Posts by William Hall61

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It doesn't really bother me—honestly, it's kind of funny to watch—but I see this happening all the time. Might just be some glitch in the system.

It’s just such a massive waste of talent when you take guys like Jackie Chan and Jet Li 🤦

hiddenmarlin14 said:I checked around, and it was going for just under five bucks. 😳 Take it easy, man. Only McDonald's could actually stomach that. 😳

Same here. 😳 Not much, just hanging out. What's up with you?

Check the current dollar to euro exchange rate so you can actually figure out how much cash you've got 😬

hiddenmarlin14 said:because you have some business idea 🍿 then you go asking him for a job

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The movie really leaned hard into its star-studded cast and big plot promises... but honestly, it didn't do much for me. It had a great opening, but by the two-thirds mark, I was already starting to feel the drag. It’s fine if you just need something to kill two hours on a Sunday afternoon, but it definitely isn't some cinematic masterpiece you need to see.

If I’m getting this right, the discomfort actually kicks in before things even get physical? Like, you just don't have the desire to hang out with guys at all? But if we toss that part aside, once things actually start getting physical, is it fair to say you tend to pull away?

What’s your actual experience been like with men, and why do you even bother going on these dates in the first place? Do you feel like you have to, or like it's just what you're supposed to do?

I'm guessing you haven't gone to see a professional about this yet, so it felt easier to just kick off a thread here on the forum?

redpilot37 said:You're right about that... it's just about doing the work on yourself and getting out there.

How am I supposed to "get out there" when I clearly don't have the social toolkit for it? It feels like I'm just forcing myself into situations where I end up leaving everyone else feeling confused or, honestly, just hurt by how I act.

I’m sure they didn't mean anything by it 🙂

Look, you've got plenty of threads on this psych sub dedicated to all sorts of diagnoses; just spend some time reading about how other people are actually coping and what’s been working for them.
There's also a thread where people share recommendations and their own experiences with doctors.

As long as you keep fighting and looking for a way out of your situation, you'll find it eventually 🙂

Almost Rosey said:The American Psychological Association launched a new website, PsychHelp, which features a database of available psychotherapists, counselors, and public health psychologists.

cosmicbadger6 said:Exactly.

I've actually looked for professional help before, but nobody could actually help me. 🙂

I saw this one specialist who basically wrecked me with side effects from all the pills she put me on.
And years ago, I went to a psychotherapist in Miami—who was the one who referred me to that lady—and it was useless.

Psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists... none of them can help me. 😁

They definitely can help, you just have to find the right doctors and get an actual accurate diagnosis.

A therapist shouldn't be handing you off to some random person just to get hooked on meds; they should be referring you to a neuropsychiatrist.

Looking back at everything you've posted here, I honestly think you either lack the basic social skills needed to actually get by in society, or there’s an undiagnosed issue at play. Your brain just processes things differently, which isn't inherently a bad thing, but you really need to accept that and find some professional help to figure out how to navigate the world.

frozengardener7 said:For sixteen years, my mental illness was on an absolute upward trajectory. I wasn't thinking clearly—just constant contemplation, imagination, and obsessions.

Following my psychiatrist's advice, I attempted to spend some time alone, which proved incredibly difficult. However, also following her guidance, I started making daily to-do lists. It was a struggle at first, but eventually, I grew to enjoy my own company, established productive habits, and regained the ability to think rationally. I haven't conquered my fundamental flaws yet, but I am genuinely trying. I am fighting against my own nature to "tame" myself. It is exhausting, and I realize this is a long-term process. That progress will eventually become evident in how I interact with others.

Starting over from scratch is heavy, but a certain spark of enthusiasm keeps me moving. I’m still taking massive doses of medication, so perhaps they deserve some credit. But even so... I tell myself, "Look, you actually achieved something; you changed." Then, immediately, the dark thoughts flood back and I tell myself: "You'll never change. You aren't a person; you are just your illness."

