Posts by crimsoncanyon2

When life is going smoothly and everything is hitting the sweet spot, people tend to completely ignore that old saying:
You can try whatever you want—really, go ahead—but it won't mean a damn thing until you actually decide to show up and put in the work.
Problems are always lurking just around the corner—and when they finally decide to show up, they hit you like a freight train.
It’s like this—if we're lucky, we might get one thing to deal with after we finally recover from the first, but if things go south? We’re looking at everything hitting us all at once.

Look, just drop the drama and the constant complaining—if you’re financially set, you’re winning. At the end of the day, not having to rely on anyone else for a paycheck is what actually matters. That's the bottom line.
Honestly? All you really need is some better time management—and maybe hiring a nurse or a caregiver to step in and help out.
What would you even do if you were in my shoes? Imagine this: you take out a massive mortgage to finally get a place of your own—then you lose your job. To make matters worse, your partner walks out on you, leaving you completely stranded. You think you’ve got a safety net because your parents are co-signing the loan, but then—out of nowhere—they pass away. Just like that, the whole foundation collapses. What's the move then?
I’ve got no job, my brother is sick, and now some idiot in a car just ran me over—but not in a way that actually kills me, mind you. Just enough to leave me in this limbo where I’m technically alive, but practically unable to work. What kind of twisted luck is that?
Must be nice for you—don't go complaining then.

Jessica Gomez5 said:Hi everyone,

I won't take up too much of your time; I just really need to get this off my chest... over the last two years, my life has spiraled from being pretty idyllic into an absolute nightmare. I'm 37, single, don't have a family of my own, and I've been living on my own in my own apartment for 15 years. Up until recently, I was living a fairly quiet, bachelor-style life, and since I have a steady job, money was never really an issue. I have a brother with significant intellectual disabilities who lives with our parents and can't care for himself. Everything started hitting me all at once about two years ago. First, my mother—who was perfectly healthy—suddenly fell gravely ill and passed away so quickly that we haven't even had a chance to process the shock. Now, my father has fallen ill with a terrible prognosis and is currently hospitalized with stomach cancer. My whole world has flipped upside down in an instant. The responsibility for my brother has fallen entirely on me and a caregiver we hire to help with cooking and cleaning. To be honest, I don't have much of a relationship with him, and he feels like a massive burden. I don't have anyone to lean on because I don't have a spouse or kids, and my extended family isn't close enough to help. I'm trying my best to shut out my emotions completely because if I don't, I feel like I'll lose my mind. Looking back, I realize that things I used to take for granted weren't as simple as I thought, and I finally understand what my parents must have gone through. I'm constantly haunted by this sense of guilt—guilt over everything they missed out on, like not seeing potential grandkids or seeing me start a family of my own. Sometimes it feels like I've been cursed, though I have no idea why. I’ve always tried to be a good person and never intentionally hurt anyone. I find myself asking "why?" Why did everything hit me so hard and so fast? It's all on my shoulders now, and I have no idea how I'm going to manage this, especially if my father doesn't recover. I'll eventually have to look into placing my brother in a specialized care facility. The hardest part of all is that I have no one to actually vent to or pour my heart out to; everyone around me just offers pity, and frankly, that's the last thing I want. So, there it is... just a small glimpse into the mess I'm in. If anyone has any actual wisdom to share, I'm listening.

Bradley Long said:Man, I’m really sorry you’re going through all this hell right now, but honestly, looking around at everyone else, it feels like we’re all just drowning in our own messes... nobody actually has it all figured out because perfection is a total myth. Everyone is fighting their own private war, just doing the best they can with what they've got. I know things suck for you right now, especially since what you're dealing with is heavy as hell. If you can manage it, try to get out more, hang with people, maybe make some new friends... even if it's just one or two solid people who actually give a damn. Put yourself out there, invest in those friendships, but don't go expecting anything in return—that's usually when you end up getting way more than you bargained for... the main thing is just finding a way to fill that void so you aren't stuck sitting alone with your thoughts. Hit the gym, take a dance class, or literally anything else... though, okay, maybe not right this second, since you need to focus on getting your dad back on his feet first, but once that's settled... you gotta do something just for YOU! And I’m not saying you should ditch your brother or your dad or anyone else, obviously. Just remember to look out for yourself too, because let's be real, nobody else is going to step up unless you demand it yourself. Sadly, I’m speaking from experience here

Is it really that hard to see? Maybe the whole issue is just that he was way too wrapped up in his own world—always putting himself first—and now he’s completely lost when it comes to actually considering anyone else's needs. 😕
Look, I don't mean to be rude—I really don't—but that’s just how it looks to me. 🤷

I’ve heard that peroxide bleaching is actually the safest route, whereas constantly dyeing your hair black can lead to bladder cancer issues.

