Posts by slywolf45

lonegardener said:Mindset? Good grief.

So, you were basically just lacking faith and hope... well, damn. 🤷 Honestly, I get where you're coming from, LOL, if we use some totally wild analogies...

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You missed my point entirely.
Whatever, it doesn't matter.🙂

lonegardener said:That’s not what I meant. People aren't defined solely by their orientation. There are plenty of other factors at play. For instance, I'd bet you have more liberal-minded friends than you do folks who are religious fundamentalists. Am I close? 🤣

That's just how you come across. It's all about perception—my perception, and honestly, probably a lot of others too. If you don't see it, it might just mean you haven't learned how to look at yourself from an outside perspective yet.

You hit the nail on the head. Though, I suspect you could count your own circle of Islamic fundamentalist friends on one hand.🤣
Alright, let's be honest here.🙂
Yes, my close friends tend to be, shall we say, a bit more liberal than the general population. I suppose that's fair.
But, as I mentioned in one of my previous posts, I’ve actually had people—people I’m not even particularly close to, let alone those I'd expect to hold such views—make those kinds of admissions to me. It wasn't just an impression; it was explicit.

That’s just how you come across. It’s about perception. My perception, at least, and I suspect it's shared by many others. If you aren't aware of that, it might just mean you haven't quite mastered the art of looking at yourself from an outside perspective.

Fair enough.🤣

lonegardener said:You’ve got a skewed perspective simply because you’re right in the thick of it.

Most people aren't actually at the center of everything. In other words, your conclusions are being drawn from a statistically insignificant sample size.

Sure, there are plenty of them. But let's be honest—that term "plenty" is pretty vague. It could mean anything.

You missed the mark again, honestly. 🤷 It’s not like it's completely worthless. I'm not saying it lacks any significance at all. 🤣Of course, that's a pretty interesting tool. 🙂 Look, that’s definitely not the only reason a woman would be straight. For crying out loud, I feel like I have to spell everything out for you.

Exactly.
It’s not like I’m into women just because of what's between their legs, and a woman isn't straight simply because of a man's equipment.
There are plenty of variables at play here, but the decisive factor is really the psychological makeup of both parties.🙂

lonegardener said:You’ve got a skewed perspective simply because you’re right in the thick of it.

Most people aren't actually at the center of everything. In other words, your conclusions are being drawn from a statistically insignificant sample size.

Sure, there are plenty of them. But let's be honest—that term "plenty" is pretty vague. It could mean anything.

You missed the mark again, honestly. 🤷 It’s not like it's completely worthless. I'm not saying it lacks any significance at all. 🤣Of course, that's a pretty interesting tool. 🙂 Look, that’s definitely not the only reason a woman would be straight. For crying out loud, I feel like I have to spell everything out for you.

All I'm saying is that, looking back, the numbers ended up being much higher than I originally anticipated.
And what constitutes "high"? Well, I suppose everyone has their own internal metric for that.

Your perception is skewed simply because you're right in the thick of it.
In other words, your conclusions are based on a statistically non-representative sample.

Could you clarify what you mean by that?
Are you suggesting my social circle consists exclusively of gay people, making my sample size biased?
Because if that's the implication, you've got it completely wrong. I actually have more straight friends than gay ones, and I rarely ever set foot in gay clubs or similar venues.

It bothers me a little bit, though—that slight (😍) sense that she views herself as part of some sort of "elite" because of it.

Okay, this is the first time I've heard anyone put it that way.🤣
An elite? That seems like a massive stretch. Honestly, I find it hard to buy into that.

hollowtinker18 said:I'm not judging, just curious about your logic—how did you end up coming out as a lesbian, slywolf45?
What's the upside?

There isn't an interpretation to be made. It simply is what it is.
I don't bother with endless psychological breakdowns or trying to keep up with whatever the latest studies from Harvard or Stanford are claiming.
It’s just my reality. I have absolutely no clue how I got here, and frankly, I'm not looking for a roadmap.