🙂 that’s just weird 🙂

Look, change isn't some finish line you cross; it's a constant, never-ending grind. It's great that you're working on yourself, seriously, props to you.
Just lean into the process and try to be patient with yourself. You don't really see the big picture until years have passed and you look back at who you were five or ten years ago compared to who you were just yesterday.

Success is whatever you make it, so if there's something specific you actually want to nail down, focus on that to see real progress—like tackling a specific phobia or something.

Anyway, good luck 🙂

crimsonmoose3 said:Those are always the most entertaining ones... 😁

Yeah, they really are. Exactly. 😬

frozengardener7 said:Wrong. I am asking for myself. 🙂

Sweet.
Like I said, you'll start to notice it on your own eventually, and I'm sure plenty of other people will try to point it out to you too. 🙂 Don't go expecting things to flip overnight like you can just blink and see a total transformation. Real change takes time.

If you're looking for something more tangible, like actually breaking a habit, you won't notice it while it's happening. You'll just be going about your day, maybe working on a project or grabbing coffee, and suddenly it hits you—you realize you've been doing things differently without even thinking about it, or that an old, annoying habit just isn't part of your routine anymore. 🙂

Yeah, I’m on the same page. Honestly, there isn't some clear-cut signal to let you know someone has actually done the work to change. You just have to wait and see how things play out over time.

There is one dead giveaway, though, that tells me someone hasn't changed an inch—it's when they spend all their energy trying to convince you that they have.

You start noticing you've changed over time. It happens when you realize you’re reacting to things differently than you used to, even if your default setting was always the same. People will definitely pick up on it too—whether your relationships are heading south or getting better, someone who actually gives a damn about you is going to call it out.

I can't help but wonder if what you're really asking is how you can tell when someone else has changed.🙂

When you start letting work, family, friends, or even basic hygiene slide just to feed a habit, that’s when a simple habit crosses the line into addiction...

Sometimes I feel like this forum is just another one of my habits. But honestly, it all depends on what else is going on in my life at the moment. For me, my job actually serves as a distraction from stress—it's a way for me to procrastinate, which is really just a fancy way of saying I'm running away from pressure. It's definitely one of my go-to moves, though certainly not the only one, depending on how much chaos is hitting me at once.

Did you basically just tear apart your old marriage in your head?
Why do you feel like you aren't pretty enough, smart enough, or interesting enough?
What happens if you guys just call it quits? A few months ago he wasn't even part of your life, and you managed just fine without him. You could easily go back to that.
And what if he cheats? Does that actually mean you weren't good enough, or does it just mean he’s a man with zero integrity who lies and cheats?

When you're snooping through his phone, are you actually certain you won't get caught, or are you just playing a dangerous game hoping he doesn't walk in?

Tyler Kim said:I'm right there with you, maybe she just isn't in a place where she can actually accept help right now.
Plus, trying to get things back on track at 35 is definitely a whole different ballgame than doing it when you're 20, isn't it?

Personally, I didn't make my biggest life shifts until after I hit 36. Back in my 20s, I honestly couldn't see myself clearly enough to actually understand who I was. Now, I finally realize there’s a ton of stuff I still need to fix, learn, and figure out about myself, and strangely enough, I’m actually looking forward to it.
I think most people hit a point after 30 where they finally get a clear look at what they’ve been doing and who they really are... and everyone has to deal with that truth sooner or later. Some people run straight into a wall when they realize they keep falling for the same toxic patterns or meeting the same types of people, but they just choose to ignore it all and keep acting like a teenager who knows everything. Then you have the ones who actually face themselves and start looking inward for the answers.

Given how she reacted to everything else—only jumping in when someone suggested he shared some of the blame instead of actually addressing any questions aimed directly at her—I really doubt we can do anything to help her.

With some professional guidance, people can actually dig up the root causes of their insecurities and weaknesses, figure out how to fight back, and pick up the mental tools they need to stay sane.

It’s not just for people dealing with serious mental illness who go see a psychologist. You also have to understand there's a huge difference between seeing a psychologist versus a psychiatrist.