Karen Hernandez said:I need some advice, and I need it right now if possible 😁

Basically, I used a brand new, untested hair dye last night and now my head is itching like crazy. It’s been itching since last night 🙂
I don't have any scratches or lumps like people were talking about in this thread—but it's itchy!!!

Wash your hair with some classic creamy Head & Shoulders.
That shampoo has keratolytic properties, so besides stripping the dye out of your hair faster, it also helps clear those allergens off your scalp.

Brenda Richardson4 said:What’s your take on someone who spends all their time trashing an ex? You’re talking to them and they go on and on about how they won't even take her calls. They claim she’s just making up excuses to get to them, acting like they're too smart to fall for her nonsense. They basically drag her through the mud. But then, out of nowhere, you find out he’s actually reaching out to her, saying he wants to talk and trying to reconnect. What does that say about him? If someone talks that much trash and then immediately goes running back, would you call them two-faced? Would you ever trust them again? It’s a massive red flag.🤣It looks incredibly foolish.

If this guy is someone you were actually considering dating, run—just walk away. He clearly hasn't processed his past and is using some pretty pathetic defense mechanisms to cope.
If he was truly over her, he wouldn't even be thinking about her—let alone "ruminating" on what she’s thinking or feeling. She’d just be a footnote in his history, nothing more.
To me, it looks like pure projection. It sounds like he's playing these weird little games—probably thinks he's being profound or important deep down, but from the outside? He just looks pathetic, using you as an audience so he can vent about some woman he claims to despise.

Linda Rogers4 said:Look, I've been dealing with this incredibly annoying pain in my thigh for five days now—it's gotten to the point where I can't sit, lie down, or even sleep properly, though it feels a lot better when I'm actually walking. At first, I just assumed I’d pulled a muscle, but honestly, I have no idea how that happened since I haven't worked out in two weeks. Plus, five days of pain this intense feels like a bit much for just a simple muscle strain. Since I'm just here in New York City for school and don't have a regular primary care doctor nearby, I was thinking about heading over to the ER at Mount Sinai. I wanted to ask you guys—do you think they'll just brush me off because it doesn't look "life-threatening," or should I go regardless? Also, does anyone have any clue what this could be? The pain is brutal; I'm living on painkillers, and the second they wear off, the pain wakes me right back up. I'm starting to worry it might be something serious, and I really don't want to wait another two weeks to see my own doctor. Thanks for any help 🙂

That sounds like positional pain—basically, cramping caused by staying in one spot too long, which could be tied to poor circulation.
Get back into a routine, take some magnesium, and stay hydrated—you could be losing fluids if things are acting up.
This happens all the time with certain jobs or situations—like being stuck sitting for hours straight while studying—where your body is basically locked in place for more than half the day.

Some people call it a cramp, but personally, if I don't keep moving, I'll get stuck with this constant discomfort for hours, or sometimes the pain just keeps getting worse.

Morgan Bishop4 said:It doesn't have to be that way. If you just refuse to play along with all that bullshit, then none of it happens. You can honestly just be blunt with everyone, and eventually, you’ll stumble upon some guy who meets you halfway, and then you two can actually be happy together... 😁
I don't get the appeal of these little mind games at all, I've never played them, and honestly, I'm not missing out on anything.
It's like saying if you want to make a friend, you have to pass some stupid, made-up hazing ritual or a test of courage or whatever just to prove you're worthy of their friendship.
If someone actually gives a damn about you, they aren't going to care nearly as much about protecting their ego or maintaining control as they do about just spending time with you.

Oh, come on, don't be like that 🙂 ,
with a fake "friendship test" happening inside someone's head, you can't really tell if it's a genuine moment or just a setup—but with this kind of thing, even a girl would see right through it.

There's a huge difference between creating a scenario to trigger an honest, spontaneous reaction, and manipulating someone just to make them look like a fool or lead them by the nose.

