No, they aren't from Vinograd, and I'm really not going to mention them because I actually got banned from this subforum for doing exactly that. If you're interested, though, I can send you some info about a cardiologist via private message. For my dad, who was immobile, I took him to see two different private cardiologists. We went to one of them several times—dad used to go there on his own before things changed—but with the second one, I was the one making the calls, mostly because I was swayed by some of his published professional papers. But honestly? That consultation felt like nothing at all; the equipment they were using was just ancient, literally.
And no, it wasn't just Light, but that clinic isn't even operating anymore. After that, when Dad had issues, I did take him to Light, and they were actually quite decent.
If anyone happens to be looking for a gastroenterologist, there’s a younger doctor over at the Amrusev Clinic who is just wonderful—really professional and thorough. A few years back, she performed an ultrasound for someone who was completely immobile. She actually showed some genuine empathy, understanding that we couldn't lift them up on our own. It’s tough, because honestly, so many places—even private practices—won't even book an appointment once they hear the patient is immobile. And sometimes, people get discharged from the hospital without any follow-up care at all. I can send her name via Inbox if anyone really needs it.
If you're in the market for an ophthalmologist, the team at Light is quite decent and reliable; both my dad and I have been there several times. They also tend to be very understanding when dealing with patients who have mobility issues.
If anyone is searching for a private cardiologist, I actually have a recommendation for one, and also a heads-up on who might be better to avoid.
The patient is constantly wet. I guess... if anyone here has some advice, I could really use it. I change the diaper, but then the same one feels soaked almost immediately. It's severe incontinence, though it isn't from a catheter since he hasn't had one for quite a while now. I also have to use two pads because every single time I try to change his clothes, he leaks—it happens almost every time he's on his side. Because of that, a single pack of pads lasts maybe a week, or at most two. On top of that, he's having a hard time swallowing, especially liquids; food seems easier for him. But even then, things leak down his shirt. He can drink normally when he wants to, but that usually only happens in the evening. He’s actually awake more at night than during the day. So, if anyone has any tips... I honestly never know the right moment to change the diaper. And what kind of meals should I be making? Aside from pureed soups, omelets, cottage cheese, and baby fruit pouches, I'm running out of ideas.
Could someone please help me clear out some old posts from the Health section? I think they date back to somewhere around 2013. I’m dealing with a pretty specific situation right now, and I was really hoping to ask if anyone could recommend an experienced nurse for a bedridden patient. Honestly, the home health agency we're using currently is a complete nightmare. I'm looking for a private nurse who actually has solid medical knowledge—someone who at least knows the fundamentals when it comes to caring for someone who can't move. I had a nurse like this through a home care service for my mom once, but she was older and has since retired. She was truly wonderful and had so much experience.
So, here I am... they wiped out my first 100 posts just last week, and now I'm looking today and it seems like another 100 have vanished too. I guess they're just gone.
Regarding the bullying... yeah, that happened back in my freshman year of high school. There was this one girl—honestly, she was the top student in our class, totally brilliant, and didn't have any health issues, she just walked a little differently. I was actually good friends with her, but I... I didn't tell her that the other girls were making fun of her behind her back. I guess I didn't realize how much it would hurt. Eventually, she found out, and by the end of sophomore year, she transferred to a different track at school. I really think the bullying played a part in that. She’s doing incredibly well today, though. A very successful person now.
I guess most kids are just naturally rambunctious when they're six or seven. That was definitely me back then. In my class, we used to tease this one girl who had special needs. Honestly, looking back, I don't think she even belonged in a mainstream classroom because her intellectual disability was quite significant. Nowadays, she’d probably have a dedicated aide, but from 1984 to 1992, I don't think those assistants even existed. The way they handled it was just having her sit next to a kind student who wouldn't pick on her and would help her follow along with the lessons. The rest of us ended up getting a formal reprimand in our report cards for our behavior toward her, and our parents had to sign off on it to acknowledge they'd seen the note. She wasn't even older than us—if I remember right, she was born around February 1978, so maybe she was actually one of the younger ones. It makes me think that back in my day, they didn't really do school deferrals at all, maybe because everything was graded descriptively until fourth grade. Personally, I think that was better than how things are now, where kids are already being graded by the second semester of first grade.
