Still trying to pull the crew together for some community service stuff We’re planning to run a little campaign this weekend—kind of a grassroots thing—and the more hands we have on deck, the better.
Honestly, if you can swing even an hour or two, it would be a massive help.
So, we're putting together some community service days this Saturday and the ones coming up after—just some good old-fashioned volunteer work to help out those who need it.
So, we’re working on helping out this one family—a mom and her four kids—who are basically living in some pretty brutal conditions right now. We’re trying to pull them out of that mess and get them into a house that actually feels like it belongs in this century instead of the Middle Ages.
We’re out here pulling together building supplies, cash, food... even getting a fridge on the list... but honestly? What we’re actually desperate for right now is manpower. We need people who actually know what they're doing—pros who can handle construction, carpentry, laying laminate, tiling, installing doors and windows, drywall, all that good stuff.
So, we’ve finally knocked out the floors and the walls—insulation, plaster, all that good stuff is done. Now we’re moving on to the ceilings. Right now, it’s just bare boards up there; we spent some time clearing out all the old reed and random debris that was falling apart. Next step is getting the drywall up. We scored three doors and three windows through donations. We’ve already managed to get two of the doors installed—the rest of the work is slated for either this weekend or the next one. The wiring is all set—outlets, junction boxes, switches, the whole nine yards. Everything's officially live.
Just picked up all the furniture for two kids' rooms—plus we’ve got the full setup with bedding, pillows, blankets, and all that good stuff.
We’ve still got a mountain of work ahead of us—and honestly, the kids are losing their minds. They’ve been living out of boxes piled up in the middle of the kitchen for a month now since the renovations started. It's getting old.
Since there aren't many of us around right now, things are moving pretty slow. I wanted to put this out there and see if any good souls on the forum—people who don't mind getting their hands dirty—would want to join our crew. We’re looking to help a local family level up their quality of life just a bit. If you're down for some physical work, let me know.
So, my four-year-old daughter spent about ten minutes straight flipping the light switch on and off today—she was basically in total shock that it actually worked like that. Honestly? It’s the perfect little nudge we needed to roll up our sleeves, tackle another Saturday, and just get to work.
I’m really hoping we can get a crew from this sub together to help out with the drive—even if it's just for a few hours.
Shady actually admitted recently that his whole moderation thing and constant posting style ends up taking a toll on his family and kids—but hey, he calls it his "mission."
And then, get this—his excuse for all those random outbursts? He blames stuff like waiting at the doctor's office or whatever... wtf????
Are we really just going to tolerate a moderator checking out whenever someone manages to get under his skin? This isn't some private clinic where he can come to vent his frustrations. It’s not like he should be using the site to hand out bans and red cards just because his blood pressure spiked over something.
No matter how you slice it, the issue is obvious: the guy doesn't approach moderation with any sense of objectivity or professionalism. Instead, he pours all his personal biases and frustrations into it, basically turning the platform into a playground for his own little mission and personal jihad.
It’s getting painfully obvious at this point—no matter what tone the debate takes, if it touches on Islam or the specific issues popping up in Muslim communities, it gets shut down fast every single time.
Whatever arguments you bring or how the conversation flows, they just kill the thread under the excuse of "cleaning up off-topic posts"... of course, those same threads magically never get reopened.
You can sell people that nonsense for a little while, but pretty soon you start seeing the pattern and you begin to wonder who the real crazy ones are here.
The real question is: do Muslims have some special privilege where they don't have to be discussed, or are they just terrified of actually looking at their own problems because they aren't sure where that leads?
Sweeping things under the rug, sticking your fingers in your ears, and just screaming "la la la la" is great strategy if you're five years old... if you're older, it’s pretty clear something is broken.
Why is it that every topic involving logical questions gets axed the second actual evidence and arguments come out? It’s like they're trying to stop the dust from settling or prevent "passions" and "spirits" from being stirred up. I’m just wondering whose passions and whose spirits we're talking about? If Islam is such a peaceful religion and Muslims aren't terrorists, then what exactly are you all so afraid of?
Logic points to two possible answers here: either the moderators are scared of a backlash from Muslims... or Muslims are so heavily protected from any kind of scrutiny that any topic they don't like gets automatically silenced.
Seriously, someone needs to draw a line in the sand here. What exactly is considered acceptable behavior just because someone happens to hold a moderator title?
I mean, a forum shouldn't revolve around one single mod running their own little personal online crusade.