Drew Perez9 said:Alright folks, I’m opening this thread to act as a sort of unofficial advice column here.🙂

First question on the table: how do you avoid those exhausting little dating games? You know the drill—you reach out, they ghost you, then suddenly they pop up out of nowhere, or if you don't reply instantly, they start blowing up your phone asking why you're ignoring them. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of manipulation? I brought it up to my girlfriends, and honestly, they don't see what the big deal is. They actually seem totally down for it, arguing that you have to "prove yourself" when you're the new one in the mix. They claim this whole hunter-versus-prey dynamic is actually desirable. Is that true? Or isn't genuine passion and attraction enough?

Your friends must be completely delusional... not.🤣 🤣
A guy who pulls stunts like that is essentially telling you that you're just an object for him to manipulate. He expects you to wait around and bend to his schedule, yet the second he wants something, you’re expected to be available at a moment's notice. It's pretty obvious he isn't actually invested—his frantic energy when you don't reply immediately, or his demand for endless conversation, is purely about catering to his own needs and feeding his massive ego. It shows a total lack of empathy or emotional intelligence.
The best way to handle people like this is to be blunt: "Look, I'm busy right now." And once he starts acting entitled or making excuses, just make it crystal clear that he shouldn't expect anything different from you than what he gives to you.
Or just ghost him.

Women who don't call out these manipulative tactics right away usually end up being the ones getting played.

wiredstag30 said:I think I read something similar from Fromm once. If you haven't already, you probably should, since you seem pretty deep into this stuff. 😲 You start thinking about how women like this. 😁
It’s true that some women tend to attract aggressors. They often seek out those specific personality traits, though it isn't exactly hard for a man to spot a victim in the making. But to actually manipulate someone—or rather, to unconsciously manipulate another person—you really need to be dealing with a certain type of psyche.
Personally, I wouldn't be able to spot self-destructiveness in anyone without being told directly.
It makes sense, really. A massive ego usually compensates with a corresponding unconscious reaction. People in positions of power often have a bit of a masochistic fetish going on.
This whole thing feels strange and atypical, almost like a shadow. 😲

Exactly, but where does it say everyone has to spill their guts? Imagine if a psychiatrist or a university professor suddenly felt the urge to assault a woman; they aren't just going to go running around announcing it to the world or telling people about it. 🤷 🤔
It’s much more likely they’ll bottle it up—either dealing with it internally, obsessively analyzing it in their own heads, or having a massive internal conflict.
A repeat offender definitely isn't following that script.

wiredstag30 said:I think I read something similar from Fromm once. If you haven't already, you probably should, since you seem pretty deep into this stuff. 😲 You start thinking about how women like this. 😁
It’s true that some women tend to attract aggressors. They often seek out those specific personality traits, though it isn't exactly hard for a man to spot a victim in the making. But to actually manipulate someone—or rather, to unconsciously manipulate another person—you really need to be dealing with a certain type of psyche.
Personally, I wouldn't be able to spot self-destructiveness in anyone without being told directly.
It makes sense, really. A massive ego usually compensates with a corresponding unconscious reaction. People in positions of power often have a bit of a masochistic fetish going on.
This whole thing feels strange and atypical, almost like a shadow. 😲

Yeah, the shadow, but if we assume that most men are naturally decent and kind, then this behavior is malignant and unusual—meaning it's part of the shadow for most men.
So, you could argue that a woman's animus can trigger or amplify a man's shadow 😉 ,
and by that same logic, a man's anima could provoke a woman's shadow.

wiredstag30 said:What should a woman actually do to trigger those kinds of impulses in a man?
If we assume rape is an act of violence, and all violence stems from a sense of inferiority, then she’d theoretically have to make him feel less valuable. But what if he doesn't feel that way when he's around her?
For instance, what would a man need to subconsciously project to make someone want to, say, castrate him? I'm being serious here, no joking please.😁
And look, this is stuff for forensics and psychiatry—it's right on that thin line between healthy and pathological. That space where the subconscious takes over and starts driving the conscious mind.

