I'm too polite (old-school manners)
in Psychology ·
Seriously, how can you eat corn like that? 😕
With a knife and fork 😕
With a knife and fork 😕
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I can't believe "Nikom" anymore...
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Andrew Sullivan8;30306644 said:Why such an attack on the guy? He was just trying to do the right thing—and he actually picked up a lesson along the way.
Generally speaking, you shouldn't lend money to friends, because more often than not, that’s exactly how a friendship ends up being destroyed.[/QUOTE]
I don't quite see how lending money ruins a friendship if you're dealing with someone you actually trust—someone you know is going to pay you back every cent. 🤷
Otherwise, what are you supposed to do? Just sit there and watch a friend struggle through a crisis or go hungry? 🤷
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
mistyseal11 said:Just imagine if everyone actually raised their kids that way...
Hey neighbor, you happen to have the address for 13 Gedora?
Look, I've got it, but I'm not handing it over—just give me a hundred bucks!
You missed my point entirely.
I was saying that we need to learn how to stand up for ourselves and prioritize our own needs instead of constantly catering to everyone else. 😉
The absolute worst thing you can do to someone is convince them that other people's interests always come before their own. 🙄
And honestly? The world would be a much better place if children were actually taught how to say "no" from the start.
It took me far too long to finally learn that lesson myself. 😳
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
mistyseal11 said:It's just the fact that I'm Catholic and the fact that I live in this absolute joke of a country... which is so incredibly screwed right now that it’s honestly not even funny.
That is precisely 😬the point.
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
wirednomad42 said:So, what exactly did your parents spend their lives doing? Just sitting on the porch sipping coffee with the neighbors? 🙄
A complete disaster. Really.
And besides leaving you penniless, they didn't exactly teach you how to make millions, either.
So, what *did* they actually give you then? 🤷
Right, because clearly everyone in this country is just swimming in cash. 🙄
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
mistyseal11 said:Are you actually planning on raising him to be the kind of guy who just hands out his work to friends for free?
Or are you gonna play the whole "protecting my competitive edge" card? You're the one who literally said "education equals value," remember?
But seriously, nobody’s out here trying to raise a saint, right?
In my experience, I was raised with the idea that I had to take better care of other people's belongings than my own, 😁
that others were inherently more capable than me, 😁
and that I needed to prioritize everyone else over myself. 😁(That’s where things started to go sideways—because, truthfully, nobody was looking out for me quite that much.)😁)
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
mistyseal11 said:Let’s broaden the scope here and try to paint a bit of a black-and-white picture:
Is it actually normal to raise a boy who knows his way around a kitchen, keeps his room clean, handles the laundry, plays the violin, or even digs ballet and stuff like that?
On the flip side... are you going to raise him to be some kind of punk rocker... or is he just going to become one because of how you handled things?
Where do you draw that line between being a true patriot and being an extremist... how are you going to shape his politics and who he ends up voting for...
Are you going to force him to hit church every single Sunday like a model Catholic... (or whatever faith fits the setting/time)
I'm pretty damn sure you all want your kids to be everything you weren't... and everything you know you'll never be...
So you're curious to see how that actually plays out...
If you're a "plumber"... yeah, you'll probably definitely want your kid to follow in those footsteps too...
And you're gonna ride them about their math homework just like your parents rode you... yeah, obviously, you absolutely loved every second of it...
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Now, for the daughters:
How long are you going to try to ground her and stop her from going out?
Are you planning on keeping her on a tight leash until she's 30...
What happens if someone hooks up with her before then... man, imagine that... especially if she was the girl who went to church every Sunday...
Are you going to give her the side-eye when she brings home some 30-year-old guy (the exact type of "model Catholic" described above, who just happens to be a total jerk) while she's only 18?
Which, honestly, is totally normal... it would probably be best if you guys just laid out your "wish lists"...... and then we can actually talk about them...
Actually, I'd suggest starting a whole new thread specifically about parenting—something like "Describe your ideal child"
Because there's a huge chance this conversation is just going to get watered down and turn into a massive flame war where everyone starts attacking the views of these "future parents"
To me, it is perfectly normal to raise a child to be capable and independent—meaning they can take care of themselves, including cooking and cleaning, regardless of gender. 😁
The goal should be to raise a happy child... one who truly believes in themselves and their own abilities.
As for the rest—whether they become a punk, who they vote for, whether they attend church, or what they choose to study—that isn't the priority,
provided that you instilled the value of education in them during their childhood. 😁
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
electricdriver93 said:Those are his parents—the father is essentially that guy from Dead Poets Society.
Those are merely outliers. I haven't heard a single person from my circle mention anything of the sort.
Now, just picture a kid who is constantly looking for the easiest path through life.