What would you even say if you moved to England? Over there, children start school during the calendar year they turn four. It might feel more like preschool, but I believe it's mandatory, perhaps even more strictly enforced than here in the States. Just imagine moving there and your seven-year-old hasn't even stepped foot in an elementary school yet. I'm pretty sure social services would be knocking on your door. And honestly, I suspect the school gave you that deferral just because they didn't want the headache of fighting you, especially since you were so adamant about your son not starting. You didn't mention whether he actually wanted to go, or if he was excited about starting school and picking out his first backpack. I mean, a kid that age probably knows that once preschool ends, school begins—and now you're essentially sending him back to daycare.
I honestly think he’d be much better off just starting school. From what I can tell, he actually mastered the required preschool curriculum quite well so I don't see why he'd need to repeat any of it. It feels strange to send him back to daycare where all the other kids are at least a year younger than him. To be honest, the fact that they even granted this deferral surprises me. In Washington, D.C., there's no way he would have been allowed to stay back. I guess I just don't understand how they decided he isn't ready for school when he already successfully finished his preschool program. He's probably going to be so bored in daycare with those younger kids. Wouldn't it make more sense for him to be in a classroom with his actual peers, learning his letters and such? You might as well go ahead and pick out a school backpack; you really should feel happy that you have a healthy child who is capable of learning so much once he gets into a school setting. My only concern, I suppose, is whether he's socialized enough, since he only did the preschool program and hadn't attended daycare before that. And then there's the question of what happens a year from now. Some of these issues might just persist. Maybe, though, the first-grade teachers are just better this year.
I honestly think you just need to adapt to how the American school system works. Look, it’s definitely not perfect, but for a healthy kid, elementary school is actually pretty manageable. It certainly was for me. High school is where things get significantly tougher and the expectations really ramp up. Also, I don't quite get why you told your son he won't be going to school, especially since you said he finished his preschool program so successfully. Wasn't he excited about starting? Wouldn't it be better if he started now alongside kids his own age? It would be a challenge, sure, but I'm certain he could handle it. If he waits, he'll end up being the oldest one in the class, and the little friends he made in preschool won't be there with him. I'll admit, first grade wasn't easy for me either, even though we used descriptive grading back then. But everything finally clicked in second grade, right when I found myself in a really tough spot. My mom was sick, and at first, nobody knew what was wrong. Then I caught salmonella and missed two weeks of school. My teacher, Susan, was such a huge help—my dad even drove me to her house once just so I could catch up on my lessons. I still remember her asking me how my mom was doing while we were out on the playground. They really did have a sense of empathy back then. You really have to consider that school is where a child learns so much more than just academics; they're discovering a whole new world. Most teachers are genuinely good people. And please, try not to talk down about school to your son. That might be the worst thing you could do.
I honestly feel like you would have been better off just enrolling your child in school this year. There isn't really a compelling reason to delay it, is there? If you were in Washington, D.C., they probably wouldn't even grant an extension, and I doubt it would be any different in Miami either. Around here, kids are sent straight to school even if they were born in mid-March—even when the mom specifically asks for a delay because the little one hasn't finished a preschool program yet. For instance, I know a child born around March 12, 2010, who just finished first grade last month. I saw a similar situation in Miami once; a boy born in mid-February 2009 was put in school too. I don't know if his mom asked for a deferral or not, but he wasn't exactly a star student—he passed with Bs—and his mom has to work pretty hard with him on his homework. He's already done with second grade now. It seems like quite a few of you from the Seattle area are posting about these delays. Maybe it’s just easier to get an extension where you are compared to other parts of the country? Personally, my birthday is November 25th, and I went to school at just under seven years old without any issues. And it wasn't just us, either; people born in the middle of summer back in '78 were also starting first grade. Everyone did fine, even though they had barely turned six right before school started. My dad actually started school when he was only six and a half. He always says he was the youngest in his class, and he was born on March 8th. It strikes me as a bit odd that they actually granted you the extension. I guess maybe they just didn't want to deal with the hassle and ended up passing everything over to the Department of Social Services.