And I see you're hiding your sources like a snake in the grass.😁

Thanatos—the drive toward self-destruction, suffering, and annihilation—and autosadism.
A person can't always achieve this through themselves; instead, they activate it in others, making them do it on their behalf.
Have you never heard of women who somehow constantly end up with men who specifically and exclusively abuse them, even though everything looks perfectly normal at the start?
I used rape as an example, but it doesn't have to be that extreme—it's more about someone's ability to use their unconscious mechanisms to turn a "normal" person into something abnormal, simply because that's what serves her needs.
So, I'm not talking about anything predatory or premeditated, like planned assault or abuse.
I'm talking about a woman having something dysfunctional deep inside that pulls another person into behaving abnormally—or acting out of character—where her unconscious triggers their unconscious. It’s as if the other person loses conscious control over their reactions, or they still have some control, which makes it all the more confusing for them.
To be clear, this isn't a situation where some angry, frustrated, or hypersensitive guy with low self-esteem gets rejected by a girl and thinks, "Oh, you'll get what's coming to you, you little..." 😠 😠 "..."
🤣 🤣 ,everything is fine and harmonious, and then suddenly, things take a bizarre turn.

Take, for example, a woman who seems totally fine—good job, decent salary, maybe a mid-level manager at a company like Starbucks or Target, not overly bossy, loves socializing—but carries a deeply troubled family background involving trauma or abuse (even if you could never tell by looking at her). She triggers a guy with a completely stable background into reacting in ways that leave him baffled by his own behavior.
Essentially, beneath the veneer of a false self, there's a girl who subconsciously craves to be mistreated and destroyed. But since she doesn't have a twin to do it to herself, she provokes it in others without ever saying a single word about it.
And people are left wondering how she managed to drive them to act so strangely and so far out of character.

wiredstag30 said:What should a woman actually do to trigger those kinds of impulses in a man?
If we assume rape is an act of violence, and all violence stems from a sense of inferiority, then she’d theoretically have to make him feel less valuable. But what if he doesn't feel that way when he's around her?
For instance, what would a man need to subconsciously project to make someone want to, say, castrate him? I'm being serious here, no joking please.😁
And look, this is stuff for forensics and psychiatry—it's right on that thin line between healthy and pathological. That space where the subconscious takes over and starts driving the conscious mind.

And I see you're hiding your sources like a snake in the grass.😁

Well, I’m probably not the best person to answer this one 😁
For me, just being an absolute jerk most of the time would be more than enough 🤣 🤣

But if he's one of those guys his own mother wanted to castrate, then he'd likely know the magic formula to convince other women to feel the same way.
That kind of guy must subconsciously crave having his manhood removed—whether it's because he's wanted it since he was a kid or because his mom already tried to pull it off.

wiredstag30 said:Alright, so where are you getting all this info? I've been reading Jung's work for about ten years now, but this comparative breakdown of yours isn't exactly what's in his books.
So, I'm curious.
The idea that the unconscious is always projecting is a Quote from Carl Gustav Jung. Look, I'm certainly no expert.
So, if a conscious reaction is triggered by someone else's unconscious, then there has to be a match. In that case, I assume it would have to be collectively unconscious. Or maybe individually repressed. Because it still emerged from the "perpetrator's" unconscious, even if he wasn't aware of those tendencies at the time. It ended up being evoked as a desire.
Let's say we go back to the example of an assault: would that specific woman evoke those same tendencies in every man? Or just most of them, or maybe just a small group?

I am the Truth itself 🤣

wiredstag30 said:Alright, so where are you getting all this info? I've been reading Jung's work for about ten years now, but this comparative breakdown of yours isn't exactly what's in his books.
So, I'm curious.
The idea that the unconscious is always projecting is a Quote from Carl Gustav Jung. Look, I'm certainly no expert.
So, if a conscious reaction is triggered by someone else's unconscious, then there has to be a match. In that case, I assume it would have to be collectively unconscious. Or maybe individually repressed. Because it still emerged from the "perpetrator's" unconscious, even if he wasn't aware of those tendencies at the time. It ended up being evoked as a desire.
Let's say we go back to the example of an assault: would that specific woman evoke those same tendencies in every man? Or just most of them, or maybe just a small group?

Me neither—but forensic psychology and psychiatry just happen to be incredibly sexy to me.🤣

wiredstag30 said:Alright, so where are you getting all this info? I've been reading Jung's work for about ten years now, but this comparative breakdown of yours isn't exactly what's in his books.
So, I'm curious.
The idea that the unconscious is always projecting is a Quote from Carl Gustav Jung. Look, I'm certainly no expert.
So, if a conscious reaction is triggered by someone else's unconscious, then there has to be a match. In that case, I assume it would have to be collectively unconscious. Or maybe individually repressed. Because it still emerged from the "perpetrator's" unconscious, even if he wasn't aware of those tendencies at the time. It ended up being evoked as a desire.
Let's say we go back to the example of an assault: would that specific woman evoke those same tendencies in every man? Or just most of them, or maybe just a small group?

