Posts by Ronald Rogers27

What exactly do you mean by the weight factor?

Let me try rephrasing my survey to be clearer: do you feel the same way about female versus male sexual orientation, or do you view those two things differently? 🤷

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Tackling a pretty heavy topic here: BISEXUALITY by Lucifer...

I decided to put together a quick poll to get a pulse on public opinion regarding the sexual orientation factor.

The question is simple: do you view homosexuality in both genders—lesbians and gay men—as being equally weighted, or do you see a distinction in how we approach those two groups? 🤷

If you decide to vote for a distinction, please leave a comment or a brief explanation of why you feel there's a difference. I actually want to hear the reasoning behind it. 👍

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rustymaker5 said:There’s an old saying floating around that hits home: it’s a strange way to live—people tossing away their happiness just to chase after a bigger pile of cash.

I think the real weight of that thought lies in the word "happiness," because when you spend your whole life just hoarding material wealth, you usually end up feeling hollow and profoundly unhappy. Since my own take is that true satisfaction and happiness are actually what we’re all searching for deep down, I’d argue that pursuing lust, entertainment, and an ideal of abundance—if you're doing it just for the sake of having them—only offers a cheap imitation of joy. It’s usually fleeting, a temporary high that never quite manages to make a person feel truly, lasting satisfied...
To me, this whole obsession seems to stem from a deep-seated fear that there isn't enough to go around, coupled with this growing sense of isolation and a total lack of genuine connection between people.
And if you look at the state of things, it's painfully obvious that this path is heading straight toward a global disaster. 🤷

It feels like we all struggle to actually define what "wealth" means. 😉

But my gut tells me that happiness is even harder to pin down. Everyone defines it differently.

So, what exactly is happiness? 🤷

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Roger Morgan4 said:True, that might be the case now, but I wasn't even four years old back then, so what I'm really trying to get at is why I felt that way even as a child.

A prediction? A vision of her own physical future? Or maybe just sensing the fourth dimension—time itself—within her own body? 🤷

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Lust + energy, combined with entertainment + ideal of abundance = a fake sense of prosperity. It’s an illusion, and it’s heading straight for a global disaster.

YES or NO? Tell me why.

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Roger Morgan4 said:To address the age question: I'm 22. As for thinking about sex—frankly, I don't, nor do I particularly want to. I might have a passing curiosity here and there, but generally, the whole idea feels rather off-putting to me. Regarding my social life, I don't really go out. And when it comes to my wardrobe, the most daring thing I might do is wear a neckline that's slightly deeper than usual; skirts or sleeveless tops just aren't really my style.

You've got some kind of issue or complex going on, though it’s not even the most obvious part of it. This all traces back to when you were four years old. That initial shame about being seen by others turned into a total rejection of sex—you built this massive wall around it because your anxiety spread way beyond its original boundaries (which honestly makes sense if you think about it logically).

I'm not sure what the best advice is, but maybe try heading to a pool with a big group of girlfriends wearing bikinis. Just try to chip away at that fear of people being around you, one small step at a time. Doing this could help loosen the grip on two things: [1] learning to accept how you look, [2] and trying to dial down that intense discomfort you feel when you're exposed in front of others.

If I'm being honest, my gut tells me that if you don't face this, your first sexual experience could be absolutely traumatic. It could change your entire life for the worse and leave emotional scars that never heal.

Seriously, go see a psychologist. Try working with someone to move past this situation. 🤷

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coastalskipper92 said:My old man says it, and I’m inclined to agree:

Technology is a beautiful thing on paper, isn't it? But once it falls into the wrong hands... 😍
Much like socialism, or politics in general, I suppose...

Give it a rest. They still haven't managed to build a black hole at NASA that'll swallow the whole planet... though I'm sure they're working hard on that nonsense as we speak... 🤷

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redmarlin3 said:Keep this up tomorrow, and we might as well just shut down the whole forum since 90% of you will be gone anyway. 🙄

😁

90%? You mean 99%, right? 🙂

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slypuma17 said:A fundamental, systemic question indeed. 🤣 Careful now!

So, essentially, anyone seeking to connect would have to prove they've passed this evaluation and ensure their credentials haven't been revoked due to accumulated infractions. 👍

What are your thoughts? 🤷

It’s an interesting concept, certainly, but how on earth would one actually implement that in the real world? 🤷

Look, I know the idea isn't bad, but I haven't really thought through the execution. It seems like a lot of you are hung up on the logistics. Most people seem to be on board with the concept, at least from what I can tell. 👍

I honestly have no clue how this works from a practical standpoint. At the end of the day, it all comes down to money. Whoever figures out a way to monetize this method is going to build the best version of it. The Catch-22 is that getting online wouldn't actually get any cheaper, so the Internet wouldn't become this thing accessible to everyone struggling to make ends meet. 🤷

(The Internet is basically a modern virtual Colosseum where mental gladiators clash... "Bread and Arcade games") 😬

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After everything I’ve seen and dealt with online lately, I’ve started asking myself one big, fundamental question: should the internet be wide open to everyone, or should people have to pass some kind of psychological sanity check—maybe even a formal exam on digital etiquette—to earn what we could call an "internet permit" or a license to go online?

