Posts by slywolf45

Give my regards to the crew.☕

Melvin, man, it’s always some kind of disaster with you.🤷
Just do us all a favor and stop posting your photos online. Ever. 🙂

And here I was, thinking I was the only one who felt that way. As if I were somehow special. 😢

Justin Allen81 said:I mean, sure—if you want to call me militantly opinionated or whatever... I guess I am.😁
Just kidding. Honestly, it doesn't feel like these discussions are really about anything meaningful to me anymore—it seems I just get worked up way too easily.
Whatever! 😍

I used to be exactly the same way...😍

Justin Allen81 said:Alright, fine—maybe I overreacted a bit.

But look, let’s clear things up first: homophobia doesn't pose a direct threat to me. Even though I'm bisexual, I'm currently in a relationship with a man—and since I don't explicitly broadcast my sexual orientation to him, there's zero reason for him to assume I'm anything other than a good, traditional American woman. But here's where I stand:

Okay, you (not you specifically, but just some hypothetical person) are homophobic. That means you harbor hatred toward gay people. As long as you don't act on it or express it, that's your right.
I hate you (acting as the personification of the homophobe here). That's fine too, provided I don't act on it.

However, if you start discriminating against gay people—in any capacity whatsoever—then I will feel compelled to discriminate against you. Isn't that just basic fairness? 😁

And again, I’m not talking about YOU as a person on this forum—I mean your actual identity, name and all. I'm talking about the homophobe.

Yeah, fair enough... and I can certainly get why you’d feel a sense of revulsion toward people who harbor hate for others—especially when those people haven't actually done a single thing to harm them or even cross their path.

As for hating homophobes... "hate" might be a bit of an overstatement for me. At least, in my experience, I wouldn't say I harbor this primal, deep-seated hatred for someone who's just passing through my life.
It's obvious that I don't like them and certainly don't want them in my inner circle, but true hatred? Honestly, I'd only feel that if someone actually laid hands on me.😲

lonegardener said:It’s an individual who poses a threat, not an entire "type" of person. That’s exactly my point—this argument relies on the same kind of sweeping generalization that supposedly makes them so angry in the first place.

I personally know some people with homophobic views (and whether I fall into that category myself, I'll leave that up to your judgment 😬)—they might be loud with their words, but in reality, they are completely harmless and mild-mannered. There is no theory suggesting they pose any danger to anyone. So, if someone hates or despises them solely because of their prejudices and tastes, what exactly do we call that? 🤷

Look, we all make generalizations. We all judge someone from time to time, and all that jazz.
None of us are immune to it, regardless of how much you try to insist otherwise.

I might hold a grudge against an individual because they did something offensive to me, but I will certainly go out of my way to avoid an entire group, or that specific "type" of person, regardless of whether they've personally crossed me or not.
That’s my prerogative, just as it’s theirs to, say, want nothing to do with me.🤷

And for all we know, she might be the one posing the threat, right? Who are we to say otherwise?🤷

😁

lonegardener said:How would you define homophobia? 😍

By the way, does anyone else here suffer from "homophobe-phobia"? You know, that irrational fear, intense dislike, or even pure contempt directed toward homophobes? I think I just ran into a prime example of one right now... 🤣

Homophobes are people too, after all. Most of them aren't even aggressive; they’re actually quite mild-mannered. It’s just that small percentage of aggressive individuals who end up giving the whole group a bad name. 😂

It’s the same standard definition you’d find in any textbook: an irrational fear or a deep-seated hatred directed toward people based on their sexual orientation.

Justin Allen81 said:Good grief. Please stop spouting nonsense about things you clearly don't understand.
"My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday was an actual study on female sexual fantasies conducted back in the 1970s—quite thorough, too—covering a representative sample of women across all ages (in the US, Europe, etc.).
So, it’s a scientific study, not some random bullshit.
Though, I'll admit, it's a fun read, haha.😁

As for the original poster, it's the same old story. How have I not learned to avoid any thread touching on anything related to homosexuality yet? It always leaves me disgusted seeing what people post.

Homophobes make me sick—truly. I think you're all just uneducated, narrow-minded cattle. Look, if a moderator needs to hand out a ban, then fine, let them—but I honestly believe people like that deserve to be insulted, because they're nothing but trash. Just like racists or xenophobes... They aren't even real people; the normal rules of society don't apply to them.

