Posts by Eric Gray2

Anthony Thompson77 said:Of course, terrible childhoods exist—everything from various types of abuse to being caught in war zones—forcing children to grow up instantly just to survive and look after others.
I think we are talking about relatively standard upbringing circumstances here.

Anthony Thompson77 said:A friend of mine recently remarked, "Childhood is the only time in life when we aren't constantly checking the clock."
Back then, there was never any rush. We weren't preoccupied with the distant future; instead, we just focused on
revisiting those sweet memories of being somewhere special with someone dear—simply living in the moment without a single worry.
I tend to agree that, broadly speaking, childhood is the happiest chapter of our lives.

However, the real challenge as an adult is learning how to recapture even a fraction of that effortless peace we once had.

crimsoncanyon2 said:I’m not even going to waste my breath trying to argue—since you basically have to win any debate just because you hold a moderator position—
but if you were actually being honest about the whole "picking fights" and "complaints" thing, you wouldn't be using that little exclamation mark icon to signal to people which posts they should avoid if they don't want to feel bullied—which is what you're implying. People would figure it out themselves anyway, though they won't, because most of those posts were probably taken with a grain of salt and seen as lighthearted or humorous, just like Noelle Page wrote before you "wisely" deleted her post...

And why would I care about spinning anything?
What am I, Barack Obama? 🤣

Damn, so does that mean I'm "contributing significantly"? 😁 🤣

Fine, I'll watch my step from now on. 🙂

crimsoncanyon2 said:I honestly want to know why certain users—myself included—are forced to tolerate all this "horrendous" behavior, yet instead of getting an actual ban or a penalty, I just get targeted? It feels like they’re just looking for any excuse to pick on me, whether it's through specific threads or by attacking my character.
Take this situation, for example.

And of course, the post where another user was actually clarifying that I don't leave bitterness in my wake—trying to imply I'm actually a positive presence for the readers here—just vanished. Deleted at light speed.
Is this some kind of vendetta against me or what?
Look, if someone is going to be lectured or punished, there should be actual evidence left behind to justify it. Instead, they just wipe out a "sporadic" post and then try to paint me as some keyboard villain who's supposedly harassing poor, helpless users with everything I write...

Based on how the mods are commenting, it makes it look like I'm mocking people with illnesses or personal struggles—when in reality, most of the time I'm trying to help them or providing links to articles where they can find solutions for themselves.

Take this specific scenario, for instance.
So, I just had to deal with this post where another user basically tried to paint me as some kind of emotional wrecking ball—implying that I somehow leave other people here traumatized—while simultaneously acting like I’m this legendary, vanished figure who was wiped off the face of the forum at lightning speed despite being a supposedly "beloved" staple of the community.

Is this some kind of dig at me, or what?

Look, if you’re going to call someone out or try to hand out some kind of punishment, you really ought to back it up with actual evidence—show the receipts, right? It just doesn't sit right with me when someone deletes a single, random post and then immediately tries to paint that person as some kind of digital villain or a keyboard warrior. You can't just scrub the context away and act like you've caught a criminal.

With the way these moderator comments are coming down, it honestly looks like I’m just sitting here mocking people who are struggling or dealing with actual health issues—which couldn't be further from the truth. In reality, my whole intention is usually to lend a hand or share helpful links to articles where people can find their own solutions and get some clarity.

Paul Thompson3 said:You’re stripping context away so effectively you could probably land a job in news reporting.
That "be happy" comment is particularly grating—honestly, I have no idea how you ended up moderating a psychology forum.
So, I guess if someone gets jumped and ends up broken in an ER, or just takes a kick to the backside, it’s all the same thing, right? *facepalm*.

My point was simply to tell her I wasn't trying to dismiss her experience—even if, objectively speaking, it isn't that dire.
You know, empathy and all that...

Paul Thompson3 said:This topic is a bit messy—not that it’s about abuse—but don't take this the wrong way, though I find it slightly ridiculous that people are telling you to seek professional help. You aren't crazy, nor is it weird to feel awkward talking about this; but given the actual horrors and systemic abuse children face, I don't think these things should be lumped together.
Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to downplay what you went through—but I think you're overanalyzing this a bit too much. Digging into it won't actually solve anything; you didn't do anything wrong, so just stop carrying the weight of it.
What Hide and Seek described is actual abuse—your situation isn't even in the same ballpark.
Honestly, just be glad that wasn't your reality and let it go.

I feel like you might be taking this a bit too personally.

Now, that is actual abuse—but clearly, what you're describing isn't even in the same ballpark.

Take care.

Stop stressing yourself out over it.

I'm not trying to downplay how negatively you felt about everything that happened.

Laura Ortiz83 said:I already explained my reasoning for starting this thread in my initial post.