Think of it like getting a driver's license. Sure, anyone can walk out and buy a car or a high-end PC, but that doesn't mean they should be behind the wheel without knowing what they're doing. Not everyone gets to drive just because they own a vehicle. I'm just using that as an analogy to make my point.

Basically, if you want to get connected, you'd have to prove you passed the test and show that your "license" hasn't been suspended due to too many violations. 👍

What do you guys think? 🤷

brightridge59 said:You beat me to it! 🤣 🤣

God. Oh my goodness. : 5%: 😢

But I have to hand it to insomnia. 🙏

Today, 03:06 (EST)... Today, 04:30 (EST)
Christian Sanchez4
finishing up
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(Sanchez, I really hope I managed to show how flawed your logic is. I basically took YOUR own arguments and turned them right back on you—using you as the test subject instead of that guy from Butterfly Creek. Don't take it personally.) 👍

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"Dear _Saveta_, I’m coming to you with a sincere plea to help me solve a problem that is serious, heavy, and honestly driving me to the brink of madness. I’m seeing this incredible girl—let's call her kappa_insomnije. I’ve never met anyone so beautiful, brave, educated, and sharp. Everything would be perfect if she weren't an ex-addict. She’s been 'clean' for three years now, having quit heroin for good, and she really threw herself back into life and her studies at the University of California. She’s finishing her law degree with straight A's, and I actually thought about hiring her at my dad’s firm. But my whole family is against us. They say I’ve lost my mind, that I'm dating a junkie who lies to me, drugs behind my back, and just uses me for my money to fund her habit. They call me naive, a 'walking ATM.' Dear _Saveta_, you’re my last hope!" Zvonko.

"Dear Zvonko, your situation is a dead end unless you walk away. You need to run from this woman, kappa_insomnije, headfirst. If I were in your shoes, knowing everything I know—I’d get out. I’d cry, I'd mourn, I'd wipe my tears, pick up the pieces of my heart, and move on. Leaving is much less painful than staying. But it’s not just about avoiding pain; it’s about doing what’s right for yourself. It is the right thing to do!

Have you lost your mind, Zvonko? Giving a job to an addict who can't even find her own direction in life? She lies, she cheats, she steals. Don't believe a single word she says, because her being 'clean' is just for show. People like that should NEVER be given jobs; they should be blacklisted forever for what they do to society and their loved ones.

Are you even aware, Zvonko, that only about 5% of addicts actually make it out of the grip of drugs? And even within that 5%, you can NEVER be 1000% sure that someone like kappa_insomnije won't crawl back to heroin.

Whatever you decide, you’re doing it entirely at your own risk.

Sincerely, Vasa _Saveta_
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It’s tough—objectively speaking—to talk sense into someone who’s biased, hurt, and screaming at the top of their lungs just to make sure everyone from Washington, D.C. to New York City hears them. They’ve swung wildly from one extreme to the other.

Does that sound familiar, brightridge59? If not, go back and read what you wrote to me, then take a long look in the mirror. 🤷

I have NEVER claimed to be protecting or siding with an addict. It’s actually the exact opposite; you can see that clearly in the thread Enky started ("Drug Abuse and Spirituality?") over in the Spirituality discussion. 🙂

There’s a massive difference between being naive and giving someone a chance. You, brightridge59, were naive. You fell for a manipulator's tricks—someone playing on your emotions to get what they wanted. 👎

I’ve been given chances in Life after I messed up more than once. It wasn't about drugs or crime; people mess up in much milder ways that still carry heavy consequences. But back then, I was given chances (not always, mind you) that I earned by meeting the specific goals set for me. The people giving me those shots were experienced. They didn't feel the need to constantly monitor or test me AFTER they gave me the opportunity.

To them, it was obvious that sooner or later, my results would prove whether or not I deserved that trust. 😛

It’s the same deal with addiction, criminal recidivism, you name it. We aren't talking about the offender here; we're talking about the judge—the person setting the terms. It comes down to their experience and their conviction.

Nobody, brightridge59, CAN force you to do anything against your will. Just think about what I'm saying...

Jeffrey Stewart4 is probably in danger because she won't be able to see the situation for what it really is (assuming the guy is lying to her). That’s likely the ONLY point where I agree with you. 😲
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Prejudice is a dangerous thing. It has ruined innocent lives and led many others to commit stupid mistakes simply because they couldn't see past their own biases.

I am against prejudice, period. But I am ruthless if I find out my trust was played for fools—if a second chance was just used as a way to "catch a breath" or buy more time.