I’m with you on being fed up with homophobia, but I honestly don't see what that has to do with this conversation, nor do I see anyone here actually exhibiting those kinds of attitudes.🤷

hiddenhound3 said:Well, perhaps I might find women more enticing if they were hairier; I have always had a particular fondness for men who are quite hairy 😬

Well, you certainly find all kinds out there.😬

Honestly, I probably would have died of sheer boredom this Sunday afternoon if I hadn't stumbled upon you people.😁

lonegardener said:Well, nothing gives me more joy than giving a straight answer to jokes, wisecracks, and old wives' tales. 😬

None of those actually applied here.😢
🙂

lonegardener said:Wait, I don't follow. 😕

You say you're only into women; so why does it even matter if men have certain equipment or not? What difference does it make to you if you aren't interested in them anyway? 🤷

Don't tell me you'd actually be interested if they *didn't* have that tool? Because honestly, that sounds like a serious case of phobia to me. 🤣

Are you trying to say that she feels the same way Flo does—loving both men and women equally—but just can't get physical with guys because of their hardware?

Or what?😕

hiddenhound3 said:It is actually your fault, as you are always the one pulling me into side conversations and steering us off-topic. 😠 😬

Well, damn... 😬

lonegardener said:Oh, they definitely do.

But like I said, most of them just blend into the background, which is why you haven't noticed. You just need to look a little closer... 🤣

🤣
Good grief, you actually sat down and tried to give a serious answer to that..😁

hiddenhound3 said:It happens every time, and I am quite certain this is merely a temporary phase... 😁 as I sit here admiring my lovely plants, my cyclamens, and my cacti, I find myself wondering, "Is this actually possible?" It appears that 😳

Let's not get sidetracked; we aren't here to discuss your personal neuroses.😳

🤣

hiddenhound3 said:I find myself quite at a loss for words; I am truly stunned by this.
🤣

As long as the fingers are still functioning, we're fine. 😈 😬

Alex Patel96 said:That’s a pretty accurate description of me!🤣 But wait, does that make me a Gen Zer if men don't even interest me sexually?!😕

No, you aren't.

Sean Cruz said:No, that isn't what I wrote. I was responding to your claim about being "better equipped" to understand because you're gay while I'm straight. Fine, maybe people have confided in you, but that doesn't make them the "majority."

Yeah, and? For most people, finding out their partner cheated on them with someone of the same sex would be a massive blow.
It isn't anything unusual. Regardless of whether you are in the middle of it or not.

But that is exactly my point. If we all shared the same preferences, why would cheating with someone of the same sex be so much harder to swallow than cheating with someone of the opposite sex?

It isn't actually about what people are naturally drawn to.
At its core, this is entirely a matter of ego.

hiddenhound3 said:Are you teasing me? 😲

Not even remotely.☕

🤣

hiddenhound3 said:I suspect this occurs because much of the American public remains somewhat skeptical of such matters, and consequently, individuals hesitate to shock others by sharing their personal experiences too abruptly. On the other hand, it is quite possible that sharing this part of your identity actually fosters a sense of trust.

Exactly. That’s precisely the point I’ve been making this entire time.

hiddenhound3 said:I must admit, I also find myself falling in love with flowers.🤣

Absolute disaster. They’re throwing it on the bonfire.🙂
I suppose I should come clean: I’m a bit of a florophobe. There’s just something about the way plants exist—all that silent, aggressive growth and unyielding photosynthesis—that feels deeply unsettling to me. It’s hard to explain to anyone who hasn't felt it, but I prefer my greenery to be strictly digital or perhaps printed on high-quality cardstock. Real, breathing foliage? No thank you.😳) 😁

lonegardener said:I did. I just decided to look the other way. 😬

Yeah, I see you're reading this under the radar. 😬

lonegardener said:I disagree. There are absolutely rules. It's just that most of them—if not all of them—are silently understood.

Of course not. ☕

😛

hiddenhound3 said:It seems we are facing two sides of the exact same coin, just mirrored in opposite directions.🤣 It is a bit of a whirlwind, really—a complete reversal of circumstances.

In my estimation, there truly are no set rules when it comes to matters of the heart.😍

Of course there aren't any rules.
There’s a school of thought that suggests you don't fall for a gender, but rather for the individual itself. I suspect you might lean toward that philosophy.
Personally, I also find myself falling for the person, though in my case, that person always happens to be a woman.🤣

Sean Cruz said:My sister’s best friend is a lesbian. To her, it’s completely unremarkable that most of her friends aren't, just as it's perfectly normal to them that she is.
On the flip side, the biggest blow my sister ever took was when her ex confessed he’d cheated on her with a man. So, while her best friend is gay and she holds zero prejudice against her orientation—they talk about it like any other topic—she would never, ever date a bisexual man again. 😉
So, it's not like I'm entirely out of the loop.

And yet, somehow, I'm the one finding it abnormal?
I’m simply pointing out that people tend to open up to me far more readily once they realize I'm part of the community.

On the flip side, the real gut punch for my sister was when her ex admitted he’d cheated on her with another man. So, while her best friend is gay and there’s zero judgment regarding her orientation—they talk about it like it’s nothing—she would never, ever date a bisexual man again. 😉
It’s not like I’m exactly out of the loop.

