Emily Smith6 said:I suppose we should probably address what was said earlier. Looking back at the points raised, I find myself wondering if we're all looking at this through the same lens, or if there's a fundamental disconnect in how we're interpreting the situation. It feels like we might be missing some of the finer nuances, though that’s just my two cents. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but it seems to me that the implications here are a bit more complex than they initially appeared on the surface.
It’s honestly hard to wrap my head around. We're looking at a 800-square-foot apartment allocated to a single person, while so many young families actually followed the rules and applied through the proper channels just to get a place to live. Now, apparently, she wasn't even keeping up with the utility bills, didn't secure the unit through any legitimate means, and yet here we are with her playing the victim. I guess some people just expect things to fall into their lap without following the process.
We should probably set up a stage in Times Square and let the crowd pelt her with eggs.
Beyond the disaster of young people being forced out of the city after 1.5 years despite paying rent faithfully, this woman lives alone in a massive 70+ square meter unit right in the heart of downtown, acting entitled.
Evict her, take everything she owns, and send her to Catholic Charities to beg for scraps. Instead of hiding, she should be paraded through Rio de Janeiro so she can face the public's reaction firsthand. An absolute disgrace!
Outdoor recreation serves as a bridge for people navigating mental health challenges to connect with the community. It is about prioritizing wellness while dismantling the stigma surrounding mental health issues. The event is free and hosted by the Phoenix Association Split; please check our Facebook page or group for further details.
Sunday, August 30th. 4:00 PM - 4:20 PM: Meet at the North Gate, specifically on the left side near the stone monument. 4:20 PM: A Walk over to Ben’s for swimming, sudoku, crosswords, chess, cards, and books. 7:00 PM: Stretching exercises on the beach led by Andrea (participation is optional). 8:00 PM: A walk back into town.
The event runs from 4:00 PM to 8:00 PM every Sunday, through the end of September, meeting at the North Gate.
SATURDAY, MARCH 14, 2020 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM HOK - Coffee shop and gallery Address: 11 Kavanjin St, Miami (A five-minute walk from the President Hotel; you'll find the coffee shop tucked away in a side street near a local bike shop)
The event is hosted by the Phoenix Association Miami. I won't be able to make it myself, but I highly recommend attending. For more details, check their Facebook group. The association supports individuals facing mental health challenges and those caring for family members dealing with them.
SATURDAY, MARCH 14, 2020 5:30 PM – 7:30 PM H&M - Coffee Shop and Gallery Address: 11 Main Street, Miami (A five-minute walk from the White House; the shop is tucked away in a small side street near a local bike shop).
The event is hosted by the Phoenix Association Miami. I won't be able to make it personally, but I highly recommend stopping by. Check their Facebook group for further details.
Motivational speaker facing investigation for practicing medicine without a license
Dr. Vukušić noted he first learned about Ana Bučević through the news before investigating her actual practice.
''I looked into her work by watching her videos and realized she claims her vortex-based methods can cure people—essentially telling them they don't need medication or traditional therapy to be fine. That is dangerous territory for several reasons. First, she simply isn't qualified to make those claims. While she has a following because her methods seem to help some people initially, medicine and psychology recognize this as the 'honeymoon effect.' These gurus essentially trigger what we know as the placebo effect. It provides temporary relief, but it lacks longevity. When the effects wear off after a month or two and the individual realizes it hasn't worked, these gurus pivot to blaming the victim, claiming they are merely 'blocked' or failing to think positively. For a patient, that is devastating; they suffer twice—once from their initial illness and again from being betrayed by someone they trusted to help,'' Vukušić told 24 Hours.
Ethan Fisher66 said:Time eventually unmasks everything. It’s entirely possible he’s playing games and feeding you lines; honestly, I don't quite get it. No matter how difficult or heavy things feel, if I actually care about someone, there isn't a damn thing in this world that would stop me from being with them. Unfortunately, while he might be mentally unstable, I wouldn't pin it on a specific diagnosis you mentioned—he just sounds like a textbook manipulator and a passive-aggressive type. It’s a classic pattern: people who drag their feet when it comes to making a relationship official usually have a few other options tucked away in their back pocket. As unbelievable as that sounds right now, it's exactly what everyone says once the truth finally comes out. So, look at it this way: he isn't the only person on the planet. If he's second-guessing things, you just pivot and move on.