Every guy she gets even remotely close to will feel it—the only difference is how they react to that sudden impulse.
Suppressing your own nature 🙂 🙂,
that total confusion when you realize there's a conflict—like, "Wait, I'm a decent gentleman, what the hell is happening to me?" 😲 😕 🙂 "
&
ideally, just giving in... the Harvest 😁 🙂 😈 .

northernpilot2 said:If you aren't providing links to specific posts, then I don't see the point of this whole thread—making these random guesses and accusations out of thin air just doesn't make sense.

Look, I wasn't "accusing" anyone; I was being curious. It’s pretty obvious from the very first sentence right after the intro, and honestly, if you or anyone else feels targeted by that, 🙂I'm not going to get into why that might be
. I'm just stating what I observed. I really don't have the time to go digging through old threads and checking off boxes just to start some petty little forum drama🙄
. Like I said, whoever is actually doing all that—bless their heart... because I've already made it clear that there's also the remote control option
.

wiredstag30 said:I honestly don't know where you get this stuff, but I would love to meet someone like that. Just to see. 😁
And okay, so what now? Did he project his anima onto her? Or was it her anima projecting toward the attacker?
Rape is an act of aggression. To carry out such an act, someone has to possess those tendencies. Or at least think about them.
We all carry aggression inside us, but this theory feels a bit unusual to me.
In the end, everyone's anima/animus isn't the same, and it's not always just a matching type of man or woman like people assume.

Everything I was explaining in my last post builds on your claim that "projection always happens unconsciously." My point is that unconsciousness also triggers conscious reactions in others, driven by what someone else has set in motion.
It works just as much through recognition in the other person, even without deep conscious knowledge
and regarding the explanation that rape can be a reaction to "signals" sent from someone else's unconscious—all of that still holds up.

crimsoncanyon2 said:Deebelo, you're missing the point here. The unconscious isn't just limited to projection; it can also be recognized and even amplified.

If we look at Jung's archetypes for a second, it's easy to explain this using the example of S&M couples. They are drawn to one another because they recognize each other unconsciously. It’s not about some woman or guy consciously fantasizing about sadistic roleplay where their partner shows up in costumes and whips—it's about countless situations where these psychological profiles simply recognize and attract one another instinctively, without ever needing the leather, the latex, or all that other nonsense people who just want a theatrical show are obsessed with.

Now, amplification would be a situation where a person with a specific profile unconsciously drives someone else toward a behavior they wouldn't naturally exhibit—but they don't even realize why they're doing it or what pushed them there—like, say, sexual assault.

Projection, on the other hand, is when a woman carries an image of a stingy man in her unconscious, and then claims her partner is a cheapskate—even if he's actually incredibly generous and wants to help everyone—simply because she's obsessed with that internal archetype.

Or take the opposite scenario in those early stages of falling in love: a girl insists her boyfriend is absolutely perfect and wonderful, when in reality, he's the exact opposite. She doesn't see it because she's actually in love with a fantasy version of him built entirely on her own projection of desirable traits.

😁

I think you actually understood it fine, but now you're dragging it out and twisting it into the anima and animus just to make me look like some clueless idiot, like Guy.😉 🤣

As for shifting the anima—completely separate from the text above—a man might displace it onto a doll, where he spends his time brushing its long hair and reading poems by Pablo Neruda (assuming he actually has those inclinations), right up until a buddy shows up for an unexpected visit.
In this scenario, the anima complex attaches itself to a Cypriot-style doll fetishism known as agalmatophilia. The guy is essentially projecting his own anima onto the doll, given that the doll can't speak, reason, think, or—heaven forbid—love.
http://i00.i.aliimg.com/wsphoto/v0/1...-half-doll.jpg
It’s similar to what happens in "Psycho," where Norman is simultaneously himself and his internalized mother, who was eventually displaced onto an inanimate object—her own skeleton.

wiredstag30 said:So what are they actually using then? What does that look like? And how can you say they aren't consciously fantasizing? If they aren't doing that consciously, then they're just... well, I mean, I can recognize my own projections. But that projection is still part of my unconscious, so it remains projected. To truly bring it into awareness, I have to fully comprehend it first.
The anima acts almost like a separate personality. It has its own autonomy. Because of that, it functions like a complex. Being part of the unconscious, it's always being projected. But it's also this complex, energetic entity.
I can't just snap my fingers and make it conscious. Fully grasping the unconscious—especially the collective side of things—is a massive undertaking.
For someone to commit an act like rape, they have to possess certain tendencies that they've pushed down deep inside.