Gregory Turner71 said:Angela Newman33... seriously, just take a deep breath, count to ten, and try again. I know you can do better than this...
ego—this isn't even directed at you
you’re actually the only one here who doesn't follow that logic, and honestly, most people on this sub aren't even half as decent as you are when it comes to actual human qualities
and I'm not "breathing deep" because I'm angry or whatever... I'm just saying what's been on my mind for ages—it's exactly why I stopped posting and reading about religion altogether
I just can't stomach all this fake, slimy behavior anymore
plus, I feel personally betrayed. I really put my faith in Shady—we were close, and being as naive as I am, I believed everything he fed me... turns out he was just playing a part and lying... to me and to himself
I just can't get behind people like that, or the way moderation decisions are made based on the biased, hypocritical, and dishonest motives of a few individuals
Steven Clark2 said:Fair enough—maybe you've got a point regarding Tamia. But personally, I'm not looking to go full demon mode on him—speaking just for myself here—because I honestly think he'll apologize. He seems like a decent guy, even if he got swept up in all that negative energy that's been brewing for so long, leading him to post what he did. What he said wasn't okay—that's a fact—but I feel like we should give him a chance to clear the air, especially since he kind of hinted, or maybe even directly signaled, that he might have overstepped.
Tamia, if you're reading this, it would be a class act to apologize to the people you offended. And maybe try to keep it from happening again? It just isn't worth the headache, right. Sure, some Christians out there might be worse than you, but that doesn't really give you a free pass to dish it right back.
He can apologize a thousand times... but the bottom line is the guy is a racist who thinks an entire group of people is technologically redundant.
An apology doesn't just wipe the slate clean.
The only thing he can apologize for is posting it on a public forum and breaking the rules, but that doesn't change the fact that it's his actual opinion and who he is as a person.
I’m genuinely curious—how many days and moderator meetings does it actually take to decide someone’s crossed the line into hate speech or religious intolerance?
Is a week enough? Or do you think we should wait a bit longer to see if everyone just "forgets" the topic ever existed?
To be honest, I don't buy the idea that the thread was closed for any other reason.
It’s hardly a coincidence that every single thread involving sensitive topics—you know, the ones that touch on Muslims and Islam—gets shut down via some fast-track process using a totally transparent, vague excuse.
Do they really think people are that gullible?
And how convenient that yet another one got axed today—that thread about the acid attacks.
The mod basically tossed the thread out and served up this ridiculous excuse about there being no links to prove anything... meanwhile, they conveniently ignored about 15 different links already posted on the subject.
People, enough with this hypocritical, dishonest, biased moderation. It’s blindingly obvious what's going on here and what kind of logic is used to hand out bans and kill discussions about religion.
If you want to veto certain topics, just put it in the rules. Just say "freedom of speech is limited on this subforum" and stop being so damn sneaky and two-faced.
Angela Wright said:🙄🤦 Angela Newman33, I'm honestly stumped as to why you’ve decided I'm being arrogant or stuck-up; I have no clue what gave you that impression.🤷 Whatever. I laid out my perspective and the facts as I see them, and I think I made myself perfectly clear. I'm not interested in getting into a petty back-and-forth with you, trying to outsmart you, or wasting breath overexplaining things. Best,
Look, regardless of how you feel about me, you could always just lay out what exactly this "expertise" of yours is regarding this issue.
I'm sure there are people here who'd actually find it interesting—just so they know who's giving advice and what they're actually talking about, since you write like you're some kind of expert on the subject.
I feel like you're blurring the lines between actual crisis intervention and long-term support here
Look, obviously if someone is in total shock after something horrific happens and they can't even function—they need immediate help... and that’s when you see those specialized teams on TV stepping in
In the US, we don't really have mobile psychology units that just roll up to help a family dealing with a suicide. Usually, you'd just call your doctor and ask for a referral to a clinic somewhere
Sure, there are family counselors and stuff like that, but that isn't meant for an acute crisis situation
Traumas that don't completely paralyze your ability to live your life aren't treated the same way as, say, the immediate shock following a major car accident
That's why a psychologist is going to grill you about the person's state—whether they're talking normally, eating, all that kind of thing If there aren't any red flags suggesting something needs to be tackled right this second, they'll probably just suggest you ride out the stages of grief (which can last anywhere from a few months to a year, depending on the person) and then reach out later if you feel like you need it Some form of therapy is usually a good idea because the trauma definitely sticks around—even with things much less intense than losing someone to suicide
p.s. And no, I'm not confusing treatment with management
Angela Wright said:And you, sweetie, clearly aren't reading with any actual comprehension or attention. Your implication that I obviously haven't found myself in a similar spot isn't fair. People deal with all kinds of chaos on a daily basis, and nobody has the right to claim their problems are somehow different, bigger, or harder than anyone else's. For your information, if you actually looked at my profile, you'd see I deal with one particular, highly traumatic situation quite frequently, working with people and their families from the very moment they receive a diagnosis.