What's the upside?

The "advantage" of being a lesbian?
🤣🤣
I'm not sure I follow the logic behind that question.🤷😁

hiddenhound3 said:Those women—and I include myself in that group 😁—have reached that conclusion based on their own personal experiences. Obviously, slywolf45 holds a different perspective, but that is a matter of individual intimacy; what carries weight for one person does not necessarily apply to another. Wouldn't you agree? 😉

What exactly am I seeing differently?🤷

Sean Cruz said:Sure, there's a chance they didn't actually say anything like that. But does that mean they weren't thinking it? 😉

No, but it doesn't mean they weren't either. 😉
You pick up on a lot more things when you're right in the thick of it—if that's even how you'd put it. You hear way more than you do when you're straight.😉

Edward Wilson82 said:So, just because someone keeps their mouth shut, you're gonna assume they're fantasizing about the exact same stuff you are?

Look, I'm a lesbian.
I don't really do much fantasizing; I prefer to actually live my life.

Go back and read my previous post.

I used to think people were blowing things out of proportion whenever they claimed that a massive number of women fantasize about or experiment with the same sex.
My internal monologue was basically, "Come on now, how could I possibly know even one person who has felt that way?"🙄

But then, once I finally came out as a lesbian, the floodgates opened. I started receiving all sorts of unexpected confessions—and what really caught me off guard was that these weren't just coming from other women, but from men too (though, granted, in much smaller numbers).
As the years crawl by 🧐, it’s becoming increasingly obvious that there are plenty of women who have at least entertained those thoughts, if not acted on them. And I'm not even talking about people who identify as bisexual; I mean women who firmly consider themselves "textbook" heterosexuals.
Some of them weren't even close friends of mine; they just felt safe enough to unburden themselves to someone who would actually understand—someone who wouldn't recoil or judge them, but someone who was already "in the loop."

Jeremy Baker6 said:The headline pretty much sums it up. Why on earth do girls do this?

Because they want to.☕

hiddenhound3 said:If you really want to know what I would have done, I would have practiced my trombone, tidied up the house, prepared a nice lunch, and taken a relaxing bath. As it stands, I have accomplished nothing at all. 😠

I am heading out now before it gets dark. 😬

Bob everyone 😏 👋

Everything. That all sounds incredibly boring.☕

Yeah, unknown.👋

lonegardener said:It was just typical... uh... "folk wisdom."

I’d rather not even get started on what I think about that kind of logic. 🤣

Huh, now I'm actually a little intimidated. Better keep it to yourself then.😲

😁

hiddenhound3 said:Hang in there, Wylie. 🎉🎉 Do not allow Apemant to mock you.

Then you certainly aren't playing at a professional level.

Oh, please. What on earth are you talking about?😳

😁

wiredharbor22 said:Wait, did Mike send me a PM? 🤣 🙏

Of course he did!🤣

Good grief, 🤦 🙂

Richard Collins5 said:There’s nothing quite like watching someone dig their own grave and laughing while they do it.🤣

Is anyone else hitting that 503 error when they switch to a different IP? I guess it’s just me, or maybe the whole site is acting up again.😁

Is that so? Personally, I think anyone digging a hole for someone else is just going to end up tripping over their own shovel.🤔

hiddenhound3 said:I would certainly be happy to do the same, but since I serve as a moderator, I am unable to 😢
Furthermore, she continues to engage in behavior that is utterly irrational; she projects her own animosity or intolerance onto me, claiming that I am the one who cannot stand her, which is a completely distorted perception.

Honestly, I avoid them as much as humanly possible.

That is perfectly reasonable; one has their own interests and gravitates toward the specific topics and subforums they care about, whereas this bizarre fixation on a single individual feels like a parasitic tick.😳
I will admit that I do check profiles occasionally, though I only look at those I find interesting or whose contributions I genuinely enjoy reading.🙂 My motivation for interacting is never to provoke a confrontation, but rather to facilitate a pleasant exchange of ideas.

