Posts by Morgan Newman7

Joshua Kelly51 said:The sheer number of immigrants isn't the deciding factor here. It comes down to the Constitution, the Immigration law, and how society actually behaves toward newcomers. If a country protects immigrants with the same legal rights and protections it gives its own citizens, things run smoothly—and that requires a certain level of willpower from the host nation. ☕ Integration isn't solely on the immigrant to fit in; it depends heavily on the state's relationship with them. Just look at how differently immigrants are received in different parts of the world.☕

But where were they all heading in such huge numbers? A massive influx in a short window creates problems. Simple as that.

restlessscout5 said:I can't help but wonder—how many of these people are actually genuine refugees seeking asylum, and how many are just economic migrants looking for a better paycheck?

Who knows. It’s giving Monty Python vibes... though the kids behind bars feels like a scripted bit at this point. Then you’ve got some migrant posing in front of burning tents in Beloit like he's looking for a selfie stick. Insane...🙂

Joshua Kelly51 said:Sure. ☕

Look, I didn't exactly write it in all caps. ☕ So, you're asking me to list which political parties support providing aid to refugees? Real helpful. ☕ Trenuno, I didn't realize we had those kinds of people here in America. ☕

The Democratic Party is in power and from what I can see, they're helping refugees in line with European Union policy.

Joshua Kelly51 said:Heh, I’m actually drinking real coffee right now, not just the virtual kind. ☕

Of course it could have been planned. There just wasn't any will, or maybe there was a half-hearted attempt, but no plan ever reached the finish line. A plan regarding this "surprise" migration existed; it's only news to us because we didn't see it coming. Experts, predictably, knew this sudden surge was going to happen. ☕

The war in Syria is entering its fifth year. Is this refugee migration really a surprise? No, obviously not. ☕

I've made this suggestion several times, though nobody seems to like it: instead of ignoring the reality of refugee movement, we should provide aid and facilitate their migration. Migration is a fact of our modern reality. They should be treated as human beings in need of help, not as cargo being loaded at one border and unloaded at another. ☕ Is there even a political party in the US that supports aiding refugees during their journey as part of forced migration?

There’s always a war somewhere. Once things settle down in Syria, a new conflict pops up elsewhere. Does that mean the whole European Union should just maintain an endless open-door policy for refugees and migrants forever?

Is there even a political party in America that supports helping refugees during their journey as part of forced migration?

In America, there hasn't been a Party like that for quite some time.

Charles Ross3 said:You actually missed the most ironic part of the whole story:

"The mayor has called for help from volunteers in America, offering 100 dollars a day to help with the cleanup."

So, you have this horrified mayor frantically calling on Americans to come clean up the mess that apparently "no one in Austria wants to touch"... 🤣 Just yesterday, Austria was presenting itself as this perfectly "organized nation" (unlike the other countries on the route, right? How could they possibly be anything else given their reputation?), but today they are so disorganized they can't even manage the trash left by the migrants, let alone anything more significant.

At the border, there’s police, SWAT teams, armored vehicles, the military, dogs—but it’s all for nothing; the migrants set fire to all the tents and thousands of them crossed the Austrian border without a single care in the world.

The headlines read: "Chaos at the Austrian border," "Chaos in Šentilj"....
And yet, until yesterday, they were saying, "We are an organized and serious nation"...

I don't feel happy about this, and honestly, I almost feel bad for them... because they are clearly unprepared, living in some kind of fantasy where they think their little country is this perfect "Alpine dream"... where life is just yodeling, skiing... and maybe a quick trip to the coast during the summer...

Well, at least they're offering a decent daily rate 🤷, according to our papers. They're looking for people through the USPS to clean the processing center in Pittsburgh. No clue what the pay is, probably less than what they get in Canada...