That’s just not right. A guy could be looking at a thousand women who all look practically identical—same height, weight, vibe, style, even the way they laugh or act rude—so what is it that triggers him to target one specific woman against his own subconscious will?
You ask the guy, "Why did you do that?"
"I don't know (explain), I don't know what just took hold of me." 🤷
"Why her specifically, when they all seem the same?"
"I don't know, I couldn't help myself, I don't know what came over me." 🤷

And then, through some strange interaction with a caring psychiatrist, this twisted, sick impulse develops where he actually feels a desire to abuse or assault her himself, which leaves him completely bewildered...
So what is driving that? It’s what comes from *her*. Her own drive to be abused, violated, or destroyed, simply enacted through someone else—an external agent.
And all this happens without her needing to wear a provocative mini-skirt or bright red lipstick.

A typical predator will recognize his kind immediately, whereas a decent gentleman will be left utterly stunned by his own mental shifts—or he'll fulfill some unconscious demand and then spend the rest of his life wondering why, without any rational explanation whatsoever.

wiredstag30 said:So what are they actually using then? What does that look like? And how can you say they aren't consciously fantasizing? If they aren't doing that consciously, then they're just... well, I mean, I can recognize my own projections. But that projection is still part of my unconscious, so it remains projected. To truly bring it into awareness, I have to fully comprehend it first.
The anima acts almost like a separate personality. It has its own autonomy. Because of that, it functions like a complex. Being part of the unconscious, it's always being projected. But it's also this complex, energetic entity.
I can't just snap my fingers and make it conscious. Fully grasping the unconscious—especially the collective side of things—is a massive undertaking.
For someone to commit an act like rape, they have to possess certain tendencies that they've pushed down deep inside.

Well, of course you can't, because to achieve that, you first have to get to know yourself incredibly well.😉
And once you really know yourself, you’ll eventually stumble upon those parts of you formed through somewhat schizoid introjection (or internalization) of other women's psycho-physical traits—you know, various mothers, sisters, grandmothers, nannies, neighbors, etc.—which, acting as a poorly conscious artificial construct, can be held as an autonomous complex.

wiredstag30 said:That's the first time I've heard that term used like that. 😲
But the unconscious always projects. If it isn't being projected, it isn't unconscious anymore; it's conscious.
The matching of male and female—those two opposites—is, at least from what I've gathered about symbolic nature, a representation of the individuation process.
In real life, what you described is somewhat possible, even if it's never perfectly ideal. For it to be ideal, it would require maturity from both individuals. And there's always that lingering unconsciousness being projected. You might say those things in the moment, but eventually, the negative connotations of that kind of matching surface.
Every person is an individual, and only through self-awareness can one pair these opposites. That syzygy.
At least, that's how I've come to understand it.

Deebelo, you're missing the point here. The unconscious isn't just limited to projection; it can also be recognized and even amplified.

If we look at Jung's archetypes for a second, it's easy to explain this using the example of S&M couples. They are drawn to one another because they recognize each other unconsciously. It’s not about some woman or guy consciously fantasizing about sadistic roleplay where their partner shows up in costumes and whips—it's about countless situations where these psychological profiles simply recognize and attract one another instinctively, without ever needing the leather, the latex, or all that other nonsense people who just want a theatrical show are obsessed with.

Now, amplification would be a situation where a person with a specific profile unconsciously drives someone else toward a behavior they wouldn't naturally exhibit—but they don't even realize why they're doing it or what pushed them there—like, say, sexual assault.

Projection, on the other hand, is when a woman carries an image of a stingy man in her unconscious, and then claims her partner is a cheapskate—even if he's actually incredibly generous and wants to help everyone—simply because she's obsessed with that internal archetype.