There’s a currency exchange right on the Potomac near the Arlington Memorial Bridge. That’s usually my go-to spot. I think I once had to use JP Morgan Chase just because the exchange office was closed.
The exchange office has a lower fee. It’s not a huge gap, though. Say, if you take 100 US Dollars to a bank, you might end up with about 4 or maybe $1.75 less than what you'd get at an exchange booth.
Hey, moderator, if you wouldn't mind, could you please move this link and my two previous posts over to the religious studies thread? I couldn't figure out how to include the link without starting an entirely new topic.
According to this article, Professor Lilja Vokić actually introduced ethics as a completely new subject—basically a substitute for religious studies—for high school freshmen back in the 1995/1996 school year. It mentions that since it was such a new course at the time, there weren't even any textbooks or teacher manuals available yet. It even lists which professors were teaching it.
So, I’m just a bit confused as to why some people are claiming they took this class years ago. I mean, I guess Lilja Vokić would definitely know, given her long career as a high school teacher. For instance, philosophy wasn't officially added to the high school curriculum until 1991, but I know we used to study from this old textbook written by Kalin. I actually used to have that book at my house! So, it seems pretty clear that philosophy existed as a subject before it was formally integrated into the high school syllabus, considering those older textbooks are out there.
I was just saying that I didn't have ethics classes back when I was in high school from 1992 to 1996. Honestly, nobody else had them during that period either, since they weren't introduced as an alternative to religious studies until the 1995/1996 school year. So, I guess I don't really know how you two managed to have ethics. I'm pretty sure no other high schools were offering it at that time. Maybe you took it as some kind of elective or perhaps it was tucked into another subject, but I doubt it was ever part of the standard curriculum.
Back during the communist era, there was Marxism. You all definitely had that. I didn't personally experience it because I'm younger, so I missed the window when that was being implemented.
I personally started high school back in '92, and I don't recall being offered ethics classes at all—not in freshman year or even in the upper grades. A tiny handful of students opted for religion class, but for the rest of us, there just wasn't a substitute course to take instead. Maybe only two or three kids from my whole class did. I wonder, maybe if you were in a vocational school they introduced it earlier? Or perhaps it was some kind of experimental curriculum they were testing out in a few select schools first? As far as I know for sure, though, it didn't hit the freshman curriculum at my high school or most others until the '95/'96 school year.
You couldn't have taken ethics in high school before the 1995/1996 school year, because that was actually when they introduced it for the incoming freshmen. I remember it clearly since I was a senior back then, and I recall that the first-year students were given the option to take ethics if they didn't choose religious studies—and I think quite a few kids went that route. Personally, I didn't take either. I even remember seeing that new ethics teacher sitting on our graduation committee during the summer of '96.
I guess I should weigh in here too. My parents were married for 41 years, and I’m 38 now. My mom passed away quite suddenly two years ago. It’s just been my dad and me ever since. He’s actually 12 years older than she was. Now, he’s fallen ill himself; he can’t even get out of bed right now because of this leg injury—he isn't allowed to put any weight on it at all. I’ve stayed home to be with him, mostly because there’s nobody else who can stay at the apartment, and he just can’t be left alone. He isn't strong enough for hip surgery yet. Honestly, Mom’s passing hit him so much harder than I initially realized. I remember back this spring, he would still divide the lunch into three portions, almost as if she were still sitting there with us. So, I think I truly understand what you all are going through. We knew her end was coming, though. Those last four days in the hospital... she was unconscious and in septic shock, and it was just devastating to witness. She passed from a hospital-acquired infection, but she was already so frail from her chronic conditions. She was only 68 when she died.