redhawk76 said:I am convinced that in his healing process, Mr. Doe likely utilized medical support and pharmacology (just as 99% of people would need to), alongside the help and understanding of his immediate community. That is normal, understandable, natural, and... truly beautiful if it leads to the kind of success Doe has achieved!
As for that 1% (though I used the figure figuratively, and it’s likely much smaller...) who are capable of forgetting and forgiving "on their own," without medication or psychological assistance, continuing to live as if nothing happened... I suspect they have an issue... perhaps with some sort of evolutionary intelligence.
I certainly do not view Mr. Doe as part of that group, and I believe that should have been clear to anyone reading with even a modicum of focus.
Over & out.
Edit:
Still, I can't help but wonder how I ended up being "misunderstood"... Re-reading my initial post... From my perspective, everything seems clearly stated, but let's try this one more time:
1. Doe had the help of medicine and drugs to heal himself, which is great!
2. 99% of people could also only forgive with that kind of assistance, combined with their own desire and strength to recover, and that is "normal" and natural (because feeling intolerance toward one's killers, rapists, or tormentors is "normal" and natural... and fighting to adopt a different stance is actually an impossible mission without outside help.)
3. My belief is that given the magnitude of the tragedy Doe endured, the vast majority of people wouldn't be able to "process" it alone, nor could they continue to live "normally" after everything without medical aid. Therefore, those who *are* able to move past such things, to forgive, and to exist without bitterness or "hate" without medication... again—in my view—have a different problem entirely, which I colloquially refer to as diminished intelligence, manifested as an "inappropriate reaction" to external events... (since the "normal" and evolutionarily natural reaction to what all American "Does" have survived is certainly not just moving on...)
4. Consequently, I do not consider or categorize Mr. Doe among those I colloquially call people of "diminished intelligence"!
Forgiveness... What does that actually mean? How much do I personally forgive, and what is God telling me about it? After all, didn't Jesus Christ show us the path of love and forgiveness as sinners? “Then Peter came to him and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’” (Mt 18:20-21). We are called to follow that Love through forgiveness, because the two are inseparable.
It really can be hard to forgive a neighbor, or even someone we don't consider close to us. But it is God's will that we forgive everyone, just as we ask in the Our Father: "Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors..."
Jesus's words are clear: “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” (Mt 5:44). Only God's grace can heal a heart wounded by such insults. Only then can true forgiveness happen. Let's keep that in mind...