And frankly, I cannot fathom why it is so difficult for all of you to believe that I am genuinely seeking HELP...

It is clearly incomprehensible to the self-proclaimed "psychologists" on this forum.

Lock it, leave it... do whatever you want.

Noah Garcia4 said:I’ll step in here, if I may :hand raise: 🙂🎉

The reality is that people aren't monoliths. People living with schizophrenia are individuals, which means they all carry their own unique versions of it.

The road to a diagnosis can look like anything; it might start with insomnia, a bout of depression, panic attacks, anxiety, general maladjustment, social isolation, or sudden behavioral shifts—you name it.

Once it becomes undeniable that a person's thoughts, speech, or actions have drifted away from shared reality, they eventually land in a psychiatrist's office, where they'll likely receive an initial diagnosis of psychosis. From there, the specific label you get depends entirely on which doctor you happen to see.

The real issue we're grappling with here 😍 is the aftermath of being labeled "psychotic." Generally, the prescription is medication. A lucky few find the right meds on the first try. In some cases, if you hit a year of remission, doctors might taper you off (that was my experience), but if the symptoms resurface after that, you're often marked as a chronic case, tethered to medication for life.😍

And once you're on those antipsychotics, good luck figuring out what they actually do to your system. Almost all of them trigger depression. So, you get the antipsychotic, then you need an antidepressant just to level things out. But again, like I said, a person with schizophrenia is still a human being. And if you've been hospitalized a few times—which, let's be honest, most of us have been through the wringer—it means
you have to accept that you are ill.
You have to maintain the discipline to take your meds and endure the side effects, though after a while, it gets blurry whether you're feeling a side effect or a symptom itself.
You have to navigate being around people who look at you like you're some kind of freak, yet you're expected to remain perfectly polite.
On top of all that, you're supposed to hold down a job, socialize, raise a family, and maintain friendships—basically doing everything "normal" people do, which is its own kind of absurdity.
Why? Because "normal" people can afford to be eccentric; they can claim their quirks give them character.
But for someone dealing with psychosis, a little bit of eccentricity is often seen as a total break from reality.

To put this in perspective for you, since you're asking, 😍: imagine walking into a hospital, getting heavily sedated, and then a few days later, you're walking around, talking, and hanging out with other patients before being discharged. You go home, and everyone expects you to suddenly be "fine." In reality, what they're thinking is that you're "crazy," and that's a label 99% of the people around you will cling to forever.

As for living in remission—when the symptoms subside—it’s exhausting. To put it bluntly, regular people are allowed to lose their minds occasionally, but a person with schizophrenia isn't given that luxury.

So there it is. Feel free to ask more.
Did you want me to back this up with medical data from Google, or were you specifically looking for this kind of subjective perspective? ☕
off topic : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqRW5...&feature=share 👍

Joshua Adams41 said:Look, this is just how our culture works—people feel entitled to act like total jerks to anyone they cross paths with, even if it's just through a nasty glare.
It’s like, hey, your kid, your life, your choice to grab a sparkling water and light up a cigarette—to me, that sounds a little selfish, though personally, I wouldn't dream of giving you a hard time about your own business.
But like I said, we live in a society where people are practically vibrating with excitement just to find something to talk trash about, so don't be too surprised when it happens...

Larry Lewis said:Schizophrenia can push a person right to the fringes of society—straight into poverty—and I have to ask, what happens to a five or six-year-old kid in that situation?

You all keep talking about how you can "function perfectly fine" with schizophrenia, but if you ask me—and believe me, I know plenty of people dealing with this—maybe 10% of patients can actually pull that off, if even that.

When a friend of mine was trying to land a decent job recently, his crew started feeding him all this nonsense about me and my condition, and of course, he backed out. It’s the same old story: I'm already screwed from the jump, and I don't stand a prayer of getting hired just because I carry this diagnosis. So, what am I supposed to do—provide for kids? How am I supposed to feed them?

If I manage to even put food on my own table in this life, I'll consider it winning the lottery.

It isn't enough that I'm suffering through this garbage; apparently, I also have to be "crazy" and liable to owe someone something for no reason at all. Honestly, please—spare me the theorizing and the statistics, because real life is something else entirely.

David Vaughn75 said:Just to throw another thought in there—there isn't a single person on this planet who doesn't have at least one psychotic relative somewhere in their last seven generations. Basically, anyone could potentially have a child with psychosis.

Eric Mitchell55 said:What are your thoughts on people living with schizophrenia having children?
Do any of you have kids?

How much of an impact do you think a parent's diagnosis might have on their child?
Do you think there could be any long-term consequences?

Where do you all stand on the idea of those dealing with schizophrenia starting families?