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Server build ideas? in Hardware ·
What's the point of 4xSSDs for basic bookkeeping?

Seriously, what does an accountant even need an SSD for?

I mean, you could go out and buy a Cray if you wanted, but the reality is you won't notice a single bit of difference. 8 GB of RAM? Please. The only way that makes sense is if she’s planning to host a World of Warcraft server overnight. 😉

Instead, just build a decent PC using HDDs in a RAID1 setup for backups, throw in a bit more RAM, and make sure you pick a modern motherboard so it doesn't become a bottleneck when you want to upgrade later. That's the play. Skip the fancy graphics card and you're golden. Grab a used 19" LCD on Craigslist for $67 so she doesn't have to mess around with remote desktop access—not that she'll need to. You can pull the whole thing together for about 4-$1667.

As for specific accounting software, there isn't much point in debating it; people stick to whatever they're used to. They aren't going to switch just because they could save a few bucks by improvising with their own Excel spreadsheets.
Best stylus for an iPad? in Laptops ·
...I picked up an Apple iPad on sale at Verizon (honestly, surprisingly solid for $250).

Since I’m planning to turn this thing into a multi-purpose digital notebook—for everything from sketching to technical work notes (I'm a mechanical engineer)—I need a decent stylus. Any ideas or experiences out there? Should I go with a Bamboo tip? Adonit? DotPen?
Where should I start with philosophy? in Philosophy ·
Pick up a copy of Sophie's World. Read it.
It’s an easy read. It serves as a roadmap to help you figure out how to actually tackle philosophy, while helping you pinpoint exactly which rabbit holes you want to dive down next.
Are humans just animals? in Philosophy ·
mellownomad30 said:Look, it's not like I'm trying to trash animals. I'm just saying that the more we try to deny the reality of how things work globally, the more we just end up getting better at lying to ourselves. We haven't moved forward an inch; we've just mastered self-delusion.

And regarding that whole "pack solidarity" thing... don't they have hierarchies too? The weak ones bow down to the strong. Where's the equality there? Where's the solidarity?

Your fundamental issue is that you haven't actually read anything. You have zero clue what you’re talking about, and you can't even distinguish between basic concepts. Honestly, you clearly struggle with basic grammar, too.

Concepts. Existence. Hierarchies. They're everywhere. We try to organize ourselves, build structures, and create ladders to climb, thinking it brings order to the chaos. But most of the time, it's just a way to consolidate power or pretend there's a logic to the madness. Whether it’s in a corporate office in Chicago or a social circle in Los Angeles, someone is always trying to sit at the top of the pile. It's an inherent part of how we function, for better or worse. It doesn't shut down automatically. Solidarity isn't just some lofty, abstract concept you read about in history books or hear mentioned in political speeches. It’s practical. It’s gritty. It’s the backbone of any functioning society. When people actually stand together to support one another—not because they have to by law, but because they choose to out of shared principle—that’s when real progress happens. Without that collective will, we’re just a collection of individuals drifting in separate directions, looking out only for ourselves. Real solidarity requires skin in the game.. Conquest. It’s not being abolished. Equality. It’s a heavy word, isn't it? Everyone loves to throw it around in political speeches or social media debates like it’s some kind of magic wand that fixes everything. But when you actually sit down and look at it, the concept gets messy fast. Is it about everyone having the exact same starting line, or is it about everyone being treated by the same set of rules once the race begins? People argue over this constantly, yet rarely do they define what they actually mean. It’s easy to demand equality in theory; it’s a much more complicated beast when you try to apply it to the real world.. Solidarity isn't just some lofty concept you read about in a textbook. It’s the backbone of any functioning society. Without that collective sense of duty to one another, we’re just a bunch of individuals drifting in isolation, looking out only for ourselves. Real solidarity means showing up when things get messy, standing shoulder-to-shoulder with your neighbors, and recognizing that my well-being is tied directly to yours. It’s easy to talk about unity when the sun is shining, but the true test comes during the storms. That’s when you see who actually stands by the community and who just watches from the sidelines. It doesn't follow. Equality. It’s a concept we throw around constantly in this country, usually as a way to score points or claim moral high ground. But let's be honest: true equality is rarely about fairness and almost always about optics. We talk about leveling the playing field while everyone is busy trying to tilt it in their own favor. It's a constant tug-of-war where nobody actually wants to reach the middle..