Honestly, there are plenty of fools in the real world too. The only difference is that most people in real life don't have the guts to be such idiots because, at the end of the day, they actually have to live with their reputation and their name attached to their actions.
That’s why they come here to let loose and act out as much as they want.

Pure nonsense.☕

hiddenhound3 said:I am of the belief that nearly everyone has encountered this particular pattern of behavior at some point in their lives.
I am currently dealing with a specific woman on this forum who possesses an incredibly short fuse, a caustic tongue, and a deeply unpleasant disposition—traits she seemingly wears as a badge of honor. I have noticed her tracking my activity; she reads my posts and then migrates to the very threads I am participating in, where she pretends to speak generally while actually discussing me in the third person. She attempts to use opinions I expressed in entirely unrelated discussions to disqualify me from debates, mocking and trivializing my points. It is, quite frankly, the ultimate expression of malice, perfidy, and cowardice.
There is something inherently pathological and twisted about this kind of stalking and sabotage, as if these individuals lack sufficient excitement in their own lives and must manufacture conflict through intentional provocation. I cannot say 🤷 I haven't clashed with many people on this platform myself, but I feel absolutely no compulsion to stalk them, monitor their presence across different threads, or scrutinize their every word.

😲
Good grief, that’s actually worse than being attacked directly.👎

I’m not typically one to lean on the "ignore" button—usually, I just mentally tune out people who get under my skin while still reading their posts—but in a situation like this, I might actually consider using it.

hiddenhound3 said:I am of the belief that nearly everyone has encountered this particular pattern of behavior at some point in their lives.
I am currently dealing with a specific woman on this forum who possesses an incredibly short fuse, a caustic tongue, and a deeply unpleasant disposition—traits she seemingly wears as a badge of honor. I have noticed her tracking my activity; she reads my posts and then migrates to the very threads I am participating in, where she pretends to speak generally while actually discussing me in the third person. She attempts to use opinions I expressed in entirely unrelated discussions to disqualify me from debates, mocking and trivializing my points. It is, quite frankly, the ultimate expression of malice, perfidy, and cowardice.
There is something inherently pathological and twisted about this kind of stalking and sabotage, as if these individuals lack sufficient excitement in their own lives and must manufacture conflict through intentional provocation. I cannot say 🤷 I haven't clashed with many people on this platform myself, but I feel absolutely no compulsion to stalk them, monitor their presence across different threads, or scrutinize their every word.

To be fair, I try to avoid them as much as possible myself.

To just go blind from being completely blinded by lust.☕

Jerry Martinez5 said:It’s happening here on the forum just like it does in the real world.

The best remedy—both online and in everyday life—is to just ignore it. I guess if someone realizes you aren't biting, they'll eventually give up. Provided you actually stay quiet, that is.

If they're breaking the rules, though, just report the post to the moderators.

Precisely.
There is nothing quite as stinging to those frustrated trolls lurking in the shadows as being met with total silence. It hurts more than any insult ever could. They end up practically unraveling from the sheer frustration, desperately fishing for any kind of reaction just to feel relevant.😍

But no sir ree Bob, I have absolutely no intention of taking the bait. 🧐

boldhound8 said:Shoot me a DM with a photo and the rest of your specs. I need to see if you actually meet the requirements before we go any further.☕

It’s a bit of a bummer, honestly—just straight to 100 right out of the gate.☕

**boldhound8**, alright then, I guess I’ll be pulling those 2:00 AM vigils right alongside you just to keep you company.
Think of me as your personal executive assistant for all this card nonsense—I'll handle the filing and make sure you don't forget the important bits.😁 🙂

silvergardener93 said:Well, I suppose the request actually went through after all.

The forum is absolutely buzzing right now—we’ve got about 780 active users and 3,000 lurkers hovering above.

Still, it just goes to show that we can definitely squeeze more performance out of this server. 🙏 🙏

How optimistic.😁