Imagine they’re eyeing a grueling major—something like pre-med at Johns Hopkins—but you spend their entire childhood telling them it’s just not their calling. 😁
You essentially drill it into them every single day that nothing is quite right for them. 😁
You end up motivating them with this toxic "if you can't do it, don't bother" attitude—basically implying everyone else is naturally superior to them. 😁
🙏
How not to screw up your kids: Parenting tips & tricks
in Psychology ·
Kimberly Murphy84 said:I couldn't agree more.
If I may add a small caveat—parents truly do believe they are acting in their child's best interest; that isn't the issue. The friction arises because the child is a distinct, separate individual—which means what a parent perceives as "best" doesn't always align with what the child actually needs.
Listen to your child—even in the things they aren't saying.
unless they subscribe to the theory
that they don't have to listen to anyone because they're the ones footing the bill—or that as long as you're living under their roof, they hold all the cards.🤣
Toxic family dynamics: How do you deal with it?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Zachary Howard2 said:Men are generally messy—with rare exceptions like yourself—so trying to change that habit is probably a losing battle. Instead of suggesting your mother clean out the basement, why didn't you just step up and do it yourself?
If your father actually wanted to leave your mother, he would have done it by now; it’s all just empty talk.
Having had to fend for yourself since you were four years old, I imagine it's difficult to adjust to a different way of living.
Enjoy having parents around to tell you what to do while you still can. I lost mine five and two years ago, respectively, and having just crossed the 30 mark, I've only just realized, much to my regret, how much they truly meant to me.
Give it some thought.
Yeah, because apparently men are the only ones granted a free pass to be slobbish.😁
Octopus Paul
in Miscellaneous ·
I mean, you have to wonder if those cephalopods could actually be trained
though, it would certainly be something if they possessed abilities similar to a clairvoyant AC Milan 😕
though, it would certainly be something if they possessed abilities similar to a clairvoyant AC Milan 😕
Octopus Paul
in Miscellaneous ·
Honestly, anyone who is determined to find deep meaning in something will always end up spotting some kind of sign
coincidence
coincidence
hiddenhound3 said:Do you truly believe that the mere act of choosing between two equally undesirable options holds any actual substance? 😕
Not really—but look, if you refuse to choose between two lesser evils and just leave everything up to fate, you might find yourself facing an even greater catastrophe instead. 😉
You see what I mean? 🙂
hiddenhound3 said:When you reach this particular state of mind, suicide doesn't even cross your thoughts because you recognize its utter futility. This is true nihilism; you understand that you are essentially nothing, that you possess no influence over anything, and that your entire existence is merely a fleeting moment—as insignificant as a single heartbeat. You don't waste energy on hope, optimism, or the illusion that you are someone special or important. You have simply accepted the reality that life happens, and you are nothing more than a silent observer.
I find that perspective quite compelling. 🙂
True, but there’s a catch—everything seems fine until you actually get a shot at something you truly desire, only to find yourself paralyzed, unable to take action because you've fully embraced the idea that life just happens to you.🙄
Well, you always have some level of agency 🤷, even if it feels limited—in the absolute worst-case scenario, you’re still weighing two different paths, which means you're still making a choice. You could have opted to skip the trip entirely and head somewhere else instead; who knows what kind of people you might have crossed paths with there? 🙂
It really all boils down to what your ultimate goal is. 🤷
It really all boils down to what your ultimate goal is. 🤷
mistyseal11 said:Everything eventually comes full circle. The universe is just one big closed loop.
You just gotta let go and go with the flow.
You can't spend your whole life being such a massive pessimist; there's just no way that works out.
Even though it feels like this right now, if I can't make it through, then screw it—I'll just check out early and find my way back to this exact same spot anyway.
Man, I feel like I'm never gonna reach nirvana. 🙂
But wait—have you considered that you might have ended up in this state in the first place because you let yourself go too far? 🙄
Naked at the doctor's office
in Health ·
Michelle Cook83 said:Look, just pay for a private clinic and you won't have people barging in on you like that. When you're staying at a teaching hospital—one that's partnered with a medical school—students and residents actually have the right to examine whoever they need to.
True, but I can still politely ask them to leave. 🙄
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Memory issues?
in Health ·
Kimberly Nguyen3 said:I went—everything turned out fine, really. It was a little on the high side, perhaps, but still within what the doctors consider a normal range, so we're all good.
Depression😕 and stress😕—they really take their toll.
Memory issues?
in Health ·
Alex Moore62 said:It’s actually pretty obvious—I honestly hadn't even considered it until I was getting my bloodwork done for thyroid issues. 😵
I was struggling just to remember the names of people I talk to every single day; everything felt foggy, and I couldn't for the life of me keep track of which coworker was being difficult at the office. 😢
For me, it all boiled down to hypothyroidism—and since I started hormone replacement therapy, things have improved significantly.
If I were you, I'd definitely go get your thyroid levels checked out.
But wait—how did you realize it was your thyroid specifically? 😕 Besides those memory lapses, 😕 what else gave it away?