I’d suggest consulting a dictionary—even just a standard one if you don't feel like diving into something more "philosophical."

Look at the animal kingdom. It’s not just chaos. You see hierarchy, you see solidarity, you see submission, and you see equality. All of it exists right there in nature.

Most pack animals understand hierarchy. It isn't some random social quirk; it’s a functional mechanism designed to keep the group from falling into total chaos.

The mere existence of a pack and its hierarchy inherently demands solidarity. A pack hunts together—that’s solidarity. They drive off enemies as a unit—solidarity. They raise and protect their young collectively—solidarity. Solidarity is the entire point of "pack behavior." If the members aren't standing together, then the whole concept of a pack is meaningless. Think about it: if you hunt together but don't share the kill, nobody has any incentive to stay in that group. Animals that lack this sense of solidarity live solitary lives, like bears or moles.

The strength of pack mentality really depends on the species, I’ll admit. A troop of baboons or a herd of elephants will fight to the death to protect one of their own. But a herd of deer? They’ll scatter the second wolves show up.
I think I see where you're getting tripped up. You’re probably hung up on the idea that the alpha eats first and takes the lion's share. That isn't a lack of solidarity; it's just basic hierarchy. In a pack, no single individual is left to starve, except in those extreme cases where keeping them alive puts the survival of the entire group at risk. That is what true solidarity looks like.

Look at the way lions and vultures handle a meal. It’s a completely different game. Among lions, there's a structured hierarchy; they allow other members of the pride to eat, and the kill is divided according to rank. But you won't see a single vulture being invited to the table by those lions. There is zero solidarity among vultures. They aren't part of the pride. Notice how the lion clearly knows what he is? They recognize their own equality and instinctively shut out anything that isn't a lion. Even those who didn't participate in the hunt—the younger cubs—still get their share. And if a lion from a different pride shows up, he's going to be driven off immediately, unless he spends enough time proving he actually belongs to that group. If books are too much of a struggle for you, I suggest watching a David Attenborough documentary instead. It seems like your preferred medium.

The existence of hierarchy and submitting to stronger individuals doesn't imply a lack of equality. In fact, it’s quite the opposite: equality within a pack is a functional reality. Every single individual possesses the capacity to challenge anyone positioned "higher" up the ladder and elevate their own status. Any member can become a leader, and any leader, once their strength wanes, will inevitably be replaced. In multi-species packs—think of a group consisting of humans, dogs, and cats—inter-species equality exists too. A hierarchy will naturally establish itself between those three distinct species based on the specific individuals involved, and that structure is never set in stone; there is always a chance for the dynamic to shift. Members of the pack might internally believe something entirely different, much like when you say with absolute certainty, "the dog doesn't even know he's a dog." 🙄), but in practice, they function as solidary, equal units. For this debate to move forward, we need to be crystal clear about what "equality" actually means. It isn't synonymous with "sameness." Take a pack of wolves, for example: there is equality in their mutual relationship and solidarity, even though one individual can solve differential equations and wield a firearm while the other could easily kill them both without breaking a sweat. 🤷

Inequality definitely exists within packs. Inequality manifests as certain individuals being unable to occupy specific positions. In hyenas, for instance, a male cannot be the pack leader. With wolves, the leader is always a male. With domestic cats, a younger female can't override an older one. And so on. Those are manifestations of INEQUALITY. I don't know, it’s difficult to explain this via text, but you would likely characterize the fact that Person A is a construction worker and Person B is a CEO at the same firm as "inequality." They are EQUAL; they possess equal rights, they just don't hold the same position. 🤷

So yes, humans are absolutely animals.

But not because of the arguments and claims you're presenting; those are simply wrong, uninformed, baseless, born from prejudice or perhaps limited personal experience with a very small sample size—and on top of all that, they are poorly written. 🤷

A brief side note on:
I assume someone might argue that it's not like that, that they just want to know themselves and be a good person. Think about the actual reasons why that is. Because by showing your "true face," you decrease your chances within the "pack."

That statement actually implies you believe your "true face" isn't worthy of the pack you're trying to prove yourself to. In other words, you're an insecure person who holds a very low opinion of your own "true self."

