Posts by crimsongull20

Angela Wright said:Wait, didn't you say your dad already had some kind of cancer? Remind me...
By the way, cancer isn't the same thing as lymphoma. They come from completely different cells. Carcinomas start in epithelial cells, while lymphomas originate in the immune system cells. There's a massive difference there—treatment, progression, prognosis, they're all different. It’s unlikely for a primary carcinoma to show up in a lymph node; usually, that's just a metastasis from a tumor somewhere else.
Beyond lymphoma and carcinoma, you've got sarcomas from connective tissue, leukemias from blood cells, melanomas from melanocytes, and gliomas from brain cells.
So, "cancer" isn't just one thing, even if people here use the term too broadly because it's one of those taboo words everyone avoids...

As for radiation, yeah, any part of the body that gets irradiated carries a risk of developing a new issue years down the line as a result. That's why they're working on more precise tech now, aiming only at the diseased cells.

Sorry, I'm pretty clueless when it comes to malignancies. It's been years since my old man passed, and we were living in different cities during his illness. His sickness was actually pretty short, so most of what I knew came from my mom, who wasn't exactly a reliable source... The diagnosis was Non-Hodgkin lymphoma—can't remember the specific type—late stage, and they said it started in an inguinal lymph node. He hadn't dealt with carcinomas before. He only went for that X-ray because of a kidney stone stuck in the ureter. He wasn't wearing a lead shield for that scan, so it wasn't radiation treatment for some other cancer.

driftingsurfer14 said:My dad had the same thing—swelling on the left side of his neck. No other symptoms then, and nothing since. It’s been about a month and a half now...

My dad dealt with night sweats, weakness, weight loss, swollen lymph nodes, and an enlarged spleen. For almost a year, his friend kept insisting it was just stress and Lom, and he actually got sent home from the ER three different times without any follow-up advice. He ended up being diagnosed with late-stage Non-Hodgkin at the end of it all. He lived for eight months after that...

The primary cancer showed up in a groin lymph node. Thirteen years ago, because of a misdiagnosis, he had an X-ray where the technician forgot to use a lead shield. They told him back then that trying for kids wouldn't be wise for a few years. I'm just wondering... what are the odds he was exposed enough during that procedure to cause a disease that started right in the groin area?

How old is the grandpa now?

fadedranger2 said:some guy wakes up, curses at the clock because he's already behind schedule 😁 and goes on about how he can't catch up... claims the worst part is just getting out of bed, takes him a full hour just to find his feet.

Low blood pressure?

Melissa Evans88 said:Yeah, they told me I wouldn't know when it's my turn until then.
By the way, Dr. Jurlina mentioned that moving forward, they won't be covering aesthetic procedures through Medicare anymore (like if you have a medical issue and try to sneak in a cosmetic fix). Apparently, they feel it's just wasting money and time on trivial stuff when there are plenty of much more serious patients dealing with tumors and things like that...

It's the right call.

fadedranger2 said:Not really. I'm not looking for a breakup or anything...
I just want him to be alright, and flipping day and night isn't the way to do that.

Flipping schedules is fine if you can afford it and your body handles it. I did that all through my twenties whenever possible.
It works for him, but you clearly can't handle it—that's the bottom line.

fadedranger2 said:Yeah, I spent the whole week over at his place last week—New Year's stuff and all that... but it was overkill. We were hitting the sack at 5 AM and rolling out of bed at 4 PM every single day. 🙂 And he’s still acting the exact same way.

Let him live it up while he can. Since you said he isn't sitting on a pile of cash, he probably won't be able to pull this off forever...

Think about how much trouble it'll be down the road living with someone that stagnant. If you aren't wired that way, it's going to be a massive headache. That kind of gap makes sharing a life pretty complicated...

fadedranger2 said:Honestly, yeah, it’s always been like this... though things have "taken a turn" over the last six months, if you want to call it that... 🤷

Maybe they're just escaping into sleep to deal with work stress. Happens all the time.

They could always just go get some basic blood work done. Not exactly a huge ordeal...

If he was always like that, it’s really no big deal...