Or take the opposite scenario in those early stages of falling in love: a girl insists her boyfriend is absolutely perfect and wonderful, when in reality, he's the exact opposite. She doesn't see it because she's actually in love with a fantasy version of him built entirely on her own projection of desirable traits.

northernpilot2 said:That feature is only live over on forum Help—it was part of some testing phase, but it isn't actually being used or active right now. Honestly, give it a shot and try to hit the like button, then let us know if it actually works. 😁

Haha, yeah, right. So what, I should just use my email and Facebook password to redirect straight to my personal profile? 😁 ...Not a chance in hell. 🤣

northernpilot2 said:The moderators have the ability to edit posts within their specific sections at any time, though there’s always an edit trail left behind. That said, they aren't supposed to touch them unless there's a legitimate reason—like fixing a massive image or merging duplicate posts—so the edit log stays transparent.

It's comforting to know that wherever there's authority, there's always the potential for abuse. 🙂
For me, knowing it's possible is enough—if someone decides to mess with my text, they can answer to themselves.

wiredstag30 said:Not really. Exactly. The Shadow. It’s mostly unconscious, which is exactly why it tends to mess things up.
The shadow is just as repressed as the anima.
The anima is unconscious, really. It just projects itself onto some woman in the real world. Usually, the most "ideal" woman someone falls for is actually just the one whose personality is closest to their own repressed anima. That’s exactly where all the relationship drama starts.
A man's first encounter with the anima is his mother. Because of that, men end up looking for a substitute for their mother in the women they date. It’s a cliché, really. 😁 And that right there? That’s one of the problems.
That’s a bit of an oversimplification.
You really need to try and wrap your head around all of this. It’s about grasping that whole concept of a persona acting as a sort of counterpoint to the anima.
I assume you're interested in the animus. It's been quite a while since I sat down with those texts, though. I really ought to brush up on them and refresh my memory. 😁 So, that’s why I suggested you give those readings a look. You probably won't catch everything on the first pass—it's a lot to digest. If this stuff actually interests you, just go back and read it a second time. It'll make more sense then.
The thing is, while Jung's work is out there, we just don't have much of it available in English that hits the mark. It’s pretty thin on the ground.
There’s also that version of Jung for beginners—you know, the one with all the illustrations. 😁 It’s useful if you just want to get a rough handle on the leitmotifs.

It’s honestly pretty nice just sitting around and debating these kinds of topics, you know? Getting into the weeds of what things actually mean to people. It's good. Syzygy. It’s one of those terms that just hangs in the air, isn't it? You start thinking about it and suddenly you're deep in the weeds of the psyche. It’s more than just a concept; it’s a fundamental structural necessity when you look at how everything balances out. Always felt like there was a certain weight to that word. Just a thought.?

It's funny how you're offering me "beginner books with pictures" when you don't even know what syzygy is. 😁
Syzygy is when, within a romantic or married couple, the woman recognizes her internal Animus in the man, and he recognizes his Anima in her.
In other words, instead of projecting their unconscious parts onto each other before or during the relationship, they simply recognize one another—it's that "you are everything I've ever searched for" and "you are everything I've ever wanted" kind of thing. There's no element of fantasy or distorted perception; they truly become "Him" and "Her" to each other.

I know my own "unconscious" negative Animus incredibly well—so well, in fact, that I could say it's at a very conscious level—which is exactly why that specific profile of man is one I avoid.
Luckily, I only ran into two of them a few years back, and thank God I was able to bail out fast enough to spot the red flags from an airplane.

wiredstag30 said:Being attracted to the negative, or manifesting it yourself, can be a direct product of the Shadow's influence.
The Anima represents the feminine side within a man. I don't really have time to go deep into descriptions right now, I'm rushing off to work. You can find more detailed descriptions of the Anima, Animus, Shadow, and the great personality in the book C.G. Jung on the Psychology of the Unconscious—you know, those standard American editions. Any decent library in a major US city should carry them. You can also find stuff to download online here http://www.4shared.com/get/DnzXQfOX/...psihologi.html

But wait, aren't the Anima and Animus actually part of the Shadow?
If we’re strictly talking about the darker, more difficult aspects, isn't it stated that:
The Animus is the male shadow side of the female ego.
And the Anima is the female shadow side of the male ego.

I’d definitely agree that the Animus—beyond just being an archetype or a prototype of something we attract from the outside—is also part of that shadowy (hidden) masculine side of the female ego.

