restlessmarlin6 said:Why is it that they always seem to show up right at the moment you feel this surge of strength—this sense that you could actually take on the entire world, even yourself—just when you’ve finally started believing in your own damn abilities?
Why do they strike precisely when you’re an absolute powerhouse of energy?
What is it about people that makes them want to drain you—to crush you, figuratively and quite literally?
Why do they scavenge off your strength just to bolster their own?
Is it really that difficult to exist on a higher plane, to be on an upward trajectory, without a pack of hungry wolves circling you for a meal?
Isn't our whole existence just a constant ebb and flow of positive and negative energy? Isn't that the very core of being? Is there no other way to find internal empowerment than by consuming what others have struggled so hard to build?
Sometimes we are all wolves... unfortunately.
And we aren't even aware of the blow we're landing on the person we're exhausting.
Are there any techniques to restore positive energy after this kind of "vampirism" I've been dealing with lately? Meditation, perhaps? I could certainly use it, because I feel myself slipping again. Thank you.
Eh... well, that's why this world works—because everything balances out in such a beautiful, predictable order; it’s actually quite fascinating to me.
You ask why these types of people surface just when you’re feeling great, positive, and full of life... well, it’s precisely because of that. They are far too weak to generate that kind of feeling on their own—they lack the energy, they don't want the work, and frankly, they’re afraid of it... so they come to siphon it from you.
Take this, for example... think of a teacher reading out grades. Would you rather be the only one who failed, or would you rather cling to someone else who also failed? Just so you aren't alone in your mess... it’s easier to exploit others and justify your own failures through them.
If you find yourself being used like this... I can tell you a few things about who you are as a person.
I suspect you are a strong individual, someone who generally says what's on their mind—which might make you seem arrogant or "weird" to some... but beneath all that exterior, there’s a vulnerable side that is incredibly easy to hurt...
Because... precisely because you are a good person, you allow it. It bothers you, yet you let it happen, because you simply cannot bear to see someone miserable pleading for your help. Now, it doesn't always have to be literal tears... but they nag, they beg, they drain your spirit... and naturally, you can't say no... because you're stuck in your own head about it, right?
It’s much easier to leech energy from someone else than to actually put in the effort to build it yourself... isn't it? istina, it's easier, though the satisfaction is much greater when you do it yourself... but most people lack both the love and the self-confidence required to do that, so they patch themselves up using others.
I’m telling you, you should be happy you're this kind of person, because there aren't many left... because... in order to exploit someone, that person has to actually possess something of value, especially...
So... what now?
Well, look... I dealt with a similar issue. I had what I thought were friends, but they were really just acquaintances playing on my emotions to get what they wanted.
When I finally stood my ground and shut it down... of course, I became the villain. There was no other way. One day I just said, "Enough. No more playing games." And man, did I get rid of those people quickly... regardless of what they thought of me.
That's why today I don't have a massive circle of friends, but the ones I do have? They are more like brothers than just friends.
Anyway... I hope that helps even a little.