Paul Allen11 said:I called her yesterday. It doesn't matter if she's in Washington, D.C., Rijeka, or Zadar... what matters is finding someone vetted and reliable. Please, if you know anyone great, let me know.
Heard Zoričić is solid, though I'm not sure if anyone else has leads...

There's an Anxiety thread over in the Psychology subforum (Psychosofa, I think) where someone might actually have a decent recommendation for you.

silvercanyon7 said:Sometimes I wonder where I'll be in five years, or ten... and then when that thought hits, the pain and the emptiness just feel heavier. It’s like I tell myself I only get five minutes with him every year, JUST five minutes... and then realizing there isn't even a single second left... uh... 😢

Maybe you'll dream about him often, like I do with mine. Those "real dreams." Probably just some way the mind tries to make up for the loss.

fadedranger2 said:no, no, no 😁 it just keeps going on and on... when he was grinding out his thesis (did the whole thing in a month), he actually managed to wake up earlier... but before that and after... it's always been like this... we've been together a year and he's always been this way 😉

So, was he like this before that first year?

silvercanyon7 said:The only way forward is accepting reality and learning how to live with that void. It takes time... God knows how much time.

I don't know. It’ll be 14 years since my old man passed, but honestly? Feels like yesterday. If anything, the loss just hits harder as time goes by... 😢

fadedranger2 said:No major issues, just slow. Even after twelve hours of sleep, he’s yawning... always feels exhausted.

If this is new, could be thyroid, low iron, whatever.

The more you sleep, the more tired you get. Personal experience. Maybe try sticking to eight hours for ten days... if things don't improve, see a doctor.

P.S. Sorry for overstepping, but based on what you're saying and those emojis, I get the feeling you might need someone a bit more high-energy...😁

fadedranger2 said:thanks for the reply😉
But he’s saying the same thing—that it isn't normal and he's sleeping way too much. I'm starting to worry about how he'll manage once he actually has to get to work...

He'll adapt because he won't have any other option.

When you're a natural sleeper, more sleep just feels like it's pulling you deeper. I remember back in middle school, I'd sleep through most of my breaks for like 14 hours a day. Could probably still do it if I wanted to, but I don't have nearly that kind of time anymore, so I mostly just run on half capacity.

How does he feel when he's actually awake? Any issues there?

mistyjackal842 said:I was actually looking to connect with young people who lost a parent at an early age. From what I saw in a TV documentary, that kind of thing is common out there and it's free, obviously. We don't really have that here. There's just some group support once a week on Hirceva Street in New York City, which is fine, but they charge $67 per session for people grieving a loved one. So, I gave up on it because it’s just too expensive.

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Back when I was 24, what I really needed was someone to tell me that this grief and emptiness isn't going away... that I should treat it like a chronic illness you have to manage, rather than something time just fixes. It took me way too many years to finally realize that...

loneowl68 said:Seriously?!!
Every single time I see it, I start questioning my own sanity. One day I just couldn't take it anymore and called my husband over to check—just in case it wasn't happening too often—but yeah, it looks dark blue....

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Android using Reddit medical answer to question (Mark C. Loury):

Blue eyeshadow or mascara getting into the tear ducts and running down into the nose.

https://www.healthtap.com/topics/dar...asal-discharge

4th reply in order.

Angela Wright said:5 months of freshness 😉
just hoping things start looking up even a little...

Let's hope so. 🙂

Angela Wright said:It’s actually really bothering me because I get this itching sensation, but when I try to scratch it, there’s nothing there. My whole lower abdomen, from the belly button down to the incision, just feels completely numb. 😢

Sounds like your incision is still pretty fresh. Itching is pretty common during the healing process. Just hang in there until you've gone through labor... 😁

northernfalcon34 said:I heard the exact same thing from women who had tummy tucks... nothing different there...

Same happened to me after bilateral inguinal hernia surgery.

My surgeon warned me beforehand, though—it’s just what happens when you resect the genitofemoral and ilioinguinal nerve branches. The incisions sit about two fingers below the waistband of my underwear. I assume an Imperial Cut is done around that same area now, involving the same nerves...

Honestly, it doesn't bother me at all. I can't even pinpoint where the numbness is exactly without grabbing a pen or a toothpick to poke around...