Exactly.. It is even better to flip the script. The OP should ask herself: is she doubting him because she wants a real commitment, or does she just need more time for herself?
They don't necessarily have to cut ties, but she can certainly put things on hold.. Trying to force a label on a connection after only two months is premature..
Donna White50 said:You want to help him, but he's looking for someone to help him... That's just that negative psychology pattern you two fell into... He told you straight up that he isn't looking for a relationship. That means exactly one thing—he's not available, and a relationship with him isn't going to work for you. Any rational person would stop right there... The fact that you're over here screaming about how to help him tells me you're attracted to people you feel the need to "fix"... and honestly, that's your issue...
It would be smart to realize you have a habit of trying to fix men, but men can only fix themselves. Once he's mature enough for a relationship—if he gets over his past and eventually moves on—and you're single, maybe you can try. But personally, I'd appreciate his honesty and thank him for not leading you on, recognizing his own need so you wouldn't end up playing "mommy" or "savior," and just stepping away from the situation... and thank God you aren't stuck in an emotional rollercoaster with someone like that.
I don't want to stigmatize anyone with mental health struggles here, because we all have our own quirks, fears, projections, hang-ups, and emotional baggage. I just want to say that being in a relationship requires massive capacity—emotional, mental, life-wise... and we shouldn't jump into things unless we or the other person is actually capable of providing that. It's a fact that over 50% of couples enter relationships based on this exact negative psychological pattern, and it's a recipe for disaster down the road...
No need to thank me...
There is plenty of information online regarding this topic
CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS There are many articles.
If you don't speak English, just use Google Translate.
"I'm just empty inside, I'm not ready for a commitment"...
as it turns out, he was already seeing someone else behind my back 😬
and all he actually wanted from me was a casual hookup.
He played the victim—acting hollow, broken, listing all his family drama—but it was always a monologue about himself. Then, suddenly, he’s in a serious relationship with her, even though just weeks prior, he was pouring his heart out
☕ I honestly felt like Venus had sent her to take him off my hands..
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I struggle with anxiety when making big life decisions, but when it comes to men, if I like someone, I like them. I would never admit to being insecure...
If he thinks he isn't good enough or assumes I lack self-confidence—well, if he says he isn't ready for a relationship, you're better off walking away and focusing on yourself. Then you'll see the situation for what it really is, immediately..
Looking back at my own story, I realize that guy wouldn't have been right for me anyway; I only idealized him because there wasn't anyone else in my orbit. If I had a few other options around, I wouldn't have given him a second glance. Maybe you just latched onto him because you were bored?
Success has gone to Ana Bučević's head, and now she's weighing in on everything under the sun.
If she were truly enlightened, she wouldn't be so preoccupied with her physical appearance; she's had far too much Botox. Between that cruise with Todoric's daughter and these recent comments, I suspect her popularity is about to tank.
To be honest, I’m surprised the Department of Education approved her parenting book. She’s just a high school gym teacher, not a trained child psychologist.
Psychosis can manifest in those suffering from PTSD, and there is also C-PTSD—there is an abundance of research on this in the US. However, in our local medical system, PTSD is typically reserved for combat veterans, while "ordinary" citizens who endure trauma or abuse are frequently mislabeled as having Borderline Personality Disorder.
One can only wonder how many people have been saddled with the wrong diagnosis because of this systemic oversight. The American psychiatric establishment often overlooks C-PTSD. Based on my reading of American forums, survivors of domestic violence are consistently diagnosed with C-PTSD and receive appropriate treatment, whereas here, they are simply branded with BPD. https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl...-and-psychosis
None of us on this forum are clinicians, but speaking from personal experience: seek second opinions and consult various doctors to find real answers. And one more thing. You are not your diagnosis. It is merely a part of your history, but you are far more than a label.
