who we are, even if there's a slim chance to tweak things over time. Personally, I consider myself pretty smart, but my emotions tend to get the better of me sometimes, leading me to do some pretty questionable things.
Charles Wood73 said:I was just sitting here thinking about something—it might be totally irrelevant to the thread, but who knows... I picked up this book recently about avoidant personality disorder, and now I’m spiraling a bit wondering if that diagnosis is essentially just a fancy way of describing someone with an avoidant attachment style. Or maybe they’re just two sides of the same coin? I can't quite recall the title, though I do remember the author identified as gay. Not that that matters much in a vacuum, but in this context, it felt like a detail worth noting... because the only part of the book that actually stuck in my brain was this one passage where he mused about the types of people you see at the local Gold's Gym who just show up to grind. They don't talk, they don't socialize, they certainly don't engage in those "accidental" physical brushes or try to get uncomfortably close to anyone; they just step onto a machine and hammer away. To him, apparently, that behavior alone was enough to warrant a clinical diagnosis. At least, that's how I remember it—though I can't be entirely sure since I didn't finish the thing; it was far too overpriced for my liking.
Well, obviously, if I go to the gym, I'm there to work out. And that definitely shouldn't be used as a diagnostic criterion for Avoidant Personality Disorder, which I certainly don't have.
wanderingbadger0 said:Since this discussion centers on attachment styles, it stands to reason that any issues regarding emotional scarcity or overcompensation would manifest most clearly within a relationship. We all exist in a vacuum when we are alone, yet problems regarding attachment patterns truly come to light once we begin pairing up with someone else.
However, if you believe it is possible to address these issues beforehand, I would be quite interested to learn about your specific methodology. How exactly did you identify which areas required attention without the presence of a partner or a trial relationship to serve as a mirror?
Generally speaking, I am of the opinion that we learn the most about our own nature through our interactions with others in our immediate social environment. For that reason, I find your premise somewhat difficult to accept, though I would certainly welcome hearing about your personal experiences if you feel they might change my perspective. 🙂
Look, there’s plenty of stuff applicable to all human connections, not just romantic ones, so you can definitely practice these skills outside of a partnership. For instance, you can practice self-reflection instead of constantly pointing fingers at others, or learning how to offer an apology to smooth things over rather than demanding one from everyone else. Just practicing basic honesty with yourself and the people around you counts. And so on.
The sixties are the new sixteen. 😁
Hmm, maybe next time. 😉
The last few haven't really been anything special.
dustyseal5 said:Finally, someone 🙏
Thanks for the tip, but here's the thing: I tried that exact material two years ago and it absolutely wrecked me. It's interesting seeing how different these methods are. From what I recall, his approach is all about ignoring the symptoms and shifting focus, whereas The dar Response tells you not to fight it, but to lean in and invite it. Use your own judgment. 😵
Just try whatever feels right for you and make a call. It's that simple.
Harold Anderson3, I'm pretty sure Carol Barrett2 is actually based in Canada, so I'd bet the regulations over there are totally different.
Morgan Newman7 said:Honestly, the weirdest part of this whole thing is the sister. She had a second kid with her husband, yet they’re still living separately?
It’s the same old story—mother-in-law drama and constant friction. The point should be simple: don't move in with in-laws. Most of the time, trying to share a roof just leads to massive blowouts or divorce, and it totally kills the relationship. But hey, that’s more of a topic of the day for Zud...
Yeah, the sister is definitely acting strange. They actually lived together again for a few months when they had that second child. And thank God they did, because that nephew of mine is such a massive source of support for me—just like I am for him. He's a truly wonderful little soul.
It’s actually pretty common to see people get a massive ego trip once they land a promotion or move up the corporate ladder. That’s why I have such deep respect for those who stay grounded and don't let a fancy title change who they are at their core.
That said, I do know one person who actually underwent a complete transformation for the better following a truly devastating tragedy. My sister's mother-in-law—when I first met her (and others had told me the same thing)—just gave off this incredibly negative vibe. It was unlike anything I'd ever felt from anyone else. When my sister married her only son, the mother-in-law invited them all to move in together. At first, things were fine, but then life hit them hard: her husband was deployed overseas, and my sister was pregnant and had to be extremely careful, which made the living situation increasingly tense. Once the husband returned from his deployment and went back to work, my sister had their son. She tried talking to him about the friction in the house, but nothing changed. So, one day while he was out at his job, she just called some friends to pick her and the baby up, packed their bags, and moved back home to stay with her parents and me, giving her husband a quick heads-up via phone.
He didn't take that news particularly well. One day, while my sister wasn't home, he showed up and took the boy, but he clearly wasn't in any state to actually care for him, so he ended up bringing him right back that same evening. A few months later, a friend offered my sister a place to stay in her apartment while she was traveling abroad, and my sister took the offer. My mom and I would drop by every now and then to help out with the little guy. Eventually, the husband moved in there too, though things remained incredibly strained. In the meantime, he lost his career and ended up working as a night security guard. My sister eventually moved out again, but this time she refused to let him move in with them. They had a second child a few months later, and the husband really hoped the new baby might bridge the gap and make her reconsider, but it didn't work. Then, he was deployed again, and during a weekend visit home, he took his own life. He had been struggling with depression for a while, and the PTSD from the service just pushed him over the edge.
And here is the paradox: that horrific event actually turned his mother into a better person. She became a better mother-in-law and a better grandmother—suddenly, she was a warmer, more caring individual.
I’m leaning toward both, though honestly, it’s a tough call to make given how little I actually know about the situation.
Alright, whatever. Thanks again for putting in the effort and actually trying to get this sorted out. 🙏
Alright, no big deal. I’m just genuinely curious why my limit is stuck at 200 while everyone else seems to have been bumped up to 300. Is this just some weird fluke, am I being punished for something, or what's the deal?
Casey Bennett said:No problem at all.
Did you get that DM sorted out?
Sadly, no. I’m still stuck at just 200. I mean, sure, I can make ends meet on that amount, but it feels a bit rigged if everyone else is getting a bigger slice of the pie.
I haven't had a chance to reach out to the Amtrak moderators yet, but I'll get to it eventually.
Thanks for jumping in and getting this sorted out so quickly. Really appreciate the help.
I’ve been hearing from other users on here that some people managed to get their inbox limit bumped up to 300 messages, yet mine is still stuck at 200. Is there any actual way to request an increase so I can hit that 300 mark too?
On a separate note, I have a small favor to ask regarding my partial ban on Amtrak. I’m posting this here because having that restriction on Amtrak makes me a bit of a laughingstock among the rest of the community. 🙄
Just to be clear, I haven't received a single warning or strike in over seven months. Honestly, I don't consider myself a troublemaker, even if a few moderators have tried to paint me in a certain light.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to at least take my request into consideration.