Furthermore, the idea that EVERYONE wants to be the Alpha in society is completely flawed. It sounds more like the arrogance of someone who fails to grasp pack hierarchy, the various levels that exist, and the respective pros and cons of each position.

A HUGE—perhaps too huge—number of people don't want to be the Alpha; instead, they are perfectly content having someone else take care of them while they enjoy the fruits of someone else's labor. If EVERYONE wanted to be an Alpha, we'd have 4.5 million candidates running for President. 🤷

My guess is that the real question is, "How do I become an ALPHA so I can get laid?"
Hint: in the human pack, every hierarchical level gets screwed.
How to support my mom after she found out my dad was cheating? in Psychology & Therapy ·
I’m with the rest of the group here; this situation runs much deeper than it looks on the surface. Sane people don't just fall apart because they got caught flirting or having a little fun on the side. If you jump over to the divorce sub, you'll find plenty of stories—but nothing quite like this one.

Either she’s dealing with some heavy-duty issue that she’s masking from her kids, or there’s a fundamental lack of emotional maturity that requires professional intervention. And a quick reality check: a psychiatrist or a psychologist isn't like an Urgent Care clinic where you pop in for a quick checkup and walk out with a prescription. This requires actual therapy. Consistent, ongoing work.
The Parent Trap (1998) in Movies ·
Yeah, I remember it.

It was just pure, unadulterated desperation—treating kids like they're little idiots you can sell anything to. If my memory serves me right, the girls were decent enough actors. Everything else? Total garbage.
Claiming a movie changes who you are might be a stretch. But here are a few that came close...

1. Peter Jackson's Lord of the Rings. If I’d missed that one, I’d probably still be a well-adjusted person. It’s all this idiot's fault; everything went downhill after that. 🙂

2. SAW, the original. My god, what a ride. It isn't even about the gore; it's that feeling when you walk out of the theater wondering how you'd actually handle those scenarios... plus, as an engineer, there's this creepy realization of just how much "creative" potential exists in those designs... What am I capable of? Where do I draw the line? How powerful is the survival instinct? Am I the kind of person who would bite my own leg off just to stay alive? It makes you wonder what actually matters—is anything more important than life itself?

3. Pan's Labyrinth. Do I even need to explain? Forget the fact that it's a completely different yet strikingly similar film to Life is Beautiful. Totally different approach, yet a phenomenal level of creativity in the storytelling... For me personally, WW2 was something I knew facts about, but I lacked the visceral understanding of the horror; that non-cognitive gut punch. These two films hammered it home.

4. Inception. Saito is to blame. His hands at the start of the film, that tiny, microscopic detail... it performs inception on the viewer. Do I have an idea? Any idea at all? Why don't I dream, and if I do, what's the subtext? Am I just empty?

5. The Edge. Maybe a weird choice; but seeing a man stripped of the comforts of his artificial world, forced to face a brutal, hairy embodiment of Nature, exposed in all his weakness; left to realize that through the catharsis of accepting his own frailty, he can find enough defiance and survival instinct to avoid despair and succumb to The Circle of Life...

Respect.
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Mustafa Nadarević.
Darko Potočnjak.
How did you guys find this movie? in Movies ·
Alright, I definitely need to check this one out! 👍
How did you guys find this movie? in Movies ·
casualgull said:By age 14, I had a collection of 90 top-tier Swedish action flicks. Is that enough context? 😁 Every single one came with those massive posters they used to give out. I actually ended up paying double just to have my buddy Turk track them down for me since I didn't have an ID, and the authorities here take that stuff seriously.