So what?
For most Americans, having a partner confess to cheating with someone of the same sex would be a massive blow regardless of anything else.
It isn't some strange phenomenon. It doesn't matter whether you're trending or not.

hiddenhound3 said:Not at all. I am capable of loving someone for who they are with equal passion, regardless of their gender. That is precisely why I find myself feeling so conflicted. My closest friend is gay, though he hasn't always been; his early experiences were entirely with women, yet for the last fifteen years or so, he has only been with men. He once mentioned to me that, psychologically speaking, he finds men to be much harsher, which leads him to actually prefer the temperament typically found in women.

Ha, see? There goes that old cliché again... I honestly don't know how to respond to that.
The whole "there are a hundred people, a hundred different personalities" thing?🤷
For me, I just can't feel that same spark for both men and women. In fact, I can't really love men at all. You know what I mean—romantically.😁
I could probably go out and have a fling with a guy, but there wouldn't be anything deeper than that.

As for your gay friend... he claims to prefer a "feminine temperament," yet he stays in relationships with men. It’s funny how often we reach for the very things we criticize at first glance. If he actually found someone with a purely "feminine character"—not that I even know what that truly entails, since women can be just as fierce and somewhat ruthless—he’d likely be bored within a week.

I'm still trying to wrap my head around the whole florine situation. It’s one of those topics that seems straightforward on the surface, but once you start peeling back the layers—much like an onion, or perhaps more accurately, like a particularly stubborn layer of old paint on a mid-century modern sideboard—you realize there’s a lot more complexity than the casual observer might think. It’s easy to get swept up in the immediate implications, but if we step back and look at the broader landscape, the nuances become much harder to ignore. It isn't just about the singular event; it's about the systemic ripples it sends through the entire structure. One might compare it to how a minor change in interest rates by the Federal Reserve can send shockwaves through the housing market in a city like Chicago—suddenly, everything feels a bit more precarious. kaže:
So, what you're essentially asking is whether someone who identifies as a lesbian could actually find sexual compatibility with a man. It’s an interesting question, though I suspect the answer depends entirely on how one defines "functioning" in that context. If we're talking about the mechanics of it, biology is a funny thing, but if we're talking about genuine, holistic connection, the labels usually exist for a reason. It's like asking if a high-end electric sedan can suddenly decide it wants to run on diesel just because the pump is available—it might physically move, but it wasn't built for that fuel, and the whole system isn't designed to handle it. 😕

Hmm... no, I don't think I could manage that.
Not anymore.
It isn’t just about his toolkit, though. Honestly, I could see myself being part of some three-person FMF crew, for instance. But just me and that guy? That sounds like a hard sell. I think I’d need a little extra motivation to make that happen.😁

I’m asking because I can’t quite wrap my head around this... I’ve experienced both sides of the coin, and if I’m being honest, I much prefer sex with men. It would actually be devastating to be rejected by a man simply because he couldn't handle the fact that I chose him specifically because I enjoy intimacy with him more than I do with women. 😢

I suppose you aren't exactly thrilled about it, then? Just sex. That’s really all there is to it. Are there more men out there? It’s one of those questions that seems simple on the surface, but once you start peeling back the layers, you realize how much depends on whether you're looking at raw data or just walking through a crowded Starbucks on a Tuesday morning. If we’re talking strictly about the numbers—looking at the census data or general population statistics here in the States—it’s actually quite close to a wash, though historically, men have held a slight edge. However, as life expectancy trends shift, that balance starts to wobble. You see it in almost every major US city; the demographics fluctuate depending on whether you're in a college town or a retirement community in Florida. But I suspect the question isn't really asking for a math lesson. Usually, when people ask this, they’re sensing an imbalance in their own social circles or dating apps. It’s that feeling that everywhere you turn—whether it's a packed gym in Chicago or a local pub—the ratio feels skewed. It’s like being at a concert where the crowd is overwhelmingly one way; the perception of "more" is often driven by our immediate environment rather than the national average. So, is it true? Numerically, it's a toss-up. Socially? That depends entirely on where you're standing.
I suspect there’s a bit more to the story than just the surface level... it feels like an entire emotional and mental package wrapped up in one. Wouldn't you agree?🤷

lonegardener said:

slywolf45 Asks:
You hit the nail on the head. But I’m guessing you could count your own circle of Islamic fundamentalist friends on one hand, too.🤣

Honestly, I don't even need to use my fingers to count them. 😂

You’re right. There's actually a really interesting psychological phenomenon at play here. It’s like how my brother tells me, "Every single time I ask you to do something, you find a way to mess it up." But why does he say that? Because his focus is entirely centered on those rare... 😬It seems like people only notice when I actually screw things up. When I get it right? They just take it for granted and don't even blink. Think about it...

I just can't.
It seems like nobody here actually bothers to focus on the psychological aspect of anything.
Good grief, it feels like I’m reading *The Secret*. 😬