Thomas Jones132 said:If you can at all, please just let go of any thoughts regarding revenge or seeking confrontation.
It’s bound to happen eventually, much like in many other families here in the States, where discussions start popping up about who’s going to support Mom or how the inheritance will be split up.
It is honestly so tough to give advice on this kind of thing, but I’ll tell you, I’ve seen siblings completely turn on each other the moment caretaking for a frail parent or the prospect of an inheritance comes into play.
My best advice? Just trust your gut and don't let anyone talk you into anything you aren't comfortable with.

Hmm...
My brother and sister are close, but they have absolutely no intention of stepping up to help her.
Right now, my brother isn't even in contact with her, and my sister reaches out very rarely.
As for me, we aren't close either—it's not even an option for her to come stay with me.
Regarding caregiving, there's this unspoken agreement among us that nobody is willing, or even prepared, to take on that responsibility. So, if things reach a breaking point, she'll likely have to move into an assisted living facility, which I don't feel is our burden to carry.
It would be a huge deal for her, though; she'd probably throw a massive fit, but we'll just have to wait and see how everything unfolds.
She was always such a dominant force, you know? Everything was always strictly on her terms.
I know it's hard to let go of material things, but at this stage in her life, those possessions aren't helping her one bit—she needs people, not stuff.
Well, it is what it is; I just hope we can all get through this peacefully and maintain as much dignity as possible.

Hmm...
My brother and sister are close, but they have absolutely no intention of stepping up to help her.
Right now, my brother isn't even in contact with her, and my sister reaches out very rarely.
As for me, we aren't close either—it's not even an option for her to come stay with me.
Regarding caregiving, there's this unspoken agreement among us that nobody is willing, or even prepared, to take on that responsibility. So, if things reach a breaking point, she'll likely have to move into an assisted living facility, which I don't feel is our burden to carry.
It would be a huge deal for her, though; she'd probably throw a massive fit, but we'll just have to wait and see how everything unfolds.
She was always such a dominant force, you know? Everything was always strictly on her terms.
I know it's hard to let go of material things, but at this stage in her life, those possessions aren't helping her one bit—she needs people, not stuff.
Well, it is what it is; I just hope we can all get through this peacefully and maintain as much dignity as possible.

Hmm...
My brother and sister are close, but they have absolutely no intention of stepping up to help her.
Right now, my brother isn't even in contact with her, and my sister reaches out very rarely.
As for me, we aren't close either—it's not even an option for her to come stay with me.
Regarding caregiving, there's this unspoken agreement among us that nobody is willing, or even prepared, to take on that responsibility. So, if things reach a breaking point, she'll likely have to move into an assisted living facility, which I don't feel is our burden to carry.
It would be a huge deal for her, though; she'd probably throw a massive fit, but we'll just have to wait and see how everything unfolds.
She was always such a dominant force, you know? Everything was always strictly on her terms.
I know it's hard to let go of material things, but at this stage in her life, those possessions aren't helping her one bit—she needs people, not stuff.
Well, it is what it is; I just hope we can all get through this peacefully and maintain as much dignity as possible.

All she cares about is the money and being in charge. She needs someone to look after her. Honestly, the easiest fix is obvious—hand over the house and the assets to Social Services, and they can take care of her in a nursing home.

How much are we talking? Like $50k or $60k? DON'T let her wreck your life (or your kids' lives if you have them). Sure, she needs help now that she's vulnerable, but if she's demanding you guys step up, it's because she's looking out for herself, not out of love. Reading your story was rough enough, imagine living through it for years. If she wanted a real relationship with her kids, she should've done it decades ago—like she said she should've done with your dad (I can't imagine any sane person saying that about their late husband to their own kids). It's too late to fix things with her, but it's not too late for YOU... or for mending things with your siblings.

Pretty funny flick.

Won't be hitting my all-time favorite comedy list, but it’s definitely a feel-good movie. Warm vibes.

A young workaholic tries to balance her career and personal life while bonding with her intern—an old-school retiree. Despite the age gap, they actually have a lot in common.