I kept everything under my bed until my mom decided to clean up one day and confiscated my "stash." Years later, she admitted she took them and sold them off. 😳

Before all that, my cinematic diet consisted of nothing but trashy 90s action intros on local US cable channels. Then it shifted to Swedish action during my puberty years, before I eventually pivoted toward the classics. 🙂

😂 🤣 Smart lady! 😍
How did you guys find this movie? in Movies ·
Joshua Smith5 said:Movies have always been my thing. I grew up surrounded by the same stuff. Some people in my family lived for bad movies [propaganda pieces starring Chuck Norris], some were so bad they actually worked [Commando], and others preferred the classics. I watched my first real, heavy-hitting classic with my mom. It was Kurosawa, Seven Samurai. On PBS. The day I realized how much of an idiot I was about films was when I blew off a date with a girl just to watch Altman's Gosford Park. Also on PBS. No, it wasn't even a specific day, but I still regret blowing her off. 😁

🙏 🙏
How did you guys find this movie? in Movies ·
Everyone in my house was watching movies, so I was right there with them. 🤷
I honestly can't think of a single person who doesn't watch or enjoy films. Do you guys actually know someone who doesn't?

To build on what Patrick Martin said; there used to be a time when TV would air genuinely great movies during kid-friendly hours. I remember catching a solid film and then cutting out the little program guides to paste into a scrapbook instead of pressed flowers. And whenever a rerun of something I actually liked came on, it was pure bliss.

Classics? No clue. I always go into a movie knowing absolutely nothing about it—not even the director if I can help it. I don't read reviews, I don't follow critics, none of that bullshit. On that first viewing, it’s just me and the screen. I don't need some pretentious snob telling me, "Oh, Citizen Kane, that's a masterpiece," or whatever garbage they spout. Sure, Citizen Kane is a classic, but I want to experience and feel it for myself, not have someone dictating what counts as good or bad.
When you just can't let it go. in Psychology & Therapy ·
Paul Thompson3 said:Oh, please—it’s just a bad breakup, not some tragic Shakespearean death sentence.
You’re honestly just picking at the same old scab every single day.
Just let it go; it’s over, it’s done, it’s dead and buried—that chapter is closed for good.
Move on already. Stop overthinking it, find something else to occupy your brain, or if it really hits you hard—just grab a drink and call it a night.
It isn't even about missing them that much—you're just struggling to deal with yourself. Get it together.

What a brilliant piece of advice: kill yourself over some random guy or girl. 🙄

If you lack any sense of vitality, where is your pride? Look, if you're really struggling, try this: find a picture of an anatomical part—whatever your preference—print it out, stand in front of a mirror, hold the photo so you see both yourself and the image, and ask yourself out loud: "Is this worth dying for? Especially considering there are roughly 3.5 billion other people on this planet?"

🤦

Like hiddenhawk3 said, there are plenty of things far worse than some pathetic "oh no, he doesn't love me" sob story. They don't want you? Fine. Move on. It’s like having a broken leg in a cast; you can't do anything except wait for the bone to knit back together. This is the same thing. It will pass. Does it hurt? Sure. It'll stop eventually. Just stop torturing yourself with thoughts like "maybe there's still a chance." Don't waste time investigating whether they *really* decided it's over. YOU decide it's over.
How to handle arguments/confrontations in Psychology & Therapy ·
Andrew Mendoza10 said:People are their most honest selves when they're angry—they finally say what they really think.

I honestly believe this is the absolute truth. 😍 Look, I’d argue that insults and profanity only really start flying when someone hits a wall. It’s what happens in those moments of total helplessness—when, as Lord Byron would put it, you simply lose the ability to articulate your side of the argument. Usually, it stems from one of two things: either a personal lack of eloquence, or the fact that the other person has already decided to reject your points before you've even finished speaking.

When it comes to eloquence, you have to learn how to argue. Real arguing isn't just noise; it’s a tactical maneuver. When you engage, you need to consciously define your objective—what exactly are you trying to achieve or uproot? You have to stay laser-focused on the actual problem at hand rather than attacking the person standing in front of you. Don't let the conversation drift into irrelevant tangents. An argument should serve a purpose: resolving a specific conflict. It shouldn't be some emotional venting session. Once you master this, you'll realize that all that yoga, deep breathing, and relaxation nonsense is completely unnecessary. You aren't looking to use an argument as a way to dump out negative energy that needs to be managed through meditation; you're looking to solve a concrete issue. If you maintain that focus, the systemic breakdown resolves itself.