So, what exactly is the Syzygy in Jung's view?
And how do problems stemming from activated complexes actually play out in a real-world relationship between a man and a woman?

wiredstag30 said:Being attracted to the negative, or manifesting it yourself, can be a direct product of the Shadow's influence.
The Anima represents the feminine side within a man. I don't really have time to go deep into descriptions right now, I'm rushing off to work. You can find more detailed descriptions of the Anima, Animus, Shadow, and the great personality in the book C.G. Jung on the Psychology of the Unconscious—you know, those standard American editions. Any decent library in a major US city should carry them. You can also find stuff to download online here http://www.4shared.com/get/DnzXQfOX/...psihologi.html

Why are you even jumping online this early if you're getting ready for work??
Seriously, hurry up—don't be late! 🤣

wiredstag30 said:Something like that.

He's drawn to those kinds of women because of that specific anima. It's the exact same thing as how certain women end up attracting the "wrong" guys because of their animus.
The anima spans this whole spectrum of moral archetypes, from the fallen woman to the saint. Which version shows up in the subconscious really just depends on how mature the individual has become.

And how on earth do you know I'm only talking about terrible women??
The text clearly mentioned that if a man—while in a relationship or even after being with a perfectly normal woman—suddenly finds himself attracted to an autodestructive crowd of losers (and I mean real bottom-feeders here), such as alcoholics and drug addicts, it means that negative emotional complex of his Anima has been triggered.
But then again, if a guy starts projecting horrible traits onto a decent woman, isn't he actually just projecting what he wishes he could be—or who he would be if he were a woman?
In other words, figuratively speaking, he doesn't see a square as a literal geometric shape, but as something else entirely—mostly because he's too blinded by the fact that he's seeing a sphere or a ball in his head.

My Animus is the archetype of the demon / stalker / Bluebeard, but luckily there's a positive version too.😁

Ronald James2 said:Let’s say God forbid you start thinking about suicide because you feel like there's absolutely no way out.

What is your ultimate life goal? What kind of existence are you actually chasing?
What’s that one totally wild, unhinged thing you’ve always wanted to do but never had the guts to pull off? If you’re brave enough to face death, you’re definitely brave enough to chase those crazy desires instead. So, what are they?

For me, my wildest dream would be to head deep into the wilderness near some massive river to secure my own food and water. I'd grab some basic survival gear, build myself a solid, comfortable little cabin, and just live out the rest of my days like a modern-day Tarzan. 🙂

Living in some vibrant coastal city filled with high-energy people—surrounded by spontaneous, happy folks I can actually work and hang out with... and ideally finding a soulmate, someone who's really on my wavelength emotionally and romantically. 😍
Angry, overly serious, or miserable people just aren't my scene, no matter where I end up... and if I have to be blunt about it, that's exactly how it is.

Okay, so it’s possible then... that’s exactly what I needed to clear up 😁

One more thing though... if I can go back and edit my own posts countless times over an hour and a half—basically as long as the edit button stays active—why wouldn't someone else be able to do the same?
And if I can tweak my PDFs a few times without a strike-through, an "edited" tag, or having to explain myself, why shouldn't a moderator be able to work the same way?
I mean, it doesn't trigger an edit notice or a request for clarification every single time I make a change; it only kicks in if I try to edit the exact same post for the fifth time in a row..
The only thing I've noticed is that on LJES, you don't really get the chance to fix things more than once or maybe twice before the post shows a permanent record of being edited.

Oh, and just now, this Facebook-style "Like" button popped up next to the posts on the left side, right by the "Quote" option. I'm dying to know—is anyone else seeing this? 😁

crimsoncanyon2 said:Can someone give me a deeper breakdown of what’s actually happening when a man projects a negative (or "dark") Anima onto a woman, a girlfriend, or even just some casual acquaintance?
What triggers this, and what does it look like in a real-world scenario?

To some extent, I’ve linked it to how a man—whether he knows the woman well or hasn't even spoken to her—suddenly and irrationally starts attributing certain traits, emotions, or behaviors to her that actually belong to him. It's like he's dumping his own internal feminine emotional side onto her, right?
What are the other possible angles or explanations for why a man experiences this negative Anima projection?
I'm looking for insights from fellow Jung enthusiasts here.🙂

Well, let me answer this for my own sake too.😁
The other day, I was reading a paper by a Jungian practitioner describing how a man suddenly finding himself hanging out with all sorts of "low-type" people on the verge of a mental or physical breakdown is actually a sign that his negative Anima has been activated—but it's activated within *him*, not necessarily the version he's projecting onto the women around him.
Jung really is something else—so mystical.😁