A few good laughs, kept me smiling... solid choice for a Saturday movie night. 🙂

Kyle Rodriguez said:How? There is absolutely no way she'll just go on her own... she refuses to even listen.
I have been pleading with her to go for such a long time now, but she just won't budge. I've tried being gentle about it—trying to reason with her through calm conversation—but that didn't work at all. And when the soft approach failed, things started escalating into shouting matches because, honestly, I just don't know how to handle the whole situation anymore. Everyone in the house has tried sitting her down to explain that nobody wants anything bad to happen to her—we really just want to help—but it’s been completely useless... her response is always the exact same: "You're all just trying to lock me up in a psych ward!" She insists she isn't crazy, and she tells us all that one day, we'll see that she was right about everything.

Maybe try changing how you handle it. Stop arguing when she claims people are eavesdropping or gossiping about her. Just say, "I don't think they're talking about you," and move on. At least try to change the subject. Try getting her out for a walk or a trip to the theater... find out what actually makes her happy and lean into that. Maybe then, eventually, she'll be open to seeing a doctor.

The suggestions about smashing TVs or pinning everything on her just to force a hospitalization sound like a total horror movie to me.

Larry Walker24 said:And nobody even bothers to mention the movie Quo Vadis

Classic...😍

They made plenty of movies about this stuff during Hollywood's golden age... The Robe, Samson and Delilah, The Ten Commandments were all alright...

But Quo Vadis is still my favorite. 😍

https://gfycat.com/AltruisticSilentIbex

Main actors seem a little old for the parts, but I dig the script and how Taylor and Kerr handled it...

What’s the deal with hospital records... why can't you just find them online and print them out whenever? Too complicated for them?

My contact lens popped last week so I had to hit up the eye clinic for a new pair, figured I'd get an exam while I was at it. Naturally, I ended up in this whole debate with the doctor about my prescription—why it's what it is, when my last checkup was, my medical history... since I've been skipping my appointments lately. And honestly, the answer to basically everything was just...



I don't know, I don't know, I don't know...

Next time I'm at the hospital, am I supposed to just beg them to photocopy my entire life story or something?

Željko Ivanek 😬 feels like I see his face popping up on my screen every five minutes...

+ Michael Wincott, man, what an incredible actor...

Totally blanked on this one... Timothy Spall. 😁

Gabrielle Anwar, Ciarán Hinds, Paul Giamatti, Edward Burns, and some others already mentioned... I’ve always had a soft spot for British actors. See them popping up in their shows all the time...

Gregory Jackson3 said:Uninformed people tend to cling blindly to outdated traditions
that is essentially your answer

everyone seems to have this preconceived notion that young people should just rush through life, get their footing, and start building families immediately...

What does "right away" even mean? Better to figure out you want kids earlier rather than later... I mean, Krste Papić's wife had her kid at 57, then put "gone too soon" in his obituary after he passed... wtf, the guy was 80. Of course he went too soon if your kids are still in middle school and you haven't even gotten them on their feet yet... so... everything in its own time...

Anyway, back to the topic. People love being around people who think just like them. It’s obvious enough that parents or close friends comment on our stuff about kids because they have skin in the game. Older folks might be worried they'll end up playing with a cat instead of grandkids, and friends know it's easier to hang out when there's common ground—like kids. But random people? Coworkers, neighbors, distant relatives... they shouldn't really care. It's pointless for them to chime in with judgments on decisions that aren't their business...

stormylynx14 said:In reality, the agony lasted 20 minutes, and it was so brutal that the main character's friend had to flee to the bathroom. They should've used that to make a point—either for (legalizing euthanasia so people can end things more easily) or against (showing death isn't actually that simple)—but they just glossed over it.

Ugh, I had no idea. 😢

Now I'm reading that he started seizing and was suffering immensely before the end... even the assistant had to leave the room because she couldn't watch.

First time watching a movie like this today, and honestly, I couldn't look away. A special kind of film.