Look, if you’re dealing with a sister who treats a shared bedroom like a dumping ground, you have to be surgical about it. You don't go after her personality; you target the specific behavior. If you attack her character—telling her she’s messy or that her habits drive you insane—you’ve already lost. That’s just an invitation for a blowout fight. Instead, approach it from a neutral, objective standpoint. It’s about the environment, not her soul. Think of it like this: You aren't critiquing her lifestyle; you're defending your territory. You make it clear that while you respect her space and keep your own gear organized, the current state of the room is infringing on yours. Try something like: "Your stuff is spread out everywhere, and it’s getting in my way when I’m trying to get things done. This is our shared room, and I need to have enough space to function without constantly moving your things out of the way." Keep it blunt. Keep it focused on the physical reality of the room. Address the mess, not the person.
If you’re going to issue a threat, at least make it coherent. Try something like, "If you don't clean up your mess, I'm just going to pile everything on your bed and let you deal with the chaos," instead of some unhinged, "If you don't tidy up, I'm going to lose my mind and burn the whole house down!"
One more thing: threats, empty warnings, and actual actions. Never say anything you don't mean. To do and to make..

Look, stop making accusations like she’s some messy child. Don't bring up the fact that she might have swiped your ice cream two weeks ago, and don't claim you're just acting out because Mark didn't call you back for coffee. That's noise. If she tries to deflect, shut it down immediately. You need to be firm: "We aren't talking about me spilling tea on your sweater right now; we are talking about the fact that your stuff is scattered all over the room and it's bothering me. Please focus on this specific issue, and if you want, we can deal with everything else later." Avoid the insults and the swearing. The second you resort to that, you lose your authority, and your actual point becomes completely meaningless. Any argument where you lose your cool and start throwing around anatomical insults or animal comparisons is an argument you've already lost—because the core problem, those things left lying around the room, will remain exactly where they were.

Apologizing for insults is, in my opinion, the absolute worst part of this cycle. It essentially teaches people that you can lose your mind, lash out, and spew whatever toxicity comes to your head, only to act like everything is perfectly fine thirty minutes later. It’s a pattern. People eventually just learn to tune you out—or worse, they start treating your little "outbursts" as a joke to be laughed off. That’s why nobody actually gets worked up when Scott Sanders goes off; it’s just an old habit at this point. Let it pass. 😂Look, let's be clear: arguing isn't just about noise. It’s about being targeted, reasoned, and authoritative.

When it comes to people who refuse to listen—those who shut down before you even open your mouth or just go stone-cold silent—I’m at a loss. I tend to lean toward a more aggressive, confrontational tactic. It’s basically me shouting, "Hey, look at me and answer the damn question!" just to try and bait a reaction out of them. Honestly? It’s a losing game. Sometimes it works, but most of the time, it backfires. The truth is, I struggle with people who react purely on emotion. You try to have a rational debate or point out something that isn't right, and they immediately cut you off because their feelings are "hurt." It’s absurd. It’s like someone getting offended because you dared to mention a smudge on their computer screen. They take a logical critique as a personal attack and slam the door shut. If anyone here has a better way to actually break through that wall of silence without turning it into a street fight, I’m all ears. Please, share some advice.

edit:
Regarding the language used here; the forum rules clearly state that everyone needs to stick to standard American English grammar.
As for your writing style, I have to be honest—some of those phrases left me pretty confused, and I didn't quite follow what you were getting at.
Feeling socially awkward/isolated in Psychology ·
My take? This whole idea of being "social" isn't actually normal.

Let me clarify my point. I’ve been there myself.

In the way our society defines "socializing"—especially during those formative years between 16 and 20—I never saw any logic in it. None. Just mindless drinking, puking, dragging yourself through clubs with deafening music that makes conversation impossible, smoking, weed, drugs. You can't even string a coherent sentence together. If you're lucky, you might manage a hug. Then you wake up at noon with a splitting headache. It’s not fun. It’s boring.

I didn't go through that phase at 16. I forced myself to try it at 24. It was indescribably stupid and even less enjoyable. It felt even more pathetic when it coincided with "hooking up," where you wake up the next morning trying to piece together what you even did after that twelfth beer. Pathetic.

I believe this entire phase is a byproduct of spiritual poverty. It stems from an inability to spend time on actual, quality entertainment—traveling, road trips, hitting the coast, heading to the mountains, visiting different cities... and a total lack of creativity to make those things happen.