Carl Cox3 said:That is perfectly normal. Very few people actually know what they want to do for the rest of their lives when they are eighteen or nineteen. Regardless, having a degree is beneficial. It provides an immediate status within society and serves as an entry point into more professional career paths; from there, it simply depends on you and luck.
For instance, even if someone offered me triple my current salary, I couldn't stomach a desk job or working for a massive corporation.
I know exactly what I want to do, which is why I'm looking into that university program. Money isn't my driver; it's the work itself. I've always had a sense of my direction, but I hesitated because everyone else had different expectations—I almost started molding my life to fit that mold of chasing the highest paycheck. Eventually, I decided to follow my passion instead. That's what I'm going to do.
Thomas Mitchell7 said:It’s not really my call whether it happens or not. I couldn't care less, honestly. I'm not like those other folks who are out here starving for fame or trying to be "somebody." All I want is to be better than average at whatever I end up doing. The thing is, I haven't even figured out what that job would actually be yet.
That is simply impossible. What did you dream of becoming when you were just a kid?
Where does your talent lie? In what are you actually skilled?
restlesstiger49 said:Oh, please, elaborate! Do you even feel a desire for it? In what way does it frighten you?
I’m a romantic at heart and would love to have a romantic relationship.🤣
I’m afraid of getting hurt, or hurting someone else. I worry about being too easygoing, being laughed at, or being led on. I'm just scared of showing someone that I actually like them.
Donna White50 said:Looking back at everything you've posted, I'd say you still seem pretty fragile—it feels like this emotional insecurity is just baked into who you are right now. You strike me as super capable and tough, especially when it comes to your career and just handling life, but you're way too restless to dive into a deep relationship yet. A serious commitment needs so much stability, responsibility, and focus... and honestly, you're just too much of a free spirit for that right now. I feel like if you did settle down, you'd probably get bored out of your mind after a little while anyway...
There’s some truth to that. But I am who I am. I’m versatile, and I thrive when I’m moving. The only way a relationship works for me is if my partner doesn't mind me heading out on trips or flying solo whenever work or sheer preference keeps us apart. I have zero interest in anyone who views my independence as an inconvenience.
What I need is someone steady, someone with their feet firmly planted on the ground.
Socially speaking, I’m doing just fine. But when it comes to intimacy, there’s a wall up—a complete shutdown where men are concerned. I find myself retreating from any real emotional connection.
Kenneth Wood9 said:Gotta burst your bubble here 😛 psychotherapy is mostly a scam 😲 you dig up some old trauma that supposedly defines you, and for a minute, you feel all enlightened and empowered... then time passes and everything goes right back to zero—the bad vibes just come swinging back like a boomerang 😲 I know plenty of people hitting up private therapists 😲 and everything seems fine while the shrink is right there, but once they take their vacation and head to Florida, everyone relying on them hits rock bottom and the local ER gets slammed 🕺 life's a joke 🍿
Becoming dependent on a therapist is a mistake. You have to be your own foundation, strengthening both your mind and body. Developing a codependent relationship with a psychologist is a recipe for disaster.
Rebuilding one's foundation is a grueling process, but it is necessary work.
Continuing this daily grind feels more threatening than the actual effort required to change for the better.
Jose Ward4 said:Hey there. That’s a bit of an unusual question you’ve got there. Don't "normal" people without schizophrenia get into fights with their loved ones? I’m not quite sure how those two things connect. Personally, I don't really argue because I don't have anyone else around besides my brother, and honestly, we have no reason to fight. As for that sitting in one position thing... man, when I'm sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's office, I probably cross and uncross my legs thirty times in an hour. This is news to me. Maybe that's something specific to people in a catatonic state. I really hope I can control and predict my own state. I mean, I observe myself just like any other living creature would. I feel everything—bursts of anger, moments of control, rage, love... all of it. So, yeah.
I was actually referring to catatonia. I saw videos on YouTube where people stay stuck in rigid, cramped positions for hours. Honestly, I'm pretty burnt out on dating guys with schizophrenia who act totally fine at work. I'm wondering, for instance, if someone with schizophrenia can sense when an episode is coming. Like, when someone is talking to voices in their head, can they control it so they talk to themselves internally instead of out loud?