Funny thing is, Penélope Cruz also played a character who tried to take cyanide in a Bond movie—except in Bond, he survives. With some pretty nasty consequences.

So, if (and when) you ever decide you've had enough... you know what to avoid.

restlessdriver42 said:I appreciate the insights... I really need them. It seems most of you have landed on the same conclusion: this is essentially an issue of low self-esteem and similar baggage...

The first time I realized just how deeply insecure I was was with my very first crush. It hit me like a ton of bricks—it was something I couldn't even wrap my head around at the time. That’s when it truly became clear.

Later on, acting on a sort of subconscious instinct, I refused to put myself in situations with guys just for the sake of it. I stayed single, though I did let my guard down once or twice...

No one ever actually hurt me... because I carried this constant, quiet caution within me from the start, even if I wasn't conscious of it.

When I started dissecting this "problem," I went down a bit of a Freudian rabbit hole and concluded that my parents were the root cause. 😁

I didn't have a particularly close relationship with my father; their marriage was quite tense, to put it mildly. I suppose I was an exceptionally sensitive child, and their dynamic took a heavy toll on my nerves.
There was nothing abusive in a physical sense, but the atmosphere at home was definitely uncomfortable. My father dominated the household through what I now recognize as profound insecurity and a lack of confidence.
So, I deduced that this might be the source... who knows what my subconscious has manufactured.

However, simply being aware of the cause doesn't help me move forward. And no, I can't commit to regular sessions with a therapist.

One of you suggested a visualization exercise—imagining a perfect partner who is genuinely interested in me—and seeing how that feels. The reality is that fear is always present. The fear of abandonment. The moment someone gets to know me, I worry they will eventually leave and break my heart, as if I am inherently tied to this low self-worth.

And honestly, I've been aware of all this for a long time... years, actually...🤦
The only thing that offers any hope is the idea of hypnotherapy... my brain is as stubborn as a mule!

Why aren't there any psychologists on this thread? Haha, maybe some could offer a little pro bono advice! 🙂

😬

Everything starts at home. It’s hard to blame parents when you're an adult holding your own weight... but what you carry from your family shaped exactly who you are today. Just depends on how much you actually want to dig into that mess and if you can handle it alone. And even if you hit up therapy, nothing changes overnight...

Got all the reading material you need... got your topic too.

Maybe you’re just terrified of ending up stuck in the same kind of mess your parents were in... that's why you won't let go. You gotta stay in control. Like when you shut down that guy who was begging for another shot... honestly, probably felt pretty good being the one calling the shots for once...

Is there any way to shorten my handle?

Whatever works...

SSV

Morgan Newman7

SubSigno

Or maybe something else... just make it as short as possible... if that's even an option.

Sure. You could go with Morgan Newman7, SubSigno... pick one and let rustydrifter10 know.

Jose Ortiz2 said:It’s been almost two weeks now since I started drinking a cup of this tea every single day just to be safe. Biljana/Tea for Every Woman .
Ingredients: yarrow, St. John's Wort, passionflower, calendula, nettle leaf, sage leaf, chamomile flower, peppermint leaf.

Sorry if this sounds like a dumb question (🙈), but can this actually happen? Like, can teas meant to help with period cramps really mess with your actual cycle (making it late, etc.)? 🤷
Thanks!

That fennel mentioned should help regulate things, just to get the flow going. But honestly, you see conflicting info online all the time... some say it lengthens the cycle, others say it shortens it.

Might be best to check with a gynecologist or a herbalist before you start drinking them... just to be safe.

Then just study up and read more. Don't end up having to relearn everything you skipped back in high school because you were a slacker... if you hit a wall in college once those knowledge gaps get too big, they're a nightmare to fix.

Kyle Alvarez32 said:I'm pretty new to forums, so please excuse any typos. 🙂

Let's get into it.