Think about what actually interests you and fulfills you. You don't need to get wasted just to have a social life, nor do you have to be a hermit to maintain your integrity. Find an activity that resonates—art, sports, science, hiking, scouting, whatever—or join a volunteer organization focused on a cause you care about. That's how you connect with people who share your mindset in a creative, meaningful way.
What are we even fighting for? in Psychology ·
Well, good luck with that. Honestly, I’m always relieved when people who spend their lives chasing clout and dragging their feet stay out of my way. If they happen to cross my path? Whatever. I’ll just run them over.

The Kardashians, the Hilton crowd, the whole socialite circus—they can have their little playground for all I care. I wouldn't touch that lifestyle with a ten-foot pole. What you see on screen is just the tip of the iceberg. Maintaining an empire like that? I wouldn't even consider it unless someone offered me 89 private jets and four times their entire net worth. 🤷
Are lefties actually smarter? in Psychology ·
Please. The only thing actually worth debating is the specific writing style used by liberals—a technique that 90% of our elementary school teachers can't even begin to teach. It’s a disgrace. 🙂
What are we even fighting for? in Psychology ·
I don't know, that just feels wrong to me. 🤷

If someone handed me $20 quadrillion on a silver platter, a dozen gorgeous partners ready to cater to my every whim—regardless of race or build—and every luxury I could ever dream of, I wouldn't touch any of it. It sounds incredibly dull. There’d be nothing left to strive for because every problem would already be solved. Everything loses its luster when there’s zero friction. It's the pursuit itself that gives things weight.

Look, I’m not talking about "sacrifice" in some lofty, pseudo-philosophical sense. I’m talking about skin in the game. It’s the sweat equity you pour into something that makes an achievement actually mean something. Anyone can slide down a mountain on skis—what’s the big deal there? Nothing. But the grit, the grueling training, the struggle, and the sheer willpower required to get to that point? That’s where the value lies. It isn't just about the speed of the descent; it's about who you become during the climb. That’s how I see it.

Honestly, your logic comes across as nothing more than pure, unadulterated laziness. 🤷 It’s like saying, "Hey, let's just check out early so we don't have to deal with anything difficult."

Sure, I'll die eventually, but why shouldn't I enjoy the ride until then? 🤷
What are we even fighting for? in Psychology ·
rustynomad12 said:Guys, I’m honestly worried you’re missing the whole point here... maybe I’m just missing it, but I don't see depression in this... mkay? All I see is people failing to grasp how the world actually works and the simple fact that you have to go out there and engage in a little Borba just to carve out your own space...

Dennis Bailey2—everything you said is spot on. That's exactly what I try to do, though maybe I don't lean into it hard enough or with enough intensity... I am definitely not a depressed person, not even close. Honestly, I'm pretty grounded... so there was way more irony in my post than actual whining...
The urge toward suicide is very much a real thing, I've realized that more than a few times...

But... isn't that exactly what makes this ugly world beautiful?

If everything was just handed to us on a silver platter, would anything actually matter? It reminds me of that old superhero movie line: "In a world where everyone is super, nobody is." That’s the crux of the issue. It’s the grind—the actual blood, sweat, and tears you pour into earning your spot—that gives that position any real value. If anyone could simply wake up and be Bill Gates, Einstein, or Gandhi, then being those people wouldn't mean a damn thing.

It’s like trying to argue with a saw about why it cuts. Why bother dissecting the physics of why the sky is blue? It just is. You can howl at the moon until you're blue in the face, but that isn't going to make it descend from the sky. 🤷
Are lefties actually smarter? in Psychology ·
Jessica Chavez4 said:Well, if it’s really that simple, did you actually pull it off? I tried it myself and it was a complete disaster. 🤷

Icy. 🤦 Look, left-handedness only stopped being treated like a disgrace about 40 years ago. Before that, kids were forced to write with their right hands, and they managed just fine.

Nowadays, anyone can pick up left-handed writing if they want to; it’s purely a matter of grit and persistence. For example, when my right arm was stuck in a cast for two months, I picked it up without any trouble at all.

If lefties are supposedly "superior" because of how they process information or whatever pseudo-scientific theory people cling to, why don't we see that reflected anywhere else? Aside from having an advantage in certain positions on a soccer field or a baseball diamond, there's zero evidence. 🤣