Like I said before, and I’m repeating it now: she doesn't need clinical treatment; she needs guidance on how to carry herself through this entire crisis. Other people have reached out to her with that exact kind of support. I have no idea what specific psychologists or psychiatrists you're citing, because I don't know what questions you actually asked them. It’s pretty clear you were asking them about treatment, rather than guidance on how to handle things right now. For God's sake, crisis intervention centers weren't dreamed up by accident. They were designed by experts for a very specific purpose. Look at American movies based on true stories, like those dealing with school shootings. Crisis teams of psychologists and therapists arrive on the scene immediately to work with the survivors, talk through everything, and facilitate support groups. Why do you think that is? And please, just accept once and for all that psychologists and psychiatrists aren't just there for people with chronic mental illnesses; they exist to prevent those very illnesses and disorders from developing out of intense, high-stress situations. That’s why getting that help and guidance as early as possible is absolutely critical.
The girl came looking for advice and she got it. She made her decision fully informed. She says she feels better, which is great—let's just hope that holds.
I feel like you aren't really listening here because you've been acting incredibly arrogant and condescending from the start.
I'm just reporting what the psychologists told me when I called them regarding this exact same situation she's facing right now.
I only called because, from the second it happened, everyone around me started hysterically screaming for professional help (not because of me, but because of my brother, who witnessed everything).
And the clinicians and other specialists told me exactly what I've written here.
Unless there's an immediate pathological condition, they said there's no need to rush to a psychologist—sometimes a person just needs time to process everything mentally.
They told us to check back in a few months.
So, we're talking about a crisis situation involving a traumatic event... the experts knew the situation and gave me the advice I'm simply quoting.
So, don't attack me. You can disagree with how certain psychologists work, sure, but don't make this personal.
And being "ill" and committing suicide are definitely not the same thing... when someone is truly ill, it's a completely different trajectory that a person has to navigate to accept. You can prepare for what's coming, you have free will in how you face the problem, the family is involved in the process, and so on. This is a totally different type of issue, and trying to lump it all together is just lazy, sweeping guesswork about an unknown situation.
P.S. I've lived through your version of this too, so I know exactly what I'm talking about. Maybe ask my brother if the feeling is the same whether a parent dies of cancer or takes their own life... I'm sure he'll have something to say about that.
Angela Wright said:Why would she even bother reaching out after you already laid it all out for her? Let her sit with it for a year or two; if she finally hits a breaking point then, maybe she can give you a call.😳
Look, honey, you're confusing being mentally ill with simply experiencing psychological trauma. There's a massive difference. Besides, mental fortitude isn't distributed equally among everyone. That’s why we have specialists who deal specifically with these issues. You've even got licensed therapists who aren't necessarily psychologists or psychiatrists, but they've gone through specialized training to help someone navigate a crisis like this so they can find their footing and handle the aftermath in a healthy way.
And you clearly haven't been in this position yourself, or at least didn't think to ask an actual expert what they thought about it.
I already mentioned that I talked things over with a few psychologists after everything went down (not just for my own sake, but for everyone involved), and they all said the exact same thing: you need to wait a while before you start digging into it.
Everyone handles stuff like this differently, and you have to let them try to process it on their own terms before you start pushing them toward doctors and specialists. Because, honestly, those pros can't really do much until a person has first tried to deal with their own headspace.
I can totally say I get where you're coming from my dad took his own life about two months ago it was an explosion at the house—pretty violent stuff I went through the exact same thing—nightmares, fear of the dark, jumping at every little sound—but honestly, it all passed, and it actually happened pretty fast
all those panic-mongers kept telling me I needed to see a psychiatrist right away and whatnot, but when I finally called one, he basically said that normal grieving and processing trauma takes a few months, and everyone just deals with it in their own way if things don't improve after, say, six months to a year—though it's different for everyone—that's when you should look for help
and to all you panickers in here who are trying to rush her off to some clinic... give it a rest. They aren't even going to treat her until she gets through this initial grieving phase and everything settles down
also, a word of advice: stay away from sleeping pills. They won't really make you feel better and you could easily end up hooked; I ended up having hallucinations from them and decided I was done if you're too scared to sleep alone, ask a friend or someone close to you to crash with you. That helped me a ton because it made me feel safer and stopped that horrific mental movie from playing on loop in my head
if you ever want to talk about it, feel free to shoot me a DM or whatever else works
Unfortunately, I don't live in the same city, so I had to head back home right after the funeral
Those few days leading up to everything—he was pretty shut down, you know? Just wouldn't talk about any of it, acting like he was totally fine... But honestly, he was actually the most level-headed one out of all of us. He was the one handling all the logistics and getting everything organized I don't think we should push him, either—he'll get there when he's ready