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brightridge59 said:Look, Ronald Rogers27... you’re talking about two completely different things here.

If some woman posted online saying she was thinking about walking out onto a busy interstate to see if a car would hit her just to test her luck, what on earth would you say to her?
Would you tell her to go ahead and take the risk because "well, maybe it won't happen"? 😕

You're stuck in the realm of theory, but I’m speaking from actual life experience. When you're dealing with addicts, there is simply no such thing as trust—not even when people claim they've "rehabilitated."

Addiction is a chronic, recurring illness, not some temporary phase or a run of bad luck. There is no reliable future to be built with them.
That’s exactly why I offer this kind of advice and hold this perspective.

I don't know. I've never been in a relationship with an addict—at least not someone using needles (one of my exes smoked weed heavily, but that wasn't why we broke up).

So what, does that mean NOBODY (not former criminals, not addicts, not anyone) deserves a second chance to rejoin society and live an honest, clean life?

Then we wonder why drug dealers, thieves, and all kinds of lowlifes who lie and steal at every turn are recruited from former addicts. Nobody trusts them. 👎

But those people HAVE to eat. They have to survive. So what, we just wash our hands of them and leave them to starve? 🤷

If I were in their shoes, I'd be the first one to grab a brick and mug an honest citizen if I had to choose between Life and Death.

(I hope you realize what you're advocating for. Think about how little this actually relates to how society functions.)

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brightridge59 said:He just isn't quite ready to jump back into the mix because he’s become so completely disconnected from everyone around him.
That’s precisely why I believe we should prioritize the local community and our surrounding neighborhood.

He pulled the lever, and honestly, people started telling me that their pupils looked incredibly small. It got me thinking, so now I find myself constantly researching the whole thing, but from what I can see, his pupils are either tiny or absolutely massive.😕

It’s a bit of a pattern I’ve noticed; when they're using heroin, it tends to be more about those smaller, subtle doses, whereas things really escalate and become much more intense during the withdrawal phases.
If they’re absolutely tiny—I mean, looking like little specks even when you're standing in total darkness—then there isn't even a question about it; he definitely went ahead and took them.

I picked up a test at the local CVS today, and I actually had this sudden, fleeting thought about handing it over to her just to let her run the diagnostic herself. I found myself wondering for a moment—would that come across as rude or perhaps a bit patronizing? Part of me feels like it might be the only way to truly put her mind at ease, as seeing the results firsthand might be the only thing that could really settle her nerves.
It feels a bit surreal, doesn't it? I honestly can't believe I’m sharing the intimate details of my life with complete strangers on the internet, especially when I find myself unable to open up to my absolute best friend about these things. Ali, there is just something about this space that makes it feel easier to let it all out.

I don't think it’s rude at all; honestly, you have every right to ask. If he turns you down, then it’s a pretty clear sign that he's trying to hide something.

Take a moment to really sit with that thought and ask yourself: is this truly the kind of life you want to lead—one defined by constant doubt and a lingering sense of fear? 😢

I don't get why anyone would give advice like that. Any real relationship relies on two fundamental pillars: trust and respect. If your guy tells you straight up that he DOESN'T do drugs—that he's been clean for three years now—then you either believe him or you don't.

To be honest, if I were in his shoes and my partner made a relationship conditional on me taking a drug test, I'd just take the test. No big deal. And once that negative result comes back, I’d just look her in the eye and say, "Happy now?" Then I'd get up, turn around, and walk away without saying another word... 👍

My last relationship was actually pretty similar; it was a real litmus test. I found myself in a massive hole, and she pulled away because she didn't want to help me out financially. I never even asked her for money, but what really killed me was that she gave me ZERO emotional support. It caught me totally off guard...

I clawed my way out of that mess all by myself, without any support at all. But as far as I'm concerned, that girl is dead to me. She abandoned me emotionally right when I needed it most! 👎
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If he's lying to you (and using drugs), it'll come out fast enough. Time always tells. Once it does, you'll know what to do. You'll decide whether to fight for him or move on. 🤷

But if you start doubting him when he's probably innocent instead of giving him your full support, you're basically just building walls that will kill the relationship anyway! 😲

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Amanda Stewart7 said:Ronald Rogers27, just thought I’d give you a quick heads-up since you seem a bit lost on your own here. As far as I can tell, amberbadger8 is actually a guy. All I'm saying is maybe try reading a little more closely next time—at least try not to mix up gender and number...