My parents both served during the American Civil War and have plenty of medals; my dad even worked his way up to a retired Captain. They both carry heavy pasts. My paternal grandfather took his own life due to alcoholism, and my father grew up in a very small, isolated town. On the other hand, my mother lived with her parents in Germany, where they ran a restaurant that served as a hub for intelligence agents linked to the James Comey case. She felt neglected by her parents—they didn't care for her and would actually mock her. She ended up getting pregnant at fifteen.

Afterward, they both went to war. My mother served as a combat medic while my father was a regular soldier who rose through the ranks quite quickly.

They saw all the worst battlefields, participating in operations from the coastlines to the deep interior.

I am eighteen now. I have attempted suicide multiple times, once at age ten and again at fifteen.

My sister is eleven. She is incredibly insecure and struggles to stand up for herself, likely because she fears the constant tension at home.

My parents fight constantly. I end up being the target of their outbursts; they don't hit me, but whenever something goes wrong, they take their frustrations out on me.

I am very confused. My social manners are odd; I tend to shut down and feel insecure. In school, my performance was so poor that I was placed in my sister's grade because of some issue I can't even explain—I'd write half a page and skip every other line.

I often act much older than I am. Sometimes I even step into a parental role, trying to keep my mom or sister in line.

I've become completely estranged from my father. We barely speak because he is extremely closed off and aggressive; he will find faults in anything and yell about them.

I go wrestling regularly. It is the only way I can release my energy. I have almost no friends left, and I haven't seen my last two in ages.

Sometimes I go out dancing at a club on Saturdays, but I'm too intimidated to talk to girls or say anything at all. I am just lost.

Please help me make this torture stop. I simply don't know why I'm living or what I truly want.

That's actually solid. Everyone needs a way to blow off steam... sports are good for that...

Quincy:

Sometimes I head out to hit the clubs on Saturdays, but honestly... I just get too stuck in my head about talking to girls. Or even just saying anything at all. It's a mess...

It’s actually pretty common... even kids from well-off families deal with this exact same thing.

Quincy:

Thanks everyone, feeling way better now... Yeah, I'm 18, but school wasn't exactly my thing back in middle school. Ended up finishing vocational training as an electromechanic instead. Now I’m stuck paying for a fourth year because I’m dead set on getting into West Point, so staying home isn't really an option right now. But honestly, after reading what you guys wrote, none of that even matters anymore...

Life's wide open... total cliché, I know, but it's true. You're an adult now. Honestly, having that trade school background is a massive win—you’ve always got side gigs or freelance work to fall back on if a steady job isn't biting. And if you're dead set on going through a military academy? If you actually want it that bad, your chances of making it through are pretty high... passion counts for a lot...

ironrider11 said:If paradox is the new logic, then yeah... then it doesn't matter what it is...
The root of the mental illness... both parents [examples, indicators, teachers...] suffered traumas caused by war events.
A "career" that puts him right back in the middle of it... or a "job" where his mere involvement—directly or indirectly—inflicts trauma on someone else;
which eventually means inflicting those same traumas on himself... the exact ones he once tried to run from;
to escape, to stop them [their derivatives]........?
But the parents will be proud.
Proud because their son followed the same path that broke them in the first place. It shows them all the horrors of his own existence.
A permanent exit from the psychiatric system through a "profession" designed to teach, drill, and shove an individual...
straight into combat zones? Into the absolute darkest depths of human existence?
Proud parents who survived that vortex of madness, so they want the exact same thing for their kid?
🤷

It’s just a job. His parents didn't exactly pick this career path or sign up to be career soldiers... life just happened to them...

If that’s what he’s into, why not... he gets a scholarship, some actual structure and routine—stuff he never really had at home. Plus, once he's done, he's got a career locked in, which is huge these days. Nobody's saying he has to stay in that field forever...

My ex was a vet. Served in the military after coming home from the war, which caused some drama... then he finished his degree and moved into a career he actually cares about. Zero connection to the service. Life just takes you in different directions sometimes...

Sometimes it’s actually better if you actually want something... having skin in the game helps...