Amanda Stewart7, go walk down to the river tonight—I'll be down there too. Go ahead and drown yourself (don't worry, I won't save you)! 👍

Well, you finally managed to get my attention... fine. I don't mind you constantly attacking me (just swing away, I don't care and I won't fight back)... You think you're being merciful, and that you're right because you're following your heart... 😂

That's just what you think, and I'll leave you to believe it. But collectivism isn't a virtue, Amanda Stewart7, it's a flaw. It's that messy spot in the backyard of human fate where people aggressively try to force everything into the same mold... 🙂

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Peter Stewart18 said:I don't do that anymore. Since last October, I haven't even stepped foot in a bar.
Except for twice a month when I grab a drink with one friend.
And no, I didn't sleep with him. Typical chauvinistic pig mentality thinking that's the case.
Pathetic.

Back then, I honestly didn't care about anything. I think I actually wanted to die. I was completely alone, and my relationship with my sister—who was the only person I actually had a meaningful connection with at the time—was already falling apart. 🤷

No, there isn't, because I'm not interested, and I don't see him anymore. ☕

All in all, your posts are just depressing. You talk as if there's no hope for me, like I'm some lost cause that can't be fixed. But for heaven's sake, I'm not 60 years old! I've decided to change this hellish life I've been living.
And you don't seem to judge my shrink for blatantly pushing me toward the edge and enjoying it; I guess that's just "guy solidarity" for you. 🙂 🙂 🙂

Look, I'm just a little... wild thing living in Canada, imported to the States on a special line...

I’m just incredibly objective, and brutally honest to my core. 👍 I think you're cool, so I gave you a few (of my own axioms) pieces of solid advice. 🤷

But hey, feel free to deny how harsh I'm being... You'll just end up getting screwed over again because you don't even realize when you're losing consciousness... 😕

I'm definitely not Amanda Stewart7, and I'm certainly not amberbadger8... Both of them would be crushed before they could even say "it's nothing" in the situation I'm dealing with... 😁
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But you seem to be doing just fine with them, since they're all tripping over themselves to please you. Go right ahead, girl—"make my day" for some chauvinistic pig... 👍

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coastalviper2 said:I was wondering if it might be possible to have this thread deleted, please

No way am I deleting your thread (that’s not what I’m doing here). Look, you’re just being a total wimp—always shaking and acting like a poser. You need to face reality when you look in the mirror. You aren't the center of the universe. 🙈

Your whole vibe is totally off. You're way too full of yourself... 🙂

(Seriously, you only care about yourself.) 🙂

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coastalviper2 said:That isn't true at all! Society is actually one of the biggest inconveniences of all! I truly want to live my life, but I feel so completely exhausted after a constant struggle, almost like being stuck in a marathon at Dunkin', except the issue is that I just don't seem to have the courage; I struggle with social anxiety, depression, and other issues, while people like you make everything sound so simple and hollow (and I mean that without any intention of being insulting)

Actually, it is true. What isn't true about it? You're trying to prove you're above the fray by ignoring everyone, looking down on people, and isolating yourself—all while telling yourself that they're the problem and you're perfectly fine. 😵

Society IS one of the biggest headaches, sure. But it's also the ultimate test of how YOU learn to navigate the world and tackle those issues (that friction between you and the crowd) and the way you choose to handle it...

It’s basically your mental fingerprint. It shows how much you've grown up. 🙂

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Peter Stewart18 said:

Look, girl, you’ve got a massive problem. And it isn't even about the booze—it's about you. You're hitting rock bottom, and honestly, it's only your family situation and a few safety nets keeping you from a total free fall.👎👎👎

Peter Stewart18 said:But for God's sake, I didn't grow up in a vacuum! My environment shaped me. Everything I've been through—the gambling, my own self-sabotage, constantly running into psychopaths because I couldn't spot them at first... there's a thousand other things that messed me up.

I'll tell you something: you'll find a "bottom" in any social circle if you look hard enough. That "environment" you're talking about? You seem to be hunting for the worst parts of it. You gamble with losers, which basically makes you one of those chronic losers who just can't be saved.😵

Peter Stewart18 said:So, last year, I actually tried to end it all after making the biggest, stupidest mistake of my life: an affair with a married man.

I wouldn't call that a "mistake." It was a lapse in judgment. People mess up, and we learn from it. But what about mistakes involving heavy alcoholism? Or gambling away everything at some dive bar, followed by getting assaulted? That's different.

Peter Stewart18 said:We barely touched on the subject for fifteen minutes before he just went stone-cold silent. He completely ignored me, despite how much I pleaded and explained that I desperately needed to talk through this, analyze it, and dig into it so I could actually get better.

I ended up feeling pure hatred and rage toward him (the doctor). I feel abandoned, betrayed, misunderstood, and totally unsupported. He is everything my ex wasn't.

If things keep going this way, you might just end up crashing hard and heading straight to bed, treating sleep like your own personal version of psychotherapy...
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I honestly don't know what to tell you. You're stuck deep in this hole, and it isn't even about your actions—it's about how you view yourself. The only way out is to start actually respecting and loving who you are, and from what I can see, that's going to take years of work. 🤷

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